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My name is Melissa. I'm a sophomore, and finally SWEET 16. So, I'll be driving on January 7th. I usually go by May or Mel. In the picture is myself and my AMAZING boyfriend Kyle. He's truly my entire world & I'm not sure how I got lucky enough to get someone like him. I don't like girls. They're fake, and I just in general dislike most girls. Little known fact? There are times I hate my best friend, I mean, hate hate. She drives me insane. When I'm close friends with a girl it's a big deal. As far as best friends go; I have Kyle, who's the most amazing boyfriend in the world; Jennifer Anne Reese aka: PIECUP.. she's one of the few girls I'm close to. I'm generally a nice person, if I like you. If I don't, you'll know it.

In college I want to major in psychology; with a minor in wedding planning or some type of organizational planning type thing. I'm a planning freak. I ALWAYS have a plan, and if you don't plan stuff ahead of time, I'll probably kill you. I tend to change my plan spur of the moment a lot, but I always have one. Lol, one of those weird things about me.


I'm not that much of a "laid back" person. In general, I have my opinion, and I'm going to win. Drama = stupid. But just like every other girl on the planet, I definitely start my share of the drama. I don't like it, but it follows me like a puppy, so I'll just admit I start stuff.

I like giving advice. I've been through a lot, and I want to help people in any way I can. If you'd rather email or IM me, feel free to ask. ♥

advice

all of my friends are some of the nicest people in the world...but my dad just doesn't seem to like any of them. he always calls them brats or says that i can't hang out with them. they've all met him, and i keep telling him how great they are...but he just doesn't listen. how do i get him to see how amazing ALL my friends are?

If there isn't any good reason for him to not like them, then don't let him say things about them. If there IS a reason that he doesn't like them, try to show him all the good things about them! They're your friends, he should like them!! Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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i have a problem this guy will not go out withme untill i get a b/f 4 my friend and he wants me to get my brother to go out with her but he only likes her as a friend wat should i dooooo???


PLZZZZZZ HELP ME!!!!!!!!!

Okay, if this guys so concerned about your friend, tell him to deal with it himself. It's one thing to make a comment or suggestion, it's another to say he won't date you until SHE has a b/f. That's stupid.
♥ Melissa

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Alright so, my Mom is alright. She buys me everything and anything I want. She lets me go anywhere. I want to get my belly button pierced and she's making me wait, but that's about it. Anyway. She nags me like a normal Mom and whatever. But she goes on and on. Like she just doesn't shut up. Sometimes she'll explain to me step by step how to do something, like she'll tell me how to feed the dog. HELLO. I know how to feed a dog, just tell me to actually DO IT. And she talks really slow on purpose, I think she just likes to hear herself talk. She's the most organized person in the world and I'm the most unorganized person in the world so we don't mesh. She yells at me for things all the time that are stupid. I tried explaining to her that it bothers me. But she just gets upset and yells at me even more. I told my Dad and my Grandparents and they all tried talking to her but nothing seems to work. I'm not perfect, and I don't expect her never to yell at me again or anything but she annoys me sooo much. What do I do?

Get away for a while. Spend a weekend at a friend's house or something, that way you can both just calm down for a while. If that doesn't help at all, you need to talk to her yourself and try to work out the problem.
♥ Melissa

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i was just wanting to know if when you make broccili and cheese do you add the cheese first or second! i mean its my fav. food but my mom usually makes it for me and i wanna do it by myself. Please hurry and anwser because i am REALLY REALLY hugary.
signed brocilli lover
age 64
male

I basically have no idea.. Lol I'm not a cooking person. Sorry.
♥ Melissa

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is it possible to become pregnant in this situation:
a guy touches his.. thing, and gets that "pre-cum" or whatever on his hand/fingers. then he fingers a girl, a few minutes later, with the same hand as before.
please only answer if you actually know what you're talking about.

There's ALWAYS a possibility. Go to www.sex-project.com, that should answer any questions you may have.
♥ Melissa

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okay, so me and my ex split a couple of days ago. it was over MSN - which was a shame but there was legit reasons for it - anyway. I ended it with him, he just tried to wind me up in the process - and said he didn't give a fuck ect. I got fed up said bye and signed off. Pissed off and I wanted to try and as least be civil. I had reasons for dumping him - he was a slob didn't brush his teeth - ew. never bothered to call me all that. Anyway tonight I've got a planned party. Him, and two of his mates were invited, I never technically uninvited them but presumed they were all crossed off the list after that. I found out a few hours ago they were all still intending to come! Well - my ex hasn't even BOTHERED to contact me since we split and he acted like a jerk - apparently he intended to come sort it all out tonight - at my party!! Well I'm deff NOT getting with him again - and I'm even too mad at him for not bothering to contact me - and allt he reasons we split for bothered to even be his friend right now... well... I cancelled all their invites - but do you think I should tell them it's okay to come or did I do the right thing? They were all upset and wanted to come...
Anyway answers tonight please! Thanks so much =)
xxx

I think you should tell them they can't come. It's your party, and you're going to be in a bad mood after talking with him. Just tell him that you can talk some other time, that ISN'T during your party. Have a great party!!
♥ Melissa

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ok well my dentist told me i will need braces for my lower teeth. and my mom promised she will get me invisilign i know its a bit expensive but i dont wanna wear braces.and now my mom said she isnt sure if she can aford invislign.and i dont wanna wear braces in high school.waht should i do?

I'm a sophomore this year, and I JUST got my braces. As long as they're OFF by Senior Pictures, there's no reason why you can't get braces. If your mom can't afford the invisilign, then you're going to have to get braces. It isn't going to matter as long as your teeth are fixed. Be grateful that you even have the money to get ANYTHING done with your teeth!
♥ Melissa

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I have this problem..My bestfriend was going out with this boy..Then this boy broke up with her..She was shock (i guess)..But okay, that's not the major problem..Now,I'm going out with that boy..and no one knows that except my sister..I've been going out with that boy for 2 weeks or so..now I have this illfeel..I feel that I'm so wrong by going out with my bestfriend's ex boyfriend..I don't know what to do..Should I break up with that boy and give him back to my bestfriend, or keep going??

-feeling-guilty-girl-

Talk to your best friend before you make any rash decisions. She might be okay with it, or she might need a little more time. Just tell her you're fine with doing whatever she wants, and hopefully it'll work out for the best. [=
♥ Melissa

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i know im so lucky to have my boyfriend but i take him and our relationship for granted a lot and i expect things to be perfect a lot. What can i do to lighten up and appreciate things, like REALLY appreciate things?

You need to realize that most girls would KILL for a boyfriend, or even for a boy to like them! Appriciate that you don't have that same problem! If you still are taking things for granted, go do some kind of volunteer work. That's charity, and it will make you feel better! [=
♥ Melissa

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My parents won't let me remove the hair from my legs, but I do anyway because I use my dad's razor. I want to get my own razor or hair removal device but my parents won't let me buy them or else they will kick me out of the house. My friend gave me a disposable razor but it ran out and she is out of town until September. How do I get a hair removal device and how do I hide it from my parents when I have it? If it helps I am 13/f. I will rate high for good advice or a good try.

Okay, you're THIRTEEN, it's RIDICULOUS for your parents to not let you shave your legs! If you can't purchase your own razors, have a friend do it for you. If you have to, shave at a friend's house. It's stupid for them to not let you shave, that's okay for a young girl, but you're getting to the age where people WILL make comments. Either get them on your own, or have a friend get them. If you have a locker at school, keep razors there and shave in the mornings or during gym class.
♥ Melissa

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my best friend is depressed. and it makes me so sad! she says shes fat when shes NOT she says shes ugly when shes NOT and this one guy was like do you have a myspace so she gave him the link and said ew your ugly and signed off.. so she is really sad about that.. i keep telling her that if she thinks shes fat she should just go on a diet and i would go on it with her. she doesnt need to make herself prettier cause shes pretty enough! what can i do to make her feel better?

There isn't much you can do. But tell her the guy's a JERK, because he is. That's mean and it hurt her feelings. Just keep trying to boost her self confidence. [= Hopefully she feels better soon!!!
♥ Melissa

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Age: 13

Gender: Female

There is this guy and i like him a lot but he only likes me as a friend. He knows that I like him and he's fine with it and we still talk. What should I do ask him out or just wait and see what comes next??

If he says he doesn't like you, don't push it! It could hurt your friendship. Just remain close friends with him and see where it goes from there.
♥ Melissa

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13/f he is 14/m
Theres this guy that i've been talking to online for about a year. We eventually exchanged cell phone numbers and have talked on the phone. He is really nice and I find myself feeling in love with him. I know people probably think internet love is a bust but that's how I feel when I talk to him. He isn't one of the guys that wants to have cyber sex either, just to talk. He's always there when I need him and he's very sweet and he is always looking out for my best interests as well. I want to meet him but I don't know if I should. He lives about an hour away from me and he was planning on taking a train to visit me. I know there are some freaks out there, but I don't think he comes off as one of them and I also know to be careful and if I were to meet him I would bring a friend, of course. I don't know what to do, the train station is public but the town is small so not a whole bunch of people would be there. Please give me advice.

That's not the smartest thing to do, but if you're set on doing it there are some things you should do.

-Bring a friend. Even if you think that would make it "awkward", bring one and don't let them leave you.
-HAVE A PHONE. I know that sounds stupid, but make SURE you have a phone with you. [It would be really smart to let him think you DON'T have it, because if he TRIES to do something, he'll think he has the upperhand.]
-Tell other friends what you're doing, and make some kind of word signal or something like that. If you call them saying a certain word or phrase, have them immediately call your parents.
-The smartest thing you could do is tell your parents what you're doing. Or at least that you're meeting somebody new, and bringing a friend, but if you call in trouble, they'll know why. Let them know what you're doing.

Just because you've talked to him on the phone and he doesn't SEEM weird, doesn't mean anything. A person can always be nice on the phone and internet, they can change in person. Just be super careful, and take WAY more precautions than you think you should.
♥ Melissa

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okay look I dated this guy and after me and him broke up he lost everything like his friends .. one of them who was his best friend likes me. THis girl who he *ex * started dating didnt' ask us if they could date nesscarily *and it's kind of good too expecially when one of them is your BEst friend right?* *this guy that likes me and my ex gf dated* So I dont want to be like them and i also dont want them to know about this cuase frankly we dont get along and it would confuse things a lot more. I'm not so sure i like this guy at all but he is really sweet to me I mean he knows about EVERYTHING that i went through after this break up *probably more than you do* and has said to me that I shouldnt have to go through that again b/c this guy i was in love with and i know i was BROKE ME. litterly. I was shattered. And he told me that he would never do that.. but that's only made me turn off to him b/c that's what my ex said to me when we started dating *we dated for like 7 1/2 months.* you see.. I dunno.. it is confusing. And i just Dont know what to do! i dont think i like this guy and he is way much more of a friend.. I dont want to hurt him in any kind of way.. and he said dont worry about hurting feelings So i said okay let's hang out sometime. which i do want to. but I just dont know any more. PLEASE help! i know this would be so much easier if i could say names but i dont want NE one to read it just in case they also read this. ~Special anonymous....

Okay, I THINK I might know who this is; but please don't get offended if you aren't a person I know, context clues are just pointing me toward a person I consider a close friend, but it may just be a similar situation. [=

Since you said you would hang out with him, and you ARE friends, hang out with him. Even if it's in a big group. That way, you aren't making comments / promises that you don't keep, and you won't be hurting his feelings. If he continues saying things about dating you, just let him know that you really don't think you feel that way, and you'd appriciate if he didn't make comments. Sorry I'm not much help!! ]=
♥ Melissa

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ok well i change my mood so fast. it doesnt happen every day but it happens in like every couple of weeks. what happens is i can b all happy and normal but then i can juss become annoyed buy everyone i can start cryin im so mad but there is no reason. is there something wrong with me? please help ill rate high

It's just you being a teen! Really! Expecially a teenage girl. You just expieriance highs and lows. If you are REALLY concerned, tell a parent that you want to see a doctor.
♥ Melissa

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hey umm i have really liked this boy for awhile but he has a girlfriend. so should i tell him that i like him. or should i not so i dont ruin our friendship? or what should i do? plez help.

I personally would say not to tell him, at least not while he has a girlfriend. If they break up, then tell him. Until them, don't risk your friendship when he can't be with you anyways.
♥ Melissa

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Hey guys, this is gonna sound really retarded, but I'll ask anyway. Well it started when my brother asked me if I'd read the harry potter books and I said no, they're really stupid. But then he convinced me to read them, and now I'm on the 5th book. I really like them, it's kind of funny, because I always thought they were stupid. But anyway, I'll get to my question. My best friend likes them too, so we wanna have a harry potter party. I know, we're so stupid! So does anyone know what we can do, other than watch the movies and stuff? We already decided on making shirts. I'm making mine say I love Snape. Haha, don't ask. Is there anything else we can do though? Thank you!!

Shirts are a great idea! Do trivia. Or make it a dress-up party and have everybody pick their favorite character, and the winner could get some kind of prize. [=

Don't worry, I love the books too! You aren't the only one. I know adults who love them just as much. [=
♥ Melissa

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I am a little over weight but my friends say I dont look as much as I do weigh.I never really seem to have time to go to the gym so what can I do around the house or neighborhood that will help me?

CLEANING! I know, I know. Cleaning isn't that great. But cleaning, re-organizing things, and decorating WILL help you to lose some weight. Do a lot of walking and eat healthier. [No pop, less junk food & sugars, etc.] Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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ok I like this Guy at my school he is new and all and I talked to him. I am gurlie so dont say just be gurlie but the problem is every one tells me I go up to guys to fast and like let them come to me well I think he is 14 and so am I well how can I get him to like me or just be intrested or just be a friend I just wont to be close to him

First of all, you need to become FRIENDS with him. You might not even like him "that way" after becoming better friends and getting to know him more. If you still like him after getting to know him better, let him know that you have feelings for him and have for a while. Maybe he feels the same! Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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O.K. My boyfriend cheated on me like... 3 weeks ago. I forgave him, as long as he never did it again. It was pretty hard trusting him again after that, but I did. After I had THOUGHT I had gained nothing but love and respect for him again... he CHEATED ON ME AGAIN with my sister! I know it's pretty weird but I don't trust EITHER one of them. How can get over the fact that my OWN sister could do that to me? I miss my boyfriend but I have been hurt enough and don't NEED him in my life. I love my sister but what she did was wrong and I have still not forgiven her.
I can't believe this could ACTUALLY happen to me! I'm so depressed all the time and I have lost hope in ever finding the right guy again! I really thought he was the one for me. He was so right for me, so perfect and then, BOOM! He's sleeping with my sister! I don't know what to do! I'm so confused. I'm so depressed that I'm throwing up and crying non-stop. It's really sad for me. My sister keeps telling me she's sorry but I still have not forgiven her. I haven't even talked to her! Please help! This is really devastating for me and I need someone to tell me what to do!

I rate high!
Katie Marie Sanchez- age 17

Okay, first of all, your sister is your FAMILY. Remember that anybody could be gone at any time, you aren't guaranteed more time with ANYBODY. You need to let her know that you do love her, but you're really unhappy with her. If you choose not to talk to her, that's your choice but remember she might not always be there.

As for the guy, you're right, you DON'T need him in your life. Find another guy!! There's always another chance out there! Good luck & I hope you feel better!
♥ Melissa

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