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My name is McKenzie and I'm a freshman at Reedley College, I love to help people out with problems and to write. I want to be a writer someday. I love to make friends. Ask any question and I'll attempt to answer it.

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okay so in one of my classes there is known as kinda of a geek but tall but just not cool so anyways if he likes a girl h es like obessed and its kinda scary and im starting to think he likes me ...like when i look up most of the time hes always staring at me giving me liek a creepy stare and i hate it and when i flirt with other guys he seems to get mad at stare me down...so first does he deff. like me and 2 how do i get him to stop w/o talking to him!

oh yess i rate high for good answers that wil help!=)

Well just drop hints that you're not interested. Like continue to flirt even though it makes him mad. He's bound to get the message sooner or later. Good luck! Hope I helped!:)

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the women I started to see again texts me last night saying "guess what? I heard someone you used to mess around with has aids" but "Dont stress I saved 25 percent on my car insurance from gieco. We broke up because she thought I was cheating on her, and then to send a text like that at 3:00 am that woke me up was wrong, then when I texted her back asking what she was talking about she never responded. So I called her she didnt answer the phone, so I left a messange telling her to stop calling me and texting me and that this is it. I also made an example to her saying that if you think i did something because you heard from someone that I did then maybe I should believe rumors I heard about you. I knew that was wrong so I texted her immediately saying I was sorry. That morning she texts me saying I was stupid and that it was just a joke, I replied I did not find it funny especially when she has questioned my loyality in a relationship. She said that she was happy to see the real me and that she was glad that she didnt start to really get involved with me again. I just dont think that the joke was funny considering what happened before. I need to know if I over reacted or was that joke just harsh and in poor taste????

That joke was just wrong and in poor taste. The woman obviously doesn't want you to see anyone else.

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okay well i have a major crush.

on this boy jon, and well i need to tell him, but im way too shy. and afraid im going to look stupid !

so yeah can you please help me in a way not to act stupid?

ps hes in my classes and theres nothing to ever talk about.

If he's in your class, you have an advantage. Talk to him about his day or if he's on any sport teams, ask him how that's going. When the timing is right, tell him. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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My dad smokes and im really worried about him. I really want him to stop, but i dont know what to say and i dont want him to get mad at me...what should i do? thanks in advance *i do rate8

Tell him that it can do a lot of harm to his body if he continues. The best thing to do is never to start. If he still won't listen, have someone else talk to him or get him to go to a support group.

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I have thought alot about suicide. Wrote suicide letters, read them over and over. Some days I want to kill myself, others I don't. I was just wondering for someone who is catholic and christian why do these thoughts occur. I believe in God so much and go to church all the time, but yet I have these evil thoughts, what would happen if I were to kill myself, would I go to hell?

God creates us so He spent time to make you. Don't ruin your life with Him. Just curious, how old are you? If your 15 and below, you haven't even begun to expierence all He has to offer in your life. If your still having thoughts about suicide, talk to someone or write what you feel in a diary. I've been suicidal but I've realized all God has to offer and I hope you will realize it too. Hope I helped!

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Yesterday one of the guys that lives in my appartment complex knocked on my door and asked me out. I told him that I had plans and he didn't look too happy.

First of all, I've always been told to never date a guy that lives in the same building as you because if it didnt work out it would be very awkward. Also, he's about 15 years older than me and I don't find him very attractive, he's bald with glasses and is really nerdy.

I've also heard from other people in the building that he can be a real jerk. One of my friends asked him once if the mail came and he told him to fuck off.

I've always been nice to him because I wanted everyone in the building to like me.
But now I don't know how to act.
I have no interest in him AT ALL.
The worst part is he lives only 3 appartments down the hallway from me, so we will always be running into each other.
What should I do?

Explain to him that you don't want to be in a relationship with him. If he still won't listen, get a cute guy and rub it in his face. That'lll get him to shut up. Hope I helped!

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To give a little background, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year I'm 16 and he's 17. He would always get things in the mail from the Army, Navy and the Marines. He would save them, show it to me and I'd rip it up and tell him he's not going. The thought of my boyfriend going away to war is something I just CAN'T handle.

I was in his room, cleaning it up while he was in the shower like I always do and I found a flyer that had the information about the Navy on it... I was getting ready to rip it up when I saw that he had signed up for it..

I always told him that I'd be heartbroken if he would sign up for anything that COULD get him killed.

I'm trying SO hard to understand... But I can't. I don't know why he would do this to me. He keeps saying it's for the best but I KNOW it's not the best for him. He always told me he'd never leave me, but by doing this I feel like he is. He always told me, "You don't know what I would give just to see your beautiful face every day and just to have you in my arms, even if it's for 5 minutes." He's told me he wants to be the father of my children, my husband, my one and only.. If he's at war, how is he going to do that??


I really want to convince him NOT to go, but that's just being selfish... But at the same time I want him here with ME. I don't want to live every day in fear that I'll get that knock on my door and having someone tell me that the love of my life was killed.


So my questions are... SHOULD I convince him not to go and explain to him why I don't want him to?


If not, how can I get over this? How can I deal with it every day knowing that my boyfriend is risking his life?

I understand your pains. Explain to him how much you need him at home. You also need to respect his needs. He would do the same for you if for example, you went away for a few weeks and he couldn't come. Don't think about someone knocking at your door and announcing him dead. Respect his needs, but voice yours for him at home. Hope I helped!

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I'm relatively new here and I quite enjoy visiting this web site, but I can't get over the fact that at least half of these people could not form a coherent sentence with decent spelling to save their lives!

What can be done to help everyone realize that proper grammar and spelling is the key to communication, which, in turn, is the key to not stumbling around blindly in life? I really do fear for our generation sometimes.

Nothing is really going to fix this unless you get ahold of every single person that answers this question and strangle them. I understand your concerns but nothing can be done to fix them so deal with it. Hope I helped!

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God.. I have a really really bad headache right now. I don't feel like taking medicine cause it makes me feel even worse. I was spinning really fast in those chairs where you can spin them.. I think it's because of that. I feel really bad now.. I feel like throwing up.. Is there anything I can do about it?? I don't wat to take a nap: it's 5:25 pm here... I'm going to sleep in like 3 hours. But is there anything I can do in the meantime?

Maybe drink some water, eat a little something and take a nap. That should help. Hope I helped!

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Lately I have been having thoughts of suicide. Like I used to have it once a month or once every two months, but now it's almost everyday. I even think about how I would do it, how it would feel, what I would say in my suicide note(I have even written one out), I think how my funeral would be and all, I like thinking about it. It gives me a thrill. I know this sounds sick and weird, but it's how I feel. Then there is another part of me that wants to live, that's trying so hard to fight back, but this other side of me is taking over so fast and Im afraid it will lead me somewhere I dont really want to do. I am seeing a therapist now, have told her everything, but Im just so scared it could be any day now. Just tonight my boyfriend was over and while he lay sleeping on the couch I got up and went into the kitchen and grabbed a bottle of pills, I think I would have done it but then I thought about him and reached into the drawer and cut myself to relieve myself from the anxiety and tension. After I cut I didn't want to commit suicide anymore and I felt better. Could someone try to explain what they thin kI might have? I am so depressed and so scared.

You may have chronic depression. Some days you want to live, others you want to die. My friend has that. Its good that you have someone to talk to. Remember there's so many people that love you and don't want to see you get hurt. You're in my prayers. Let me know how you're doing. If you have AIM, IM me at mooch774 and we can talk. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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hello,
Before I say my question I would like to say thank you for people who are reading this now and I need advice FAST!!!!
okay hear is the story
I REALLY like this guy A LOT and i talk to him about everyday even though we go to different schools. ( he is one year older) and I was talking to him yesterday and he said ( on the internet) that he was going to ask this girl ------- at his school to be his gf and they made out a bout a day before.. But I almost like broke down when those words popped up!!! But he leads me on ALL the time and says " ur soo hott" and " i cant wait to i see u " and stuff but, I do not want to be competing against a grl for him because what if I am ending up hearting him if he likes ------ a lot?? So.. I do not know what to do?? Today is the day I find out if the girl says yes or if he didnt ask her.. soo please give me advice befor I say something stupid!!!
thanks xoxo

Sounds like this guy doesn't know what he wants. See how he acts around her and if he acts like I don't like you forget about him. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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ok im pretty new to this and im tryin to upload my picture but it keeps sayin your picture is bigger than 15K in file size. Whats that supposed to mean?

It means you need to resize your picture or you need a smaller picture. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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okay there is this guy, my friend was like "would you ever go out with her?"

Hang around him a lot more and let him know you're interested in him. Act like you notice him alot more and go out of your way to do nice things for him. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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My friend asked this guy what he thought aboout me, and he wouldn't answer her, he just tried to get away from her.

Does this mean he doesn't like me?

I would ask him yourself. It was wrong for your friend to ask him without your permission but she was just trying to help. Hope I helped!

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I have a huge crush on this guy at school.(he's my friend) But he has a girlfriend.(shes my friend too) And everytime i see them together i feel weird. but i'm really happy for both of them! And lately he's been flirting with me and has kind of been ignoring his girldfriend.( but not a lot of ignoring her ) what should i do?

signed
queenteen18
p.s. i'm a girl

Keep flirting with him and see what happens. If he doesn't spend a lot of time with his girl, then he'll probably dump her. The object of the game is FLIRT,FLIRT,FLIRT and see what happpens. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Hi

I have a question about guys who wink.
When a guy winks at you, does it mean he likes you as more than a friend.?

The reason I ask is because I got winked at by a guy and then I later found out he is married.

I've also been winked at in different ways. Some guys wink really fast and smile in front of others, and other guys wink at me really slow when no one else is looking.

I've been winked at since I was about 13 and now I"m 27. I'm really curious what it means.

sincerely
buzzie

When a guy winks at you, they want to be friendly with you or they like you. It depends on how they wink. If they wink for a long period of time, it means something is going on inside his head. If they wink for a short time, it just means they noticed you. Hope I helped!

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My friend i kinda like and i went to his house yesterday and he came ut without a shirt on just a towel around his neck.... we talk and talked about how our friends see a guy and a girl talking and they thought they liked eachother but didnt and them i heard tweo more of my girl friends coming down the rode...He said" o ill be right back i have to go get a shirt on' .. y was he okay having no shirt on with me but not his other two good girl friends????? does he like me or does he just feel more comfortable about me

Maybe he just feels comfortable around you. Guys sometimes have their shirts off whether or not their comfortable around you; they know you like it. Hope I helped!

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Ok, My best friend and I like the same guy. He is my neighbor and he is everything you could ever want in a guy, humor, kindness, intelligance, and after having so many bad relationships, we both have fallen hard for this guy.
Anyways about two months ago we desided to tell him that we both liked him. He had been sending the right singnals as far as we could tell, but then he told us he likes us both and he doesn't want to ruin the friendship by picking just one of us. One day he'll like her more it seems, and then the next it will be me.
Was that just a cover up that he doens't like either of us and doesn't want to hurt our feelings, or was that the real truth.
Well now it's two months later and he's still doing the same thing. Somedays he'll act completely interested in us, and then others he's just kind of blah. He likes to talk about other girls in front of us, compliment us, and hang out all the time, so what DOES IT MEAN?! We don't have any clue on what to do because guys are just so hard to read! Please help!

It probably means that he likes you both, he just doesn't want to ruin the friendship. Maybe he'll send some more signals. Wait and see. Hope I helped!

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15 1/2 Female.

For the record I have been kissed many times, and have had a boy friend (if you want to call him that) before.

I can't help but wish I could find a guy that would like me for me and would always be with me. Yes, I realise this is most girls dream but I can't stop thinking about it.
I have a huge crush on guy that works at the local grocery store but I think he thinks I'm older... (I tend to get told I look older then I really am) I have a couple other crushes but the guys are younger then me. Like 2 years younger.

Now, if I were reading this question right now I know how I'd answer it but i'm hoping some of you have different ideas then me.

Should I just let myself stay up all night dreaming about having a boy friend and feeling stupid that I'm thinking that or should I take a stab and really introduce myself to Billy (safeway guy)?

Any opinions are welcome but please TRY to write in english.

Take a stab at it and introduce yourself to him. You definately won't get a boyfriend by sobbing about it. What do you mean by write in English? Just wondering. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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ok so theres this boy , and he found out that i liked him and before we were all cool and everything then he acted different around me after he found out. When my friends talk to him about me , the'll be like you know you like her and stuff like that and he will just smile thats it. he wont say and thing just simle .. does he like me ? or is he thinking EW I HATE HER !

PS - my friend was like do u think shes cute and he said yeah , so does he or hes just trying to be nice ?

I REALLY WANT HIM TO LIKE ME + WHAT ARE SOME THING I CAN DO

Sometimes guys act wierd because they know you like them so they can't decide how they should act or when. Keep talking to him and see what'll happen. Hope I helped!

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