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Need advice was it a bad joke or did I just over react
the women I started to see again texts me last night saying "guess what? I heard someone you used to mess around with has aids" but "Dont stress I saved 25 percent on my car insurance from gieco. We broke up because she thought I was cheating on her, and then to send a text like that at 3:00 am that woke me up was wrong, then when I texted her back asking what she was talking about she never responded. So I called her she didnt answer the phone, so I left a messange telling her to stop calling me and texting me and that this is it. I also made an example to her saying that if you think i did something because you heard from someone that I did then maybe I should believe rumors I heard about you. I knew that was wrong so I texted her immediately saying I was sorry. That morning she texts me saying I was stupid and that it was just a joke, I replied I did not find it funny especially when she has questioned my loyality in a relationship. She said that she was happy to see the real me and that she was glad that she didnt start to really get involved with me again. I just dont think that the joke was funny considering what happened before. I need to know if I over reacted or was that joke just harsh and in poor taste????
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That joke was just wrong and in poor taste. The woman obviously doesn't want you to see anyone else.
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That joke was really harsh and there is no way in hell that you over reacted. I would have done the same thing, because that would have really pissed me off if someone did that to me. considering my uncle has aids I don't think that was very funny at all and I probably would have kicked her ass. But anyways you had every right to act the way you did.
Tiff
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The joke was in very bad taste and hell no you didn't over react. AIDS is really not a joking matter and that really wasn't anywhere near funny.
At the very least you need to let her know she isn't the only person in your relationship. She has no respect for you whatever from what I can see. Get some. Even if you have to get it from someone else. :)
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Well, if thats really your question, I don't think you really over reacted, it sounds like you didn't really have too much of a conversation enough to fit in a reaction. What I would have done is just ignored it and gone on with my life, but even if you replied, its not a big deal. I hope you aren't too upset about it because, you'd be letting her get the best of you. If you know that you were faithful to her when you were with her, that should be enough, shes practicly out of your life, so its not much to dwell on. If she keeps saying things, say, "well, if I was so unfaithful to you, then why are you text messaging a guy like me?" Or, just ignore anymore messages that come onto your phone from her.
-TheTeenGirl
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It's a slight over-reaction, I think. I think you could probably decipher the entire thing as a joke, as it is too false to make believe that it was true.
However, it was a harsh joke, no doubt. I probably would have punched her in the face then and there, but the kind as a friendly punch. Then I'd laugh with her.
Just forget that the whole thing happened is my thoughts. Just let the friendship sit again. She meant it as a joke, and she meant it to be for your humor as well. It's the though that counts.
-Steven
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Well I don't think you overreacted at all. If you were nice about the things you were saying when you left a message, and sed things in the nicest way possible. (it's not always easy to be nice about these kinds of things!) If she keeps bothering you, you could get your number changed..or even press charges for harrassment..but I don't think you want to go that far just yet! It wasn't right for her to text message you at 3 in the morning, especially when it was not an emergency, or even important for that matter! Just tell her that you don't care to talk to her anymore, and if she doesn't listen you might have to take things to the next step. Good luck!
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It sounds like a funny prank that i think even i would use on my friends....keyword...friends, not ex, if i sent something like that to a guy i thought cheated on me it would be a way of getting back at him, i think that's what she was doing, taking out all her anger from what happend in your relationship and decided to do a cruel joke like that
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