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I recently got my first tattoo on my foot 5 days ago. It is a tattoo of three stars (going from big to small) just above where a sandal strap usually is. I am using A&D ointment and Curel (I switch off every other day and apply twice a day). Do you think I should use both in the same day?
The littlest star is heavily scabbed. But could this be because it's small (it is literally a centimeter big)?
The medium star is lightly scabbed and that one doesn't seem to have a problem.
The bigger star is the one that I'm worried about the most. It is mediumly scabbed. But there are like three little spots where there is no scab and bleed when I put ointment. I'm assuming it's normal but I just want to be safe. And one more thing, there is something white showing on my scab. I don't know if it's because of the ointment or because the scab is dry. Could it possibly be an infection? Which I doubt because when I clench the tattoo it turns to the color and it doesn't sting or anything. I think it is possibly the scab.
I wear nothing but sandals and I walk an approximate hour to and hour and a half in the sun. I moisturize it at least twice a day (should I moisturize more?)
How long do you think the healing process will take? How long to you think the scabs will last? When do I know when to peel of my scabs?
And if you have any recommendations on how to take care of the tattoo, I would greatly appreciate them. Thanks!
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I know this will go against everything you were told, but I swear I'm not making this up.
The worst things you can put on a tattoo are heavy ointments like A&D, lanolin, vaseline, or neosporin. These clog the pores up, disrupt natural healing processes, and cause some fading to the tattoo.
So many tattoo artists are in this phase where they say, "Well, I did it and it didn't hurt me!" rather than saying, "You know, if I would have done this differently then maybe my art would have stayed bright longer and have been nicer..."
The truth is, you don't need to apply ANYTHING to your skin to get beautiful results. The skin is such a great organ that it heals very fast. Think about it this way:
If you had just fallen and scraped your knee, would you be smearing A&D ointment all over it?
Of course not. It would seal in dirt and oils. It would disrupt natural balances, even. It wouldn't let oxygen, which is healing to skin cells, to the damaged tissue.
So, what would you do?
You'd clean it off, bandage it with a clean cloth until it stopped weeping, and then remove the materials and let nature do it's healing thing.
If you, for some reason, have super, duper dry skin then you can apply lotion. Unscented, undyed--every once in awhile. And up your water intake. Seriously.
Your ink will likely be alright, but I beg you to let your skin do what it needs to do next time. Seriously, a scraped knee doesn't need you to be smearing lotions and ointments on it right off. You clean it, let it stop bleeding, and then let the tissue rebalance.
If the needle and inks were clean and you make sure to wash off the tattoo each day then there shouldn't be a problem in healing and there shouldn't be any crazy risk of infection. Seriously. It's like any other wound on you body. You don't go smearing A&D on every scrape, cut, knick, or bump you get.
The idea behind the A&D is that it treats rashes. It was created to heal diaper rash. But a tattoo isn't a rash. There is nothing wet against the skin that is causing the irritation.
A scab will naturally appear on the ink, just like with a skinned knee. It will naturally come off in time. Leave it alone and do what it wants to do. Your body knows how to heal. Letting your body do what it needs to do isn't going to cause your ink to discolor or fade. If it did then all of the Africans that imprint ink into their skin would be dead from the constant reapplication.
Everyone heals differently. Let the body heal for 4 weeks. By then the scab should be mostly off by itself. Within 6 weeks your skin should be back to normal, for the most part. Most people do notice the scab will fall off, naturally, in about 10 days after it's initial formation.
Use your lotion after the skin has healed if you can do it. If your skin isn't dry then it doesn't need the extra moisture you're applying from the outside source. Applying lotions all the time actually causes the skin to rely on it. It doesn't make sense to rely on lotions suddenly, right? The skin gets confused and says, "OH, wait, we're getting plenty of moisture from some where...cut down on the oil production!" And then, suddenly, when you stop using the lotion you wind up NEEDING it because the skin adjusted itself, thinking that the lotion was going to be a forever thing.
If you notice the area getting dry then apply the lotion and up your water intake. To be quite honest, it's pretty rare that the tattoo area becomes so dry that it leads to color fading. Honestly, this fear that the dry skin is going to pull the color out is a little over the top. Scabs aren't supposed to be wet anyway if you get to thinking of it.
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im looking for houses for rent in rockford IL 2 bedroom, with a zipcode 61107. i heard its a good area and my mom wants me to look it up but im not good at finding houses does anyone know of any sites to help me? thank you (link)
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Your best bet is to talk to a local realtor, even if it's only by phone. They can help you figure out a decent neighborhood location, and a home that fits your needs for your family. Realtors usually deal with selling homes but many of them have connections and are aware of many rental homes current available.
Otherwise, here are some sites I found with rental homes available in Rockford, IL:
http://www.rentals.com/Illinois/Rockford/
http://www.rockfordilrentals.com/
http://rockford.craigslist.org/apa/
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Please describe one problem you encountered at work this month. This can be a personal problem that you faced, a workplace problem, or a combination of the two.
-describe the problem
-describe the causes of the problem
- describe how the problem was solved or handled
- was the problem handled effectively?
That's one of my homework questions but i don't have a job. And I'm really bad at makign up faking situations/lying. But your answers will not be in vain! Your problems will help me learn if I face a situation like it one day when I work. Thank you so much! (link)
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I'll supply you with a problem I had in my very first work place. I'm not entirely sure if you need all of these details (if you need more) but here you go, and I hope it does help:
Problem: Male co-worker sat behind me during lunch and splashed me with water before saying, "I'm cumming! I'm cumming!" He thought it was funny, and I thought it was degrading.
Cause of the problem: The male co-worker is young and immature. He thought it would be funny to make a joke in front of his friend by picking on me.
How to handle the problem: I confronted him after asking him, politely, to discontinue and that it was troubling me. He continued. I approached him and told him I would file sexual harassment if he didn't stop. I immediately left and approached the manager and informed him of what had just happened and my threat to file for sexual harassment in the work place. He said if we wanted to talk about this then we could go to the office and try to get this sorted out. I declined. He had the male co-worker come apologize later to me.
Was it handled effectively?: Yes and no. I should have filed for sexual harassment. It was degrading and not amusing in any way. The confrontation did make him stop but I feel this problem may arise another day with another female co-worker who isn't knowledgeable of this sort of sexual harassment.
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Ok so I'm 15/f and I have like mousy blondish hair. I think its a bit boring and I wanna dye it brown. I've bought this 24 wash kit from nice n easy (number 78, medium golden brown?) and I'm thinking of dyeing it on Wednesday. My mom reckons I'm not meant to have dark hair by my friends say it'll suit me cos my eyebrows are that colour. Anyone got any comments? Also I work inna swimming pool as a teacher so it'll be in chlorine for a couple hours every over day - will his affect it?? Thanks guys, Liz xx (link)
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Personally, I would get the hair dyed at a salon since it's going to be such a drastic change. You definitely don't want it coming out being two-toned orange or something because it reacted to your natural hair color badly.
In addition, the salon hair colors last longer, withstand harmful things like chlorine better, and do less damage to the hair shaft.
Return the box of hair dye to the store and make an appointment for a hair dye by a professional. They will be able to tell you much more information and if it turns out badly--they can fix it and cut out possible embarrassment.
Chlorine is awful for hair. Hair dye is awful for hair. They both strip the hair of the natural oils, lead to breakage and split ends, and dull color. You don't want to make this a home job. A professional will even be able to recommend some great products to help keep your hair healthier and reduce the damage.
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I'm 13 and I want my bellybutton pierced. I talked to my mom and she said it was illegal and that you have to be 18. I don't want to wait until I'm 18. My bf thinks it would be really sexy if I got it done and I want to get it pierced now. I told my mom to lie for me and that I promise I'll take care of it. she wont listen! What do I do? Can I pierce it at home myself or something? (link)
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It shouldn't be illegal as long as you have a parent or guardian tagging along to the piercing parlor with you, actually. The parent will need to sign a consent form and then they will go through with it. If your piercer said they couldn't do it then it may be a personal thing in which they'd rather not shove needles through a child's flesh. See another shop.
If someone told you it was illegal then they have no idea what they're talking about. If it was the piercing shop itself then it's probably just their personal preference and they didn't want to say, "I refuse to pierce a child's naval. It's just asking for attention at the belt line and below." If you "checked around" then you may have read some misinformation.
Anyone under the age of 18 can get a piercing. Infants get their ears pierced all of the time. There is absolutely nothing illegal about it. You just have to have a parent with you that will sign the consent forms.
If your mother won't consent then there is nothing you can do. While you could shove a needle through your skin at home, you will risk great infection--infection that could very well wind up being fatal or deadly. Wait until you're a year older and then ask again. Sometimes parents will "give" once they've noticed you've matured passed the, "My boyfriend thinks it's sexy!" standpoint. In all seriousness, piercings are adult matters that need to cleaned, tended to, and not played around with.
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Well my sister who is 12 wants to get her belly button pierced. She has parent pemission. but we don't know where to get it done. and its legale to get it done at her age. we checked. (link)
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Find a local piercing parlor (usually does piercings and tattoos) and call them beforehand about pricing. A navel piercing may cost $20 or more, and you may need to pay additional costs for the autoclaved jewelry.
Ask if the shop has an autoclave, first and foremost. That is how their jewelry is sanitized and it is absolutely necessary. If they don't have one then you do NOT want to go to them.
Come for a visit before the date of the piercing appointment. Check out the set-up. Does it look clean and sterile? Are there separate rooms devoted to piercings versus tattoos? Is there photos available for the piercer's previous work?
Talk with the people in the shop. Ask them how confident they feel about getting this particular piercing done. Ask them to estimate how many piercings the artist has done on the navel.
Look at a few shops, preferably, and pick out the one that seems most friendly and clean. You want them to be very educated about the body, piercings, tattoos, and health so talk about things like the healing process for a belly button piercing. Meet the artists if possible.
During the procedure you should be able to see new packages of needles. They should open the needle right in front of you so that you know you're not getting a secondhand needle (it is VERY important you notice this because many, many low shops try to reuse needles and end up spreading disease).
Talk with your parents about it.
Talk with people who do have piercings already and see if they have recommendations.
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i feel stupid that i didn't notice it at all...the other time i thought he did he didn't then some girl was like HE HAS A BONER at a party.i don't know what to do because i didn't notice the one time that he did have one and then when he didn't i though he did (link)
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Seriously, it's not a big deal.
Guys get hardons all the time. Sometimes they will get hard even if they aren't thinking about sex or looking at sexy women. Sometimes it just happens.
If he wants you to notice then all you have to do is look at his pants more often. His crotch will, obviously, rise and make a little tent, as they say.
If it's that you were, say, grinding on him and didn't realize he had a boner then you're missing the entire point of grinding. Grinding is to sexually arouse the other person. The man will get hard, the woman will feel it, and it's even possible to get off doing that sort of thing. It's rather disgusting, if you ask me, but, hey, what do I know?
If it's that your boyfriend wants you to notice so that you'll do something sexually with him when he gets a boner then talk to him about it. Express to him that you simply cannot spend every waking moment of your life staring at his penis. Sometimes he's just going to have to say, "Hey...something is pointing at you!"
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ime doing a school talent show and i have no idea what to do HELP (link)
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Here are a few good talent show ideas:
* Whistle a tune
* Hand-whistle a tune
* Teach something (instrument? song? craft project? baking?)
* A short comedy routine or act (stand up comedy or an Abbot and Costello sketch)
* Tell a story like the Native Americans (American folklore, myths, fairy tales, or your own story)
* Recite famous poems
* A ventriloquist act
* A funny puppet show
* Various impersonations act (or, rather, impersonate a famous person like Barack Obama or a teacher)
* Mime or silent skit (don't forget to tell a story with your actions)
* A short magic trick skit or act (don't forget the card tricks)
* A "flop" or fake magic trick skit where nothing goes right (on purpose, of course)
* Hula-hoop
* Tap dance
* Beat-box
* Break-dance
* Juggle
* Rap
* A competitive "dance off" with a partner
* Play an instrument
* Various yo-yo tricks
* Yodel
* Do a cheer routine
* Play musical glasses
* Reenact a famous battle
* Remake a popular music video (Michael Jackson, Lady GaGa)
* Do a short acting skit
* Create a new skit from a popular television show or movie (American Idol, I Love Lucy)
* Do a funny lip-sync
* Funny cross-dress fashion show (the boys dress as goofy looking women)
* Short gymnastics routine
* Show off your dog's tricks
* Swallow a goldfish
* Air guitar
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Hey ok so what is the best like absolute beat hair straightener/flat iron? It needs to work well for medium-thick hair, be under 30$ and actually work good. Needs to have even heat throughout. Lots of answers would be amazingggggg (link)
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To avoid more damage to your hair with heat styling you probably want to invest a little more into a flat iron or straight iron. You will also want to purchase heat protector spray to put on your hair before styling. Just a thought!
Anyway, as for cheap flat irons that are decent, reviews are fairly positive for:
Revlon Perfect Heat Professional Straightener (at about $25)
runner up brands are:
Conair Instant Heat, Ultra-Hot Ceramic Straightener CS19CS (at about $20)
Hot Tools Flat Iron 40 Watt 2 Quick Heat Settings # Hot1193 (at about $25)
HOT TOOLS Tourmaline Ceramic Flat Iron 5/8 inch (at about $25)
Hot Tools Professional Flat Iron Model 1190 (at about $30)
The wet2straight and Remington styles are also fairly popular.
I'd advise you to save up your money for something of better quality, even if it's just in the $60 range. You seriously, seriously, seriously don't want to have to end up cutting off 3 inches of dead ends because you went cheap on hair care products.
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Ok i was thinking and i took my one knife and took it into the bathroom and i tryed as hard as i could to get close to bleeding i knew i wasnt and now my hand feels like its on fire and one mark is still there what schould i do????? (link)
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Cutting is very harmful and the release you may feel from the self-injury will only need to be increased within time. Scars on the arms just aren't attractive and it will be hard to explain when you wind up with deep lacerations and burn marks from your self-injury attempts. I've seen this first-hand and it's very, very unsightly.
Instead of trying to release your pain, frustration, and internal problems by self-mutation try to focus on improvement. Make goals for yourself and try to achieve them. Reward yourself when you've done good.
Talk to a therapist on a regular basis.
Self-injury in the form of cutting or other methods that break the skin can wind up very bad. You can end up with infections, including infections that can eat your flesh off of your body if particular bacteria get into the wound and begin to flourish. There are a lot of flesh eating bacteria that cannot be stopped once they progress to the point that the infected person notices there is a problem. You can die from infections caused by cutting. It's very, very serious and very, very dangerous. We're not talking a quick, painless death either. We're talking a death that occurs once the infection causes the vital organs of the body to shut down one-by-one.
My passed relationship was not a very good one and is something I'm pretty shameful of. The only thing I do wish I would have done was take a picture of the guy's arm. It was what self-injury looked like a few years into it. It gets progressively worse. It no longer makes you have that rush. It becomes addiction. It was really, really bad, and something you'd imagine seeing from a horror film. I wish I was kidding.
These photos below:
http://www.scars1.com/MultimediaLibrary/images/content/cautionary_onself_injury-.jpg
http://img3.visualizeus.com/thumbs/09/02/04/blood,cutting,female,fight,scars,strength-10b55a533dc7cc8d7317a7dfff1b938f_h.jpg
http://i92.photobucket.com/albums/l38/Hinata237/scars-2-1.jpg
http://www.bbc.co.uk/london/content/images/2007/02/12/mandybodyport_203x300.jpg
http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2223/2250651865_77321f0cf3.jpg
are literally NOTHING compared to what cutting progresses to. I know because I have seen it.
You feel the marks need to be deeper, wider, and more. My ex actually burned his own flesh with a lighter at one point because cutting with razors simply wasn't working any more. Talk about disfigurement. And, unfortunately, there is nothing that will make those marks just go away without a lot of cash and reconstructive surgery.
I know how it feels to be overly emotional. I know how it feels to not fit in. I know how it feels to have absolutely nobody you can trust, rely on, or lean on for support. The truth is, cutting isn't going to solve anything. At all. Not even a little bit.
Talk with a counselor.
As for your current wound, if you've broken the skin then you need to tend to it. Wipe it out with peroxide or alcohol. Keep the area clean and dry. Bandage it up with sterile gauze and medical tape. Leave it alone to heal. Refresh the bandage twice a day and then after a few days, when it has scabbed over well, you can remove the bandage to let air get to it to further the healing.
Hurting yourself is never the answer.
Reach out. Tell someone. Ask for help. It's okay.
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20 female..
How do you get over a regret? I made a dumb decision ..I lost my virginity to this guy I thought I liked but then we kind of stopped talking and now he has a girlfriend which just really hit me hard. I didn't regret having sex with him until now ..maybe it's because he got a girlfriend ..I don't know. I've never regretted anything in my life until this. Do I just try to move on from the past? (link)
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You learn your lesson and know that you will grow as a stronger person.
The first step in this entire thing is realizing that YOU made a dumb decision. Nobody forced you. Nobody conned you. This was entirely your mistake.
Then you can begin to figure out where your thoughts went wrong. You can find out why you did what you did. You can evaluate the situation.
This could be ANYTHING from the guy looking good to him being your best friend growing up. Pinpoint the reason(s) why you did what you did.
And learn from them.
Just because he's attractive doesn't mean he's a good person.
And just because you may have grown up together doesn't mean he's the same kind kid he was back then.
Then sit down and write out what you want in a partner. Do you want someone kind? Caring? Passionate? Friendly? Outgoing? Shy? Timid? Animal rights activist? Smart? Goal oriented? Tall? Short? Muscled? Heavy? Honest? Polite? Faithful? Religious?
And figure out how this guy does NOT fit what you want. Write it down if you have to. You can see, "Oh, yeah, he did this and this. That isn't very [want] and so he isn't the type of man I want to be with."
Then you can prepare yourself for the next guy to entire your life. You will have a list handy of how to evaluate him. You can choose then to figure out who he is in relation to what you desire before you leap forward and have sex, making you physically and emotionally vulnerable.
And know that everyone, everywhere makes mistakes. Some of us do really dumb things. Some of us never learn. Some of us learn the first time around.
If you think of it, Advicenators is here for this reason. You can come here and say:
This guy. I am thinking of having sex with him. We've been seeing each other for 3 months. I knew him since I was a kid. Things are a little odd though. I think he might, just maybe, be seeing someone else. What do you think? I should do?
And we can say, "Look, you obvious have signs that you're unsure about this entire situation. You have to think these things out thoroughly before going forward. Just because you knew this guy in the past doesn't mean he's the same person. 3 months is nothing and if you haven't been dating him then it's probably rushing into things since he cannot even respect you enough to give you the title of girlfriend."
And you can choose to listen wisely or ignore it and wind up hurt.
There are so, so, so many ways you can stop doing this to yourself. The truth is, a lot of girls wind up in this situation. They have sex with a guy and then regret doing it. What they do not understand is that they have to recognize exactly what happened or they're going to be doomed to repeat it.
I have a friend named Kay. Kay is a nice girl. She is a good friend. Kay likes guys though.
Kay has had sex with more guys than she can count. If you ask her, she has no idea how many guys she has had sex with.
One night Kay was talking to me and she said she was tired of being used but didn't know how to stop. She didn't know how to "get" a guy without giving them sex, but now it seems that guys won't even be with her after giving them "what they want" from her.
I said, "Then stop having sex. Tell them no. Tell them you want to wait until you're married. If they're a keeper then they won't mind. Seriously. Just say you aren't into that sort of thing. If they know about your past you say you know you made mistakes and you aren't that person. It doesn't matter if you REALLY want to wait until you're married--they just have to think that. Then you can choose the right time for you in the relationship when things are right."
For the next while Kay didn't have sex with guys. She met guys who were stilled interested in her--even though she said she didn't want to have sex. She did good for a long time, about 6 months, which is the longest she had ever gone without having sex since she lost her virginity.
For note, Kay was 19 years old.
So, what happened?
She just broke. Her magical shining knight never showed up and she went back to her old habits--letting herself be used time and time again.
The truth is, she was just broken. Sex was what she knew. She knew guys liked it and for that moment she believed the guy liked her. She didn't "get" it. The guy had no interest in her. She thought her knight in shining armor would have come right away once she changed her life. Life doesn't work like that.
And she is doomed to continue repeating those mistakes because she doesn't understand. She doesn't learn from her passed. She doesn't get what to do. All she knows is that guys like sex. She doesn't understand that the reasons why she's so depressed and lonely is because she allows herself to be used. She screams, "USE ME!" to these guys, pretty much. She doesn't get why they use her even though it's obvious to the outside world.
And that is how girls mess up.
You have to learn and grow. You can't just change your ways today and expect everything to be all better tomorrow. It's an ongoing effort that you have to keep up.
You have to look over a guy, inside and out, and figure out if he's what you want.
What is dating though, right?
Dating is to figure out who is right for you to spend your life with. People don't get this.
You date someone to figure out what you like and don't like in a partner. Then you can make decisions to move on from his person or move forward with this person.
Why date someone who doesn't fit you?
Why engage in sex with someone who isn't someone you'd date or want to be something with?
And I hope I've made you see some things you didn't see before. The pain isn't going to magically go away. It's a learning pain. It's a regret pain. It's a mistake pain.
It'll pass though and if you're smart you'll learn.
If not, you're going to be like Kay. You'll be doomed to be used and thrown away like trash. You're going to have ongoing emotional pain that you won't be able to pinpoint any more.
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Alrighty so my boyfriend is getting my nipples pierced for Christmas, and i just want to know the pro's and cons of getting this done.
Like how long do they hurt for, and how long (from personal experience) do they take to heal up? Also, what are some things i should ask the piercer before i get it done, and whats a good way to tell if the shop i'm going to is a good one?
Ive wanted to get them done for quite awhile now, and i don't think that if i DO get it done ill end up regretting it, but I would just like to hear some personal accounts about what happened after people got them done.
Any info would be greatly appreciated thanks so much (link)
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When they pierce the nipple that entire side of your body feels like someone just lit it on fire. I am not, in any way, exaggerating. From the top of your head down to your toe tips felt like it was burning flames. It takes about 1 full year to heal and in that year you absolutely cannot take stupid risk like going swimming or having them sucked on. If you aren't careful the mammary glands can actually become infected, especially so if the piercing is done wrong, and you can wind up with an infection that requires surgery.
If the shop is clean and pleasant then that's a good first step. They should have something called an autoclave to sterilize jewelry properly. There should be separate rooms for tattoos and piercing. They should be competent on what you'd like done. You should be able to watch them open the needles. They should have starter jewelry on hand. They also should have a certificate from the local health department saying their location is clean and safe. They should also have material available for you to look at in regards to some of their previous work. (Tattoos & piercings)
Wear a shirt you won't mind getting blood on. Your nipples may bleed quite a bit. You don't want to be walking around with blood spots where your nipples are. Trust me.
Start with a straight barbell and nothing curved. Trust me. You do not want this to be rejected and have weird scared nipples because you wanted to look fancy.
Always wash your hands before touching the nipple or jewelry. Never twist or move the jewelry during the 1 year healing process. Rinse it off with saline solution (sea salt water, typically) twice a day. Use a clean cotton swab soaked in the saline if you get crusty bits (and, oh boy, you will). Never use alcohol, peroxide, or antibacterial ANYTHING (soap included) on a healing piercing if you want minimal scar tissue!
You may need to purchase new bras that will feel more comfortable on the piercing.
Some people say it feels better to go without a bra during healing.
Some day it feels good to wear a padded bra during the healing.
Some people say it feels best to wear a sports bra during the healing process. I suspect this is if you have larger breasts. This would help minimize the amount of movement of the piercing.
Always, always, always do tons of research before getting a piercing. I absolutely cannot stress that enough. I had more than a dozen piercings in my lifetime and the best thing I ever did was read about it first. Things like the healing process doesn't tend to vary from person to person and if you cannot devote 1 full year to healing the piercing then it just isn't a good time for you to get it done. I mean, a lot of women cannot give up swimming for a year, you know? And why would you risk your NIPPLES getting infected?! Don't do stupid things. Period. You have to take care of yourself. This includes telling your partner he can see but not touch, lick, suck, or anything else he'll probably want to do within the first year. Your health is important.
Some people, women moreso, find that the nipple piercing desensitizes their nipples and they do not become aroused as often any more.
You should plan to NOT become pregnant during the first year of the piercing. The changes that happen within the breast can cause some nasty effects to the piercing, including built-up scar tissue or infections. No pregnancy for 1 year.
If you ever choose to breastfeed after it has healed then you should be good to go with no problems.
If you ever choose to remove them then take good note that there WILL be scar tissue. I regret having mine done for this very reason. The scar tissue isn't pretty, most times, and it really makes you go, "Damn. Bad decision."
Hmm...I think that's all about the nipple piercing.
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So I really want to work at Hobby Lobby (an 'art and crafts' kind of place). I'm only 16 and I haven't had any job experiance before, so this makes it kind of hard to get hired. I've applied at Hobby Lobby before but I don't even know if they ever looked at my application. So I was thinking, what if I turned in a LOT of applications, like once a month or something? I've tried asking for the manager but she never seems to be there :/ so I can't think of any other way to draw attention to my application so I can get a job there. Any advice? (link)
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It really depends on how long Hobby Lobby keeps their employee records/applications. Some employers will keep them on file for 90 days, some 60, some 30, and some will keep them for a year. Usually on applications like this they will list it at the main top or main bottom about how long they will keep this application on file. It may vary from different store so this Hobby Lobby may be kind-of unique in this time range.
If the application doesn't say then call and ask to speak with a manager. Simply say, "I was curious how long this particular Hobby Lobby keeps applications on file." If the manager is unavailable then ask them to please get back to you at your number as soon as they are available.
If they reply that they keep them on file for 30 days then you can definitely turn a fresh one in every 30 days.
Being so persistent that you bombard them with the same application over and over again might not be the best idea if they keep it on record for, say, 3 months. You become annoying rather than, "Oh! They're truly interested!"
Try to give a follow-up call about a week after turning in your application. Sometimes stores just aren't hiring, unfortunately. In addition to that, many, many, many places don't even look at applicants that are under the age of 18 for legal reasons. You can't change anything about either of those possibilities.
So, a week after turning in your application you should give a call and ask to speak with the manager on duty. If they aren't available ask them to please have them call you back at your phone number when they are. When they call (or you get to speak with him/her) simply say, "Hi, my name is First Last and I applied for a position with this Hobby Lobby in Department. I was curious if you had gotten to review my application yet."
Of course, all of this is after you figure out how long they're going to keep your application on file. Since your application isn't changing there is absolutely no real reason to be sending in a fresh one every 30 days if they keep them on file for 90 days. There isn't anything new or to update. They just wind up going, "Again? Didn't we just get this filed 3 weeks ago?"
Of course, you can skip a lot of confusion if you ask about age requirements from Hobby Lobby. It's possible you're not even a candidate based on your age. You can always call and ask.
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i had unprotective sex and the next day i got my period. should i still take the morning after pill? (link)
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You can get pregnant at any time of your menstrual cycle. This means a woman could get pregnant the day before she starts her period, the day after, a week after, 2 weeks before, or even during the period.
It's less common for women to get pregnant during their period but it happens. Most women are more fertile when they are ovulating (ie: releasing an egg from an ovary). Sometimes women actually will ovulate very late in their cycle or even while they are menstruating.
Always, always, always use protection. There is never, ever a time where you aren't fertile. There is never a time where you absolutely cannot get pregnant. All of that junk are just myths told by other teens who don't understand fertility or reproduction.
Condoms are always a must.
Hormonal birth control pills would also be preferred.
If you feel comfortable taking the morning after pill then this might be one of those times. It depends on how much you're willing to risk the possibility of pregnancy.
Lots of people get pregnant during these one-time instances. I know more than one person who got pregnant while losing their virginity. My cousin was told she was completely infertile and she had sex with a guy who was told he was completely infertile due to a childhood injury--their FIRST time doing she wound up pregnant.
In the end, you're the only person you can rely on to keep yourself healthy. Listen to you body. Take good care of it and do what is smart, even if it isn't the most convenient thing to do at the time. Condoms aren't expensive and can save a lot of money and worries.
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I DO NOT WANT TO USE TAMPONS
Please do not suggest tampons
What are your favorite brands of pads? I am looking for a good one because the Always brand gives me this weird uncomfortable rash I hate dealing with every month when I'm already on my period and feeling lousy. It like makes me feel raw sometimes when I wear this brand of pads. I try to keep myself clean and dry but this particular Always brand pads always seem to chaff me. So, anyway, what is your personal recommendation? (link)
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I, personally, prefer the Seventh Generation pads with wings. They are whitened without bleach and have no icky things like rayon (which leads to dioxin exposure) in them. I use to get a bad maxi pad rash but after I made the switch the 7th Generation my rash has completely faded away and I no longer feel how you describe during my periods. The pads that I buy are through VitaCost and cost about the same as the Always brand. Definitely try them out.
Seventh Generation
I use the overnight with wings kind
They even make tampons if later you do choose to give those a shot
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i need a dare for myself so does anyone have any funnny ideas for a fifteen old boy to do (link)
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I'm not entirely sure what sort of dares you're looking for. If you're daring yourself to do something out of boredom then you might want to try to find a better way to spend you excess time. After all, daring yourself to lick the front end of a recently driven vehicle might be hilarious but, in the end, you gain nothing. Daring yourself to make an A in science this year might be something better, but probably won't involve much comedy.
Based on other sites and other suggestions from people your age:
Go to a female neighbor and ask for a pad or tampon.
Go dancing in the middle of the street in your underwear.
Stand at the bus stop in the morning only in your underwear.
Chug 1 gallon of milk in 1 minute.
Ask for a diet water at a fast food restaurant.
Ask a stranger for $100 as casually as you can.
Use the girl's restroom when you're out somewhere and act like it's no big deal.
Ask to see the school nurse and then proceed to ask her to explain how you can clean your ears safely. Pretend like you don't quite understand and keep asking her to rephrase her explanation.
Bring your lunch to school. A lunch in a brown paper bag. A lunch of only marshmallows. Ask people at the table to trade lunches with you, trying to convince them that your marshmallows are "soooo" good and "soooo" worth it.
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Lately I have begun to lose faith in my religion and it's starting to bother me because I feel less protected, less comfortable. Kind of alone? What do you do when you lose faith in your religion? Any tips?
(I won't say my religion because I don't particularly think it matters... I'm sure a lot of people from a lot of different religions lose faith after a bit, but come back to it.) (link)
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Pick up the information the religion is based on and begin to read. For Christians, this is the Bible. That is where comfort can come from because you can better understand why things happened or are happening to you and other people.
If your religion doesn't have any documents you can turn to for basic, hard information from a reliable resource then I can only suggest finding other people interested in your spiritual beliefs and discussing the religious aspects with them. This is why church is very important to many Christians--because it gives them a chance to connect with other people who are going through their same problems with the religion and helps them know they're not alone (and helps them find guidance and answers).
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I have been wondering about Full electric cars lately. Some info would help me with my thinking. How small can the battery be, but last a good while as well? What is the average time it takes for one to re-charge? (link)
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I really don't know much about cars--electric or otherwise. I am in no way a mechanic or a person qualified to really answer this sort of question with positive advice and information.
With that being said, I did take a gander around the good old Google and see if I could come up with any of this sort of information. Wikipedia had a surprisingly informative article about this sort of thing. The link to the battery portion of the article is here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electric_car#Batteries
There it lists everything from the different types of batteries you can purchase (or even rent) for an electric car, as well as an estimated time they are going to last per size of vehicle. They also have a section that is about charging or replacing batteries. Now, some of that gets into some math, and, unfortunately, I am also extremely bad when it comes to nearly all mathematics. I do hope you have a better grasp on that sort of information than I do.
Reading on that, there is no way I can even reword all of that great information into something that is clear and precise. I usually hate just giving out a link and saying, "There it is," but, in all seriousness, there's no way I could restate all of that. I mean, it goes from average charging time to doing things that make charging even faster. Yeah.
So, I hope that helps you out quite a bit. I apologize for not knowing more about vehicles or the batteries that electric cars run on. It it helps, addition information I found said:
"A 500 lb nimh pack will get an average size car 100 mi, charge in 4 hours, and last >10 years."
Beyond that, I have no idea what any of this sort of thing means in the long run when it comes to the mathematic equations and battery differences.
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do skirt boots and leeging go together?
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Yes, this goes very well together many times.
A nice-length skirt with boots and leggings is perfectly acceptable. Most girls do go for traditional black or brown boots but now with fashion being kind-of out there you can even spice it up with something like red boots or striped leggings. Mid-calf to short skirt goes just well with it. High or short boots. Dark or light leggings.
Here are some adorable examples of girls wearing skirts, boots, and leggings together:
http://cdn3.lookbook.nu/files/looks/medium/105134_IMG_8511.jpg?1230389059
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3062/2776742204_df50aaf947.jpg
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_kRtu3QFUkWc/SdrEfK9bPtI/AAAAAAAABKQ/B4nw5_qZbnw/s400/camel.jpg
http://images2.chictopia.com/photos/secondskin/7265166945/black-vintage-skirt-orange-miss-sixty-boots-black-target-leggings_400.jpg
http://images0.chictopia.com/photos/godbewilling777/2926149391/2926149391_400.jpg
http://www.luckymag.com/images/style/2008/01/minidress_boots_main.jpg
http://media.photobucket.com/image/skirt%20boots%20leggings/el_camino70/outfits/IMG_5548.jpg
http://images2.chictopia.com/photos/theminx/4084830895/4084830895_400.jpg
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I'm 16/F and my mother is 53. She's recently started losing handfuls of her hair, which was already thin to begin with and she's freaking out that it might be the water or her health.
Well, I am also losing my hair after I take showers. I lose big handfuls of it, but my hair is super thick and dark, so it's not even noticable, not as much as hers. I shower about every other day and she showers every day. I use a teatree shampoo special for dandruff and my mother uses suave. Is she just freaking out and is my shampoo messed up? Or is it the shower? I need help because my mom is a super spazz! (link)
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It seriously can be your shampoo. The particular ingredient you both would want to avoid is sodium lauryl sulfate or sodium laureth sulfate, better known as SLS. Studies have shown that using products that contain SLS ingredients may cause hormonal imbalances and disturbances that create a hair loss, which may or may not be reversible by the time the problem is noticed.
The SLS can react with the chlorine in water and cause more impact on the body absorbing harmful toxins that are within the water treatment process, leading to even further issues regarding hormonal disturbances and premature hair loss of the scalp.
With your mother aging and her hormones already fluctuating as she enters the latter portion of her adulthood she may experience greater symptoms than you or younger people. You also want to avoid parabens, since they pretty much do the same thing, but I've found it very hard to find a good shampoo that doesn't have either. What I will list below doesn't have either harmful toxin though so if you do choose to purchase the products then they are about as safe as they come from what I have found.
I recommend switching shampoos to something with less toxins. I found Beauty Without Cruelty a great line that doesn't typically contain SLS. The rosemary, mint, and tea tree shampoo (green bottle) would probably be something you would be interested in. Personally, that kind is my favorite in the BWC brand.
They also have volume plus shampoo, daily benefits, moisture plus, and a lavender smelling one. Their conditioner is pretty good, too, but I do prefer to use Pomegranate Sunflower conditioner by Nature's Beauty or Aussie's three minute miracle.
I made the switch about two years ago now and have been very glad to see the overall improvement of my hair health. It's more manageable, shinier, and a lot softer. My thin hair has stopped thinning so much and I've been fairly pleased with it, overall.
I purchase the products on VitaCost for cheaper prices. The shipping is like $4.99 for any amount you purchase.
Beauty Without Cruelty Rosemary Mint and Tea Tree Shampoo:
http://www.vitacost.com/Beauty-Without-Cruelty-Rosemary-Mint-and-Tea-Tree-Shampoo
Beauty Without Cruelty Organic Aromatherapy Volume Plus Shampoo:
http://www.vitacost.com/Beauty-Without-Cruelty-Organic-Aromatherapy-Volume-Plus-Shampoo
Beauty Without Cruelty Daily Benefits Shampoo:
http://www.vitacost.com/Beauty-Without-Cruelty-Daily-Benefits-Shampoo-16-fl-oz
Beauty Without Cruelty Organic Aromatherapy Moisture Plus Shampoo:
http://www.vitacost.com/Beauty-Without-Cruelty-Organic-Aromatherapy-Moisture-Plus-Shampoo
Beauty Without Cruelty Lavender Highland Shampoo:
http://www.vitacost.com/Beauty-Without-Cruelty-Lavender-Highland-Shampoo-16-fl-oz
Nature's Gate Pomegranate Sunflower Conditioner:
http://www.vitacost.com/Natures-Gate-Pomegranate-Sunflower-Conditioner
3 Minute Miracle Deeeeep Conditioner by Aussie:
http://www.aussie.com/en_US/moist-3-minute-miracle-deeeeep-conditioner
The more SLS you use on your body, the more you may end up noticing hormonal imbalances and hair loss, usually on your head, unfortunately. So, sometimes even body wash and soap can contribute to the problem since some of the ingredients are absorbed by the body. I would consider making the change to something more natural. I use a tea tree body wash by Desert Essence and have great results on getting clean but leaving my skin to become balanced naturally.
This is what it is:
Desert Essence Castile Liquid Soap with Organic Tea Tree Oil:
http://www.vitacost.com/Desert-Essence-Castile-Liquid-Soap-with-Organic-Tea-Tree-Oil
And I put it in a little container and squirt a little out on my pouf during my usual daily shower. I also like one by Giovanni that smells like really delicious sweets. It is:
Giovanni Cleanse Body Wash Hazelnut Vanilla:
http://www.vitacost.com/Giovanni-Cleanse-Body-Wash-Hazelnut-Vanilla
And, of course, I do agree with the user below who suggested your mother take a daily vitamin. You should too, though, for overall optimal health. I could suggest brands as well but I'll leave that up to you so I don't bombard you with so many products at once ;)
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