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Chemist, musician, artist, programmer, coach, husband, dad, uncle, etc.
So yeah.
Advice-wise? There are no stupid questions, just stupid people.
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ok so im 16 and just got my permit..every driving lesson ends in a headache because my mom would get crazy..telling me to do 5 different things..like i pulled into the parking lot of a park and shes like:
"stop right here...put the car in park..then she would see i was blockin a car so she would be like " pull over here..park over there.." it drove me nuts! i understand when she says to stay over more on the road...instructional things for me to learn..but when she spazzes out it gets really nervouss and upset..is there anything i can do? dont say only drive with my dad because i mostly am with my mom..my dad works nights so he sleeps all day...so i only drive with him sometimes...
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Ah, the joys of learning to drive. Parents do have the habit of getting really uptight and intense when you're driving - they get sooo nervous that they tend to forget that you're likely nervous, too.
At the least, you should try to sit down with your mom and remind her that when you're out there driving, you're already nervous and trying hard to do your best. Indicate, in a calm and neutral manner, that her behaviour is adding to the stress you feel when behind the wheel and while you know she means well, it is making it harder for you to concentrate on your driving.
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I just bought a sage plant for cooking. The problem is I know nothing about gardening. How do I pot my new sage plant? I have searched online and had little luck.
Also does anyone have any tips, or know of some good sites? If I can keep my plant alive, I would like to buy other herbs. Any tips on herb gardens? (link)
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Honestly, I just slap my sage right in the ground. It doesn't spread as horribly as other mint family plants and it fairly hearty. If I recall, sage likes it a little on the drier side and likes sun - so don't put it in the shade.
If you want other herbs - be very careful with spearmint, peppermint, pineapple mint, etc... they are very aggressive plants and spread like mad. Keep them in large flower boxes or in a distant part of a yard that you don't care about... the stuff grows like MAD!
I have tarragon and some parsely growing as well. Very low maintenance plants.
I had some thyme, but it all died. It was very tasty, though. I might get some more sometime soon. Lemon thyme is pretty and tasty.
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why do parents always say "your not in love its just puppy love" how the hell do they know i mean they arent you and all that and just because they didnt find love and all that at the age of 15 and 16 doesnt mean that others cant sometimes people do find love right? that just gets on my nerves so much when my mom does that (link)
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The reason they tell you that is because, believe it or not, your parents were 15/16 at one time, and they know from experience that most relationships at that age don't last, mostly because there's still an awful lot to learn about love and life at that point. Yeah, it gets annoying to hear it, but the intent isn't mean - they just don't want you to get too carried away in it, because they likely do remember what it was like.
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if i ride my bike for around 10-15 minutes each day.. how much wieght will i lose in a week and will it help me flatten my stomach a bit ? (link)
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no one can answer this for you - it depends on how vigorously you ride your bike, what your metabolic rate is, and what your diet consists of. Admittedly, if you're only goin to ride for 10 to 15 minutes, you're not going to lose much weight in a week.
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I have 2 kids no husband. I have made alot of mistakes in the past escpecially being premiscuous. I have compltly turned my life around now. Is it too late for or will God forgive me and except me into Heaven. Please someone who belives in God or is a Pastor or something help me. (link)
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It is not up to any person to tell you if God forgives you. In fact, I think it is pretty well documented that one of God's big things is that whole forgiveness to whose who seek it.
You say you've turned your life around - do you believe that? It seems to me that you still question it - do you feel you should have done something different to seek forgiveness? Do you feel you havne't done enough? Or are you at peace with your decisions and feel that you can reconcile what's happened and move forward from here?
My thought would be that you have 2 kids, you're actively seeking reconcilliation, and you feel that you're now on the right course in life... What more could any God ask of you?
I mean, I don't like to toss around the whole "sin" word because I feel it overused... we live our lives, and we're given the ability to make our own decisions, including screwing up. If we screw up and learn from it, then we've got something... if we screw up and continue to do so, we've learned nothing, and we've got very little.
You've got something.
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People say opposites attract, do people who are alot alike attract just as well? (link)
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Generally, you'll find that people who get together and stay a strong couple will have more in common with each other than they will have differences. Common intersts are what we build our friendships upon, and any romantic relationship worth a damn is build on a strong friendship. Opposites only attract in magnetism, electricity, and velcro.
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I recently had a baby 8 months ago. I just stopped breastfeeding her 2 months ago and I still have not gotten my period. I have been getting real bad painful cramps like I would be getting my period soon but nothing comes. Sometimes my cramps hurt so bad I have to run to the restroom and have real bad diarea. Is there something wrong with me?? (link)
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If you haven't been back to see your OB/GYN yet... why haven't you gone to see your OB/GYN? Are you still lactating? If so, that might have something to do with the lack of mentrual cycle. As for the bowel movements, that doesn't seem like a gynecological issue - perhaps your intentines are all screwed up from the pregnancy? No matter what, see a doctor. There are quite a few things that can occur, usually caused by pregnancy.
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I was lighting a candle when I misjudged the distance from my arm to the candle. Hot wax spilled all over my pants. Does wax come out of pants? I love these pants, I hate the big wax blob on them. help me out? if you can? (link)
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I beleive the old wisdom was to take a brown grocery bag and place it over the wax on the pants... then using gentle head form an iron, rub the bag against the fabric - the heavy paper fibers will wick the melted wax out of the pants - good as new. Some waxes will also come out in the wash (depends on the molecular weight of the pararffin chain... yeah, don't ask) - if the ironing doesn't work for you, you can try hand-washing the pants in hot water, and use a gentle scrubbing with a soft-bristle brush to get the wax out.
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How do you pronounce the name of the song D'yer Mak'er by led zeppelin? (link)
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it is a pun - Jamaica
words that Americans end in an "a" or "ah" sound Brits will often end in an "er" sound... thus, "Jamaicker"
It is also a double-pun, meaning "did you make her?" I'll leave it to you to understand what they are referring to.
I will admit that I had no clue how to say the title of that song for years until I heard an interview with Robert Plant a about 2 years ago or so.
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ok if i have unprotected sex(stupid and dumb i know)...but the guy cums in my mouth and not in me....can i still have gotten pregnant?? i need serious SERIOUS help! (link)
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If there was vaginal penetration, regardless of where his final orgasm occurred, you could get pregnant. Sperm is "leaked" during the act of sex by the guy well before he orgasms.
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Non-conformist? Do you believe that Jesus Christ is God's only Son who died for us on the cross, was raised on the first day and was blameless and pure in all His ways?
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Do you know nothing about Catholicism?
Either way, this isn't relative to anything, and I do not expect you to understand how and what I believe, as I feel that matters of faith are personal.
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so if i'm fooling around with a girl in my hot tub and we're NOT having sex, but like she gets me off with her hand or orally, can she get pregnant from the sperm floating around in the water? the jets are pretty powerful and could possibly float it into her. how likely is it and *sigh* do i HAVE to wear a condom? thanks.. (link)
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Given the average temperature of a hot tub, I would give the odds of her getting pregnant via the water to be really damned low.
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I think you're really cool. I like your advice. But, I'm wondering, are you a Christian? Or do you take part in any sort of religious worship? :) Just wondering. You seem like a nice enough guy... (link)
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I define myself as a spiritual non-conformist liberal catholic Catholic. Take that as you will and/or read some Joseph Campbell.
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Hi. Your super cool. Could you answer my question found here:
http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=325201
it would be much appreciated :) (link)
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Ok, I answered. Tips are greatly appreciated, and babysitting is accepted as payment... :P
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I recently started dating a guy with a very very close family. I am 22, he is 24, and still living with his parents while he saves up to buy a house. The problem is that I'm starting to see signs of his parents making too many decisions for his life.
First of all, he is christian, and quite religious. Me and him have made the decision to wait to have sex, at least for now. I think this is a personal decision that is between me and him.
He stays at my house sometimes, and has already slept in the same bed at me while staying at my mothers house, at my house, and at my sisters house. There is not a problem with this because we are both adults, and are very capable of making out own decisions.
But, recently he told me that he doesn't think he should stay at my house anymore because his parents are already getting suspicious. He has already told him that we're not having sex, but, apparently, they don't believe him, and are trying to stop anything from happening.
Another thing is that I'm planning a trip to Florida, and he really wants to go. He is allowed two weeks vacation from work, and would only need one week. The problem is that he works for his father. I would not see a problem if his father told him "I don't think I can give you the time off, because I need your help here" But, instead, he said "I don't think you should go because you need to save your money"
This guy is 24 and is capable of making his own decisions on where he sleeps at night and what he spends his own money on.
I'm wondering how I could make this clear to him, that it bothers me, without making it uncomfortable. I do not want to make things uncomfortable for me and his parents, him and his paretns, or me and him. Any advice would be much appreciated. (link)
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ok, yeah... ouch... he's 24... it is well past the time to be cutting himself loose and live his own life.
Admittedly, being not very intimate with the actual situation, I can only run on things I've seen happen with others - and that has been everything from the adult child continuing to submit to every whim of their parents to the person pulling a 180 and totally alientating their parents, causing large-scale family drama. Obviously, neither of those extremes are desirable.
I mean, you're in a relationship with him, so only you know how and what you're able to discuss with him... but I would hope that, even though this is a touchy subject, you are able to point out your observations and push back. I mean, it is your relationship and HIS relationship... not his parents'... you're allowed to be "selfish" in this regard - you are trying to deepen your bond with him it would seem, and I do not blame you for being uncomfortable. Speak out and make your position clear.
He's got to live his own life, and he's got to make his own decisions, especially regarding your relationship.
You've got the insight on him, you've got the read, so I can't give you anything more specific other than to say that I feel you really need to push back... maybe not hard at first, but you need to make your position known and understood by him.
Good luck.
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okay, im in love with the guitar.. i just learned to play it and im like obsessed with it! anyway do you guys know any places that i can get it for cheap? like.. 80 or under? (link)
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odds are that for around $80, you're going to be buying something that is either a piece of shit, or something that is really old and needs a bit of work - just keep that in mind as you start looking. I would recommend looking at yard/garage sales, pawn shops, and things like eBay. Local music instrument stores might carry used instruments, so check them as well.
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Ok. Just yesterday I got my driving permit, and I'm a little nervous about driving on the bigger roads. Afraid I'm going to forget to look for signs, miss turns, etc. Anyone got any ways I can just chill and do everything I've learned without /over/doing it? Or maybe I should just start small for awhile, drive around in college lots or my own neighbourhood?
~fellow Advicenator (link)
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don't chill - be a bit nervous and use that as a way to keep you aware. There's nothing wrong with that at all. I mean, you don't want to be stupidly nervous, but be aware - if you're worried about missing signs, turns, etc... then hopefully you'd be more mindful of signs, turns, other drivers, etc. And that, my friend, is a good thing.
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if a guy is 18...and im 15...doesnt that mean im "underage" for him or something like that? how does all that work? how old do i have to be until im not "underage"? and how am i "underage"? please just tell me how all this works....thanx :o) (link)
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the laws that govern statutory rape and such situations vary from state to state.. basically, non-sexual conduct is perfectly legal between a minor and a legal adult. It is only an issue when sex comes into play. There are legal limits set that govern at what age consent can be given and who it can be given to. This age of consent and how it works varies from state to state within the US, and from nation to nation around the world. There is no one standard to use.
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Hi.
There's a guy I've liked since I was 13 and he's single now. I want to know how to tell if a guy likes you back... I just don't know. I've thought about telling him, but I would die if he didn't feel the same way. He's a good friend of mine. He's graduating soon, also.
I think he may like me, but when he's single, he flirts a lot. He's told me that he thinks I'm the prettiest girl he knows. He gives me a hug everyday. He seems to genuinely care. What are some signs he likes me as much as I like him? It's been driving me crazy for years. (link)
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Other than flat-out asking him, all you can do is build a friendship with him... I mean, that is what all good relationships are anyway... you can't have a relationship without friendship as the base. I mean, if you get along, you hang out, and he flirts, all you can do is either worry yourself to death over him or just see what happens.
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Is taking your shoes of during a wedding okay? Me and my boyfriend were talking and we are going to his Aunts wedding tomarrow and hes like im taking my shoes off during the respection (ya know to dance and stuff) but is it okay? Past weddings as a kid i remember people going around in panty hoes and socks... Just wondering..
Thanks--
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I've seen the bride go shoeless at the reception... usually that isn't a big deal - receptions are supposed to be the fun, so why not?
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