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Well i used to like this guy and lets say that we 'dated'...then he started going out with my best friend...they hurt me really bad and now they arent together anymore..it happened over a game of spin the bottle...the guy was really sad when they broke up and he didnt talk to a lot of people about it.. although it wanted them to break up i didnt want it to be like this..He talks to me about it and my 'best friend' talks to me about it too... no matter how much i try my best friend(female) wont take him back...her ex(my old crush/'boyfriend') was really sad, he even cired.. the girl cried too but for totally different reasons.. i know this is long and i am sorry but that wasnt even the end..What should i do?? they both really trust me now that this has happened..I dont wanna be mean and drop them both in the dirt but i dont wanna help them because i feel they will get back together...so what should i do??
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This is just my opinion, but if I were you, I would help them get back together or at least get them to stop thinking about eachother only because I don't want to see them in pain anymore. Or if I just broke up with my girlfriend and someone like you helped us get back together, I would never ever be able to stop thanking you for the rest of my life literally. But this is completely your decision. I say your friends are too broken up to try and fix things by themselves and they need support.I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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Recently, I've started liking this guy and he's really nice and sweet, but we rarely talk. Coming up next week is a 3 week holiday and it kills me that we're not going to talk or see each other for 3 weeks. Should I start a conversation and meet him in the holidays or should I just wait 3 weeks? Keeping in mind I'm really shy and won't talk to him unless its really important. (link)
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TALK TO HIM! YOU HAVE TO BREAK OUT OF YOUR SHY SHELL! Start that conversation and meet him over the holidays. Communication is the most important part of any relationship and everybody knows this. You better grab him before some other girl does.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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I've been going out with my bofriend for 1month now and he lives 2.7 miles away from me and when he comes down to see me him and my best friend always flirts and when I ask them something,they completely ignore me:-( then after my boyfriend goes home they text eachother:-( help? Please:-( it gets me down so much:'( (link)
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This is just my opinion, but he should not be your boyfriend anymore. Hopefully you have confronted them about this situation and let them know how you feel. But you need to be with a guy who gives you the attention that you deserve, and trust me, you deserve the very best. When your boyfriend flirts with another woman, you know it's a serious problem when he ignores you for another woman. If I were you, I would leave him and look for someone else who loves me and wants to be with nobody else but me and who only wants to talk to me and me alone.
I hope your heart finds the answer.
~Andrew~
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Today my symptoms were really bad stomach pain like a sicky feeling.. I feel like my throat burns, it's sore when i breathe in or cough but not very.. Some chest pain.. For some reason i havent been able to pass gas for a long time, from both ends... I just feel so tired and down.. It's affepcting my mood a lot, my mom keeps saying it's all from the anxiety and all in ur head, i mean could it be?? And no i havent been through anything bad, i mean normal stuff but nothing really bad.. I just keep worrying all the time, what if there's something serious :( (link)
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Recommend that you go back to the doctor and have them look at all the problem areas. I also recommend that you should try using the WebMD.com symptom checker. It just might help you figure out what's going on with your body. Also, you should try to relax a little bit more. Your body can't begin to heal itself if you're in a constant state of stress. So go to the doctor and let them know what is going on. I'm not a proffesional doctor, but if all your symptoms are constant every day, then you should probably go to the emergency room. Have they doctors examine you thoroughly.
Hope this helps!
~Andrew~
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I'm kinda at the end of my rope with my boyfriend. We live together, and he started a new job about 6 months ago that has him stressed out rather often.
I love him, and I want to enjoy our time together, but I just can't. He picks his nose and snorts, wipes his nose on his hands, scratches his crotch, burps, chews his nails, forget to brush his teeth... ectra...
It used to be that if I wanted to have a meal with him without this behavoir, I could at least drag him out of the house, but now that doesn't work either. He's nearly as bad in public as he is at home.
I'm sure he is feeling ignored and neglected, but I just can't take someone seriously when they are acting this way. I feel so disrespected by all this and find him so unattractive. I wish he'd just reach for a damn Kleenex or go to the bathroom and do some of this shit in private. I just want to feel like I'm living with an adult who values and respects my presence. He says lovely things all the time, but when he says while behaving this way it just adds insult to injury.
I'm not sure how to bring this up tho without it turning into a "Hey you do gross things too!" 'cause I'm sure I do things that piss him off, but I need him to understand this is reaching deal-breaking proportions for me. (link)
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You need to talk to him. He won't change his ways unless you let him know you have a problem with them.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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I am still in love with my wife but she is with another man while we are still married what should I do I dont want to divorce her but I dont know what to do (link)
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I know I'm a bit young but here's what I would do:
I would sit down and talk with my wife and let her know how I am feeling. I would also listen to how she feels about our marriage. If she was sorry for doing what she did, then I would be willing to work things out to save our marriage. But if she was truly happy with another guy, then I would let her go. I would move on with my life because I know when one door closes another one opens. if she wants to leave, let her leave. If she wants to stay, let her stay. But that's only if you want her to stay.
I hope you find your answer.
~Andrew~
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Hello everyone thanks for taking the time to read this!Well right now i like this guy that is 19 and graduated high school i am 17. He was the shy kid in the back wall all time.He never talked unless he was spoken to and always seemed depressed. i talked to my guy friend in that class most of the time and that friend sat next to the guy i liked obviously my guy friend didn't know i liked him but it was because at that time i wasn't sure if i even liked him. he was way too quiet and i almost gave up on him until he brought his skateboard in the class and my guy friend asked him to show him some tricks and well i commented that he was good of course he answered with thanks but even that made him shy. well eventually we talked more.He was less shy and we got to know each other but one day he asked for my number well i did and from there we text we talked about our personal experiences with life. He asks me for advice about things like opinions and i guess i always helped him boost his confidence to even make more friends.He felt comfortable talking to me. We even hanged at a skate park once one of my friends came along and he said he didn't want my friend to get the wrong idea about him and me going out and well that sucked its hard to tell if hes like a friend or more were even hanging again... (link)
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I think you should let him know what you're looking for, whether it be a friendship or a relationship. LET HIM KNOW! Because if he's shy, he's not going to tell you how he feels about going out, so you just need to give him a little nudge and meet him halfway there. And talk to him PERSONALLY. Don't take the coward's way out and send your friends over to talk to him because that's how information gets screwed up, and besides, it means alot more coming from you. The both of you sound like you would make a great couple.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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I have been going out with this boy for 1months now,but I still love my ex boyfriend,we were together for 6months but I found out I was being used cause he didn't like being lonely,he broke up with me about 4times in them 6months saying he didn't love me and that but I was stupid enough to go back to him,cause I loved him,now I'm going out with a new guy,he was my ex's best friend:-/ I'm not going out with him for spite or anything like that,but I do love my new boyfriend he treats me better but I still love my ex:-( he is always flirting with a girl now she's 4 years younger than him and 2years younger than me and she's always telling me that she loves him so much,what should I do:-( I love my new boyfriend so much but I still love my ex:-( help! (link)
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I think you should forget about your ex. You have a new boyfriend that really cares about you. Let the past stay in the past.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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How can I dress the way I like without driving people away or becoming an outcast? Not to mention my family too. They are very religious people -not that it's bad- and don't like some of the stuff I like. I would never change them or try to change them in any way... But they can't really change me either. Should I just feign that I like stuff that I don't like? PS. It's not that I'm homo OK? I just like the color black a bit and like goth and punk like things. (link)
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You dress how you want to dress. If people don't like it, so what. At least you are being an individual. Nobody can tell you how to dress. And I'm pretty sure the way you dress doesn't tamper with your faith or religion. God made us all unique and this just so happens to be your uniqueness. My parents always tell me to be a leader and not a follower. You wear what you want to wear and you lead.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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I dont feel happy anymore, i feel lonley.
Ever since my boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, everything has gone wrong. A girl who i thought was my best friend, lets call her "B", got jealous of me and my ex because she introduced us, and was original friends with my ex, so she told him that i cheated on him, which i didnt and he knowes that but he dosent want to be mine agian, saying he wants to be " friends with benifits" because he dosent want to completly lose me... i look at B's facebook satus it says " in a realtionship", "loving life".... this makes me break down into tears, i have lots of friends but i still feel lonley, and if i am happy then i feel that i might die, and that today maybe my last. i just want too be happy. (link)
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I think you don't need these two people in your life anymore. Friends with benefits is just silly because it causes nothing but trouble. Talk to your other friends or make some new ones. And if her facebook makes you cry, don't look at it. You are making your life miserable by reading about hers. The best way to be happy again is to just clean yourself up and continue with your life without those two. Do something you like to do. Go to the movies or take a pottery class. Do something to take your mind of the past. Look for a new boyfriend that will love you wholeheartedly. Letting these two people cause drama and confusion in your life will not make you happy.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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so this guy i like was sitting in the bleachers when they starts flipping out and trying so hard 2 embarrass me at least 7 of my friend gave tried to get him to date me and every time he said eww no. heres the confusing parti missed school sometime last week and my friend maddie told me he was looking for me in the bleachers what else ive observed us that he glances at me a couple times. i dont kno if his feelings are chaging or what. another thing he does is me n like 5 people at lunch we'll say hi and he ignores us so inseriously dont understand him what so ever. Anyone have ideas for what i should do? i speak english and im in 7th grade plz help theres only 2 day of school left and i wont c him untik next year! (link)
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Tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels about you. Both of you need to talk to eachother one on one with no friends around. This is between you and him.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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Okay, so i have a boyfriend of almost a month now. He's really cute & nice but he's a year younger than me and he can be immature sometimes and it kind of bugs me. We're honestly complete opposites, but somehow i've fallen for him. Except the thing is, he's a sucky boyfriend. He never sends me cute paragraphs, or just tells me what he likes about me. Sometimes I feel like he's using me for my body, but then again he might not be. And when we're on facebook or texting he never sends me smiley faces or anything. He's just boring over messaging. But then there's times once in a while where he can be really cute and sweet. I've been thinking about breaking up with him because my feelings weren't that strong with him but the last time we hung out I completely fell in love with him somehow and i'm stuck now. And i recently met this other boy, who had a girlfriend of 10 monthes and just broke up with her yesterday. He's a complete sweetheart in real life and over texting and he just seems perfect. But i know him and he's kind of a player.. plus i think my bestfriend likes him now. But he's still making an effort to talk to me and flirt with me so I know he's interested. He told me if i think my boyfriend treats me like shit then I shouldn't put up with it. He's so sweet, but i know he's probably taking advantage of me. But he has a point with the whole boyfriend thing. I don't know what to do. (link)
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I think you should tell your bf how you feel. Fix the relationship you're in now before you try to jump ship. Tell your bf you want him to be more romantic. I don't think you should go out with the other guy because if you think he is a player, he is no good. If you talk to your bf and he still isn't being attentive to your feelings, then you should look for someone else. I hope your heart finds what it's looking for.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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So my ex bf broke up with me last year and we never talk anymore...it was a long distance relationship and i had really strong feelings for him but now 1 of my friends go ahold of the password and told him i was cheatng on him (when i wasnt) so he just took me off when i asked him why he said i had a weird look on life and he was sorry for me but we could still be friends. Now when go back to add him he just takes me off :( also is it illegal fr a 14 yr girl to date an almost 20 yr guy? its for my friends sister and shes dating him and shes very worried for her sister. (link)
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Yes! IT IS VERY ILLEGAL FOR A 20 YEAR OLD TO DATE A 14 YEAR OLD!! She should not be dating an adult! I encourage you to do a little bit of research on this law.
~Andrew~
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Im 16 and I've been going out with my bf for over a month and I really like him and he really likes me but the only problem is he likes to have sex and I don't. He wants me to sneak out with him a lot to do it and I don't want to. A couple of days ago this guy told me he wanted to date me and he is sweet and would never push me to do things like my bf does now. But the problem with him is we are so different. He's more of the preppy kind of guy and I'm more of the laid back person. I know if I leave my bf now I'll miss him like crazy because he's perfect except for the fact he pushes me to do bad things. The new guy is a good boy but idk if I should dump my bf for him or not? (link)
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You need to be with a guy who is going to respect you and you're body. If your bf is pushing you to have sex all the time, that's a red flag and you need to leave him. You should be with somebody who wants to build an intimate and emotional connection with you first. The preppy guy just might be what you need. Even though you guys are real different, remember that opposites attract.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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Hi everyone, im a 21 year old year old female who is suffering from symptoms that are really bothering me.. It started about a month ago where out of no where i felt like i couldnt breathe properly and it just got worse since then.. My symptoms are: tightness in neck and throat, fast heart beats even when lying down in bed, breathing difficulties, sweaty palms, sore throat when i breathe in, sometimes i get chest pains, tired most of the time, stomach pain, nausea, diarhhea, panic, loss of appetite, feeling sad/ scared.. I've been to the doctor and had an ecg done it came out fine, checked out my stomach and the doctor said the pain could be from not eating right.. My mom suffered from anxiety, so i dont know if i could be suffering from the same thing.. I dont want to do anything anymore and i hate what is happening to me it's bringing me down a lot.. Please help (link)
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I'm not a proffesional doctor or anything, but could it be that these symptoms are being caused by emotional distress? Have you experienced something that just really affected you emotionally? I hope you get better soon and you find the solution.
~Andrew~
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I'm live in Canada. So a while ago I asked a question on this site about how to tell a guy how i feel about him and everything.. Someone said to message him on facebook to tell him that i like him and how I feel about him and everything.. But I really confused on what to say! Any ideas? (link)
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Just talk to him like you would to one of your friends. It's ok to flirt a little bit, but keep it comfortable and clean. Just be yourself. You'll do great.
Goood Luck!
~Andrew~
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So there is this guy I like but I'm not sure if he likes me. He said hi to me once but other than that its been mostly the both of us not trying to get caught starring at each other. He looks at me and then turns away very quickly. He tries to avoid me looking at me but I know he sees me looking at him I mean wouldnt you notice someone looking at you? And lately we seem to be running into each other more than we use to or somehow hes near by where I can see him. And I can be with a group of people and he will talk to everyone but me. I'm trying to get his attention but it doesnt seem to work what do i do? Does he like me or not? (link)
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You should tell him how you feel. If you like someone let them know. Don't hide it. He might even have a crush on you too. Tell him how you feel.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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Ok so I broke up with this guy, lets call him brendan. So I broke up with brendan a couple months ago because I got pressured by this other guy... =/ Brendan is so sweet and funny and nice and cute and totally the perfect package. (Note: I wont use the guy's real names) Anyways, this guy uhm call him Ryan pressured me to break up with brendan and then he asked me out and I said yes =( I broke up with Ryan after realizing what a jerk he is (only lasted a week) Its been 3 months since I broke up with Ryan. Yesterday, we went to Canadas Wonderland for a band trip. Brendan is in band but Ryan isnt. I've always liked brendan and we've come to be good friends. I flirt with him occasionally, he flirts back =) After playing 3 songs at this band thing we got to go on all the rides at 1pm and had to meet back at 6pm. Me and my friend decided to ask Brendan and one of his friends that she likes to be in our group. They said sure and so we ate lunch then went back to the bus to get our band instruments. After we played our instruments, we went to the bus to drop off our instruments and then get clothes to change in to. We went to the bath rooms to get changed and we told Brendan and his friend to meet us outside after. They both ditched... =( I was SO pissed off!!! After at 6, I saw him and went over to him and said "Your such a ditcher!" On the bus he walked by and smiled and I said, "I've never seen more of an asshole to ditch someone" His friend didnt feel well so me and Sydney had to switch spots and surprise surprise, it was behind brendan... He turned around and said "Im sorry for ditching, why was it so important to you that I was there anyways?" and I said "if you knew then you would understand" Brendan:"You like me dont you" Me:"how did you know" Brendan:"its obvious" Then I wore his hat for the rest of the 3 hour drive back home. He asked Sydney for a pen then started writing hand notes to me saying, "I dont know if I can do this again, if you liked me then you shouldnt have broken up with me in the first place" ANd I said, "I know, Im so freaking stupid. I understand..." and then we got home and he leans over to me and whispers into my ear "What I miss the most is your hugs" and I almost started crying. TOday, his friend comes over to me and he says " DO you like brendan?" me:" what makes you think that?" him:"he told me everything, he likes you too" and yeahh. ADVICE? All of this is overwelming. My other friend Emily told Brendan the real reason I broke up with him. So um opinions? I dont know what to do! HELP!! (link)
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I think you and brendan should go out again. But this time DO NOT BREAK UP WITH HIM! You should have realized how good you had it. Don't let somebody pressure you out of a good relationship. Ryan should have proved to you that he was a good guy before you went out with him.
But I hope you and Brendan get back together. Don't even think about any other guy but him.
Good Luck!
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okay so theres this guy jared tht i like and my friends do watever possible to embarrass me in front of him at the start of the school year this kid nic screwed me over and told him that i like him now he glances at me and looks for me in the morning for when we have to sit at the bleachers my friends say his feelings are changing or hes parinoid of me...what should i do to be his friend and find out answers?
btw im a female and im 13 going into 8th grade (link)
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You need to approach him and tell him how you feel. Information gets so screwed up between people who like eachother becaused the information isn't coming directly from them. What I'm saying is that you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Don't just admire him from afar.
Good Luck!
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My mom and I do NOT get along. She's very manipulative,mentally abusive and borderline bipolar She fights with me on everything and threatens me all the time and demands money out of me.
I just got out of school last Friday and I graduate on the 9th.
Every day she comes home and screams at me that I haven't started working yet (I've only been home 5 days). She claims Im just "effing around' at home and wasting her money and time (Even though she gets 1k in child support every month until I turn 18) and no matter how many times I tell her I've filled out over 40 applications already she never believes me and continues to call me an idiot and worthless. She refuses to pay for anything and never saved up any money for me at all yet she wants to take money away from me (she says she wants half of every paycheck when I get a job on top of the child support she already gets). I've always taken care of myself and I've done really good in school. I'm an Honors student with college level certifications and the presidential volunteer award before I've even graduated from HS.
Anyways. Today out of the blue an idea came into my head on how to get out of here.
I have an older brother (about 32) who lives in a fairly large city with a house right by the beach. He's having some trouble paying for things because his roommate totaled both his cars and she's unemployed with only minor social security/disability coming through. My brother is the only one working. She has a 10 year old son she loves dearly but she can't see him because she doesn't have a car to get to him to and from school so she lost custody of him.
I'm thinking if I start looking at jobs where they are now I could most likely find one there much easier than finding one here (I live in a small town) and if they let me take one of the rooms or half even of one of the rooms I could help them out with the bills and watch her son and even help put in money for a car for all of us to use and my brother could teach me to drive it. I can cook and clean as well so it would take a lot of responsibility off their shoulders and they could just relax. I'd be in a much better home and in a town with much more possibilities.
I would just need to find a way to get past my mom on it as I'm sure my brother (we get along very well) and his roommate would love any help they can get. I would also be closer to my dad so if I ever needed help from him or vice versa it would only be a 30min drive away vs the 4 hour drive I have right now living where I am.
I just need some ideas on how to get there without my mom trying to pull something insane over my head to trap me into staying with her.
Thank you so much for any advice. :) (link)
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That's a great Idea!
I say go for it. But before you leave you should try and patch things up with your mom first. And since I'm guessing you're not 18 yet, she might make you stay with her. But when you turn 18, you should move in with your brother and look for colleges in his area.
As to the 1 car 3 people idea, it is kind of risky because you all have different scedules. So think about that one a little bit more. And if she already totaled two cares, would you let her drive the third car that ALL OF YOU needs?
You sound like an excellent daughter, sister, and student.
Good Luck!
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