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Boy trouble
Im 16 and I've been going out with my bf for over a month and I really like him and he really likes me but the only problem is he likes to have sex and I don't. He wants me to sneak out with him a lot to do it and I don't want to. A couple of days ago this guy told me he wanted to date me and he is sweet and would never push me to do things like my bf does now. But the problem with him is we are so different. He's more of the preppy kind of guy and I'm more of the laid back person. I know if I leave my bf now I'll miss him like crazy because he's perfect except for the fact he pushes me to do bad things. The new guy is a good boy but idk if I should dump my bf for him or not?
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I am in the same sutuation as you! To be honest don't dump your boyfirend if you love him so much! And if he loves you,he should understand that you don't want to have sex,my boyfriend is exactly the same,I'm 14 and he's 17 and he's always asking for sex and I don't want to,i don't know how to tell my byfriend because I'm scared of him he pushed me on the floor and everything I need to tell my boyfriend but I can't,its hard to do it but one day we have to do some things that we dont want to do,but we still have to do it:-)
Hope I have helped:-)
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Ok let me say the part that I hated hearing when I was your age first. "You are 16 and you will most likely have a lot of different guys in your life before you meet your prince charming." I have to tell you that this is actually true.
The most important advice anyone can give you now is that you should never let anyone especially the man in your life push you into doing anything. If you are afraid you will lose him if you don't have sex when he wants it then that should tell you something. The other guy may surprise you and you should never close a door on taking the chance to do something that could make you happy.
Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you aren't comfortable having sex all the time and that you would like to learn and experience other things with him as well. Again if he doesn't understand that then he doesn't deserve you. Jumping from one relationship to another is part of being a teen and if you and your bf (after you talk to him) break up then give the new guy a chance. Remember you just don't want to get in the same situation all over again.
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You need to be with a guy who is going to respect you and you're body. If your bf is pushing you to have sex all the time, that's a red flag and you need to leave him. You should be with somebody who wants to build an intimate and emotional connection with you first. The preppy guy just might be what you need. Even though you guys are real different, remember that opposites attract.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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I think it's wrong for your bf to push you into doing things that you don't want to do. If your unhappy with him then maybe you should just break up with him and give the other guy a chance to love you but if you think you can't handle losing the guy whom you love then talk to him about the problems you have towards him, and if he still doesnt change then you could just deal with it or find someone who deserves you and won't push you in doing something you don't want.
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