Ok so I broke up with this guy, lets call him brendan. So I broke up with brendan a couple months ago because I got pressured by this other guy... =/ Brendan is so sweet and funny and nice and cute and totally the perfect package. (Note: I wont use the guy's real names) Anyways, this guy uhm call him Ryan pressured me to break up with brendan and then he asked me out and I said yes =( I broke up with Ryan after realizing what a jerk he is (only lasted a week) Its been 3 months since I broke up with Ryan. Yesterday, we went to Canadas Wonderland for a band trip. Brendan is in band but Ryan isnt. I've always liked brendan and we've come to be good friends. I flirt with him occasionally, he flirts back =) After playing 3 songs at this band thing we got to go on all the rides at 1pm and had to meet back at 6pm. Me and my friend decided to ask Brendan and one of his friends that she likes to be in our group. They said sure and so we ate lunch then went back to the bus to get our band instruments. After we played our instruments, we went to the bus to drop off our instruments and then get clothes to change in to. We went to the bath rooms to get changed and we told Brendan and his friend to meet us outside after. They both ditched... =( I was SO pissed off!!! After at 6, I saw him and went over to him and said "Your such a ditcher!" On the bus he walked by and smiled and I said, "I've never seen more of an asshole to ditch someone" His friend didnt feel well so me and Sydney had to switch spots and surprise surprise, it was behind brendan... He turned around and said "Im sorry for ditching, why was it so important to you that I was there anyways?" and I said "if you knew then you would understand" Brendan:"You like me dont you" Me:"how did you know" Brendan:"its obvious" Then I wore his hat for the rest of the 3 hour drive back home. He asked Sydney for a pen then started writing hand notes to me saying, "I dont know if I can do this again, if you liked me then you shouldnt have broken up with me in the first place" ANd I said, "I know, Im so freaking stupid. I understand..." and then we got home and he leans over to me and whispers into my ear "What I miss the most is your hugs" and I almost started crying. TOday, his friend comes over to me and he says " DO you like brendan?" me:" what makes you think that?" him:"he told me everything, he likes you too" and yeahh. ADVICE? All of this is overwelming. My other friend Emily told Brendan the real reason I broke up with him. So um opinions? I dont know what to do! HELP!!
rainbowcherrie answered Thursday June 7 2012, 11:11 am: If Brendan was so 'perfect' then you shouldn't have broken up with him. Either that or you aren't mature enough for a relationship or you wouldn't have allowed yourself to be 'pressured' by this other guy.
If you feel that you would like to give things with Brendan another go, then consider asking him to hang out as friends and see where things go from there. I find it unsurprising that he is hesitant to get back in a relationship with him considering you dumped him for someone else. If he decides that he'd rather not go there again then move on and learn your lesson. Next time perhaps you won't be so fickle. [ rainbowcherrie's advice column | Ask rainbowcherrie A Question ]
innocent_angel answered Wednesday June 6 2012, 10:38 am: If you like this boy, and he obviouslly likes you too you need to really talk to him. Think about why you were swayed into breaking up with him in the first place and then decide is it likely to happen again.
People make mistakes thats a given, and we learn from them, you thought Ryan would be a better match and quickly realised you were wrong and since then its obvious you have managed to rebuild most of the relationship you had with Brendan.
That's good progress!
I think you need to remove all other obstacles in the way, ask Brendan to go and have a meal with you or to go for a walk, not to watch a film as that cuts into the time you have to discuss what you both want to happen.
Explain everything as fully as you can to him, including your present feelings and your obvious guilt for what you did
However, be prepared for him to want to remain as friends, he was hurt by your decision and he may be unsure if he can trust you, he clearly wants to remain friends at the very least, so if that is the outcome of the conversation then accept it and build the trust back up.
alexisgirlie answered Wednesday June 6 2012, 10:00 am: Brendan is a wonderful guy, who is willing to give you a second chance, and I believe you should grab it with both hands. Tell him exactly what happened, and how sorry you are, and also how grateful you are to him for giving you a second chance. Good luck! Hope it works out for both of you :) [ alexisgirlie's advice column | Ask alexisgirlie A Question ]
Drewb13 answered Wednesday June 6 2012, 3:26 am: I think you and brendan should go out again. But this time DO NOT BREAK UP WITH HIM! You should have realized how good you had it. Don't let somebody pressure you out of a good relationship. Ryan should have proved to you that he was a good guy before you went out with him.
But I hope you and Brendan get back together. Don't even think about any other guy but him.
lightoftruth answered Wednesday June 6 2012, 3:07 am: Just apologize about what happened before. You knew what happened was a mistake. If he forgives you then if you want to get back together with him, there shouldn't be any problem. If Brendan's friend wasn't lying, which I doubt he was, then he already likes you too so just go with it.
It'll turn out fine. [ lightoftruth's advice column | Ask lightoftruth A Question ]
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