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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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i run almost everyday for about 30 minutes and by like 10 minutes i get very bored, like i just want to stop. so what can i do to make running more fun? i also bring my ipod but that also doesnt work ..

Maybe you are getting bored with the same songs. Try mixing up some new songs that are upbeat and fun. Also, you could switch places that you run to get a new scenary. Then, you could always do a combo, run, walk, jog, speed-walk intervals. This mixes up the monotony of running only. Another thing that you can do, run with a buddy and that will give you someone to talk to. When you start talking about something and it gets interesting, the time will fly by. Good Luck!!

i did this ab workout and it toned my stomach. but my stomach is pretty big, and it had cellulite on it before but then the workout got rid of most of it. so i was wondering, since it already toned my stomach, should i keep on doing the ab workout and maybe it will finally be flat? ps. my stomach is not flat at all

I would say anything that works for you, and you are willing to continue to do, do it. It won't hurt you, and if you keep at it enough, and with dedication, it will work for you. If all else, do it because you enjoy doing it. Exercising is a good thing and it is very rare to find someone that actually enjoys doing it. Now, if you get bored and need a switch in exercise techiques, you could always try the exercise ball. It is fun and it works your muscles that you didn't even realize you had. Good Luck!!

15/f
ok so im a freshman and we just started picking classes for next year in school. for science this year i took honors biology and im trying to decide if i want to take ap chem or just honors chem next year. im a really good student and i know taking ap would look great for college but on the other hand i dont want to take a class that i cant pass and make my sophomore year way too stressful. i do plan on going to a top college, possibly ivy league. im also one of those people whos not happy unless they have an A in a class haha. so any advice from sophomores currently taking ap chem would be great, or anyone taking it/taken it in the past for that matter!
thank you in advance =)

Ok, here's the deal. I was pretty good in school, when I actually put in the effort. I took chemistry my junior year, and ended up getting a D, and I studied like there was no tomorrow. I even had my boyfriend at the time help me (he was a college student) and I still ended with a bad grade. Chemistry isn't for everyone. If you think that you are going to do good on it, then take it. Yes, ap looks good on transcripts, however if you can't pass the class, it wouldn't do any good either way. I will say if you decide to go ahead with either of the classes, and you get so far down on the grade and can't recover, switch classes. Good Luck!!

where can i get nice but not girly backgrounds for myspace? except whateverlife.com

i want some VINTAGE ones like kinda old fashioned but modern these days if u know what i mean..

please help me i need a new background

Here are some sites where you can find different backgrounds for myspace.

http://www.freecodesource.com/
http://www.pimp-my-profile.com/
http://www.myspacetotal.com/
http://www.myspace-background-codes.com/
http://www.codemylayout.com/
http://www.html-codes.com/
http://www.wonderbackgrounds.com/

I hope you can find at least one background code that will work for you in one of these sites. Good Luck!!!

how do I know if I popped my
cherry or not?
like how can I check???

If you have sexual intercourse, your hymen will break. In some cases, it will not be noticable. Now, if you have had any other form of sexual relations, it will not tear your hymen. Tampons cannot tear your hymen.

Yeah so I haven't been watching Nip/Tuck for the past 3 weeks. I know, I don't deserve to live. But yeah the last one I watched was the Christmas one? Before the long break? Are there any websites I can watch it on? Or anyone someonnnee tell me what has happened?! Please?

You have only missed 2 episodes. So, this is the good news. Last week's (Jan. 15th) episode was titled Rachel Ben Nattan. (This is Matt's new "friend", the burn victim)

She starts having bad dreams and visions of anger and resentment against everyone and asks Sean to remove all the "scrapnel" (pieces of the suicide bomber's body) from her. After she is finished, she still has visions/anger problems. She decides to get her face reconstructed.

Sean is having the same vision/anger problems as Rachel. It is about Christian and Julia and how they did him wrong. These visions act out on his rage against Christian and Julia and gives insight of how he truly feels about the situation.

Sean hires a very inappropriate female to become the new secretary for McNamara/Troy. Christian request that Sean fire her, and Sean pretty much told him tough, because at this point Christian has already made a sexual innuendo to her. So, Christian doesn't resist temptation and sleeps with the secretary repeatedly. It ends with her being fired, and Sean hiring someone else. That person is Gina (the same b*tch that is the mother of Christian's non-biological son).

Julia has been getting sicker and sicker and Christian blames it all on her fear of telling the truth to her girlfriend about her. Noone suspects still that Eden is poisoning her. She has been to all kinds of specialist but noone can figure out what is causing her to be sick. Sometimes, you just want to scream at the television and say "hello, check her d*mn blood already, like they would in real life!!"

Also, it comes out that Dawn's boyfriend is actually gay. He was told that he could attend the gay pride parade, and Dawn got ran over by a lesbian on a bike (I am not trying to offend anyone that is on this post, this is literally one of the lines used on the show). Thus, making it where she has to have another round of plastic surgery. Her and that producer (Hearts and Scalpels) have a big to-do about his behavior at the parade, and they work things out after the admittance to him "coming out".

The show ends by Sean telling Christian and Julia that they need their space and he is going to move out.

Episode from last night (Magda and Jeff) Jeff is a 40 year old man that is married to Magda (brace for it) a 90 something old lady. She is rich and likes to take control over her younger husband. Jeff got a new face, with reconstructed hair on his body. He took Christian into his confidence telling him that he is leaving Magda.

Eden starts flirting with the Aiden of Hearts and Scalpels. They end up having sex in his trailer and caught all on tape. They end up all around a table with the crew of Hearts and Scalpels, with the demands of Aiden seeking rehab, or it's his job. Thus, giving Sean the leading part of the show. A fight breaks out between Aiden and Sean because of it, with Sean saying Aiden shouldn't have been with Eden anyways. Sean got a new talent agent.

Julia and Christian go to the doctor again. Doctor says all test are normal. Julia is scared that it may be HIV and requests that she and Christian both be tested for it.

Christian starts seeing Gina in a new light. He asks her what she wants, with her reply as to she's just lucky and finally happy. Christian has an emotional moment with Gina. With her telling him she knows how to get him to unstress. With him and I quote "no, thanks, I'm not going near that saber-tooth snatch of yours again."

Gina's solution was to have Christian have sex with someone else, that looks like her, while they watched each other. Gina says that this way she can still have the sexual experience with Christian without the risk of transmitting her HIV.

Sean and Julia haev a touching moment, where he is taking care of her while Christian is away. She is seen very sick and scared of having HIV. Christian walks in to seeing Julia being held by Sean and they are both asleep. He accuses them of having an affair. Julia explains how everything really happened.

Magda and Jeff scene. He tells her that he is leaving her, with her telling him that he made him who he is. She pretty much bribes him to stay with her. She said I'm not going to live forever, with his reply, Really?

Talent agent and Sean are having dinner together. She tells him that the show wanted him to a nude scene and he denies, which is why she tells him that she told the show that he is not doing it. He takes her home, and she is blasted and asks Sean to look at her breasts, giving an emotional story about her life. After getting out, what is supposedly her house, she waits until Sean pulls away and walks away from the house.

Madga and Jeff have intercourse in the recovery room. It shows him having a seizure.

Julia calls the office and asks Gina if she's seen Christian, with Gina saying she hasn't seen him. Gina tells Christian that Julia hasn't called. Then, Gina goes to see Julia, and tells her that Christian is seeing someone else, and implies that Christian has HIV. Then, she tells Julia, in front of Christian that she is the one he is having an affair with. Christian's response, she's a dirty whoring liar, and has the gate to hell between her legs. Still, Christian denies it and fires her. Julia believes her. Christian tells her that she lives in denial, giving her proof that the HIV test was negative.

Magda is shown with another man at the office wanting him to have plastic surgery. With the news of Jeff having a grand mal seizure, and will never live a normal life again.

Sean sets his eye on someone else on the show. Talent agent apologizes. Sean tells her that they need to keep the relationship with them professional. Sean flirts with the extra from the set, and shows the talent agent staring furiously at them.

Christian goes to see Gina. She set up a seduce scene for him. He tells her that he has issued a restraining order from her for ever being around him, Julia, their son, the office, and anything else around him. She tells him that he is just like her, and wants to be with her. She says that he loves her, and always will, and she loves him and always will be. He ends up having sex with her, with a condom that she provided. (sound funny? I think she did something to the condom, but we won't know for a while). She ended up going over the side of the balcony. That's where it ends.

I am so sorry that the last one was so haphazardly done. I typed it in detail while watching it. I had recorded it on DVR. So, my suggestion is to either get a DVR (well worth it when it comes to watching Nip/Tuck), or ask me personally about the show. I am happy to provide synopsis of the show, but some things that happen on the show can be a little racey for the main forum. Plus, it's so long.
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response to your feedback response: oh absolutely any time!! I love Nip/Tuck and can't wait to see the next episode, and when it's summer time, it's sad. I have nothing to do on Tuesday nights ;)
I would love to help with this situation in any way I can. Be well!!

Over the weekend I got a random bruise on the back of my upper leg. At first it was so painful it hurt to walk. It stopped hurting but now it looks like its getting bigger. I don't remember ever doing anything to hurt myself either. Does anyone have any idea what it could be?

I can sympathize with you. I will get bruises out of nowhere, or so it seems. The thing was, I am so used to getting bumped, that I don't even think about it anymore. Until, I see a big bruise pop up and then think, hum, where did that come from. Sometimes, you will get bruises and never know how you got it, but usually it came from somewhere, you just can't remember it. Now, bruises tend to get worse before they get better. It is painful, but if you were to apply an ice pack on the bruise, this could help alleviate the pain. Like the other advicenator said, if you start experiencing this more frequently or the bruises get worse without signs of improvement, seek medical attention, just to be on the safe side. Feel better and Good Luck!!

Hey,

You recently answered my question about undereye circles.. Since you mentioned you also have them, I thought this website might also help you. It's full of information about the causes of undereye circles, as well as homemade remedies (including cucumbers):

http://www.ayurvediccure.com/darkcircles.htm

Hope it helps!

Thanks, I'll give it a look. Of course, I feel so old and tired, not sure if I will ever have any improvement, but it is definitely worth the look.

im 17 and hes 18. ive known him since the beginning of august. we liked each other, we knew it; i got back with my ex who i was on a break from. i broke up with him in november. best guy friend's best friend moves in, goes wayy too fast and basically tried to get some from me. luckily i fell for none of it. best guy friend hated it all along. through all that me and him have gotten very close. he admitted he still had feelings for me and wanted to be with me. i said i didnt want a relationship right now bc of everything that ive gone through w/ guys lately and he understood. i said casual dating would be ok but nothing serious. now were basically FWB i guess. we just dont have titles. im thinkin about going out with him, but i just dont know. i still dont want a boyfriend right now, but maybe down the road. the problem is, i dont want to ruin the friendship we have now. i know alot of people have gone through that, and i need some input. dont say talk to him. everyone knows that they can talk and will all say oh we'll still be friends no matter what yet it rarely happens. and honestly i doubt itd happen with us, or at least we def. wouldnt be as close, especially because were not life-long friends or anything. hes a great guy, the kind id love to give a chance and i could picture myself being with, but i dont know if its worth the risk !?

Ok, you have to remember one thing, he is your friend and not some jerk that's going to hurt you on purpose. You are comparing him to the guys that hurt you. If you truly believe that this guy will hurt you (emotionally) or it will ruin your friendship, then you two didn't have that good of a friendship to begin with. If you truly like him, and he likes you, I say go for it. There is nothing worse than doubting yourself because of something others did to you. Go with your heart. Chances are, you will not regret it. Good Luck!!

Hello,
I Have Recently Become Very Close With A Boy - We Kissed Last Weekend And I Think That The Relationship May Go Further,
I Have Told Him I Want To Go Slow - Coz I Have Some Things I Want To Sort Out In My Life First.
I Can See Us Together And Can See He Will Respect Me For Who I Am...The Main Thing I Want To Sort Out Before We Go Into Anything Seriuos Is To Lose Weight - I Am 16 Years Old, 5.ft.7, Weigh About 10.7/11 Stone...Someone Please Help And Tell Me A Safe Quick Way To Lose Weight That Won't Be Gained Back Strght Away, I Alredy Go To The Gym For Two Hours On A Tuesday After School. Its The Only Time I Have Really. School All Day During The Week - Tues Gym - Wed And Thurs work - Fri Sometimes Work Or With Friends, I Don't Really Want To Give Up My Weekends Though.
Has Anyone Got Any Useful Advice For Me!! I Would Really Appreciate It!!
Many Thanks x

I'm not exactly sure what you mean by 10.7/11 stone, however I would like to point something out to you. He is already dating you, so he must like you for who you are. I would also like to point out, that when you are comfortable with yourself, because you are who you are, then he will be comfortable too. Don't worry so much about appearances, it's what is inside that counts. I know that sounds a little cliche, but it's true. If you want a good example, watch Shallow Hal. I know it's just a movie, but it is true. Any guy who is worth having you, will like you no matter what.

Now, for the advice on how to lose weight, I would suggest diet, proper hydration, and exercise.

Diet- high protein, low carb, sugar, and fat intake. Eat fish, chicken breast, veggies, fruits, and whole grains.

Hydration- drink at least 8-8 oz of water a day. You could even put the flavor packs in the water to make it taste better. You could also try the Special K drinks.

Exercise- this will cost around $20, it's a one time fee and it will last forever. Here is the list: hand weights, exercise ball, and a jump rope. You can walk using the hand weights, do this at least 3 times a week, 30 mins each time. Use the exercise ball 3 times a week, it will only take about 30 mins each time (it comes with an exercise routine). The jump rope, you can do for 5 mins, 3 x a week. If you did this routine 3 days a week, you will spend 1 hr and 5 min each day. Not to much of your time, and it can be squeezed in on your free time. Good Luck!!

How do you get rid of undereye circles, or at least reduct the appearance? (preferably using something natural, that I might very well have at home).

I already use concealer to hide the circles, but I would like to know what I can do to try to naturally reduce the appearance of dark circles (besides taking vitamins, getting enough sleep,etc., I know that already).

Another suggestion would be to try cucumbers over your eyes. I am not sure how well it works, but it is said to work miracles. They also use this technique in spa settings. So, it's worth a shot. Two slices of cucumber for your eyes, the rest of the cucumber and ranch (Hidden Valley-of course) for a snack. It also helps hydrate you because a cucumber is mostly made up of water. Happy eatings and Good Luck!! (Btw...if it does work, will ya let me know? I have some circles I need to get rid of too ;))

are there any really early sign of pregnancy?

i mean within the first week?

or maybe the second??

also

are there any signs of stds?

That early in the pregnancy there really aren't any signs to look for.

Now, with STD's they really can't kill you (except for AIDS/HIV (which can lead to AIDS), unless you don't get treated. I would suggest getting to the doctor and having a pap done so you can find any abnormalities.

Also, I hate to sound like the "mother" here, but if you are going to have sex, the best way to prevent pregnancy and STDs is practicing safe sex. There are very creative ways to make the sex just as good with a condom. If you have fears that a condom will break, you could always get on birth control, which is proven to be 99.9% effective. I would never say abstinence, because come'on sex feels way to good to do that. If you are going to have sex, be mature enough to have responsible sex. Good Luck!!

Hi, 15/F. I started my period nearly 2 years ago and I am still irregular. I can go for months without having one but I never have two in the space of a month. Recently I had a period and then about 15 days after I had some bleeding.. not like a normal period tho. It's lasted a week so far And it seems like there is stuff mixed in with the blood because gloopy lumps, sometimes quite big ones, come out too and I don't know what's wrong with me. COuld it be because I've had sex before? Or is this normal?
Help.. I'm really worried that something is wrong. Thanks x

Honestly, it sounds as if you need to go see a doctor. No amount of advice on here can take the place of a doctor with a Ph.D. I would suggest setting up an appointment as soon as possible. There is no reason to risk your health because you are embarassed or scared. If you can not afford to go to the doctor or have insurance, you can contact your local Health Department. Good Luck!!

I'm 15 years old in 9th grade. Last semister my grades were horrible and they don't show signs of improving this semister. I'm not a dumb kid.. I just don't do the work. I want to get into school and do good but i can't. I want to do my homework every night but I always end up procrastinating (don't know how to spell it), and it never ends up getting done. Any tips? Because at this rate i'm going to drop out and I really don't want that to happen.

Thanks.

I understand this one all to well. I was queen of "being sick" so I didn't have to go to school. Well, then when it came time to do the school work, I didn't want to because I hated school. Fast forward a decade, and I am back in school (online college courses) and still have the procrastination problem. So, for me to get over it, I have decided to throw myself 100% into my school work, and it seems to work. Here's what I suggest: when you get home for school, no matter what, make your top priority doing your homework. Do not allow yourself to do anything else at all (except potty breaks) before your work is done. You will find that for the most part, it will take you around 30 mins or less and you will have the rest of the time free to do what you want. So, instead of worrying about getting home to do your homework before bed, this way, you will have it done and the free time after, which will make you worry less. Good Luck!!

....is pissing me off. All. The. Time.

I do not know what to do about my mom. Generally speaking, she can never be happy with me or anyone else; picking and picking at sore scars is what she does best (she's weak, what can I say).

To be more specific, we fight all the time, and it sounds outlandish, but it's almost never my fault. She fights with anyone and everyone. Simple as that.
Today she called FOUR times to yell at me about the same thing. FOUR times. I did not want to go to HER friend's house for lunch, I had other things to do. She yelled at me about it, and changed the topic to something that had nothing to do with it at all, only to YELL again (and feel good). She's off the wall, everyone knows it.

I tell myself to calm down and ignore her ,but it's so hard. What's the best way to avoid her, without getting worked up over her craziness and yelling? Anyone in a similar situation? Thank you

Deja vu? My mom is the same exact way (or was). You want to know how I finally fixed her ass? One day, I called her and told her that my dad and I got into it. She told me well your going to be pissed off at me too then. She had told my brother something I told her and asked her not to say anything. So, I finally said, "ya know what, I'm done with this family. I'm sick of this shit." I didn't talk to her for a week. Now, she has totally given me my space and stops being so judgmental of me. So, here is my suggestion to you. You can either a) get angry, yell at her, tell her to mind her own business, back off, and don't talk to her for a few days. or b) you can sit down and talk to her and tell her that although her advice is appreciated when you ask for it, but you need room to become your own person. If she doesn't like it, revert back to a! Good Luck!!

Alright. My left arm has been really irritated.

There is no rash. And it doesn't itch.

But, from the thumb, to my elbow my skin is so sensative.

When ever I move my arm, it burns, when ever I touch it, or its touched it burns. Its also extra sensative to heat or cold-ness.

Any idea what it is? Or what caused it?

By the way, I'm Fourtee years old, and female.

Ok, question: Does it feel like you have scrapped the skin of your body? Like when you used to ride bikes and crash, you'd get road burn. Does it feel like that? If so, I have the similar problem, however, mine is all over, not just my arm. There are a few things that could be in this case. 1- Auto Immune Disease (not aids) 2- fibromyalgia (what I have) 3- dry skin. I would suggest setting up an appointment with your doctor and have them do blood work to make sure. You can never be to careful. Good Luck!!

my bf cheated on me. i should dump him because he made me cry and really hurt me
but i'm scared to dump him because he will get angry,
what should i do?

In a situation like that, you shouldn't be worried about how he feels towards you. He obviously didn't care about you when he cheated on you. Now, if you are that much in love with him and want to work it out, I suggest you sit down and have a talk with him. However, you won't ever regain that trust with him again. Good Luck!!

stay with him or break it off i have been with him for 3 weeks almost 4 weeks but yeah i have kiissed him twice.and i want to take it reaklly slwo but guys from my past our comeing back in my life my ex boyfriend!is like i want to be with you again i miss you what should i do???
stay with this great guyor with the guy that i broke up with befor??ahh im so confuseing!plz help me

Guys tend to want what they can't get. So, I would just stick with the guy you are with, you obviously like him. There shouldn't even be any question in your mind as to who you should be with. Good Luck!!

How do you get back in shape once you let yourself go? I have been on the bc shot and i have put on 30 lbs. How could I lose that in the next 3 months?

Oh, the horror of being on bc. Depo is the worse at that. The hormones in your body and your shot causes a higher estrogen level in your body. Birth control does have a tendency to cause weight gain. Here is my suggestions that will help you lose weight and keep it off.

First, make sure that you drink plenty of water, 8-8 ounces a day, at least.

Second, go on a high protein, low carb, sugar, and fat intake diet. If you don't like the word diet, transfer it to eating healthy. Fish, boneless, skinless chicken breast (baked), fresh veggies and fruit, whole grain breads and pastas.

Finally, exercise. It doesn't have to be anything overwhelming. Just walk for 30 mins a day, carrying hand weights. Get a jump rope and do that for 5 mins. at least a day. Also, you can get an exercise ball and follow the routine they provide for you. I would do this every other day. The total amount for exercise equipment, when done the way I provided, from Wal-Mart, will be around $20. Cheap and easy.

Good Luck!!

how do you get over a guy that you fell deeply in love with and you can't stop crying about him no matter how many times you tell yourself that he is worthless and to forget about him!!!

Unfortunately, time is not your friend right now. It hurts to even be awake at times, I know. However, it is going to take time to heal. Just remember that everyday someone gets their heartbroken, and you are not alone. If you can, take up a hobby to try and get him out of your mind. I know it's not easy, but at least giving it an effort may make all the difference in the world. Just keep your head high, and tell yourself that even though this is tough right now, you will find someone that you love and loves you, and you will be eternally blissful. Good Luck!!

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