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okay my lil sis want to kno the answer to this question . . .okay my sis is 14 and she likes this kidd that is 15 but turning 16 in cecember is that okay to go wout with him becuz he likes he bac but see my sis used to do pot and smoke cigg and drink cuz she hung out with the wrong ppl and she hung out with me which i did them all i mean she quit smoking and all but the guys she likes does all that stuff and she said she will go bac to all of it i mean we dont ahve a mom or a dad at all and i woundlnt care cuz i do all of that shit should she go out with him they really like each other
please answer the questions please dont say that is wrong that u do all that stuff and shit just please answer the question
thanxs i rate

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yeah nothing wrong with that small of an age difference. not too much wrong with doing all that stuff either as long as you keep it under control.


I have a best friend. He is going to be 18 and im only 15 and 1/2. I fell madly in love with him but my parents say hes too old for me. So no one knows I love him as more then a friend. I dont know if i should tell him, he might not return the feeling. even if he does return the feeling, theres my parents. so should i not tell anyone? (link)
i was 17 and dated a 14 year old, though not for too long. anyways what do parents know of love? they think it comes with age, it doesnt. jsut go for it and hide it from your parents.


im supposed to be in a band with my best friend and were all like ready and everything but the thing is i dont have a drumset!!! im supposed to be the drummer but i dont have the money to get it!! i mean my family has money but my mom wont give me any!! its so annoying so i was wondering if sumone can give me m$$lah making tips please?!?!? its needed VERY much!! A.S.A.P!!!
(14/f btw) p.s i rate very HiGh.......

- San diego rocker

p.s does anyone know a store or a place online that sells cheap drumsets?!?

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hmm sounds familiar. try ebay? but you need parental permision for that. there are ways to make money, both honest and dishonest. dont know waht else to tell you


If a guy wanted to go down on me should I let him? I mean girls say it feels good n everything but I dunno. I mean I know im clean down there but DOWN THERE isnt the best lookin and juss yeah down there. I mean u cum and what if it starts to smell or somethin or I dunno.. Juss thinkin bout a guy doin that..Doesnt it taste BADD I mean why would a guy wanna..?? (link)
guys wana please their gf. hed probly want you to return the favor. yeah you should let him


Ok I was basically fwb's with this guy named Rick and We would chat online e-mail eachother everyday and he would talk to me in school and then all of a sudden after a month of telling me he liked me he says he doesnt like me after he wrote me the sweetest e-mail then he says I like you theres just a girl at our school I like and she likes me and ive liked her for about a year now. Then I started crying But I like myself but that night I didnt he made me cry for about 2 hours I mean I was in love with him and today he wrote me an email saying the girl who liked him doesnt anymore what should I do? (link)
yet another poor excuse for a guy. if you go back to him i will find some way to track this question and personaly tell you how stupid that is. what if in a week she starts to like him? what do you think hes gonna do? seriouly find a better guy we are out there.


I have a big problem. Its this boy that i know but he is my friend though but i like him as more than a friend. But when we are talkin on the phone its like were boy friend and girlfriend.I had went out with him b 4 we b came friends then i ask him would he ever cheat on a girl and he said yes. So should i go back with him? (link)
jeez guys that cheat suck, they arent worth your time. you have no control over your feelings, well unless your a vulcan, but you do have cntrol over your actions. forget him and go for a guy that wont cheat on you.


Well I'm "going out" with this guy from school..But when we talk we have like no conversation and I was talking to him about his ex-girlfriend and he said he didnt want her knwoing about me cuz they might be together in the future...well idk i didnt say anything...i think he wants me just for stuff...and when hes sick of me he'll leave...well i dont really like the guy i mean im just going out with him to see if i start liking him and so far our "relationship" is going nowhere. hes a pretty cool guy but i think we'd be better off as friends.. Hes a druggie, he drinks (im not into that) and he likes to rush into things with his gf's...ok so heres my problem. i wanna tell him i dont think going out is a good idea and im gonna tell him why i think that but i dont wanna seem..well mean i guess..the guy has been wanting to go out with me for over a year now! he was all excited cuz i told him i would do stuff (if i was comforable enough) to him but i wouldent go all the way...sooo idk its like hes using me for a while until he goes out with his x again...i wanna break up but i dont want him mad at me..any advice?? Thanks and sorry its so long!

[I. R a t e. e v e r y o n e] :) (link)
dump this idiot. he "might get together with his gf"? if i read nothing else in your quetion that would be enough. seriously dont touch him hes using you. hes still into his gf, shes probly taken right now, and hes jsut passing time. dont judge guys by our worst specimens, hes obviously one of them


Hey ... im a cutter and i have been every since the middle of 6th grade and i am just starting 7th .. its mostly cuz of boys and some cuzza my home life . it makes me feel good wen i hurt myself and i dont know why :( my mom dont know nd idk wut to do please help just I M me at YellowKissez207 (link)
boys arent worth crying over, and the one that is wont make you cry. really you can jsut stop? never really understood cutters to much. jsut deal with your emotional pain internaly like msot people do.


Ok i know this isnt the sexiest thing people have to say on here, lol, but im a girl and no matter how much i brush or how many times i use mouth wash my breath smells 10 minutes later, i know its gross. Mints and gum fade away and dont last i want something that will keep my breath fresh, could there be something wrong here? (link)
Do you have halitosis? i used to have preatty bad, then i went to costco and they had a major sale on tic tacs. i bought em whole sale and basically constantly had one in my mouth for an entire summer. after that my breath didnt smell. if youre looking for a quick fix listerine mints work preatty well


Okay well when I go to my campground this weekend. I want this boy to like me. What should I wear. What accesories sould i put on. How should my hair be like besies just plan down.and I kinda want him to ask me out. What should I do?? (link)
An answer from a guy. Clothes dont matter, its what's under the clothes that counts. Now this is true for 95% of guys, some go deeper than others. so basically it doenst matter very much what you wear, either youre hot or youre not. personality matters more anyways best thing you could do is e forward and tell him you like him.


ok my bf in skool told me to chose me or softball but i love him and i love to be athletic and play softball so i dont kno wut to do :-/ plz help (link)
gah people like that make me ashamed of my gender. tell him he can choose your or his pighead attitude.


Besides identifiable sexual attraction, how can one tell the difference between a crush and great love for a friend? If a friend really wants physical contact with another friend, but not necessarily sex, what is that?
Please answer. I really will rate. (link)
no one can tell you whether or not you are in love, you just know. and physical contact but not sex? thats rather odd i dont know.


nun of mi friendz r cheeleaders and i wanna b 1. idk if i should try out wut if they make fun of me or say its not like hott n stuff. wut do i do?? nd plz dont say dont care wut they think. my friendz r very open nd honest. (link)
so are you worried that your friend will ditch you if you become a cheerleader? dont sound like very good friends to me. and friends make fun of each otehr its all harmless bantoring.


Okay i can't show the guy that I like that i do like him around people. Idk. it's weird i mean i get all shy and people have to make me go sit by him or something.well what could i do to show him i like him? (link)
um you could always tell him lol. i didnt really have time to read the other person that answereed this question buty im sure they covered all of the subtle bases. but really jsut telling him you like him works wonders


Hey, I was just wondering if you could really get an STD from giving head. Because I just read it on here, and I've given head to one of my ex's, and I never knew that there was a possibility that I would get an STD, and now I'm really scared about it. Can you guys please help me out? (link)
yes you can, but the chances arent as high as they are with regular sex. you dont have to have cuts for the chance to be real, bt it increases it. you dont have to be freaked out about it but next time use protection


Hey...trust me I know ratings arent everything..but sometimes i think i desserve to get rate for answers i put all my thought,effort,and time into. Im not a rating fanactic...but i just wish people would be courteous to press a simple button and rate me when i really give a good answer. Anyone else agree? I put a lot of time into answering questions for people..i would just like something in return sometimes. (link)
sure its easy to rate one person but when 20 people answer your question it gets tedious.


OK When I was about 14 my mom told me that when I wanted to go on birth control that all I had to do was ask her about it. Well its been over a year and I dont know how to bring it up. We're not really that cloce. She meant when I'm 'in love' and I want to do it with that special person. Well thats kinda not the deal rite now I'm not in love at all. I dont even have a bf. But I want to go on it .. how do I ask her ? I cant just bring it up out of nowhere.. (link)
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you from the future: "Hey mom remember that prosmise you made me like a year ago?"
your mama "What promise is that?"
you "the one about the birth control...
mom "oh do you think youre ready?
you "yes"
mom "ok then"


Okay, this might sound stupid but here it goes: My friend is obsessed with the fact that I have a lot in common with her boyfriend. Whenever she brings up the subject, she'll call him and ask both of us what things we like, and if we say the same thing she'll scream and say that we're going to fall "madly in love." I've told her hundreds of times that he's going out with HER, and he obviously LIKES her! I've spoken to her b/f once, and I don't like him that way, but she's obsessing that he's going to break up with her for me.. whom he's never even met. She's mad that she has NOTHING in common with this guy, and that I do, and I don't want to lose her as a friend.. and she won't listen to anything I say!

Sorry for the long post, but any ideas on what I should do? (link)
most guys wouldnt really want to go out with a girl that is exactly like them. your friend really has nothing to worry about jsut tell her that.


I cut but i wanna stop cause its gotten so bad i cant even hold crap any more ... any advice on how (link)
cutting is the equivalent of a mentally additing drug, that means that by wanting to stop you are already more than halfway there. i personally would not recommend telling parents because they might freak out and send you to a center. i dont know all the fact about cutting but from waht i know its a way of releasing emotional pain so my advice is to stay away from emotional pain. substituting something for it would also be a way to stop though you will end up addicted to whatever you replace it with. something else you can try is eating hot peppers, they will sting your mouth a little bit and then release endorphins which will make you happier. um i dont have anything else.


my mom has a deformed uterus. Less than like 3% of women in the US have it. I forget the exact name but its soo bad that her gyno. is surprised she had 2 kids. She had 13 misscarriages before she had me. Ne way my doctors seems to think this is genetic but we don't know for sure if its genetic in my family because all the females on my mom's side has had their female parts removed. My mom gets cysts on her overies too. When my mom told me this I was like I want to be checked. But she was like don't worry your 16. I don't want to have promblems having kids in 10 years so I want to be checked. Do you think I should get checked and if so can I go to the gyno. without her knowing?? (link)
yeah i would get checked if i were you. i have a genetic disorder that could cause serious problems for my kids so im in favor of genetic screening. so yes id get it checked, depending on what state you live in you might not even need your moms persmision.




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