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Well I'm "going out" with this guy from school..But when we talk we have like no conversation and I was talking to him about his ex-girlfriend and he said he didnt want her knwoing about me cuz they might be together in the future...well idk i didnt say anything...i think he wants me just for stuff...and when hes sick of me he'll leave...well i dont really like the guy i mean im just going out with him to see if i start liking him and so far our "relationship" is going nowhere. hes a pretty cool guy but i think we'd be better off as friends.. Hes a druggie, he drinks (im not into that) and he likes to rush into things with his gf's...ok so heres my problem. i wanna tell him i dont think going out is a good idea and im gonna tell him why i think that but i dont wanna seem..well mean i guess..the guy has been wanting to go out with me for over a year now! he was all excited cuz i told him i would do stuff (if i was comforable enough) to him but i wouldent go all the way...sooo idk its like hes using me for a while until he goes out with his x again...i wanna break up but i dont want him mad at me..any advice?? Thanks and sorry its so long!
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*well b like look ----- i like u but i dont think our realtionship is going nowhere* lets stop seeing each other for a few weeks or days or u know add some stuff to it* and b liek u r a great guy* and i just dont think im ready to go out with u*
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if he gets mad at u tuff. he is only using you cus he thinks ur hott and wants to get in ur pants. sry for being blunt but its the truth. he doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend and u deserve better. who cares if hes mad, at least u can b rid of him and not have to deal with him trying to pressure u to do sumthing u'll regret.
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dump this idiot. he "might get together with his gf"? if i read nothing else in your quetion that would be enough. seriously dont touch him hes using you. hes still into his gf, shes probly taken right now, and hes jsut passing time. dont judge guys by our worst specimens, hes obviously one of them
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eh he sounds like a player.. any guy who tells you their thinking about getting with their ex gf in the future isnt right for you.. so you should probably just break up with him.. n even if he had never said that i still would be sayin to break up with him cause you don't really like him n since hes been wanting to go out iwth you for so long he'd probably get hurt the more you use him like that you know.. just tell him that you don't think you guys should go out anymore because you just want to be single right now.. hopefully he'll understand that =)
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so wat if he gets mad. hes an asshole that drinks duz drugs and hes only goin out w/ u for pleasure and not who u r. u deserve better and actuallly no1 deserves som1 like that. just dump him b4 he duz somthin that will upset u even more. and remeber this "It is not our abilities that show who we truly are.....it is our choices" choose wisley;)
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Ok-you definately need to break it off with this guy becuz he is obviously bad news. There are a couple ways to do this-he is probably not going totake it good either way but oh well. You can just talk to him nicely and mention that you would much rather be friends then b/f and g/f becuase things just arent feeling the same-or because your not feeling it. Or (i dont reccomend this way) you can say to him-i think your using me and i dont liek that feeling-i deserve better then this-so i think its time we break up. or you could talk to him first and ask if hes using you just for what you would do-or if you go over his house-just be like what if i didnt do anything with you-would you be mad or dump me?-and that should tell you if hes using you or not.
HoPe i HeLpEd!!
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tell him that u think hes using u and thAt its over. dont try to make a long thing out of it... if u really arent attracted- y bother pulling him along when he "might be with his ex-gurl in the future"? That dont make sence to me.. but u prob should break up with him. itll hurtg if he does it first, whether u had feelings for him or not, whether u admit it or not.
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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1. You say you don't like him.
2. He's told you he might be with another girl in the future.
3. He was excited you would do stuff with him.
4. You don't have good conversations.
You're completely right. You should break up with him. You're also right in saying you don't need to be mean. Breaking up with anybody is bound ot hurt their feelings a little bit, but you can minimize this by being honest and sensitive.
For example, you can say something non-commital like, 'I really don't think this is working out. You're a great guy, but I don't think we make a great couple.'
He'll be hurt, and that might show itself as being angry. You can't help how he reacts. But you CAN help yourself - staying in a relationship where you are unhappy is not healthy. It's more important to worry about YOUR feelings than his - which means breaking up with him and finding someone you have a real connection with.
Good luck.
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explain it to him the way you just did. then break up with him.
simple, yet the taste amazing.
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You don't really like him? Then don't go out with him... Just tell him, it sounds like that he doesn't like you that much either...
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