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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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I know this is random and all but you're a guy right? So, yeah I acted like slut I guess and I'm wondering if this guy doesn't like me because of that. I was a sweet whore though. I didn't really do anything but I was all over him. Do guys not like sluts that are kinda sweet?

Yes, I'm a guy. Notice the picture =D.

Personally, I don't like sluts. Umm.. they are still slutty no matter how "sweet" they are.

I think that most guys wouldn't like sluts. So that's my answer- plain and simple.

--Jack
(15/m)

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So i am 15 and i am going to my friend birthday party in 2 days. At the party there is not going to be alcohol or smoking or anything. But afterwards I am spending the night at her house with a whole bunch of people and there is gonna be drinking and smoking and i already know i don't want to smoke but I am iffy on the drinking. My friend told me I didn't have to but I would feel kind of left out so I kinda want to. Do you think its a bad idea? or should I enjoy my youth?

I think its a bad idea. Period.

You sure as hell can enjoy your youth- but drinking isn't one of the ways that you should do it. There are plenty of other things to do rather than "be cool" and drink.

Alcohol has many NEGATIVE side effects. In fact- alcohol has ZERO positive effects.

http://alcoholism.about.com/od/health/Health_Effects_of_Alcohol.htm

There are also SERIOUS consequences for underage drinking. Here you will find some of those: http://camy.org/factsheets/index.php?FactsheetID=13


Overall- drinking, no matter your age, is bad, though it is WORSE when you're in your youth.


Trust me, I have never smoked, drank, had sex or done any of the like- and I can honestly say I've had a fun life so far. Hang out with friends and see a movie. Make silly videos. Have a sleep over. Have a pizza party. Do something that doesn't involve alcohol- you'll have just as much- HECK! EVEN MORE fun than you would if you decided to drink and "be cool" or whatever the motivation to do stupid things these days is..

Make the right choice! =D
--Jack
(15/m)

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this is a stupid question.. but what do guys look for in a girl? do they like hearing what all the girl has done or not? how do they want you to act around them?

Hey.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520

the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].

Sometimes I actually like when a girl talks about what she's done- just so I can stare into her eyes and not do anything =P. I don't want a girl to act slutty around me. If she acts like how she would around her parents and friends, then that is what I would prefer. Sure- I like a girl to be flirty- but not overbearingly flirty. If she is herself- she'll get an A in my book =D.

--Jack
(15/m)

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17/f
I was dating my boyfriend for about a year and half when he cheated on me. He didn't just kiss another girl or hang out with her but he had sex with her at a party after we had had a fight. He didn't even tell me and i had to find out from the girl herself. She didn't even know i was hius girlfriend and she asked me to give him his ring back.( the ring was a promise ring we gave to eachother awhile ago) up until this happened i thought i could spend the rest of my life with him. I haven't talked to him since but he is always with my brothers. I just don't know if he went so far that i should throw away everything we had. Where is the line of going to far to be forgiven? Do i just give up and say let's be friends?

Honestly- I take zero tolerance with cheating. Its wrong, immoral, and my personal stance is "once a cheater, always a cheater" and I will stand by that forever.
I think that he crossed the line the minute he agreed to have sex with this girl. He CHEATED on you.
C-H-E-A-T-E-D!

So if you want to still be friends- go right ahead, but you don't have to if you don't want to. Personally- I wouldn't even continue contact with this guy anymore. He isn't worth it.

However- if you want it to continue go right ahead.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Can anyone like explain the army to me? The ranks and terms and everything? Or give me a website? Thanks so much.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Army_ranks#General_officers

Scroll down to "United States of America".


The order goes from top to bottom:

General of the Army
General
Lieutenant General
Major General
Brigadier General

=D
--Jack
(15/m)

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Yeah! So the title means what is going on in your life. Often times it makes me feel better when I read that other people have problems and that I'm not the only one who is going through a dark and lonely stage. Okay so what are you going through? I would really love to know how life's been treating you even if you're happy. I really want to know. Please don't get offened by my question.

This probably won't help much- but honestly, my life is great. I am going to a brand new high school in my district this fall- I mean its NEW- not redone, but NEW! Its amazing. Seriously.
You might think that someone can only be this happy with a girlfriend. Well that's wrong- because I've been single for almost a year- and I'm GREAT! Seriously- I don't know what I was thinking getting a girlfriend- I don't really need one. Sure- if a great girl comes along, I might pursue her- but I'm certainly not searching for one [at least now] =D.

I'm not trying to act like I haven't had dark times- but honestly, I realized that its just dumb to be all emo and upset all the time. I like being happy and excited about life.
Sometimes I even wake up- knowing I'm not doing anything special- and I am still just happy to be alive and kicking.

Try doing crazy things to feel better. Like name a piece of grass and introduce it to random people on the street. Anything that can make you laugh. It might be best to do ridiculous things with a friend- so you can laugh about it later =D.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Ok you know the word either?

how do you spell eye-ther? Ither doesn't look right. Or is it spelled either and it's just how you pronounce it?

Personally, us Michiganders pronounce it "eye-ther", and it IS spelled "either" no matter how you pronounce it.

Some pronounce it "ee-ther"

And sometimes I just use "nye-ther" [neither] for negative sentences.

--Jack
(15/m)

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13/F

Ok so here is the thing, there is this guy, David (I changed his name), and I asked him out then a couple months later, he broke up with me. Then he asked me out and I said yes. Now three months later, we talk on the phone a lot. Then one day his little sister called me and said that he didn't like me, then he got on the phone, and said that wasn't true. Then a couple days later, I went over David's friends housw Mike, with my BFF Steph. Nothing happened, but Mike kept saying how David didn't like me and thought I was fat, now knowing Mike I ususaly wouldn't believe him, but then I was thing about what his sister said.
Then his friends called me and said he wanted to break up with me, but in the background I heared him yell no I don't!
Why would everyone say that if it wasn't true?

Pixistick

First- a couple of things-

You don't have to tell us you changed people's names- we know you did- as everyone does it.


Okay- so you need to learn to trust your boyfriend. Don't listen to other people trying to say that he doesn't like you. If it was true, he wouldn't make such an effort to scream "NO I DON'T" in the background or something.

So his little sister is probably saying it because she's trying to be funny. I know that I do it to my sister's boyfriend- but he knows that I'm joking.

Mike is probably doing it because he's probably the typical jealous friend. He's hoping to break up the relationship so that he feel like he's not left out. Whether this is his conscious intent or not- that's got to be the real reason.

Overall- don't worry about it. I'm sure if your boyfriend didn't like you anymore- you would know. He would act different around you and it would be obvious. You two are just fine =D.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I go to a vocational high school. Basically, you spend half the school year learning a trade, and the other half in accelerated academic classes. I chose a "non-traditional" shop, meaning very few girls choose it. There's only four girls in a class of sixteen, and the other three want to transfer out. So I'm the only girl there that completely loves the course.


Some people are accepting of this when I tell them what I chose, and others will ask me "Well, why did you choose that shop? It's for guys, not a lady like you!" How can I deal with them? Any witty comebacks?


Thanks =]
[LM]

WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU!

Honestly, LM, if you let people tell you what's supposedly "right" and "wrong" according to them- where are you going to get in life? Nowhere. Are you going to accomplish what YOU want to do? No.


DO WHAT YOU WANT. If people can't accept your choices because its supposedly not "gender appropriate" for a girl to take a shop class- then screw them. Sorry- but its true. Just ignore these life-less excuses for people.

--Jack
(15/m)

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ok so the blue start menu button on my Hp changed to the right side of my screen!!! how do i fix this?
also my mouse was flipping out on me!
i think i have some bad viruses what do i do

Alright- calm down!

This happens a lot. What you did is clicked on the bottom menu and dragged it to the side. Just click on it again [not the start button] and put your mouse to the bottom of the screen. This should fix it.

As for your mouse- click on the Start Menu. Then go to the Control Panel [above "Connect To..."] and find the "Mouse" icon. You can mess with the different aspects of the mouse. Maybe you have the pointer speed under "Pointer Options" too fast or too slow. Maybe you have the precision of the mouse not right.

Hopefully this helps =D

--Jack
(15/m)

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What does, "Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer" mean? I never really understood it.

It means that you should keep your friends close to you, but your enemies closer, so you can know their every move.. so like you'll be closer to your enemies so that you will know if they are planning something against you.

Make sense? If not- I'll try to explain more if you ask in feedback =D.

--Jack
(15/m)

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is the word "cowing" pronounced "COWing" (like the animal that goes moo with an ING) or "kohing" like i'm "COLd" thanks

I think its "kouing" so as to differentiate from "cow" like the farm animal.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/cowing


--Jack
(15/m)

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Are spaggheti straps allowed in most high schools? I mean, the dress code is pretty standard for most public schools.
What happens if you break the dress code?

Spaghetti straps aren't normally allowed in most high schools- but it really depends on your high school. Check your school's dress code or Code of Conduct or whatever. Ask a friend who has been there awhile [like an upperclassmen].

Usually if you break the dress code- they suspend you for at least 10 days. They call your parents and you automatically fail the class that you were caught breaking the dress code in. Alright- I hope you caught that that was a joke. They usually will just send you to the office to call your mom or dad to bring you a change of clothes. You won't get suspended unless you keep doing it..

--Jack
(15/m)

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I know this has nothing to do with advicenators, but you look exactly like this guy in the picture you have under 'website'. The one on the left.

http://imdb.com/gallery/ss/0976014/Ss/0976014/109919_6682_pre.jpg?path=pgallery&path_key=Foster,%20Scott%20M.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!


Alright- sorry.. I had to laugh at this..

1. The picture I have under "Website" is me. That MIGHT just be why I look like them... =D


2. I've never been told I look like Cappie, but alrighty. =D

**EDIT**(
No- I'm not laughing at you.. I'm laughing with you! And I like Cappie.. I was just saying I never heard that I looked like him. Its all good =D.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Okay so today I lost ALL of my friends. We were in this big group/clique. They hung out today so I asked them why I wasn't included. They said I was boring and I don't talk much and they don't have any inside jokes with me so they said I can't be friends with them anymore. I can't let this happen with any other people because at home I'm not boring but then when I'm around people from school I'm shy and boring. How do I NOT become boring?! I never seem to make inside jokes with people and it annoys me! Please help. I don't wana be boring or shy because it made me lose ALL my friends.

Alright. This pisses me off. Not you- but your "friends". "We don't have any inside jokes with you so we can't be friends anymore, lolz, lyke totally!".

This REALLY doesn't sit well with me. These "friends" are freaking LAME! Okay- that isn't even the worst I can say, but I'm trying to keep it clean.

If people say stupid, no, IDIOTIC things like this to you again- know that they only care about themselves and no one else.

Not having inside jokes with someone isn't ANY justification NOT to be your friend. This seriously annoys me to no end. GRRR!


Alright- sorry that I had to let that out- but I just HAD to.

I bet you a million dollars you AREN'T boring. These people you aren't friends with anymore are the boring ones. I'm not even just saying that. If you're exciting in one place [your house for example]- you're exciting EVERYWHERE. I bet you anything you only feel you're boring because they said that to you. Don't let these people control your mind. Don't feel like a friendship needs to have inside jokes- really the point of them is to happen spontaneously and unexpectedly. Its not just to have them to be cool or whatever. If you want REAL friends- just be yourself [whether you think you are boring or not] and you will make more friends than you can ever imagine. Try to avoid these "people" you called friends- because they aren't people- they are the definition of evil and rude. Join a sports team or club- make friends doing something you love! =D

But- if you insist:

only search advicenators.com


--Jack
(15/m)

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how do you make a blog on myspace. and i don`t mean bullitens.

i want to make a blog of my school schedule. my friends do it. and the blogs show up on there profile at the top. but how do i make my own ?

On the home page, next to your default picture, the second thing in blue from the bottom of the box, it says "Manage Blog".

Under your picture again is a section "My Controls". Under that it will say "Post New Blog".

And then you type in what you want- and you can name it.

Then post a bulletin saying "New Blog!", and you're officially done.

=D
--Jack
(15/m)

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Thanks, you actually confused me more, but I figured out a different way.

Different Question: I have my post published now. I just need to edit it real fast. I went to New Post and then edit posts, but I can't figure out how to actually edit it. If you could explain this one last thing for me then I'll leave you alone. Promise.


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I just started a blog on blogger.com. I wrote something to post and I pushed save. Now it's saved but I don't know how to post it so people can see. What do I do?



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CuxMiBeckNow7 answered Monday August 13 2007, 4:00 pm:
Alright- so you're signed in and you should be at the home page: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)

There is a box there that should say "Manage Your Blogs" and you click "+ New Post" and that should be where you posted your first post...

If you saved it- it should show up on your blog when you go to it. Click on "View Blog" in that box I mentioned.

[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)

That's my blog- so replace it with your name in the "cuxmibecknow07" part.


I'm not sure I understand how to answer this- maybe send me your blog in feedback so I can see what you mean?

--Jack
(15/m)

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Since I've realized I'm not good at explaining things...

http://help.blogger.com/bin/answer.py?answer=41382&topic=8915


But I'm a bit confused why you copied my answer in your question...


--Jack
(15/m)

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I just started a blog on blogger.com. I wrote something to post and I pushed save. Now it's saved but I don't know how to post it so people can see. What do I do?

Alright- so you're signed in and you should be at the home page: http://www.blogger.com/home

There is a box there that should say "Manage Your Blogs" and you click "+ New Post" and that should be where you posted your first post...

If you saved it- it should show up on your blog when you go to it. Click on "View Blog" in that box I mentioned.

http://cuxmibecknow07.blogspot.com/

That's my blog- so replace it with your name in the "cuxmibecknow07" part.


I'm not sure I understand how to answer this- maybe send me your blog in feedback so I can see what you mean?

--Jack
(15/m)

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okk. im staying in one of those little cottages at cedar point for like a few days. well, yano how the lake is right therE? well we figured you can go out there and walk along it. but when were looking at the picture.. it looks like it isnt lumps of sand, its rocks. is it just lumps of sand? or is it rocks? and can you like go by the lake? i dont want to swim in it. i just want to like walk along it and stuff. can you? or no?

The beach is sand- not rocks.

Trust me- I've been to Cedar Point probably 25 times.


Its OK to go by Lake Erie =D.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I am looking to buy a new Digital Camera next sunday, but I don't know what to get. I know I am going to buy it from Sears (sears.com) because I work there and next weekend we are having a big friends and family night sale but I am lost when it comes to getting one.

I currently have have a fuji film and its a nice camera for being a few years old but I am ready to move on. It was a great buy for about $100, but it takes too long between pictures and it takes bad close up pictures... its not the quality.. its just like some are better than others i guess you could say.

like my best friend his i could sit and take great picture after great picture of myself for hours on his.

I am willing to spend up to like $250 on a camera (my discount is 10% but there is 7% sales tax)

and I want one with a decent size screen and also the ability to make movies (only a min or two is fine)

I prefer personally recommendations because I was trying to read the ones on the site and most had mixed reviews or none at all


thanks!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=503897


Hey. I am going to tell you about my wonderful camera I got for this past Christmas.

It does everything you want:
-Takes pictures
-Takes videos
-Has many different picture settings
-I have rechargeable batteries.. they were kind of on the pricey side, but they are definitely worth it.. you don't have to go out and buy new batteries every time they die.
-It is in your price range. You won't get too great of quality for under $150, so its good you have a larger range. But.. at the bottom of the page I give below- it has a certain website where it looks like you can find it at $119.99. That would probably be your best bet.

Here is a review of it I found:http://www.imaging-resource.com/PRODS/A530/A530A.HTM

This camera has 5.0 megapixels, 4X Optical Zoom [You want optical zoom, not digital zoom- because digital screws up the pixels as you zoom and the picture looks really crappy], it has 18 different shooting modes, and if you have a larger memory card [I have 2GB] you can hold a lot of pictures/videos.

Now for my own review..
I love this camera a lot and it is a great investment. I take tons of pictures and videos.. and it is perfect for me. The picture quality is the best I've seen in many different digital cameras. My brother has one, and the pictures always come out having odd white spots on them. This camera doesn't do that, ever. I think you will love it.


The only thing is, I'm not sure if you can find it at Sears- but the website I gave you can get a good discount =D.

--Jack
(15/m)

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