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Okay so today I lost ALL of my friends. We were in this big group/clique. They hung out today so I asked them why I wasn't included. They said I was boring and I don't talk much and they don't have any inside jokes with me so they said I can't be friends with them anymore. I can't let this happen with any other people because at home I'm not boring but then when I'm around people from school I'm shy and boring. How do I NOT become boring?! I never seem to make inside jokes with people and it annoys me! Please help. I don't wana be boring or shy because it made me lose ALL my friends.
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Alright. This pisses me off. Not you- but your "friends". "We don't have any inside jokes with you so we can't be friends anymore, lolz, lyke totally!".
This REALLY doesn't sit well with me. These "friends" are freaking LAME! Okay- that isn't even the worst I can say, but I'm trying to keep it clean.
If people say stupid, no, IDIOTIC things like this to you again- know that they only care about themselves and no one else.
Not having inside jokes with someone isn't ANY justification NOT to be your friend. This seriously annoys me to no end. GRRR!
Alright- sorry that I had to let that out- but I just HAD to.
I bet you a million dollars you AREN'T boring. These people you aren't friends with anymore are the boring ones. I'm not even just saying that. If you're exciting in one place [your house for example]- you're exciting EVERYWHERE. I bet you anything you only feel you're boring because they said that to you. Don't let these people control your mind. Don't feel like a friendship needs to have inside jokes- really the point of them is to happen spontaneously and unexpectedly. Its not just to have them to be cool or whatever. If you want REAL friends- just be yourself [whether you think you are boring or not] and you will make more friends than you can ever imagine. Try to avoid these "people" you called friends- because they aren't people- they are the definition of evil and rude. Join a sports team or club- make friends doing something you love! =D
But- if you insist:
--Jack
(15/m)
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If your friends ditch you because you're shy, then they're obviously not your friends so forget about them.
They're idiots.
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Hey!
Well first of all, in my opinion your friends are jerks if they ditched you because you're not perfect! I'm sure you're a totally awesome person, so dont let them get you down.
It's great to try and improve yourself every once in a while, but dont do it for the wrong reasons. Dont tell yourself that you're boring, so you should change so people will like you. Tell yourself, you're shy and you need to be more outgoing so that it will benifit yourself. Sure maybe being less shy will make more people like you, but that shouldnt be your ultimate goal.
The next thing i, inside jokes are awesome, but dont let it get to you, inside jokes arent something you can plits something that just happens, so my advice would probably be to go out and find friendswho love you for who you are as you are, and then try and make the best of their friendship. Try and be outgoing by joining new things and learning to spread your wings and fly aittle. Plus joining new things will help you tmake new friends. Sometimes, you'll make friends with people that you would never expect to be friends with, but that can turn into the best friendship you will ever experience.
And lastly, boring? I'm sure you arent boring, but if you find that you are bored, yourself, attimes, then maybe you should try and get some new hobbies. People cant call you boring wheyou went skydiving last week!
The fact that you care enough to ask us how to change yourself for your friends, isa huge deal. You love your friends so much and thats one amazing quality about you, and whether or not you become the most popular girl at school or not, keep that inside always, because being a great friend is the most important thing.
Good luck, and always remember, the day I have to chane myself for someone else, is the day I lose alittle peice of my own self, but the day that I change something abot self to make myself better, will ultimately turn out one of the happiest days of your life :).
Hope I helped babe,
Love ya,
Angie91
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