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Every time I turn on my computer it re-boots its self so EVERYTHING on it is deleted expect certain programs.
My iTunes is on it and it delted ALL my songs.
My AIM is on it and it delted my screen name.
Same thing with other programs..
Anyone know how I can fix this without paying a lot of money?
[It's not a REALLY old computer, four years]
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You definitely have a virus, and it's spun your hard drive. Meaning, that all of your information and everything that's on your computer is gone. There's no way to recover any of this information, with this virus. So what you have to do is erase everything on your hard drive, and put things back on (whatever you have cd's for.) Most of these cd's to erase the hard drive, come in about six steps. The cost is around $80 to $100.
You have to buy these from your internet service provider. I can't lie, these are expensive but it's really the only way. And it is the cheapest. You only have one other option, which is you can buy a new hard drive and put it in yourself. But I do not recommend this if you do not know how to put one in, because you could mess up something in the computer, by accident. And it's even more expensive than the discs. They run from $100 to $200 or more!
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okay i heard this song call forward. but i dont know who its by but i think there first name is alya. can anyone help me out with this? (link)
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Yes, it's "Forward" by Ayla Brown (from American Idol.)
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so this might seem weird ive has sex many times but ive never kissed a guy and im terrifed too!! ho do you kiss and what if i suck im so nevous ive built it up to a huge thing!! (link)
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I'll admit, I'm finding it very hard to believe that you've had sex many times and haven't kissed a guy. That seems nearly impossible to me, but anyway. Really, your first kiss is nothing to get too nervous about. It does come naturally, and I'm positive that everything will be okay. Just go with the flo, and let the guy lead. Plus, don't be thinking "am I doing this wrong?" or "am I bad?" while kissing. Because he'll notice, and it will make the kiss awkward.
Again, you have nothing to worry about. I'm sure your first kiss will be good and special. :)
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When a guy says
" you were moaning like a bitch"
is that good or bad?
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In their meaning, it's a good thing (it means you were moaning, which lets them know that whatever they're doing is good). But I'm not so sure, I would like a guy saying that to me, if I was in that position.
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13/F
i take advanced swimming lessons and my teacher keep asking me to join the team but all i do is say i'll think about it.i want to join because there's a competition in march that takes place in my ex-boyfriend hometown,so i wanna join so i could see him again(to hopefully not beat the crap outta him if i do)but i don't because i would have to practice like 6 or 7 days a week and i live far from where practice is and i wouldn't be able to get a ride.so my question is what should i do? (link)
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Yes, I think that would be a great idea. But this will be a lot of hard work, it's anything but easy. So only join if you're ready and prepared to work your butt off. And if you are, then I think it's a great idea. However, if you're only considering to join the swim team for your ex, that's a very bad idea. Because if you don't have the passion for it, and chose to be on the team for what it is, then it's going to equal no fun and not wanting to do it.
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so i have a boyfriend. he loves me and tells my im amazing/gorgeous/beautiful and everything a girl loves to hear on a regular basis. we've been together over a year. he says he loves my body. the thing is, i dont love it. at all. i mean yeah i have big boobs but thats about it. im overweight (5'9" about 251 lbs, size 18 pants and 3x shirt). im completely disgusted with my body but somehow he finds me beautiful and almost has me thinking maybe its true. but how do i see myself the way he sees me? i believe that he thinks so but im just like "ugh...why?". he wants me to be self confident but its like i just cant. im ahnee on advicenators if you want a pic (its small though) (link)
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I have to say, you have a really good guy. And I'm sure just about every girl not only on Advicenators, but in general would agree -- that these are the kind of guys that we want. Who love us and think we're beautiful for who we are not only on the outside, but on the inside. In which, a lot of guys lack. So please, don't worry about anything. You are beautiful, your boyfriend knows that and he wants to let you know that. Congrats, on having this great guy!
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Do a lot of people on MySpace have trackers (codes that allow you to see who's visited your MySpace)? I'm a little concerned about my privacy. Is there a way I can get myself to not show up on trackers when I visit a person's page.
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Trust me, you have nothing to worry about. Suprisingly, most of them do not even work. And the trackers that do work, do not have your profile on there. So you have nothing to worry about. :)
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19F - he's 24 - there is this guy that works at a company that my company deals with... i speak to him regularly for work stuff... at the christmas party we went out clubbing and made out... i REALLY like this guy, like seriously, as in get butterflies in my tummy when i hear his voice. when we were out he said i'm too good for him. we have spoken through work many times since then but havn't mentioned that night. i really wanna ask him out or something but i dont know if he likes me and i dont wanna make things awkward at work. what do i do? help! (link)
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Hi, my advice to you -- first, get to know him more. Then, you will be more comfortable around him and see if you can really trust him. Being as without trust in a relationship, you have nothing. After getting to know him better, then I would definitely ask him on a date. And you can see how things progress from there. :)
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How on earth do you add JoJo in Myspace?! I've been trying to add her for like, forever, but I just can't get her last name right.....
I really wanna add her up but I don't freakin' know how.....
So please help me out!
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To add JoJo as your friend on Myspace, go to http://www.myspace.com/jojoonline
And click on "Add to Friends" in the contact table.
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okay, so i woke up this morning like i normally do and i went to take a shower. when i got out of the shower i went to brush my hair. but i noticed this huge (well..for being on an ear huge) bump on my ear. it kind of looks like it could be a tick or something. but its the middle of january so i don't think thats really possible. can someone help me? its kind of grossing me out...should i go to the doctors or what? (link)
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Yes, absolutely. You should definitely go see a doctor. This may or may not be serious, but by going to the doctor and getting it checked out, you would know for sure.
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how do you get a layout or whatever on advicenators for your advice column? i see other people have them. i just want to know how to make one. thanks. (link)
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I'm not sure how you can make one, but I can tell you how to get one. You can get Myspace Backgrounds (not layouts, very important to remember), and they work perfectly. You just put the URL is the code, for that background into the "Page Background Image (URL)" and for your sidebar "Sidebar Background Image (URL)."
Here's a site for you with myspace backgrounds: http://www.athlens.com/myspace-backgrounds/animated.php
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I'm 14/m and always wondered about these things. I hope you can answer my questions:
1) Why do girls dress so the boobs are almost showing and then get mad at guys for starring at them?
2) Why do girls go to the bathroom in groups? Can't they pee alone?
3) Do girls notice that a guy has a boner ?
4) Does size matter?
5) Boxers or briefs?
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I don't really like answering these type of questions, but for this one time I will answer them.
1. Sometimes girls don't really think about the attention they're drawing to themselves, as strange as it may sound to you. And to girls, it makes us feel as though you only want our bodies, not our hearts. Then at times, these girls can just be teases. It really depends on the girl, and what kind of girl she is. So it can go either way.
2. It's not that girls go into the bathroom to "pee together." It's that we want to talk about something, or touch-up our makeup -- thing's like that.
3. Some do, some don't. It depends on the girl, and if she's paying attention.
4. I'm not having sex, so I can't exactly say one way or another. But what I can say to this question, is that it shouldn't matter in my opinion. I hardly think that would be the absolute most important thing.
5. Again, this depends on the girl and what she likes. See, not every girl thinks the same. We're all different, so it would depend on that girl's opinion. Being as it is only an opinion, not a fact.
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What are all the possible ways to form Smiley faces? Such as =] & so on.. (link)
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Here are many forms of smiley faces:
:)
;)
:(
:-)
:-(
;-)
:]
:[
;]
:D
;D
:O
;O
O.O
^_^
O_O
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i have been getting my period like every 2 weeks,
its been 6 months, shudnt i be used to it by now?
its really obnoxious. (link)
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Irregular periods are most definitely normal, but my concern is it's been six months. That's a very long time for you to have a period, even if it's only a little bit. I would actually consider going to a doctor and having it checked out -- that way you'll know exactly what's going on.
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I have really small boobs
They look un proportinate to my body
Becuase I look like the type that would have really big boobs
Im 5'6 and I am an 34 A!
I wear a push up bra but honestly it doesnt seem to create cleavage at all
Is there anything I can do?
and Another question, I wear those bra padding things but they are constantly coming out during the day, is there a special way to make them stay in place? (link)
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Honestly, your breast size is not a big concern, really. This is depending on your age, of course, but if you're in your teens you definitely have time to grow. Some people don't fully develop until their college years -- it's completely normal. So you definitely still have time to grow.
A push up bra is a great way to boost cleavage and/or create it. Sorry you're not having much luck with them, but I have a bra I would like to recommend for you. It makes you appear one cup bigger:
http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=XH-192946&page=1&cgname=OSBRPMIRZZZ&rfnbr=2979
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A mean , rude, jerk.
He's mean to me, he calls me fat etc.
He hates me
But we used to be really really good friends
I still like him
No matter how mean he is
wtf
help?
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I have to be honest with you, otherwise, I wouldn't be a very good person at giving advice at all. Look, this guy doesn't deserve you and he most definitely is not worth your time. I mean, do you really want someone who calls you "fat?" Think about that, I know deep down you do not want that.
No one would want that type of treatment. But I'm assuming, that you're feeling that you know the "real" him from when you used to be friends, and he's just putting on this tough exterior. This could be true, if this is how you're feeling, but you really shouldn't waste your time with this guy.
If he's never nice to you, he just isn't worth it. Trust me, there are much better guys out there who are not mean like this, and who will treat you as you deserve -- unlike this guy!
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hey...13/f...im thinking about changing to tampons soon because i believe that they are better since i play alot of sports. It will be my first time and im REALLY scared. Does it hurt when it goes in for the first time? Will popping my cherry hurt? Should i do it now? I think im ready but im not sure. Every is telling me to relax but i cant! Maybe if i learn more about it i will calm down. Anways. Please Help!!
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Don't worry, everything will be okay. I can promise you that. After buying tampons, read and follow the very simple and easy instructions to insert the tampon.
It does not hurt whatsoever, it's definitely different than wearing a pad, but it doesn't cause you any pain. And I'm just about positive, especially, with only your first tampon that you're going to "pop your cherry." Which the literal meaning to this is breaking your hymen, which can be broken by inserting tampons and playing sports, even to simple things such as riding a bike. So there's really nothing to worry about, as far as that.
You should only use them, if you want to. They would probably be more comfortable while playing sports for you, but that's only my opinion. And I also think it's a good thing to know, I mean, even if you chose not to continue using them, and stick with the pads -- at least you would know how to insert one if you would like to use them later on in your life. Because it's a really good thing to know, it's just one of those things you need to know, in my opinion.
Here is all the information you need to know about tampons. From one of the biggest brands (O.B. Tampons) for selling tampons:
http://www.obtampons.com/know_01.shtml
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I`m already worried about starting
high school next year, especially the drinking
scene. My best friend was given 20 minutes to
live this year after I found her severly drunk
at a soccer game. (Keep in mind, we're 8th
graders) Well, I had no idea any of this was
going on and I'm not sure if I can handle
my other friends getting into drinking next
year. How do I keep myself out of it?
I'm not up for risking my life like she did,
but I am curious about trying it! Thats the
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I cannot tell you to drink, especially knowing what this does to people. I will remind you, that even though it may seem like it not everyone drinks in high school. I have lots of friends in high school, and they don't drink a drop. You already know about what happened to your best friend, and my dad died from alcohol.
And I would hate to see that happen to you, or anyone else. So please, I urge you not to do this. And if you feel you can't handle it, while your friends are doing this -- maybe, you should consider hanging with people who do not drink. Where the temptation doesn't lie there as much.
Here is some information on alcohol, I thought might be helpful -- for you to know the true facts.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alcohol
http://www.niaaa.nih.gov/
http://kidshealth.org/teen/drug_alcohol/alcohol/alcohol.html
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I get made fun of a lot because I have red hair so people call me firecrotch AND Im not very pretty. I look like a fish. Anyway, guys on my bus are always making fun of me..and I want to know what I say to them. Swearing isnt working - they just mock me and it just gives them a reaction. (link)
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Look, all of these guys are a bunch of jerk -- plain and simple. They're not even worth your time, they are only a waste of it. They don't deserve your time, you're much better than them. Everyone is beautiful, it doesn't matter what haircolor you have or exactly what features you have -- none if this is true beauty. You're beautiful inside and out, and as long as you have confidence and love yourself for who you are, you have absolutely nothing to worry about.
Honestly, do not worry about these guys. They're really not worth it. I know, I do not know you but I can tell that you are a beautiful person, and I think you're beautiful on the outside also. I think you're really pretty, and I'm positive many others think so too. :)
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Ok i have this sudden urge to talk to my ex boyfriend.Not really the plan of getting back with him but i dont know, i still love him but i want to know how his life is and im begginning to miss those long talks we use to have everynight.But i dont know if i should call,he has no reason to be mean to me but im afraid yet he will be.Should i call him? (link)
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Actually, I'm experiencing the exact same thing right now. Except, I do want my ex back but that's beside the point. My advice to you is to definitely call him, no matter your intentions. Because you're going to wonder "what if?" if you don't. And if you don't think he'll be mean about, I would go ahead and give him a call. I'm sure everything will work out, good luck!
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