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Okay so I asked this question on here already..the questions were helpful, but I still need some help, so I'd really appreciate if you'd help me out! :). So, this guy liked me ever since 5th grade. I know this because all of his friends told me and when they said it right in front of him he got all quiet and blushed. I never liked him that way because I was a lot younger..and just liked being his friend. We talked throughout the school years up until the end of 9th grade. We stopped talking mainly because, although we had the same classes..we just never had a chance to talk much. I am now entering 11th grade (so is he). I found him on myspace and added him. I like him so much now..I don't even know why! Anyway.. I commented him and said hello, he messaged me back and we had a conversation for an hour and a half. I had to leave though, so I asked him for his number, he said "of course you can have it" and gave it to me. Then I texted him and said "just making sure I got the number right, haha" he texted back with "yeah ha". I then said "what are you doing". He never replied after that..but I'm sure he was busy or something. My problem is..I don't know if he still likes me. My advice from many people was to talk to him more get to know more stuff about him before I bring up dating or anything like that. But, school doesn't start for another 6 weeks! So, all me and him could probably talk by is texting. How do I start learning more about him? How do I casually ask what he likes to do, what his favorite music is, etc. When I talk to people I sometimes don't know what to say..or run out of things to say. Please help me, and maybe give me some ideas on what to talk about. I don't want to ask too many questions though. Also, I don't know how often I should talk to him. I don't know how to even bring up the fact that I like him =/. Oh, and we're both pretty shy people if that helps. Well, thankyou in advance.
First off,thanks for the inbox!!
It seems like you two could easily relight the fire with each other, right now, I think because so much time has passed and you havent been able to talk with each other much that you should keep talking to him to get to know each other better. As for topics, well you can ask him about his day and then talk about your day, if anything exciting happens in his day you can go off on a topic. For example: say he went to an icecream store. You could ask him what kind of flavor he got, then you could tell him what flavor you like and then you guys could start going off on a different topic by say "inventing" other ice creams. It sounds stupid, but trust me its not and it works, I have been in that situation plenty of times. Just say something like: I think it would be cool if they made (flavor) icecream. The topics will naturally start then. (Also if he hasnt done anything exciting, you could always bring up the ice cream topic regardless)
As for how often you should text him, dont over do the texting like 24/7 if you know what I mean haha. How long did you talk to him before? Dont be afraid to randomly text him and say Im bored, what are you doing right now? or something like that. You need to give little hints to him about having an interest, because the last time he had an interest in you, you werent ready (which is okay.) You can also just randomly text him and say, hey whats up, or I just thought of you because (reason). Say for instance (going back to ice cream conversation) your last topic you guys talked about was being in the mood for ice cream, and then you were in the car with your parents and you drove past an ice cream parlor, you could text him and say: hey I just thought of you because Im in the car and we drove past that ice cream parlor haha. Something corney like that. It might seem wierd or hard to do at first, but it will become natural dont worry. If he has a cute myspace pic, dont be shy to comment and say something sweet like: aww you look cute in this, but try not to overwhelm him by saying something like: wow babe this is hotttt. haha (I didnt think you would do that anyway, but Im just letting you know.)
Oh, and this is actually perfect that your school doesnt start for 6 weeks, because you have all 6 weeks to hang out with him, not just weekends. When you feel comfortable enough, you can ask him if he wants to go to the mall or catch a movie or hang out, whatever you want to do. Maybe starting a texting convo about movies you like would instigate going to see a new movie out. If youre not sure if he wants to go with just you and him yet, you could pose the question like this: "hey so do you want to hang out, or catch a movie? If you want, we can invite some friends."
this gives him the option of saying okay yeah lets invite friends, or well we could just go alone.
Considering you guys had a conversation for an hour and a half, its definately safe to say hes okay and comfortable with you texting him often, and going to hang out. If you are not comfortable asking him to hang out, you can try to have him ask you to hang by talking about something you really want to do, in the near future. For example, say there is a movie coming out in 10 days and you really want to see it, talk about it but dont make plans with anyone to see it, if he catches on then he will say, do you want to see it with me. (Note that most boys wont catch on to that, so dont take it as a bad sign.) When you guys hang out, dont think something romantic has to happen this time, just have fun. If there is chemistry the first time you guys hang out, thats great, but for now focus on just having a good time, this way after you hang out you wont feel akward to want to hang out again soon. As soon as say, next weekend, or four days from then.
I hoped I answered all of your questions thoroughly, if I didnt dont hesitate to ask me again, or if you need anything else, you can always inbox me at any time. :-)
Good Luck!!!
thanks for the inbox again!
15(almost)/f
okay so i am like cupid to all of my friends. i mean they love me for it. but i can never.. ever find a way to be cupid to myself. its to the point where im not even happy for my friends that i set up because all i want to do is find someone for me. what can i do?!?
you should tell your friends that, maybe jokingly. Theres nothing wrong with asking them to hook you up, especially because your friends are hooked up with guys already, they will be able to focus more on helping you. Next time you see a cute guy, go for it and try to get him for yourself, not for your friend.
Good Luck!!!
im planning on getting braces beacuse one of my teeth are growing inward but my question is what are spacers? what do they do? where do they put them? and do they hurt?
,angelica
DarbyAnswers is right, I have never had them, but a ton of my friends have. One of my friends had a metalic one that he used a tiny key he used to widen the spacer, but he had more servere problems with his teeth. As for the pain, well braces hurt alone haha I have had them befcre, so spacers aren't going to be much more pleasant. The pain will vary, but it shouldnt be that bad. Oh and spacers slowly separate your teeth, or if your teeth arent aligned properly, they help move them back into place. They are usually step one on the road to getting braces.
17f
im really into soccer, i have been playing for about 3 years now, would it be stupid to get a small soccer tatoo somewhere on my body? where would i put it? you can say its a stupid idea, i just want opinions.
I dont think thats stupid, I think that if thats what you really want, then you should go for it. just make sure its what you really want.
for school i have to complete 5 hours of service to a non-profit charitable orgaization. what are some good places to voulenteer besides a soup kitchen, nursing home, or animal shelter?
Habitat for Humanity is a really amazing program to get into. Look it up online, Im sure there is a program guide somewhere near where you live. I have worked with them, and its great, you basically help build homes for under privilaged families that cant afford them.
also go to your local animal shelter, its really nice to help out there too.
Good luck!!!!!
My mom won't let me get a pocket bike. She said she would think about it and then I asked her again and she said I don't know if I'm going to let you get it because it sounds too dangerous. I need somthing to convince her to let me get it because I want it soooo bad right now.
I feel for you, I went through the same thing with a trampoline, and other things (even though I never got the trampoline haha) this technique works for alot of situations. Get a powerpoint on microsoft word ready for your mom, about why pocket bikes are safe and fun. Or you can just tell her, or make a speech on paper, trust me it works.
Now you might be wondering: "Good idea, but how ARE pocket bikes safe?"
well luckily for you, I found you some websites about how they can be safe and fun at the same time. take some of the good (non dangerous) points from the websites I provide below, and use that information to convince your mom.
and remember, she said she would (key word) THINK about it, which isnt a definate no.
Good Luck!! xosodapopx3
websites:
http://urbanscooters.com/cgi-bin/urbanscooters/pocket-bike-safety.html
http://urbanscooters.com/cgi-bin/urbanscooters/pocket-bike-info.html
http://www.pocketbikes.info/pocket-bike-safety-rules/
ps
maybe some chores around the house would help your mom decide :-) also, maybe you could offer to help out with the cost if needed.
Ok there is this friend were ONE minute...they are so nice...and next they are mean and snotty...i also hear from other people that they are talking bad about me and making fun of me...idk what to do...should i just never talk to them again?..HELP
well it seems as thought there is alot of drama going on right now. how liable is your source that is telling you other people are talking about you behind your back? could they be lying? The best thing to do, is not become total enemies with these girls, but distance yourself. Limit how much information you give them about personal things and gossip, if it is true that they are talking about you behind your back, talking behind theirs is just adding fuel to the fire.
Good luck!! if you need any more help or advice, inbox me at my column, xosodapopx3
i have a girlfriend who i'm very dedicated to. but my friend, also my ex, has a beautiful ass. i want to do so many things to it. what can i do to engage in activity with her without it being considered cheating?
if she rubbed it in my face would that count?
or let me sniff it?
any ideas?
at this point, even holding her hand would be considered cheating. your best bet would be to focus on your girlfriend, and not your ex. try embracing what good quality features your girlfriend has, and what bad ones your ex has.
I have a friend who is really depressed and suicidal. It really freaks me out when she comes to school with scratches all over her arms. I really care deeply about her, but lately I've wanted to just give up. It hard to keep telling her everyday, "You look great, you have lots of reasons to live" and then see her puke up her lunch and cut herself with razors. Do you have any advice as to what I should do?
Unfortunately, this is a situation far beyond you, and me, and anyone here on advicenators. The best thing you can do for your friend is to tell someone you really trust, an adult that you really trust to help you. she needs professional help right now. you have done a great job supporting her, and now you need to do the right thing and help her get help, asap!!
good luck! let me know how this works out for you!
Anyone know any good "I gave you my heart and you threw it away" songs?
I found a website that lists a bunch of songs for you
http://bluesweetpie.tripod.com/
Its over- jesse mccartney
leavin- jesse mccartney
daughtry- over you
all american rejects- gives you hell
hope I helped, good luck!!!
ps
kelly Clarkson has really great songs for that, almost all of her songs haha.
hilary duff sings a song called "last christmas i gave you my heart." but thats kind of holidayish.
beyonce also has some songs like that.
hey.. i am 14 and i have a huge problem! ... three years ago me my sister and her friend were playing truth or dare. My sisters friend got dared to kiss me on the lips (both of us are girls) i was only 12 at the moment and she was like 11 ... IT MEANT NOTHING TO ME and it was like a little peck ... not a real kiss EWWW i am sooo NOT LESBIAN !!!!!! and i never will be. i am still friend with her and it didnt matter what happend, BUT my sister saw it ... and is black mailing me. i am now 14 going on 15 and the other day she said to my mom that i kissed (her friend) another girl (her friend) !!! just to get back at me for something. I DONT KNOW IF MY MOM BELEIVES HER... but i am scared everyone thinks i am lesbian BUT I AM SOOO NOT EWWWW!!! i have had a boyfriend and all ..... my sister definitly thinks i like her friend BUT I DONT !!! it was a dare... and she did it to me... it was like not even a second long... and it is RUINING MY LIFE!!!!! and this happend 3 years ago.. I MEAN GET OVER IT!!! (sorry i am just blowing off steam l o l ) :p Answer A.S.A.P. ALSO I DENY EVER WORD OF IT ... i always say she is lying and it never happend ... but what if people beleive her LIES!!
What do you think?? What should i do?? PLEASE ANSWER A.S.A.P.
thnxs:
I completely understand the situation you are in, i never kissed one of my friends, but my sibling has accused me of being lesbian in front of my family before. honestly, she doesnt really think you are a lesbian, in fact, she knows it. the only reason she is saying it, is to get a reaction out of you which she did. (dont worry my sibling got a reaction out of me too.) dont worry about your family believing it, let them believe whatever they want, just tell them the truth, that your straight, and even if they are suspicious, they will find out the truth soon enough when you get a boyfriend. As for reactions go, considering your sister aknowledges the fact that it bothers you when she says that about you, even if you dont react the next time she says it, she will probably continue to say it for a little longer just to see if she can crack you. next time she says something like that and you are around your parents, just act cool calm and collected, and say, no im not. It might not seem like progress is being made with the blackmailing to end, but it is. also, try to be the bigger person, always stay calm, and you will be golden. try not to let what your sister says effect you too much, and definately dont take it to heart, shes just busting your chops, trust me, i know haha i have a sister and brother of my own. things will be back to normal in no time. and try to just stay low for a while, show her that you are more mature and she will take to your example and start acting nicer.
good luck!!! let me know how this works out for you!
xosodapopx3
I am throwing my boyfriend a small surprise birthday party on Monday. He is turning 19 and I wanted to do this, but I don't want it to cost much. I am taking him to Disneyland next week sometime so I don't want to invest too much money in this (I am an 18 year old college student if u get my drift...kinda broke here haha) so if u have ANY (Anthony can help!) ideas of inexpensive ways to decorate etc, that'd me great. I'm only wanting to spend like 20-30 bucks =\
Thank you!! =]
any dollar store will have really great decorations, also party city will have some cheap stuff, if you buy a pack of 72 balloons for about 6 dollars or a little more, then it will look like you will have alot of decorations! then you can get some extra stuff like banners which is cute. They have this really awesome disco ball balloon thats only 3 dollars! Streamers are only about 2 dollars. glow sticks are fun things to get too, and are only about 5 dollars.
http://www.partycity.com/cgi-bin/parties/decorations.cgi?parties=70's%20-%20Disco&productstype=Decorations&products=272666&&zoom=1
^disco ball balloon
another idea is to ask friends coming to bring 5 dollars or so for food costs, or you can just plain ask them to bring some drinks and food, this way you can eliminate that cost.
good luck!!! let me know how the party goes!
So my boyfriend is moving.we've ben together for 9 months so this is tough. so me and him had some beer rite and it was only because i was really upset. and my clothes ended up coming off.
and i got caught by the cops and my parents find out. i told them i was sorry and i never wanted to do it again but they just won't give me the chance to prove it to them.
How do I make this better?
Your parents arent going to be upset forever not to worry! Trust me when I say go out of your way to be extra happy and nice to them. Time is the biggest healer in the world, just let the situation linger for a little bit, right now its too fresh for them to forget about it. If I were you I would start by just simply hanging out with friends at the mall or something simple like that, that will start to build the trust between you guys again. Good luck!!!!! let me know if you have any other questions or concerns :-)
I need advice quick I am not to skinny but then I'm not fat either I just wanna get tonned up so what are exercises I can do to lose the little extra I have in my thighs and buns I want them to be tight and really firm?
squats
the super man - lay on the ground on your stomach, lift your legs (and arms if you want)
for a bigger challege, chop your feet and arms while lifting them.
bicycling
wall sits- put your back up against a wall and sit like you are sitting on a chair (without the chair of course)
mountain climbers- get into pushup possition, then keep moving your legs (without moving your body) in a fast pace like you are running or climbing up a mountain
stool jumps- take an object (such as a stool) which is low enough for you to be able to jump on, yet high enough for it to challenge you. make sure it is secured to the ground, and use both your legs to jump on the stool and then jump off.
running up stairs/down stairs
dont know what this is called, but lay on your back, and lift up your legs. for a harder challenge, move your legs around in the air while lifting them. it helps if you spell out names or objects. for example: spell out (your name) with your legs, it sounds silly, but it really works, trust me!
Hope this helps, good luck!!!!!
do dogs like being touched on their tails?
It definately depends on the dog's preferance. I know dogs that think it means play time haha and start twirling around if you touch their tails, i know other dogs that get slightly defensive if you touch their tail because they dont know what are you doing.
I dont think my dog really cares because he never does anything when i pet his tail..he ignores it haha.
what else is there to do besides tic-tac-toe, paper football, paper airplanes, note-passing, and hangman?
theres connect four, where you set up a certain number of columns and rows on a piece of paper, and you and a friend have to keep putting dots on the paper in the rows/columns until you get four in a row.
the game dots is fun. its where you make a certaint number of dots in some number of rows and columns then each player connects the dots with lines, forming boxes. whoever makes a box owns that box. whoever has the most boxes wins
this is what it looks like:
http://www.freshapps.com/_img/iphone_apps/screenshot/1247-200811141030095.jpg
good luck!
So me and this girl have been talking online a lot lately and texting, and I really like her. I'm getting some signals that she may like me back, although I'm not exactly sure. She's gone for the summer but she'll be back in about a month. Anyway, I'm kind of shy, which is why I prefer texting and chat, but people say I should call her. Do you think I should call her? What kind of stuff should I say? Does it matter if its really short or will that make her mad?
You should definately call her, that will "light the flame" haha and send her the signal that you like her too, and it will reassure both of you. You can just call her as friends if you are shy, ask her how her summer is going, ask her about where she has gone, where she is staying, if she met any friends, how long she is staying for, and if all goes well and the vibe is good, finish off the convo with "well maybe when you get back we could hang out?" or something like that. then you will both probably start texting alot, and looking forward to seeing each other.
Good luck!!!
I was wondering how people can take a color pic, make it black and white, and have one thing left that is still color.
& anyone know of any photo editing softwares that i can download straight off the internet??
thanks in advance
there is this site called picnik. its amazing and free and you dont have to download it. some things you would have to pay for if you wanted to, but theres really no reason to pay money.
If you have a facebook just type in picnik in the search engine and you can connect to facebook with it automatically.
good luck!
Hi, i found a baby iguana on my back porch, and i want to keep him but i feel bad about it. it says that iguana parents leave the baby and never return, so i figured it is ok since he has no one to go back to. should i keep him or not? and i was wondering if i let him go will he come back (like cats) to my house or just leave and not come back?
well i would definately not let it go if you decide to keep it as a pet, the poor thing would not survive. the mother mostlikely is not coming back. if you keep it, i highly urge you to bring it to a vet, just to get it checked out. then i would look up some info on iguanas to know what to feed it and how to properly take care of it. i would also buy a large cage you can temporarily keep it in if you decide to keep it. i will include some links you can look at for information:
http://www.geeky-boy.com/iguana_blurb.html
http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art31944.asp
http://www.reptileexpert.co.uk/KeepingIguanasAsPets.html
http://www.howtodothings.com/pets-and-animals/a2583-how-to-care-for-iguanas.html
http://www.greenigsociety.org/credentials.htm
also, if you go to your nearest pet store, you can ask them information on iguanas for further research.
Good luck!!!
okay so im feeling like a change and just want some unbiased opinions since my friends are all split down the middle...
should i go lighter and curlier?
http://img189.imageshack.us/i/blondecap.jpg/
darker and straight?
http://img31.imageshack.us/i/brunettez.jpg/
or keep it the way it is...
http://img40.imageshack.us/i/img5727u.jpg/
(sorry for the weird faces, i tend to do that in self pics)
i think that you should keep your hair a really dark brown color, even an auburn kind of color would look really good on you.
As for curly or straight, i like it straight better, but curly is really cute for a night out with the girls!
also, i think that if you part your hair to the side it would look sooo cute. I will include a website link as an example:
http://gas13.ru/v3/tutorials/hair9.jpg
^there is the link, obviously you can part your hair either side, and definately keep your length on your hair, its gorgeous.
take a pic if you try this!