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Still not sure what to do about this guy I like :(
Okay so I asked this question on here already..the questions were helpful, but I still need some help, so I'd really appreciate if you'd help me out! :). So, this guy liked me ever since 5th grade. I know this because all of his friends told me and when they said it right in front of him he got all quiet and blushed. I never liked him that way because I was a lot younger..and just liked being his friend. We talked throughout the school years up until the end of 9th grade. We stopped talking mainly because, although we had the same classes..we just never had a chance to talk much. I am now entering 11th grade (so is he). I found him on myspace and added him. I like him so much now..I don't even know why! Anyway.. I commented him and said hello, he messaged me back and we had a conversation for an hour and a half. I had to leave though, so I asked him for his number, he said "of course you can have it" and gave it to me. Then I texted him and said "just making sure I got the number right, haha" he texted back with "yeah ha". I then said "what are you doing". He never replied after that..but I'm sure he was busy or something. My problem is..I don't know if he still likes me. My advice from many people was to talk to him more get to know more stuff about him before I bring up dating or anything like that. But, school doesn't start for another 6 weeks! So, all me and him could probably talk by is texting. How do I start learning more about him? How do I casually ask what he likes to do, what his favorite music is, etc. When I talk to people I sometimes don't know what to say..or run out of things to say. Please help me, and maybe give me some ideas on what to talk about. I don't want to ask too many questions though. Also, I don't know how often I should talk to him. I don't know how to even bring up the fact that I like him =/. Oh, and we're both pretty shy people if that helps. Well, thankyou in advance.
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First off,thanks for the inbox!!
It seems like you two could easily relight the fire with each other, right now, I think because so much time has passed and you havent been able to talk with each other much that you should keep talking to him to get to know each other better. As for topics, well you can ask him about his day and then talk about your day, if anything exciting happens in his day you can go off on a topic. For example: say he went to an icecream store. You could ask him what kind of flavor he got, then you could tell him what flavor you like and then you guys could start going off on a different topic by say "inventing" other ice creams. It sounds stupid, but trust me its not and it works, I have been in that situation plenty of times. Just say something like: I think it would be cool if they made (flavor) icecream. The topics will naturally start then. (Also if he hasnt done anything exciting, you could always bring up the ice cream topic regardless)
As for how often you should text him, dont over do the texting like 24/7 if you know what I mean haha. How long did you talk to him before? Dont be afraid to randomly text him and say Im bored, what are you doing right now? or something like that. You need to give little hints to him about having an interest, because the last time he had an interest in you, you werent ready (which is okay.) You can also just randomly text him and say, hey whats up, or I just thought of you because (reason). Say for instance (going back to ice cream conversation) your last topic you guys talked about was being in the mood for ice cream, and then you were in the car with your parents and you drove past an ice cream parlor, you could text him and say: hey I just thought of you because Im in the car and we drove past that ice cream parlor haha. Something corney like that. It might seem wierd or hard to do at first, but it will become natural dont worry. If he has a cute myspace pic, dont be shy to comment and say something sweet like: aww you look cute in this, but try not to overwhelm him by saying something like: wow babe this is hotttt. haha (I didnt think you would do that anyway, but Im just letting you know.)
Oh, and this is actually perfect that your school doesnt start for 6 weeks, because you have all 6 weeks to hang out with him, not just weekends. When you feel comfortable enough, you can ask him if he wants to go to the mall or catch a movie or hang out, whatever you want to do. Maybe starting a texting convo about movies you like would instigate going to see a new movie out. If youre not sure if he wants to go with just you and him yet, you could pose the question like this: "hey so do you want to hang out, or catch a movie? If you want, we can invite some friends."
this gives him the option of saying okay yeah lets invite friends, or well we could just go alone.
Considering you guys had a conversation for an hour and a half, its definately safe to say hes okay and comfortable with you texting him often, and going to hang out. If you are not comfortable asking him to hang out, you can try to have him ask you to hang by talking about something you really want to do, in the near future. For example, say there is a movie coming out in 10 days and you really want to see it, talk about it but dont make plans with anyone to see it, if he catches on then he will say, do you want to see it with me. (Note that most boys wont catch on to that, so dont take it as a bad sign.) When you guys hang out, dont think something romantic has to happen this time, just have fun. If there is chemistry the first time you guys hang out, thats great, but for now focus on just having a good time, this way after you hang out you wont feel akward to want to hang out again soon. As soon as say, next weekend, or four days from then.
I hoped I answered all of your questions thoroughly, if I didnt dont hesitate to ask me again, or if you need anything else, you can always inbox me at any time. :-)
Good Luck!!!
thanks for the inbox again!
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