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Virginity regrets?
So, I'm 17 year old female and I lost my virginity about a week ago, to a friend that I've known for 2 years. Now, I find myself getting so angry at him so easily, over the silliest things. We have kind of been in an argument for the past 3 days, and I really do keep insuing it. Could this be a sub-concious kind of anger, like that I'm mentally angry at him for taking my virginity? Is that possible? I've already had my period so I know it's not those hormones. I'm just trying to figure out why Im so mad.
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If you weren't really ready to lose your virginity, then maybe that's why you're subconsciously mad at him.
Talk to him, maybe he's feeling the same way.
--Jack
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Ask yourself why you are mad at him there must be a reason, Do you feel that you might of reuined your friendship? Maybe you weren't ready and thought you were? Did he pressure you into it? If it was wanted by the both of you and you weren't pressured then I would try to talk to him about it. I disagree with Unique, I don't think people get "mad" at there partners for taking away there virginity unless it wasn't wanted and it was pressured into doing so. It could be that you are upset because it is gone? I'm just guessing, My first time felt weird I wasn't angry but I was a bit weireded out for awhile. Talk to him maybe he can help sort things out.
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Well, I think most females feel a sort of anger when their virginity is taken by a male. Whether it was consensual or not. I believe that the anger is just caused by the fact that they have invaded your personal space. It's even stronger when it literally was the first time someone has ever seen you without clothes, or has touched you in a sexual manner. Your anger is probably because you're worried of what they thought, scared that they might go around talking about it, or maybe mad because you werent his first so there was nothing really special to it (???)... And as far as your sub-conscious goes, i definitely think it plays a major role in this situation. I lost my virginity at a young age and I felt so vulnerable, so robbed, and it just made me angry that I even let it go. It's sacred, and when someone takes it from you, you might not feel the effects until after the deed is done and you've had some time to think. If it's any consolation, don't be mad at your friend, especially if he didnt force it on you or anything. Dont be mad if hes not spreading rumors, or just being big mouthed or a braggart in general. Instead, push it to the side (trust me time will) and continue on your quest to find the man who will love you for the rest of your life (if that's what you';re trying to pursue:D). Good luck!!
Uniq
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where you ready for sex? did he force you into it. sometimes deep down after you have sex for the first time you think of your self as a slut and you blame the man because he is the one who took it. it doesn't make you a slut trust me. i had a child at 15 and pregnant with my 2nd now that im 18. i know im not a slut because i dont sleep around comfront the man about it your keeping your feelings inside.. tell him sorry you have been a bit angry lately you just dont know if you were really ready for what you two have done.
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