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You can ask me about ANYTHING, and I mean it. If I don't have an answer to give you, instead of making something up, I WILL find you somewhere to go where you will be able to find out what you need. My inbox is always open, and you are quite welcome to IM me on AIM. I think thats about all you need to know, but if you've got other questions...well...see above. =)

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I've decided to make a army tank cake, and we're going to play grenade toss (sort of like hot potato, but with a water balloon), and water grenade war, and they'll have to guess how many POW's are in a jar full of little army men. I'd like to come up with a game for the littler kids that can't participate in the water balloon fight. I was thinking of something along the lines of pin the tail on the donkey with an army twist, any ideas?

Put the hat on the soldier? Or maybe put the soldier in the tank.

16/f. Does anyone have any advice for a girl joining the Navy? When I turn 17, I want to join and just be a DEP until I graduate. What was bootcamp like, etc? Thank you.

Bootcamp is utter hell, but if you think you can just grin and bear it, Go for it. Just be sure you're ready to commit to that, because you will cause suffering to your comrades and possibly be dishonorably discharged from the navy, so think this out before hand.

there is a song and its like " I CANT MAKE IT ON MY OWN," repeat i cant make it on my own. and its like two guys playing guitars. so can you guys tell me what its called and who its by??

thanks in advance!!

Ohio Is For Lovers by Hawthorne Heights. "I cant make it on my own (I can't make it on my own) because my heart is in Ohioooooo" :)

For my birthday im geting my tongue, nose, and a whole bunch of ear peircigns. my question is, does anyone here have an industrial peircing?? I want one soo bad but im so scared of the pain, ive done my cartilidge before with a regular earing, and it hurt so bad i had to take it out, i cant imagine a 16 gauge (actually im not sure what gauge in inudstrial is) in my ear! and i also need some sites with a whole lotta different ear peircing pics on it because i want my ears really really really peirced haha.
thanks, you crazy peircing obsessed people who help.
=)

An industrial doesn't hurt any more than a regular cartilage peircing, but just remember that you have to do it twice. And I'm not entirely sure, but I don't think they use a 16 gauge in that. Its not too bad if you can stand a single cartilage peircing, but if you cant I don't suggest an industrial. I suggest you go to bmezine.com and look around for peircings either called "Industrial" or "Scaffold". There, you can read many stories of people that haven gotten that particular peircing.

I was wondering...what is the song called that the end of the chorus I think goes like "I'm beggin you, I'm begging you, I'm begging you to be my escape"? Also, who is it by, and do they have a cd?- what is the cd called? Thanks.

Its called Be My Escape by Reliant K.

I'm really into anarchy and im a member at anarchystar.com. Its really cool there and for the 1st time i feel like i belong somewhere.
My mom and i are close and i tell her a lot that goes on in my life, i've always had a hidden side to myself that i kept to just me. No one else, but now i feel like im pretending to be someone im not.
I dunno. I guess, should i tell my mom im into anarchy,and am totally against bush? I mean i havent told anyone how into anarchy i am. Is it a bad thing? Like, will people think lowly of me if they know im into anarchy?
I need help.

Part of being an anarchist is to stand up for what you belive in. So, if you are really into this whole anarchy thing, stand up for yourself! Don't be afraid of what other people might think of you. I wouldn't just randomly walk up to your mother and say "Hey mom I'm into anarchy" because then she might think that you are afraid that its bad for you. If you're having a casual conversation, and something comes up along the same lines, you could say something like "Well, anarchy, while some people think it means being destructive, I belive that it can be a good thing to be against our rulers, especially the current one." The only way when being an anarchist gets bad, is when you cause harm to people when revolting against administrations of people. Also, remember that anarchists aren't just against Bush, they are against authority in general. So be careful before you go around being all happy with your A in circle sign, that you can be against Bush but not other authority figures, because THEN that would be being someone you're not. Good luck!

OK, so i sweat really bad under my arms ... i think i have whats called hyperhydrosis. Besides diff. types of deoderants(and believe me, i have tried them ALL) is there anything else i can do to fix this problem? Please help, i start hs in 3 weeks, and this makes me really uncomfortable, and all i can wear is white tees, every other color shows the sweat. Please help me, i need it.

Ask your parents to take you to the dermatologist. They can diagnose you with whatever you have, and can also perscribe perscription-strength anti-perspirants. If you cannot get an appointment before school starts, and you feel uncomfortable, then go to your local drugstore (CVS, Walgreens) and ask the pharmacist what is the strongest over the counter ANTI-PERSPIRANT (you want that, it helps calm the sweat glands down) that they have. Use whatever they recommend, and what helps is to rub a little talc powder under your arms over the anti-perspirant. Try that, and remember, other people at your school have that problem, its common, so don't be too embarrased. =)

i was wondering if anyone knew how to cut pants into skirts. because i have like 3 pairs of pants that fit in the waist but dont fit in the legs. so if anyone could help i rate high!

Cut the pants straight across both legs at the length you want the skirt. Then, cut up each leg on the INSIDE (called the inseam) to the waist. Then just flatten it out and sew it together.

My vet keeps sending me postcards wanting me to bring in my cat to get her yearly exam and shots. Is this really necessary? When I was a kid, we never brought our cats to the vet. We live in an apartment, so my cat never goes outside or is exposed to other animals. So I don't see a purpose for these vaccines. She was just at the vet 2 months ago for an eye infection, so they know she is in good health. Is it really that necessary that I bring her?

Whether your cat goes outside or not, its best to keep it in check with its yearly vaccines. If you go without the vaccines for years, and then your cat gets sick, when you take it to the vet, they usually go ahead and give it the shots, which their bodys can't tolerate. My cat died from this, and this is why we take my other cat in yearly now. Even if it doesnt seem worth it now, it will be in the long run - as a precaution.

OK....i want to do gymnastics and im not very flexible. I am but not as flexibale as other ppl....anyway do you hav to be flexible to do gymnastics? And is it hard to learn to do gymnastics?? Plz help i rate high!

I do gymnastics, and I'm not that flexible either. You do have to have some flexibility, to do almost every event, even just bars or beam, but your coach should understand that not everybody can do their middle splits first time off. When doing something that requires flexibility, go as far as you can go, and DON'T OVER EXTEND, if it hurts, stop. And your coach should be fine with that. If you work at gymnastics for a few years, you will find that you become much more flexibile, but it will take lots of time. Until then, you should be able to do gymnastics just fine, but you may struggle with some things, but so do most other newcomers to the sport.

My mom and I fight alot,and when we do it's bad. She never wants me to have any style, she wants me to buy the cheap stuff. She doesn't understand that kids do tease you if your wearing a shirt with Barbie on it. I used to be known for my style at school but since my dads paycut she wont even let me get a haircut because "It Costs Money." I know it costs money, everything does, but there are something a girl needs like shaving cream and actual razors not like those crap disposable ones. It's not like we have no money whats so ever. We're just struggling, I buy all my own clothes and things. Its gettin to the point where she wont buy my the shampoo I need or the toothpaste I need. She always insists on the cheap stuff and I'm sick of it cause we always end up fighting about it. She thinks I need a job, but what job *besides babysitting* can a 13 year old do ?!?! PLEASE HELP ME. I know its long, but I'd greatly appreciate it.

You need to know where your mother is coming from, before you go storming off because you don't have the best. Be thankful that you at least still have that kind of stuff, because while here in America it might be considered a need, because we're a spoiled country, in other countrys, its just a want. You NEED a place to live and you NEED food. But if you would like to have money to buy the things like clothes so you don't get teased at school so much, then make sacrifices in other areas. Tell your mom that you'll be okay with buying the cheaper shampoo and toothpaste, razors, deoderant, brand of macaroni and cheese, whatever kind of those things, in which the more expensive brand is ACTUALLY, not that much better. Then ask her since you've been really good about that, ask her if you can get a couple new outfits. I also suggest Goodwill and other local thrift stores. They actually have some very "in" I guess you would say, clothes. Some of them are even brand new with the tags still on! If your friends are in love with what you're wearing, or how your hair smells, or anything like that, if you're comfortable enough, tell them where you got the stuff or whatever, and if you're not comfortable, just say thanks. Just remember that your parents are having to make sacrifices too, not just you. And while it feels like you're being the one thats mistreated, your parents have it a lot harder, because they're trying to provide for you and try to make you happy, while trying to find a way to balance the money. It also extra stress on them with you whining about everything, because then they might feel pressured to buy you the things you want, and then you end up with a much bigger problem than you're in. Just remeber that.

Ok I'm a sophomore and I've never been to a dance before..why? I'm embaressed and scared to dance...I don't know how! I have no butt so what's there to shake..(aha seriously!) When I move my sides, I look retarded...I don't know what to do with my hands, head, etc..very embaressing..I look so stupid..can someone teach me how to dance naturally without looking like I'm trying to hump something..ahh..thanks!

Just get out there, and kind of move to the music. Go with your friends, too, so you can talk while you're dancing and not just look like a moron. Dancing in a crowd, like at a prom or whatever, isn't like choreographed dancing. You just move. Thats about all the advice I can offer, its not really a think I can write down, you just need to go to a dance and try it!

I have the weirdest phobia (Well to me) I can not swallow pills. My sister used to have trouble with it too, but she eventually got over it. My younger brother has ADD so he has to have pills so he it's no problem for him. But when I was little I had choked on something and I blacked out before it was dislodged, and even though I know it's not going to happen just because I try swallowing a pill, I still have a "pill phobia". Anyway is there anything I can do that will help me get over it. Or just ways to make swallowing pills easier? I'm almost 15, and a sophmore in high school, and I'm still telling doctors when I'm sick that I need a liquid or chewable, I don't want to be an adult doing the same thing. It's embarassing. I have friends that won't swallow a pill unless they have to, but even if it was the only way, I'd rather just be sick. So if you have tips on making swallowing pills easier or just getting over the phobia, please let me know!! Thanks in advance!

I used to be scared of taking pills too, but there were some medications that I could not get in any form BUT pills. The way I learned to take pills, and the way I still do, is this: Put the pill on the VERY back of your tounge. Then take a big gulp of water, hold it in your mouth for a sec(your cheeks should be puffed out - thats how much water you should have in your mouth) and then just swallow. You wont even notice that you swallowed a pill. If its in caplet form, and you can't just take it regular by mouth, break it apart and put it on something like ice cream or pudding, and then just eat it. If it is in a regular pill form - something such as asprin, ask the doctor if it is okay to crush it up, and if so, crush it and put it in some food to eat. That should work for ya!

I am having some friends over today and there gonna be over for like 5 hours before our cheer practice and I have no idea what we can do I don't have a pool just a trampoline I mean I live in a place where we can go for walks and stuff but thats boring anty ideas on what we can do? I'll rate high

If its hot enough outside, put the hose on the trampoline and jump around. Or, if your parents will let you, also put a little dish soap on it, it makes it all slippery and bubbly, and extremely fun to play in!

how do you know if you have an std without getting tested

You may have symptoms of an STD that could maybe tell you, but to really know if you have one or not, and which kind you have, and to get proper treatment for it, you should be tested.

Is it normal to gain weight during or right before your period? I am 13 years old and I weigh 100 pounds. Is that normal? Now I weigh 103 pounds.

When you're on your period, or right before it, your body usually retains water. Thats why you often feel bloated on your period. Soon after it ends, you should be back to your normal weight.

I can write poems tell me what you think of this one
Alone
alone is where no one is there
you try to see but blind by glare
glare of your own soul and glare of your heart and then you realize that thers no start
you have no body or no friends you
relize now this might be the end u
nless you change whats inside t
his might be how you die
try to run but theres no escape
try to hide but you still wont wake
the darkness is everywhere
you cant see
blinded by you
and blinded by me

First of all, use correct spelling...

And, its alright, I can see the effort in it, but its kind of mixed up. I suggest going to www.poets.com, you have to pay for it, I think its 5.95 a month, but its worth it. You can post poems, and then people can rate it and give you feedback on it. Its a really great site, and if you like to write poems, I really suggest you try it out, it helps a lot.

Ok Well im going back to school on wenseday and i have this huge pimple on my face! i poped it but its still there i dont know what to do help!!!!!!

Well, first of all, if you MUST pop a pimple, use a smallllllllll needle or safety pin and puncture it like that, it wont leave a scar. Just make sure to wash your face and it should be gone by wednesday, thats plenty of time.

i have a bladder infection and i've drunk water and everything and it won't go away. is there anything else i can drink or what should i do. please get back to me..
*i rate*

Drink cranberry juice. Ocean Spray brand is the best. I don't exactly know why, but thats always what I was told to drink by my doctor if I had a bladder infection, and it did help. :)

How does anorexia harm you or your body? I know pukeing will stain your teeth but what else?? cuz if thats it, then whats the harm right?

Bulimia is the eating disorder in which you binge and purge - meaning eat and then throw up. Anorexia is flat out starving yourself. It can in the end, kill you. If you don't get proper nutrition, your body starts eating its own insides (sounds nasty, but its true) and can shut down main organs. Do you remember the whole Terri Shiavo deal? The thing that turned her into a vegetable in the first place was because she had anorexia, and then she passed out because her body didn't have enough energy to run itself. Not enough oxygen got to her brain for over two minutes, and her quality of life went poof, that fast. There's endless horrible affects of both anorexia AND bulimia. (Bulimia can harm your digestive system for the rest of your life, and make it impossible for you to eat, therfore killing you) and theres lots of harm in any eating disorder.

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