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When I rate people, I generally give all 5s, maybe a 4 or 2, and a 1 if someone is completely rude or didnt answer the question. Well..Let's say I ask a question and I get 5 answers. One of them is horrible, so it gets a 1 rating. The second is okay but kinda bad, so a 3 or 4. The next 2 answered the question and werent jerks, but the 5th wrote a 5 paragraph answer and included links to websites and personal experiences, etc. Should I rate the the 3rd and 4th people 5's like the 5th person, or should I give them fours because there was a better answer?
NOTE--Im rating all fives on this question no matter what (link)
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You lie!
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if you like someone but have a bf/gf is it considered cheating? jw. (link)
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No, but since you bring it up, I would rethink your relationship situation? Is the person you're dating really the one you want to be with? If you're not sure, then maybe you weren't ready for a relationship with said boy/girlfriend, assuming this isn't hypothetical.
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Recently I tried out a phone chatline service and had a conversation with a supposed police officer. he seemed to be cool, not one of those all serious by the book type guys, rather laid back and open about alot of things. especially, his "freaky-type" ecapades. here recently alittle too open. in a conversation this morning, quite early I might add. the phone rings and it's the police officer, expressing his desires to be intimate with another male. not wanting to scare me off, he put what he wanted to share with me in the form of a question. like "you might not approve of what I did this weekend with this young guy still in high school whose build was simply too desireable to pass up." I encouraged him to divulge more information. he went on to say that the guy was kind of hestitant at first. but later relaxed and enjoyed the experience. his plan is to see the guy again this weekend saying he was going buy the young guy a few things. I was shocked. the policeman even shared with me his interest in another young guy. but, because this one is 14 he may wait awile. what if anything can I do? I'm in Mississippi and the police officer is in Lousiana. he also shared when he was younger his male cousins raped him. after which he came to enjoy the feeling, and because the guys he messes with are so young he uses no protection. I really don't know what to do, this is a law officer whose duty is to protect and serve surly he knows the consequences of his actions, or maybe he's abusing his authority. (link)
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It's apparent to me that a lot of freaky people go on a lot of phone chatlines. I would stop answering this guy's phone calls. Do you have any information on this guy aside from his apparent pedophile escapades and his claims of being a cop? If not, then I would just end communication with this guy. There's not much you can do if you aren't sure who he really is. This guy is disturbed, why would you want to continue to talk to him anyway?
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okay so i have a boyfriend named aj and me and him havent been together that long, almost a month. the third time i met him i stayed the night at his house, and dumped my ex of 5months for him, and he was such an awesome guy at first and then things went down hill. im grounded for a month but i have the computer and phone back, and he's grounded for a month, no phone or computer, and he lives like an hour away so i only meet him every once in a while. is this relationship worth it? and if it is, how can i make it work? also im a big flirt. Just cant help it. (link)
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I suppose it's impossible to decide whether or not the relationship is worth it when you aren't in it. A few questions:
Do you know if the fact that your a big flirt bothers or would bother him?
Is keeping up such a long distant relationship interfering with school or work?
Are there any guys that are potential boyfriends near you or do you find yourself thinking of someone else more?
Do you find yourself drifting apart from the uncontrolable distance and time apart from being grounded?
Most importantly, can you see yourself as fine without him?
If a lot of these are yes, then I would strongly consider a break. If not, then the relationship is definitely worth it.
In my honest opinion, I think most relationships, especially those at a late high school or college level which I imagine this is, are doomed to have a ton of problems when they're long distance relationships. It's a time in one's life when they shouldn't allow themselves to be devoted to someone else. If they are, choices are generally made for the benefit of the relationship instead of the benefit of the individual.
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So how do I get someone to jump on me? Do I have to take my clothes off and dance around naked? (link)
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I don't know. Being jumped on sounds a little too painful. Though I think if you took your clothes off and started dancing, someone might be a little weirded out... or not. It's hard to tell unless you're actually the person this is in reference to, heh. Maybe he's not the type that can easily jump on his best friend, or anyone for that matter.
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How do blind people know when they're done wiping their butts? (link)
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They don't, really. They use a different type of wipe when at all possible that provides a more thorough clean. Other than that, they have a set number of wipes in their mind.
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what does o.g stand for? like when people say "we're o.gs" thanks. (link)
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openly gay... and there's nothing wrong with it
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So I have this problem. Everytime I'm at home, I lay in my bed -- but I can't wear pants! I absolutely hate wearing pants.
What should I do???? (link)
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Hmm. Why don't you wear mustard.
[mustard]
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You are stuck in a room with no windows or doors. a solid room. Only things in this room is a mirror and a table. how do you escape?
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You look in ther mirror and see what you saw. You take the saw and saw the table in half. Two halves make a whole, and you climb out the hole.
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UR a MEANIEPOO (link)
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3y3 n0 n0t wut u speek uv
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my sister & I have been so excited to buy harry potter & the goblet of fire on dvd & we did today. my sister opened it and watched it, and then realized that it wasn't the version that came with special features! i want the version with special features, but i don't think we can return it to the store if it is already opened (the plastic is off). i'm not even sure if the specific store we bought it at (strawberries) sells the special feature one, so i'd have to buy it somewhere else. what should i do??? is there anyway they will take it back?? (link)
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First of all, do you still have a receipt? If you don't, you'll have to buy it somewhere else. If you do, you might find a return policy on it. A lot of stores are lenient when it comes to returns if you're exchanging it for the same relative item. Now find out if the store has the special edition of Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire. If it does, tell them you'd like to exchange it for the special edition. If they allow this type of exchange but don't have the movie in stock, see if there's a way you can order it. If not, then look elsewhere for it.
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uz tha ting of da dai!
What should I wear to school tomorrow!? (link)
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Spray paint yourself green and... that's it! I hoped I helped
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I know that people say you are too young to be in love. But does that mean I can't tell my boyfriend that I love him?
13/F
Thanks so much !! (link)
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Love is a very fluid concept. It can take on many meanings and most of the time definitions only hold true to an individual. If you think you love him, then you love him. A year from now you may think otherwise on your feelings for him now, but that has no bearing on today.
If you feel you love him, tell him you love him.
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Warning ahead of time, this will be long.
I am 22 years old. My brother is 21. He still lives at home with our mother and I am out on my own in another city and going to college. Things were o.k. between us (somewhat fizzling but still ok) until I moved out, which was this past October. My friend is also his friend and he told her that he thinks I should not be allowed back at the house ever again. Every time I have visited, he locks himself in his room and turns off the light and will not come out to eat or use the bathroom or anything because I am there. My mom and I were having a good time once when I was visiting and when I left he put her through a guilt trip saying how could she just ignore him and have such a good time with me when he was literally sick because I was there, but he wont even answer his door because I am there for anyone.
I am beating myself up trying to figure this out but here is what I know. First of all, I have always been good to my brother and treated him well. I am actually the reason he is friends with my friend. My dad, on the other hand, has sort of ignored him through his childhood, although my mom and dad divorced when he was 10. My dad has payed some of my bills to help me get through school. While he was paying them, my brother asked him for money a couple of times and was turned down because "he didnt have enough". But he has given him money as well. My brother said to me "I think sometimes he cant give me money because he is helping u." I feel especially guilty about this now but I would have to quit school in order to live! I would have to give up my dreams. I think that dad owes it to us both to give us both money but that is a different story. And I told mom to tell him (he wont talk to me) that I would end my relationship with dad for him and he said "what does that have to do with anything?" But then he said it is because of dad in a way. But he also says the whole family abuses him, which is absolutely not true. He says he would be happy to leave and not know any one of us ever again, including mom, who has been nothing but good to him his whole life, who has tried to make things fair for him, who has worried every day for him.
He left with his friend on thanksgiving and didnt spend it with us. He locked himself in his room on Christmas and didnt open his presents for days.
I wrote him a letter trying to reconcile (though I dont know what happened between us). To summarize, I told him how much I cared and worried about him and he could write back saying anything he wanted and I promised not to get mad. I just wanted to know why he hates me. Well, I didnt have his email address so the friend who is both mine and his friend sent it to him, and here was his response:
Okay, you know what? I'm really quite upset at the moment. You have absolutely no business trying to play mediator between Amber and I, regardless of whatever relationship you have with either of us. You know quite well that I want to put all of this behind me, and how much pain I've dealt with in-between. You know how hard I've searched for the motivation to fight my adversity long enough to get the hell out of this miserable hell-hole. However, suddenly trying to bring her back into the picture certainly won't help, and you had no business trying to involve yourself. I don't care what you say about it, either -- you were involving yourself the moment you agreed to send that message, which I won't bother to read. The mere notion that you feel I owe it to Amber to read that message makes your position in all of this quite clear. Don't pretend to be neutral about it -- that won't absolve you of your involvement in this. Not in my eyes...
Moreover, she has no business trying to contact me. She and I have no relationship and, for that matter, anything which could be reconciled. That should have been apparent enough. Regardless of sharing the same blood, it does not matter; I would readily put my entire family out of my life, rather than be forced into suffering by their ongoing nonsense. I don't care what anybody says -- there is no excuse for what I deal with. My family is far, FAR lost to me, and I have no hope of ever reaching out to them. I want to move on, and be done with this for good.
Lastly, I expect you to turn right around and judge me for being such a thoughtless bastard, as you can't stand the thought of me turning my back on my own family. Well, I don't owe any of them shit. Quite frankly, you don't know what goes on in my life, and the years of abuse which I've had to endure from practically everybody. I suggest that you stay far away from this issue, and let me get on with my life in peace. Don't try to convince yourself that this is something which it is not, either. I'm telling you here and now what it is -- abuse. There is no other name for it. I have taken my stand against it, and if Amber can't accept to acknowledge the truth, then she would be better off covering her ears and eyes and living in delusional sollitude.
Let me make something clear: It's over with. Please, leave it alone and do not involve yourself any further. I would prefer never to revisit any of this again.
That was his response to her, not me. He would not even read what I said.
I know I havent been a perfect sister, but he hasnt been a perfect brother either, and I would never expect that of him. I have never, never abused him or his emotions in any way. I have always cared about him very much, and I have always wanted what is best for him. I still do, but part of me is so angry that he couldnt care the same way back. If you need me to tell u anything else, just ask. I am trying to make this short as possible for your sake. I desperately need advice. He wont talk to me and wont read my letters. I dont know what to do. Im afraid the longer this goes on, the worse things will be. (link)
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This is an unusual problem. It seems to me that your brother clearly has behavior issues. To me, he seems to be overreacting out of jealousy towards you. He wants to get out of the house, but currently can't bring himself to do it or can't find a way to do it.
The money issue
You most certainly not feel guilty about taking money from your father while he can't do the same for your brother. This is all out of necessity! You need this money, so naturally your father wants to help. You're brother doesn't, he still lives under your mother's roof. Had the money issue with your brother been an emergency that might be understandable, but it's not coming off this way. Correct me if I'm wrong. And why would you end your relationship with your father because of this? Just curious, it seems there's more to that than you're mentioning.
His reaction to the letter is an overreaction, obviously. Coming from a slightly abusive background and being fully aware of close friends who have seen worse, I can see that even if he had it as bad as he claims, this would still have been an overreaction. He's not being logical.
You're right. The longer this goes on, the worse he may become, though I'm not sure how it could be much worse. Since there's no explanation for his behavior or accusations of abuse, I'll assume this is all in his head. Somehow his perspective became clearly contorted and he seems to be trying to find pity from somewhere. The only thing I can think of is to talk to this mutual friend and your mother about different ways to get him to find psychological help. Maybe you can talk to an actual psychologist about the best way to approach this instead of this site. I'm not sure how helpful anyone's suggestions can be coming from here, and it's clear the wrong suggestion could make matters worse for your brother.
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Hey there! Currently, I'm experiencing feelings of disinterest towards the things I once enjoyed in life.... It's like, I don't really care for school, when it used to be the most important thing, and it seems like, the things I once valued so highly and such, like my ambitions aren't as important as it used to be. Is there anything wrong with me? What may I do to change this perspective? (link)
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This is a common problem and usually a temperary one. It's a big early sign of depression. If you find yourself uninterested in anything or you feel this feeling getting worse, I would talk to a counselor about it. A lot of people try to cope with such feelings, but ultimately make it worse by keeping it inside.
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I just want some opinions on this:
Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?
I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.
What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea. (link)
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"How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman?"
I can see how this would bother you, but it's really his choice. If he wants to go to a strip club to see naked girls dancing, then he's already being turned on by other women. If he doesn't want to go, it isn't an issue. I would let him go, but make sure it's in the company of friends, mutual friends if possible. If he goes with people you're both friends with, they'll definitely keep an eye on him.
As for controling his thoughts and desires, that's not possible.
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ok theres this boy, lets call him matt. matt likes me and has a big crush on me cause during my youth group hes always make me hysterical laugh cause he knows all the lyrics to any song and he sings funny. so one day i offered him some mints and hes like "ill only take one if you be my girlfriend" it was so sudden. and trust me hes not my type, he stayed back 2 years in school and the only reason i offered him some of my mints cause i was to all my friends n i didnt wanna seem rude. now all of a sudden he does these gross sexual movements near me and winks at me. i feel really uncomfortable with him doing this to me and it embaresses me, he does it infront of the whole class to me. i try to tell him to stop and its disgusting, but he cant get it through it dumb immature brain. no hes not retarded, just immature. how can i show him that im really disgusted n i want him to stop? (link)
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Sadly, some guys don't get it until someone else is entered into the equation. If it's really bad, tell a teacher, counselor, parent, anyone of authority. That's sexual harrassment. Trust me, from that point on he'll either stop on his own or it'll be easy for you to find someone who'll stop him.
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Alright, I have this guy friend that I met at work, and we started hanging out alot. He would call most evenings and we would either go to eat or hang out at his place, whatever. This went on for a few months, and alot of people at work assumed we were dating since we always were together, and showed up at work together all the time. I liked him alot, but I could never read how he felt towards me. I mean, he wasn't afraid to let other people know he didn't care to hang out with them, so if he didn't want to hang out, he would have definately said so, he is pretty forthright like that. We always had a lot of fun together, and I felt very safe with him. He never let me pay for anything when we went out, so it seemed like they were dates, but we never hooked up or anything like that, we were just generally affectionate towards each other, like hugs or holding hands, stuff like that. I always thought was kind of odd that he never tried to kiss me, its not like we're in middle school, we're both in college, and he's not a shy kind of boy. But at at the same time I thought it was kind of sweet and kind of like old fashioned courting. But anyways, that wasnt the problem... suddenly he just stopped calling, and wouldn't return any of my phone calls. I don't see him at work anymore, though we usually had pretty different schedules anyways. I haven't heard from him in over a month and a half or seen him, and I am kind of worried. I can't think of anything I did wrong, but maybe I made him angry somehow? Its like suddenly I don't even exist to him, and I can't even ask him whats wrong because he won't answer. I stopped trying to call after I left him like 3 voicemails after not trying hearing from him the first week. So, I guess my question is, what should I do? I could give you more details on the situation, but I don't want to make this excessively long. (link)
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Based on what you're telling me, I don't think you should do much of anything. If you did something, he clearly doesn't want you to know. If he doesn't want you to know, you aren't going to find out. It's up to him to let you know.
If you literally never see him, as in for all you know he's disappeared off the face of the earth, I would ask some people how he is just to make sure. Maybe ask some people you see at work that you mutually know or people from his shift.
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My friend has been taking pills that some, or many of you, are familiar with. The street name are "triple c's" or "skittles". I think theyre called 'Coridicin Cold and Cough' or something, and what gives people their 'high' is the dextrophine or something close called that. Well, She steals them out of walgreen every day and swallows about 16 of them every day or every other day. I, myself, have only taken 6 in my life and I learned it was a very stupid decision and that I will never take them again! But my friend on the other hand, I think, is becoming very dependent on them. Shes been doing this for about a month or two, every day taking more. She keeps telling me and herself that she'll stop but she just won't. She is my best friend and im really concerned about her health and what permanent effects these pills can have on her. So what i need is some info and/or sites that give me the dangers, etc. of taking these pills. Thank you guys so much i want to help her. (link)
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I did some research on some government and education sites.
Side effects of Dextromethorphan (DXM):
Nausea, diarrhea, vomiting, and allergic reactions, Hot flashes, dizziness, and bad trips, Psychotic breaks, Psychological addiction and depression, Irreversible brain damage, coma, and death.
Irreversible brain damage, coma, and death are rare cases, but still possible. I hope you can help your friend.
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I just started seeing this guy not too long ago, and last night at his house we were talking about sex and I asked him how many girls he'd been with, and he said 10. Then he just told me (I didn't ask) that he lost his virginity when he was NINE years old! I guess I started freaking out a little, and thought he was lying and I blurted out "How could you do that?! You were still a little boy!!" And that really hurt him and he got this sad look on his face and I just wanted to shoot myself for being so mean to him. He kept saying it was okay, but I will still never forget that look on his face...
Well later that night he was driving me home and ALL I could think about was how young his was. I don't know my feelings about it fully, but I know that no 9 year old should be having sex or even thinking about it. I don't know why I'm still bothered about this, I'm trying to look past it but every time I think about him, I think about this. I don't want to, I really really like this guy and I want it to work out.
So the question is: How do I get past this? Have any of you been in the same situation before, or similar to it?
Thanks for any and all help! I'll rate good! (link)
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People are different. It's not uncommon to be curious at a young age; curiousity is actually quite normal, especially for young boys. Of course 9 year old shouldn't be having sex, but that doesn't mean they aren't going to naturally think about it if they come across it.
So, when it comes down to it, he was a little too curious at age 9. If I were you, I would talk to him about it a little more to get passed it. Does he regret it now? Does he feel it's okay to have sex at 9? Does he think it's wrong?
If that's the case, I would think of it as a child making a big mistake, since that's what it was. This was years ago (I'm assuming), so it isn't as though he's in the same state of mind now. It should be no problem getting passed it in this case, in time.
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