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odd behavior
Alright, I have this guy friend that I met at work, and we started hanging out alot. He would call most evenings and we would either go to eat or hang out at his place, whatever. This went on for a few months, and alot of people at work assumed we were dating since we always were together, and showed up at work together all the time. I liked him alot, but I could never read how he felt towards me. I mean, he wasn't afraid to let other people know he didn't care to hang out with them, so if he didn't want to hang out, he would have definately said so, he is pretty forthright like that. We always had a lot of fun together, and I felt very safe with him. He never let me pay for anything when we went out, so it seemed like they were dates, but we never hooked up or anything like that, we were just generally affectionate towards each other, like hugs or holding hands, stuff like that. I always thought was kind of odd that he never tried to kiss me, its not like we're in middle school, we're both in college, and he's not a shy kind of boy. But at at the same time I thought it was kind of sweet and kind of like old fashioned courting. But anyways, that wasnt the problem... suddenly he just stopped calling, and wouldn't return any of my phone calls. I don't see him at work anymore, though we usually had pretty different schedules anyways. I haven't heard from him in over a month and a half or seen him, and I am kind of worried. I can't think of anything I did wrong, but maybe I made him angry somehow? Its like suddenly I don't even exist to him, and I can't even ask him whats wrong because he won't answer. I stopped trying to call after I left him like 3 voicemails after not trying hearing from him the first week. So, I guess my question is, what should I do? I could give you more details on the situation, but I don't want to make this excessively long.
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Based on what you're telling me, I don't think you should do much of anything. If you did something, he clearly doesn't want you to know. If he doesn't want you to know, you aren't going to find out. It's up to him to let you know.
If you literally never see him, as in for all you know he's disappeared off the face of the earth, I would ask some people how he is just to make sure. Maybe ask some people you see at work that you mutually know or people from his shift.
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Let me make sure Im up to speed on this...You liked him he liked you (obviously or yall wouldnt of been going out- if he's paying then it's a date, I think any girl would agree with me on that) then just poof he disapers out of your life. I can see why your asking, that was kinda' messed up for him to do that. It would be easier to let go of him had he been a man and gave a explanation as to why he didn't want to continue seeing you. Chances are he found someone else. I didn't want to be the one to tell you that but you asked me for advice, so im giving it to you honest. Does he have a cell phone and do you? If so, text message him and ask him what was up with the way he just kinda' disapeared. He might be willing to answer you that way since he wont have to actually talk to you. Or you could try E-mailing him. If you don't get a reply- just let it go. I know that's easier said than done but it's just sometimes, whatcha gotta do. Good Luck -Also, if you feel there is more to your story that you want to tell me to better understand what happened, and you think would change the outcome of the advice that I have given you, feel free to ask again...
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I think if your able you should try to meet up with him at your place of work. Just tell him if he doesn't want to see you anymore that's fine but you would like to know what happened.
Since everything seems to have been going very good between you two his behavior really doesn't make a lot of sense. I can understand why you would be concerned.
There is the possibility that he is gay. Maybe he felt you were getting feelings for him and he didn't know how to say anything.
The possibilities are endless. You won't know until you ask him about it. If all else fails maybe you could ask a fellow employee who works with him. Have them find out why he refuses to answer your calls or talk to you.
I hope you find some answers soon. Good luck. :)
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