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I use to date this boy and we broke up so whatever. I was really hurt and cried all the time but now I am getting better. I really don't even like him no more. But.... He is going around telling people that I sucked his dick. (itz not true at all) I just don't know how to handle this. Everybody sayz to just ignore it and all that stuff.. But I can't. We go to the same school so I have to face this EVERY DAY. Its dayz when I don't even want to get out of bed because I know what I have to face. Can anybody help me? I am 14 years old, a female and in the 8th grade.
Please somebody.. I don't know how long I can handle this. (link)
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Wow.
I'm really sorry about this situation. He shouldn't be saying all of that because it is really unnecessary and damaging. The only thing that I can really say to you, is that in life you have to live for yourself. As hard as it may be, you have to ignore the opinions of others. You have to know that as long as you know what really happened it shouldn't matter what everyone else thinks that happened. I know it isn't easy, but you have to be strong. If anyone says anything to you, then simply tell them that it isn't true and if they don't believe you, then there is nothing that you can do. This is just something that you have to face and let go so that it doesn't affect you. When people see that you are strong and confident and don't care what they think, they will stop constantly mentioning it and everything will be back to normal. Anyways I wish you the best of luck and just remember that you have the power to handle this.
All my love.
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I've been extremely interested (like, "Guy of my dreams" interested) in this guy in my theater department for several months now, (He actually used to be my neighbor from across the street, but I was too shy to go and talk to him) and we chat here and there, and we DO have a lot in common, and I truly see potential in us being together. However, I have absolutely no idea how he feels about me...one minute, he doesn't seem to know I exist, and the next, we're having a deep conversation...there HAVE been times where I THINK he's dropped hints, but my anxiety has prevented me from responding...I'm afraid to tell him how I feel because,
A: Being rejected sucks, but I think being the one who has to reject is even worse, and I care about him too much to put that on him. I realize that's not going to get me anywhere, but it's just the way I am.
B: I'm too darn shy, and
C: I've had experiences where guys have completely ignored me after I told them how I felt...I don't think he'd be that way, but that experience has taken a huge chunk out of my confidence level.
Anyways, I suppose what I'm trying to ask is,
1: What would be the most obvious hints a guy would typically give? (so I can avoid confusion in the future)
And 2: What can I do to prepare myself to approach the situation should I ever decide to confront him about my feelings?
Thanks everyone, I realize that was a really long post... (link)
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Hi :)
Ok, so I am assuming you two are semi-friends or acquaintances? That's a good start. Sometimes people take time to develop feelings for another person while other people can develop them quite quickly.
Usually guys are pretty obvious. If he talks to you a lot, stares at you often, or tries to hug you a lot then he probably does like you. Personally, I would wait a bit until I knew the guy better, just to make sure you can still be friends even if it doesn't work out. Let him come to you. If he seems too shy to ever be the type of guy to say anything, then you will eventually have to face your fear and tell him. I know this can be very scary but it's better out than in. Having a secret crush is simply annoying! Haha you only live once right?
What I did, was try and wait for the guy to make the move. It wasn't working out at all. He was completely shy and it seemed like he didn't like me when he actually REALLY did. But he would never put it out there, so I had to take the initiative. I told him one day over aim (lame I know) and he responded well. So next time we hung out I kissed him and eventually....he asked me out. Some guys are just super shy so sometimes you have to face your fears and go get what you want. Anyways, I don't think you should listen to your past experiences of how things could go wrong, because you can't live in fear forever. Life is about action. Go get him girl! hahaha
good Luck
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ook. so. im 18/f and my boyfriend is almost 19. we were together a year & a half broke up for awhile and now we've been back together for a few months. ok so some time before we got back together i was looking through his phone [which he doesn't like but he's done it to me and i usually have to beg him to let me see it which automatically makes me suspicious but im pretty positive he wouldnt cheat on me but still. and even if i just want to see it to put a banner on there or look at pictures or anything it's not like i go out of my way to spy on me i pretty much trust him] ANYWAYS his brother and cousins and friends would send him those forwarded texts that have the nude or topless girls or even girls that supposedly are "his brothers friends" that end up being sent to him where the girls are laying there naked or feeling on themselves or whatever. well i told him that those are disgusting and i dont like it and if we got back together then i'd really rather not see those in his phone. well we got back together. today i was looking through his texts to read the funny forwarded ones and stuff and what do i find? a whole SLOO of those forwarded texts of naked girls from people. i felt sooo bad. so i said "i thought i asked to not to have these anymore if we got back together?" and he said "its not my fault people send them to me" but they were locked, so obviously when he deletes his inbox they stay there, but he said thats just so he can forward them on. there was a couple from this one guy who i guess is one of his friends and after them there was a text saying "that's all the ones i have like that" or something along those lines so im wondering if he asks for them? i mean he doesnt seem like the type but.. he doesnt watch porn or anything he's really just not that type. sometimes he'll say something smart like "well you wont let me see yours!" [talking about boobs] but thats not entire true but it sorta is but thats because i was raised to have some respect and i dont like all this trashy stuff! not to mention im very self-conscious even though he tells me im the hottest/most beautiful girl he's been with. BUT STILL am i wrong for being upset at this? i realize he's a guy and blah blah but shouldn't he have some respect for me? and if i say anything about it he either kinda blows it off or brings up the fact that i have posters of guys in my room, but those are like the kind that you pull out of cosmogirl or seventeen where if anything the guy just has his shirt off.. compared to completely topless or nude girls.. i find that pretty different? this whole thing just makes my insides turn, am i completely in the wrong here? thanks & sorry so long! =/ (link)
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I am in complete agreement with you. The thing that is most wrong with this is that you have told him that you do not want him to be looking at them. To me, this is a form of cheating. It's emotional abuse because look at how its made you!
You need to have another serious conversation with him about these pictures. I think that it is ridiculous. Maybe he wouldn't go out and cheat on you but this isn't right. And you say he really wants to see your boobs. If he asks you all the time, that means he is pressuring you into doing something that goes against what you want to do. To me, this seems like he is a bad boyfriend and I think that you deserve much much better. So, I suggest talking to him and if he won't stop all of this, I think that you should break up with him. Anyways, good luck and know that you should always put yourself before anyone else. Hope you do the right thing.
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kayy i really like this guy but he sees me as a friend so how do i get out of the friends zone?
thanks
loveboys (link)
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Well, you can try flirting with him and being cute, because sometimes people can become attracted to eachother over time. I've had a good friend for a while who at first I didn't feel attracted to at all. But the more I got to know him, the more I realized what an amazing person he was. And now I really like him and he's liked me all along. So, I say you give it time, he may eventually like you. But at the same time, he may never see you that way. There is no way to be certain because only time will tell. But for now, just be yourself and have fun with life. Don't worry about it. Just take it all day by day. Good luck girl.
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is there any good way to tell someone you like them without straight up saying i like you? i think it would just be random, and i'm 18 and have never told ANYONE ive liked them before but i've decided i need to tell this boy. i've liked him for three years now !! its a confusing situation but i just dont want to be random about it so id like to know how people have told others they've liked them, and how it worked out :) thanks! (link)
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Oh, I know what you mean, it does seem a bit awkward and random to say. But who cares?!!? Life is awkward and random! This is what I do. If you and this boy are talking or something and you are semi-alone or alone, then you say, "Hey can I tell you something? It's kind of weird so don't get freaked out okay?" By this time the guy is very curious to hear what you have to say haha. So you say, "Yeah I kind of life you..." When I said this, the boy totally went bright pink and says "REALLY?!" hahaha. It was cute. Anyways, I say you just go tell him. If he doesn't like you too, you'll be fine. Best of luck to yah! :D
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I have depression. It has alot to do with the fact that my father left me when i was little with my mom (who has paranoid schizophrenia). I was taken from my mom by child services when i was 2 and put in foster care for 3 years. Then my grandparents took me in and they are about the most disfunctional people you've ever met, little by little im being driven insane in this house. Everyday they tell me that im useless and selfish and ungrateful for what they have done for me, like i asked for this life and asked for them to take care of me! For the last 11 years (im 16 now) i've been given visitation rights with my mom for an hour every 2 months and in those visits i am the biggest bitch to her. I blame her for everything that has happened to me and for not caring enough about me to take medicine for her illness. When in reality i know none of its her fault and it makes me hate myself even more for thinking it, shes sick and she cant help it. For the last year i've been cutting myself, only one of my best friends knows, and have been put into therapy. Right away my doctor noticed that i should be put on medicine but my grandparents wont let me and im like a ticking time bomb. I lash out at everyone and i push away everyone that i ever cared about. I was such a bitch to my mother that i drove her to move, to Ireland! She moved 4 weeks ago and i just found out the other day, she left me just like my father did, without so much as a goodbye. I have nothing left, no body and i just want to die. I want to kill myself but i wont, im not strong enough to do it. What im basically asking is, how can i get help? I just want to be happy, how can i do it? (link)
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I am so sorry to hear all of this but I'm happy that you are looking for help. Depression is definitely something that can be cured so you should have strong hope that everything will get better. I really believe that the outside is a reflection for how we feel inside. When you're parents left you at such a young age, it left a scar inside of you that you seem to have been repressing. By getting mad and blowing up on other people, it is your way of dealing with those emotions that you never fully dealt with. This doesn't make you a bad person. For a long time I was the same way, because I had a lot of suffering inside of myself and I took it out on everyone. As a result I lost my best friend and distanced myself from my family. I really urge you to talk to a psychologist (which it seems like you already have) but also to form friendships with people in your school or area. Depression is a lot easier to overcome when you have someone close to you that you can talk to and who can help you think rationally. One day you'll be able to forgive your parents for leaving you and put it behind you. And after that you will be less angry and start to feel genuine happiness in your life. I wish you the best of luck with this and I know that you will make it through this. If you have anytime I'd also recommend you read a book titled "The Secret" because it really helped me. Have a great 2009. Don't lose hope.
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explain what this is trying to say:
You’d have to loose a lot more than weight to fit in those jeans- Sometimes i feel helpless but this gives me hope and sometimes i feel so optimistic but her exclamations leave me drooling exasperations And she leaves me so confused and she leaves me so confounded but she leaves me with the thoughts that will lead me to withstand it Should those ribs show through again I’d take a breath and I’d reach in I’d clutch her heart I’d never let her go I’d clutch her heart The world would never know Id pull apart these trivial dreams of skin and bones and magazines this devil inside her id give myself to kill him this devil inside her id give myself to rid her of him Oh how i resent you Eddy Oh how i envy you You hold her like i never could You reason as i never would You courted her with past successes Of drunken broads and empty messes So tell me please So tell me dearest Where’s the holy water? The vials splintered in her soul Just find me the pieces And i’ll make it whole
coming from a boyfriend to a girlfriend with an eating disorder (link)
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Wow, I really like this. Where is this from?
Anyways, I think the very first sentence, "You’d have to loose a lot more than weight to fit in those jeans" means that the girlfriend has to let go of her high expectations of herself. Often people with eating disorders suffer with low self esteem and want some control over their lives, which they feel are falling apart. This boyfriend is saying that she has to lose those fears and the need to make herself perfect. Eddy sounds like a past lover, a friend? Maybe the boyfriend envies Eddy because Eddy always knew what to say and what to do to make her feel better. Her boyfriend wants to desperately help her through her problems but doesn't know how to. "Where's the holy water? The vials splintered in her soul. Just find me the pieces And I’ll make it whole," this part is about him wanting to find a cure for her, something that he can do to make her realize that she can be happy. He loves her a lot and wants her to lover herself too.
Hope I helped. Happy New Year
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Im a 14f if it helps.. So recently I've started to like this guy again. I've known him for three years ablnd am just getting to know him the end of last year (school time so around April). I have a ton of crazy friends and he is definately one of them. We flirt. Every time I get a chance to see him actually :) He is hilarious and likes to joke around and whatnot. We have some things in common like football, music, ect. Sunday (27th) my best guy friend michael had a bowling party. ( he is the class clown and still manages to get straight a's and student of the year) Ofcourse he was invited and we got to bowl in the same lane and stuff. What I like about him is that if he's good at something he doesn't show off like an idiot. He's 14 too. Okay so the real problem is that lately he is all I can think about. Everything seems to remind me of him. Especially when me and my bestfriend went bowling again with some other guys and she ended up with a date. I'm happy for her because this is what she has been waiting for for months. He used to like me... Anyway last night made me realize that I'm tired of waiting for the guy to be a gentleman and not do anything until they're sure u like them. I thought I should tell him how I really feel. This would be m first bf and I'm scared of regection. How the heck am I supposed to so this? And what's not an akward way to tell him? Also I need help standing out and I want him to notice me. I'm already outgoing and do crazy stuff but when is it going overboard and does he really notice me ? (sorry it's so long, I needed some background) thanks for any help (link)
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Well if you want this guy so badly, then I say you go for it. :) Yes, there is a chance that he will reject you, but that's life. I, however, am a firm believer in getting what you want. So, I say when you guys hang out again and it comes time to say goodbye you can either tell him, or you can just kiss him on the cheek right after you hug him goodbye. But if you kiss him, don't just walk away. You should wait to see how he reacts. If neither of these methods appeal to you, you could also just keep flirting but more aggressively such as; telling him he's hot, hugging him a lot, sitting really close to him, ect. Make it obvious. Some guys are just really shy about making a move so you have to do it instead. Anyways, best of luck to ya! And if for whatever reason he doesn't like you like that, just tell him it's cool and that you can still be friends. Life goes on and on so you'll be fine. Peace
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(I'm 16 female and the boy's 17)
So during the summer, I met this boy who was everything I ever wanted. We both did the same activities, we watched the same tv shows, we both thought the same things were funny. Plus he was probably the sweetest guy I've ever met, he's so nice. He was perfect for me and I was so amazed that I found him. So he asked me out when school started and from then till probably late November, things couldn't have gotten better. We were in love, we lost our virginity to each other and it was just so amazing being with him, he meant everything to me.
So here's the bad part, he lives probably like 30 minutes away from me and he is the busiest boy ever. His schedule is so jam-packed, it's like he's a business man, not a high school student. And during early December, it started getting really rough. He would get up do homework go to school go to rehearsal (we're both theater people), go to another rehearsal, get back at like 10, do homework and then he was just so tired that he would fall asleep after that. He never answered his phone. He only called me once per day and it was in between car rides. And our conversations would last 5 minutes. I had to drop whatever I was doing when he called me because I knew that's the only phone call I would get. And he was texting me less and less.
So I started confronting him about it. I didn't want to because I know it's not his fault that his schedule is so busy, that's just his life but I mean I had to tell him what was on my mind. I told him that I felt like we were drifting apart, and I didn't want to because I loved him. I told him that i know he was busy but if he could please spare like one weekend where maybe I could drive up and see him. And then he would get defensive that I was blaming him for something that wasn't his fault, but I really didn't mean for it to be that way, I just really badly wanted to see him or talk to him for maybe more than 10 minutes. It felt like I had to take a number to tell him about my day or something. It felt like I was just apart of his busy schedule and not a priority in his life.
It was getting worse and worse because our conversations were becoming less happy and goofy like they always were. One time we were on the phone and I said "I love you." and then he said "Aw thank you!" Thank you?! After that, I knew we were heading downhill.
So, a couple of days ago he broke up with me because he said that he didn't have time for me and I deserved someone who would have time to be with me. I knew the break up was coming, but I didn't want it to. I loved him, and I still do. I told him, how can you break up with me if you love me? And do you know what he said? He said I love you like a best friend. WHAT?! When did that happen? What did I do that made your love for me disappear?! That hurt my feelings so bad, I can still hear it in my head. Anyways, he said that he really liked talking to me and that he wants to keep in touch with me like call me every once in awhile to see how I am. And I said no, I can't do that. How can I become buddy buddy with someone who I feel more than buddy buddy with? I hate it that we're not talking now but I feel that's it's the best choice for me to get over him.
So now that you guys know the WHOLE story, what comments/advice do you have for me? Please I need help because I'm so confused. Do you think I made the right choice? (link)
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I'm so sorry that this love had to end so suddenly for you. But honestly, I think that you deserve more than a guy who is too busy for you. The worst part about breaking up is that it makes life seem empty somehow. It feels like you lost a part of you because in a way you did, because so much of you was invested in the long term relationship. I know that it probably won't feel so great now, but soon you will start to feel really good again. It's really good that you've decided to get over him and move on because there is no use in holding on to something that you have no control over. Anyways, I wish you luck and you seem like a very mature person for your age, so you'll be back on your feet in no time.
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i asked a question with the same title once and you told me to write to you again. i put the question and you advice under to help you remember. i talked to the guy because he is in one of my classes this year and i heard that he has had a boyfriend at that time and still. i didnt even know he was gay and he doesnt seem like a gay. and i am upset that he is not bi and taken so i wont be able to be with the guy ever. help please
i like this guy
Question Posted Friday May 30 2008, 9:24 pm
female/ 15
i really like this guy at my school. i dont know him but i saw him once and i thought he was so hot. later on, i found out that a friend of mine knows him pretty well through her boyfriend. i talked to this friend and her boyfriend. they told me that this guy is really fun to talk to and interesting and intellectual and that mnay "pretty" girls approach him all the time but he is looking for something more. he is my age and both my friend and her bf said they dont think he has ever had a gf. i tend to get really obsessed about guys i like and i dont wanna get my heart broken. this guy is my dream guy though, both his looks and from all these great things i have heard and seen even from far away of his personality. he plays guitar and my friend offered me to go to his concert next week. i get picked up in the same place as him after school and i have wanted to start up a conversation but either i chicken out or he isnt there. for some reason, i keep seeing him a lot lately and although a lot of the time i do try to go to places at school where i know i can see him it is often a coincidence. my friends tell me that when i see him i stare and almost drool. i wanna meet this guy so badly but im afraid that if i do it at the concert it will look like another one of those awkward stalker situations that i feel like im in with him sometimes. help please!
I wish I could paint you a picture of understanding. You are at an important age of learning and interaction with other teens. Meeting guys is one of these challenges that you will find in your life. Do not be afraid though, this is a great opportunity for you and for him to meet someone new and interesting. Be the fun person that you really are and treat this fella' like any other person you are just meeting and becoming acquainted with. When you talk to him, talk with all sincerity, so that he can see your personality shine through. If perhaps you do not connect on a deeper level after meeting each other, then what are you to do? You are to continue your life and keep growing and expanding yourself into a beautiful woman. And you are also to write to me again =].
I hope that tomorrow will bring wonderful rays of sunshine to you.
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Hello again. Well I wish that there was some way around him being gay, but if you are certain that he is gay, then there is nothing that you can do to change that. I once believed myself to be in love with a guy that turned out to be gay and all I remember doing is crying and feeling like my life was over. Nothing that anyone said made any difference to me and I just wanted to die more than anything. I was like that for nearly a year until one day I realized that I didn't deserve to be feeling that way. After being sad for so long, I had forgotten what was important to me, and I had forgotten who I was.
But after all of that pain, I learned that I wanted to live for myself and for my goals and for my understanding. I think that life is such a beautiful thing, and there is so much that we have to live through and suffer, but there is also so much for us to enjoy and appreciate. So, although you can't change him, you can still change yourself. I hope that you take this pain that you are going through right now and use it to make your life even more amazing than it was before. You have so much left to see and live through than you know.
Take this one moment at a time, and honestly feel what you are feeling. "Suffer what there is to suffer, enjoy what there is to enjoy." Soon you will have suffered enough and you will move on to another stage of your life. But for now, reach out to your friends and tell them how you are feeling. They will be your guides through this. I sincerly believe that you will pull through this. I love you, take care. And if you ever need anything, write back to me.
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heyy, well let me start out no time soon am i looking for that magical kiss buuuuttt...i do want to no how to do it when the time comes so my 1st question is how do you do the simple kiss on the lips is it just as easy as it looks..just kiss?? and my other big question is how in the world do you kiss when you go all out (like french kissing) how do you turns your heads, what do you do with your tongue, what do you do with your hands??? PLEASE HELP!!! (link)
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Its seems like it would be hard, but it really isn't. A simple kiss isn't hard. You just pucker your lips and kiss. Easy :)
Long kissing isn't hard either. It's just something that comes naturally. When you are with the person that you like, it's almost like you automatically know what to do. You don't have to move your hands or tongue a certain way, because everyone has a different way of kissing. this is more of something that you just do, without thinking.
Hope I helped. Good luck ;)
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Kay, so I need a female, 2 min. dramatic monologe (link)
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I wasn't sure which one you'd like best, so you pick. :) good luck!
http://www.monologuearchive.com/dramatic_women.html
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alright, so i've been dating this guy for about a week, and everything was really great we were hanging out the first couple of days, holding hands, being cute, you know exactly how sappy every new couple is, haha.
but then the other day he just wasn't very talkative. i didn't mind it much because i figured he might've just not been in the mood for conversation. then the next day we were going to hang out, but something on my end got screwy so it didnt happen, but he went out anyways and just texted me every now and then the rest of the night.
but then today i asked to hang out and he said he was busy with something, which i understood and made small talk so i wasn't bothering him too much while he was doing whatever he was doing. so i stopped talking to him for a couple hours cause i was watching movies, and sent a text to him just seeing how things with what he was doing were going and he didn't answer, so i just assumed he fell asleep. well then it was 3 in the morning and i was online with my friend and he was on, sat there for a couple minutes, and then signed off. i thought it was weird that he didn't IM me or anything.
so its been like three days and just not much conversation has been going on and i just feel like if i don't hang out with him soon he's going to distance himself more or something.
i think i might just be being paranoid. i just need someone's views on it. i'm just getting some feelings of distancing, but that just might be because every time i tend to date/almost date a guy within a week something happens and then they just like, break it off with me. i think i might just like this guy alot and i'm worried, so i just need voices of opinions here, please. (link)
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He could possibly be going through some kind of emotional or family crisis at the moment and he is just feeling kind of bummed about it. Or it could be that he is distancing himself from you. The only way to find out is to wait it out a few more days. If by say Friday things don't start changing, then you should call him and ask him if anything is wrong. Tell him how you feel about him not talking to you. Anyways, I hope everything works out.
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what are some songs about starting over? (link)
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I'm not sure if they are exactly what you're looking for but here's a few:
November by Azure Ray.
House of Cards by Radiohead
Pictures of Houses by Tilly and the Wall
Looking for my life by George Harrison,
Alone Apart by Glen Hansard and Marketa Irglova
I hope that you find meaning in these songs. They really do touch my heart. :)
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i told this girl how i felt and she said it was the sweetest thing anyone has ever said to her but didnt feel the same way and ever since then she's been talking to me nonstop what does this mean? (link)
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It means that she thinks you are a sweet guy and she wants to be your friend. Sometimes when someone finds out that someone else likes them, they get so flattered by it and it actually makes them want to be around that person more. However, if she said she doesn't feel the same, then she doesn't feel the same. I know where you stand because I've had to stand there before in my life and all I can say is that you should move on as quickly as possible. It'll only make things worse if you hold on to the possibility that maybe someday she'll feel the same. I'm sorry if this came off as harsh, but I really only want what's best for you. Take care.
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15/f Theres this guy who i know is interested in me because he told one of our mutual guy friends that he wanted to know me and thought i was hott and stuff. I heard from the beginning he was a douche and kind of an asshole, but I was like whatever hes hott. Now that i talk to him more I see he can be an asshole but i think he would be nice to his girlfriend. I also have heard he likes to just have sex with girls. He seems like he could be a genuine guy to the one he wants because he said he is looking for a girlfriend, but im not cool with f-ing to find a girlfriend. Basicaly I just dont know if I should act like im interested and flirt or just dont do anything ? (link)
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It seems like you like him, but you are kind of concerned about what kind of guy he really is. Get to know him. Never go by what anyone else says, go see who he is for yourself. Once you do know him well then you'll know if you really like him. If you do find out he wants to have sex, then tell him you won't. He might not be too happy about that, but maybe just maybe, he'll forget about the sex and like you for you. If not, the ditch him, you are better than that. :)
Hope things go well.
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I am getting a guitar soon for my birthday and my parents want me to tell them what kind of guitar I want. It is going to be my first guitar that I will learn to play mainly on my own.
There are SO many different guitar brands like Gibson guitars, Ibanez guitars, Fender guitars, and Peavey guitars.
There are acoustic guitars and electric guitars.
There are even classical guitars, if I recall correctly.
What is the difference between acoustic guitars and electric guitars? Which is best for beginning on? Which is easier to play? Which is cheaper? Do they sound different?
Some advice would really help! (link)
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Personally I would recommend an acoustic guitar because it does not require and amp, which would mean one less thing to spend money on. They sound pretty different and it just depends on what sound you prefer. I think it's better to begin on an acoustic because they don't need to be plugged in to anything, so you can take them anywhere with you. As far as the brand goes, you should see what is in your price range and which kind looks better. I hope you and your parents find a perfect match for you. lol, your new best friend :D
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My friend, who never talks to anyone about his feelings and is very hard to get to open up, has just told me that he's feeling ignored by everyone. He seems really down, (and usually he is pretty happy) and like he feels like no one cares about him.
He keeps saying that he'll just leave it, try to forget about it and let it sort itself out. But I know these things don't work, you have to sort them out.
How can I help him? (link)
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You need to talk to him. And by that I mean have a real long deep conversation about what is bothering him. The best way to find answers is to first find the core of a problem. On the surface, problems are usually feeling upset, bored with life, angry for no reason, anxious, ect. But the real problems are harder to figure out, especially if you don't want people to judge you. In my own experience, I've always had self esteem issues but I would show it as extreme anxiety whenever talking to people and sometimes I would feel lonely and like I had no one to turn to. But I didn't know why, basically I just felt confused. However, my good friend told me that I had a problem. It wasn't easy to hear, because I don't like showing people that I'm weak. I used to pride myself on trying to be the perfect person. But then I found out how wrong I was. It turns out that ignoring the problem doesn't solve it, so you are right to want to help him. I hope that you can be there for him the way my friend was for me. It really does help so much when you know that someone understands you and cares about you. You should definitely try to work with him and try to find out the issues that are really bothering him, and then try to find solutions which he can use to gradually correct the problem. The most important thing when you are feeling down, is just to love yourself and to love life. When you look at life all together and see how beautiful it is, nothing else seems to matter anymore. I hope I helped you. :)
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ok so i like this guy and i think he likes me back. we havent talked to eachother yet though haha :) only smiles.
so i dont know how to talk to him. im very very shy and dont often talk to attractive guys, because of it. :S
we go home by the same bublic bus so i thought that's a good time?! sometimes hes with his friends though. so how should i start a convo ???? *_* (link)
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Just wait for a day when he isn't with his friends on the bus and say "Hi I'm blanky blank." then he will say, "Hi, blanky blank, I'm so and so."
I'm shy too sometimes and its intimidating when people are attractive. But you are attractive too and he probably wants to say something to you everyday but he can't because he is too nervous. The shy cycle needs to be broken, and you saying hi is the cure. After that you can pretty much say hi everyday, and there you have friend and potential lover :D
good luck!
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Well i am so friecken tired :[
im 15.
and i look like at lease 18 or 19.
at first i thought its because the way i dress.
(no that i dress sluty or anything)
but its not.
because the other day i was wearing no make up and in a regular shirt and jeans and this guy(looked at lease 20) came up to me.
i hate it.
because like guys my age dont even come up to me because they think im older.
and guys that shouldnt be talking to me do.
ugh >;[
well yah.
i dunno what to do anymore.
what do i do!
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Get bangs! Strait bangs will make you look so much younger. Works every time. And I know your stuggle. The other day at the gas station I was with my mom and some guy who was way over 20 kept talking to me. Then he asked me how old I was and I told him 15. The guy literally ran away, lol. He looked horrified. Anyways, get that haircut. I probably should too.
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