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i like this guy
i asked a question with the same title once and you told me to write to you again. i put the question and you advice under to help you remember. i talked to the guy because he is in one of my classes this year and i heard that he has had a boyfriend at that time and still. i didnt even know he was gay and he doesnt seem like a gay. and i am upset that he is not bi and taken so i wont be able to be with the guy ever. help please
i like this guy
Question Posted Friday May 30 2008, 9:24 pm
female/ 15
i really like this guy at my school. i dont know him but i saw him once and i thought he was so hot. later on, i found out that a friend of mine knows him pretty well through her boyfriend. i talked to this friend and her boyfriend. they told me that this guy is really fun to talk to and interesting and intellectual and that mnay "pretty" girls approach him all the time but he is looking for something more. he is my age and both my friend and her bf said they dont think he has ever had a gf. i tend to get really obsessed about guys i like and i dont wanna get my heart broken. this guy is my dream guy though, both his looks and from all these great things i have heard and seen even from far away of his personality. he plays guitar and my friend offered me to go to his concert next week. i get picked up in the same place as him after school and i have wanted to start up a conversation but either i chicken out or he isnt there. for some reason, i keep seeing him a lot lately and although a lot of the time i do try to go to places at school where i know i can see him it is often a coincidence. my friends tell me that when i see him i stare and almost drool. i wanna meet this guy so badly but im afraid that if i do it at the concert it will look like another one of those awkward stalker situations that i feel like im in with him sometimes. help please!
I wish I could paint you a picture of understanding. You are at an important age of learning and interaction with other teens. Meeting guys is one of these challenges that you will find in your life. Do not be afraid though, this is a great opportunity for you and for him to meet someone new and interesting. Be the fun person that you really are and treat this fella' like any other person you are just meeting and becoming acquainted with. When you talk to him, talk with all sincerity, so that he can see your personality shine through. If perhaps you do not connect on a deeper level after meeting each other, then what are you to do? You are to continue your life and keep growing and expanding yourself into a beautiful woman. And you are also to write to me again =].
I hope that tomorrow will bring wonderful rays of sunshine to you.
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Hello again. Well I wish that there was some way around him being gay, but if you are certain that he is gay, then there is nothing that you can do to change that. I once believed myself to be in love with a guy that turned out to be gay and all I remember doing is crying and feeling like my life was over. Nothing that anyone said made any difference to me and I just wanted to die more than anything. I was like that for nearly a year until one day I realized that I didn't deserve to be feeling that way. After being sad for so long, I had forgotten what was important to me, and I had forgotten who I was.
But after all of that pain, I learned that I wanted to live for myself and for my goals and for my understanding. I think that life is such a beautiful thing, and there is so much that we have to live through and suffer, but there is also so much for us to enjoy and appreciate. So, although you can't change him, you can still change yourself. I hope that you take this pain that you are going through right now and use it to make your life even more amazing than it was before. You have so much left to see and live through than you know.
Take this one moment at a time, and honestly feel what you are feeling. "Suffer what there is to suffer, enjoy what there is to enjoy." Soon you will have suffered enough and you will move on to another stage of your life. But for now, reach out to your friends and tell them how you are feeling. They will be your guides through this. I sincerly believe that you will pull through this. I love you, take care. And if you ever need anything, write back to me.
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