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hey i'm a guy hust wondering what kind of hair girls might like- long, short, spiky, whatever. Just say what you would like thanx!

I like guys with shags, or medium length hair.

Stuff like this - with the flippyness is hot.
http://images.askmen.com/fashion/trends_60/78_fashion_men.jpg

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First of all, I am Gina and im almost 15 years old. I have a boyfriend of almost 2 months. He lives 60 miles away from me. I am a girl and i am straight. I want to tell my mom that i had sex with him, but she would flip. I know that i shouldnt lie to her, but i want to see him again. How can i tell her that i did?
PLEASE help....

If you tell your mom you had sex, I'm almost 99 % sure you will not be allowed to see him again, for a very very long time. But if you must tell her, tell her you want to go to dinner, with just her and talk about things. Be like " Mom I need to tell you something very important,.. " and gradually lead into the " Mom, I had sex. "

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^^^^ seriously.

first of all, i should say that i'm nervous about relationships. i'm nervous ENTERING relationships in the first place and they never seem to go well. i have a hard time talking to boys and i'm really reluctant to admit when i like someone.

a few months ago i met this kid who we'll call brian. brian was really into me and made it really obvious. he was also really sweet about it. he opened doors for me, told me that i was the cutest girl he'd ever seen, gave me hugs about once every two or three seconds, made sure he ALWAYS sat by me no matter where we were, etc. he tried to get me to respond for two or three solid months. seriously.

i wanted to so badly, i really did. it was just that i was nervous, and when he flirted with me it was usually in front of my friends. my friend is best friends with brian and introduced me to him in the first place, so i felt weird about even thinking about going into a relationship with him. all of that made me pretty standoffish, and i was basically sat there and giggled like a retard while he tried to get me to give him a hug or hold his hand.

eventually he told my friend that he really genuinely liked me and thought i was gorgeous and so on. hearing that made me really happy because i genuinely liked him too. but i just COULDN'T do anything about it. i felt so stupid when i wanted to hug him or tell him that i liked him but i just couldn't because we were never alone. we were always with his friends or my friends, and more than often both.

a while after that he told my friend, AND me, that he was giving up. his exact words were something like, "i'm gonna give up now." :[

now he's talking to another girl. they aren't even close to being serious. he sees her maybe twice a month. i still usually see him at least twice a week but lately i haven't been seeing him much at all.

how can i work up the courage to actually admit to him that i'm interested? how can i even get him alone long enough to tell him? i really don't want him to date this girl and leave me feeling like an idiot for not taking advantage of a good thing.

any advice would honestly be really appreciated. &thank you to anyone who actually read this.

If you're with friends, just kindly pull him away from everyone and tell him you like him, and explain to him why you didn't do anything about it when he liked you. Just so you know, you don't have to be alone to tell him, mostly people aren't going to be listening onto your conversation that intensly. And once you get a boyfriend, you won't be as nervous, you kinda get the hang of it.

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I'm a ballerina, and my dance studio doesn't let you wear anything over your leotards (shorts, chiffon skirts, etc. NOTHING). Whenever I wear a tampon (i use playtex sport) with my tights/leotard it leaks onto the tights and you can see the blood around my inner thighs. It's embarassing. I can't wear a pad though because I can't wear underwear with my tights.

What can I do about this?

any advice will help.

You could try a different type of tampon, not the sport kind, and a bigger kind, like the super. Also, you could change it right before your practice and after you pee, that sometimes causes it to leak. If you want to wear a pad but are afraid of it showing, wear a panty liner. They are thin and won't show, but will deffinatly help. I'm sure you can wear that with your leotard, with out underwear. Hope I helped!

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what's a good shampoo/conditioner hair product?

I've heard these work good-

Herbal essences
dove
sunsilk
fructis
suave

My friend said that pantene actually makes your hair worse and fall out!!!

if you can, please rate how well each hair product i've mentioned is. thanks

ha, its funny because I love Sauve. I use the Ocean Breeze one, it makes my hair smell so good, and shinny, and really soft. I find it funny because I used to use the best shampoos and conditioners made, the ones at the salon for around $20 a bottle, and I like this better.

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So I just came out of a 24 hour relationship...Amazing, right? Not really. This is probably my 10th boyfriend and all of the previous ones have been jerks too me, I was so tired of it. Then this kid Gary was talking to me, and he dropped a few hints that he liked me, and then I dropped a few hints that I liked him back..But see, we only met once, and then we started talking on myspace and on the phone..
Then he was going to ask me out, and I told him I didn't really know, because if he met me after we started going out, he might think of me differently...

You know how someone talks to you for a long time, and you get a picture of how the person is, and then when you meet them, they're totally different?

Well that's what I ment, and he told me it wasn't going to be like that. He also told me that he'd treat me right unlike my exes and he's a really sweet guy too, and even like my friends that know him say he's really nice too, even my stepmom knew who he was, and said he was nice.

So he told me to don't worry because nothing will change, so we started going out. The next day we went to the pool and we started to hang. Normally I'm shy at first and then I get a little more comfortable. I thought everything was going all right, but like later he dropped another hint that "maybe you were right about us thinking that we are totally different then what we expected."
So i'm thinking, crap...

So later that night he broke up with me.
Great, he lied to me. BIG TIME. Thanks to him I'm like not trusting any guys for now on, because i've had 10 boyfriends who've done the same exact thing, and it's ughh...horrible!

So yah, he called, and said he only sees me as a friend. I'm just playing cool cuz yah know it would be retarded for me to start crying on the phone...Then he said he still wants to hang with me, like that'll happen! Normally I come to a point where I only have people who bring something into my life, why would I still want to hang with him? I wouldn't want to hang with him and pretend like everythings "okay"...
So yah, we were still on the phone, and he got another call, and I wasn't going to wait, so I hung up and turned off my cell and I started to cry...Pathetic, I know. But, I mean it's just hard how he said he wasn't going to be mean to me and lie to me and crap when he kind of did.

Atleast he did it now and not later so everything would be like worse..

And now I don't know what to do. I tell myself I don't want to date anymore 'cuz it's hurtful and nothing ever good comes out of it, for me...What should I do? I'm a nervous wreckk...ahh god here I go crying again..

Actually, he didn't lie to you THAT much. He told you it would work, it was what he was hoping and thinking would happen. Nobody, including him and you knew it would end that easily. Maybe he knew you weren't comfortable around him, guys can sense that, and they don't like it. Atleast, he still wants to hang out with you, and doesn't want to "hook-up," so he's not a jerk, at all. Everyone said he was nice. You should hang out with him, you don't just hang out with guys because you want to become bf/gf with them, you need to make guy friends, it makes you more comfortable around other guys. He wasn't mean and he didn't lie to you. Most guys are 84738 times worse than him.

So maybe you should stop looking for a boyfriend, and have fun with it.

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I really like these 2 guys and they like me but I can't decide which one to go out with:

A: Athletic, popular, preppy, my neighbor, REALLY funny, nice, his mom is friends with my mom, and really cute.

B: respectful, nice, anti-prep, into hunting, trucks, and violence, gets into a LOT of fights, "tough guy", and also really cute.

I know it's my choice but I want some input from others. Please try not to put just boy a or boy b. Give me your thoughts on them.

I'd go with guy A. This is because I have a lot more incommon with guy A than guy B, depending on what you like, I'm not sure who you have more incommon with. Personally, I'm not into guys that like hunting, but I like that he's respectful( B is. ) And you said guy A is funny, so that's a plus. Also, you'd be able to see guy A a lot, since he's your neighbor, and your parents are friends.

I'd go with A. Good luck!

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I never drank before yesterday but my friend had a bottle of gordans london dry gin and i took i big mouthful and swallowed it at once. I felt really sick and was about to throw up. It tasted like wood and my throat was all tensed up. I looked on the back of the bottle and it said 40% vol something. Am I allergic to alcohol or is gordans gin just strong? I did not throw up in the end. 13/m

Any hard alcohol, such as gin, whisky, vodka, etc. Causes your throat to get tense or hurt. This will also make you feel sick, or like you are going to throw up. You're probably not allergic. You sould have started out with a less amount, or a different type of alcohol, like beer. You could have also used a chaser with the gin - a chaser is a drink, such as any type of pop, or juice that you mix with the drink, or drink right after you take the shot of alcohol- this makes it a lot better to handle. Hope I helped! Oh yeah and all hard alcohol tastes terrible, I think.

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sorry, this is kinda long.


Okay, im in 8th grade.. but im graduating tomorrow.. so im pretty much a freshman.

This senior.. who is moving to college next year wants to hook up with me.

Hes like 17.

and july 22 is my half birthday so ill be 14.5

look at this convo on aim we had.

a= boy
l = me

A: dhcre;ugf re
l: shey
A: shey
A: ?
l: heyyy**
A: how you is
l: i is good, ytu?
A: pretty good
A: kinda bored tho nd really tired
l: same heeree.
l: i have graduation tomorrow :] are you going
A: y do like want me to go?
l: dont you have a brother in my grade?
A: no
l: oh.
l: nvm then
l: oh wait hes in 6thhh nvm.
A: yea
l: anywhoooo..
A: im
A: hot
l: c0ol
l: me too.
A: really
A: how
l: why dont you tell me
A: hmm idn ide have to see you
A: alone
l: oh reallyy.
A: mhm
A: wat do you say to that
l: when?
A: idn u tell me
l: well i cant tomorrow, thurs, fri sat or sun.
A: k
l: so idk afte rthat
A: mhm
l: waittt.
A: ughh
A: blow me psh
l: how old are you?
l: 17?
A: ya y
l: oh just wonderingg.
l: ew im only 14/5
l: 14.5*
A: soo
l: isnt that kinda wierd?
A: why
A: for what
l: that your like hitting on me?
A: who said im hitting on you
l: haha your likee.
l: i have to see for myself and that stuff then your like alone.
A: ok?

Do you think he wants something serious.. or just to get in my pants.

He wants nothing serious, no relationship, just a hook up. I've experienced this too, and they all just wanted a hook up. Anyways would you really want to date someone who is in college when your only a freshman ? You would probably never see him, since he would be partying with people his own age, and meeting girls his own age. And it would probably ruin his reputation if he went out with a 14.5 year old. This guy seems like a play, since he said " blow me psh " that tells you he just wants a hook up. So if you want a hook up, go to him. If you want a relationship, don't look for it there. Hope I helped

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S_C here (I answered your question on when GG season 7 would be coming out). I didn't think you would see it if I edited my answer, so I decided to inbox you. I'm an upper level mod so I checked your username (although I'm not really supposed to unless you've done something wrong, but this was my only other way of contacting you).

Anway, you said you haven't seen like any of season 7 - I can at least somewhat fix that.

Go to www.gilmorefan.com or to www.dragonflyinn.com

Both of those sites should have full episodes from any season you wish (but they're broken down). Anyway, that way you can at least see bits and pieces of the episodes. Just a heads up. Also, if you google "Gilmore Girls Movie" you'll probably be able to find something about it. First try googling with the quotation marks, if that doesn't help do it without them.

I just thought I'd give you the heads up incase you didn't know.

I'm going to apologize in advance if you think I invaded your privacy or anything by checking your username to send this. It's the first and most likely last time I'll do that.

S_C (Southern_Chickety_

That's okay, it wasn't that much of a private question. Thanks though.

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how many of you girls shave 'down there'? what age did you start and why?


thanks!

I started shaving when I was 12, give or take a few months. I started because I had got my period, its neater, and feels better being shaved.

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Well there's this guy at my school, and he's really cute and all. We're really good friends and I guess we sorta flirt with each other a lot? It's almost like we act like we're together, but we really aren't! One of my friends said 'Who are you top three friends that are girls' and I was first. I think I like him, but my friend does too and I'm scared if he asks me out, and I say yes, my friend will be mad. What do I do? (BTW, we've been like this for a whole school semester, and he still hasn't asked me out, so he might not do it, or he might, who knows?)

If he does ask you out, go out with him. Honestly, who cares about your friends because if it were the opposite way around, you know she would go out with him. Although, us girls tell our friend that we would never do that to them, we actually would, and do. I'm guessing that you're still young and there are going to be many other guys that you and your friend will like, so she would get over it. Just continue to flirt with him, and have fun with it. Hope I helped and good luck !

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ok so im home alone and the phone rang like 2 minutes ago and the EXACT NUMBER was:

Unknown Number
011442074275764

(i have caller id) and im thinking wtf kind of a number is that so i answer it and all i hear is static.. what couldve this been? you dont have to do this but can someone call this number and tell me what it is? because i'm too scared to dial it.. thanks for any help at all!!

It's a phone solisitor. (sp) There's probably nothing to worry about. It's just one of those people who try to sell you things over the phone.

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im going to sephora tomorrow. im looking for a mascara that will give me long lashes. mine are pretty short and i curl them everyday. so if possible, maybe could you find me a mascara that gives length AND curls?
please only tell me kinds that you have tried and have been extremely satisfied with.

thanks.
oh, and it must be sold at sephora =]

"Bad Gal Lash" by Benefit. I love it. It's made to look as if you have fake eye lashes on. It works amazingly.

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Hey,
I'm 16, and I live in England where the legal age for sex is 16. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 20 months now, and he is also 16. Physically, we take things quite slow - for example we were together for nearly two months because we had our first proper kiss (was my first lol)
Anyway, we've only ever made out and 'explored' with our hands if you know what I mean, and last Saturday he suggested going further....oral sex.
I'm comfortable with it, I'm just wondering whether you think its too young to be doing that, or if I should wait longer etc as I have read through some of your advice and I respect your opinion- its realistic.
I know that he's never done anything sexual with anyone except from me, so there's no need to worry about STI's or whatever, and we are in a good, loving relationship. He's a great guy and I want to do this, and I want to get closer to him.
What do you think?

I don't think this is wrong at all. If you both feel ready for it, then it shouldn't feel wrong. It's nice to hear that people are actually taking things slow in a relationship. If you need some help knowing about oral sex go to www.sextutor.com

And you're not too young, considering the fact that kids have sex in the 6th grade now. Which I feel is totally wrong. Good luck and hope I helped !

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SO, last year i dated this guy I really liked named kyle. at first eevrything was great. i became friends with his friends and i thought we were totally in love. he said he loved me soo much and that I was his angel. we met at a camp, and the next week at the camp was amazing. we accualy snuck out and watched the sunset together. so everything was perfect. but then one day he told me just for today he wanted to hang out with the guys. so that day i went with the girls. we were going to go horsebackridding but it got caneled so we decided to go down to the lake, but as we were going up the big hill I saw kyle on the bench making out with another girl. I got closer and started to cry right away me screaming "how could you" i started screaminng at him. while he said lanie, it is NOT what it looks like, I just ran away, but he chased after me, i ran to the girls cabin the boys werent allowed. my friends came with. he stode outside for a while, then left, as I was crying for hours with my friends. at times he would try to talk to me after that, but I just walked away. so a year later, he called me out of the blue, and asked me whats up. When i asked why he was callin me he just said "I dont know. i missed you." he also said he didnt have another girlfriend after me, and I was the only one he wants. and that hes TRULY sorry. I called his friends and they said that was true but i asked my girlfriends, and they said he was with a girl just the other night. idk. i found out he drinks alot now too. but honestly after the brake-up, i hurt soo much but never got over him. i dont know if I should give him another chance. should I? i just dont know anymore.

If it were me, I know I would give him another chance. I mean you love and miss him, so if you have the chance to get back together with him, you should. And if it were your friends in your posistion they would give him another chance too, even if they tell you not to do it, its just how us girls are. Go with what your heart is telling you. Start talking to him more, and hanging out with him more. Don't just jump into a relationship. Also, I'd have him explain to you why he cheated on you, if possible. You can't do anything about him drinking, a lot of kids drink. Hope I helped !

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hey, what are some really good graduation gifts? i am invited to three graduation parties one day after another and two of the girls know each other, so i can't get all three of them the same gift. i don't have any pictures with any of them cause my camera broke like, five yeras ago. friendship bracelets seem silly because i know one day i'll end up taking it off and never putting it back on cause i'll forget about it / it will get old. any other ideas? thanks!

Usually, everyone I know gives money. Something between 10-20 dollars is good.

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ok there are these shoes called crocs I think. they are those plastic type shoes that are like 8 dollars at walmart. people have told me they are comfy but i dont see it ... they are hard plastic basically. Are they really comfy? will they help me if im on my feet say, 9 or so hours a day?

Actually, the crocs at walmart are not the actual crocs. The actual maker Crocs are totally different then the ones you see at other places. The knock-offs aren't as comfortable or soft. The price for real Crocs are around $30. So I'm actually not sure if they'd be all that comfortable but, I'm guessing they will be fine and your feet will be comfortable.

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Kay I met this guy today. He's a year older than me. Well today after school we all decided to go to the elementry school thats next to our school. It was me, 3 of my friends, and him. I have seen him around school before, and he and defenatly seen me. Today, he kept sitting next to me when we were hanging out and he kept smiling. I really like him too, but since I JUST met him, would it be concidered "slutty" if I ask if he likes me after one day??

The definition of slutty means doing sexual things with more than one guy. This is deffinatly not slutty, whorey, or skanky..ect.

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i'm in what you could call a love HEXAGON. there's 5 boys and i'm not sure what to do i'm 15 by the way.. guy #1-he's cute sweet blahblahblah he's 19- yeah i know about the age okay? he just turned it this month. but i've called him beofre & 3 times a girl has answered his phone.. & i've chewed him out for it before plenty of times before. i was talking to him the other night & i layed down the law of how screwed up that was & he made this deal that if it happened again he wouldn't blame me for not talking to him anymore. well lastnight we were on the phone & someone sent him a wierd text message from a number he didn't know so he 3 wayed them while i was on the phone. it ended up being a girl & the convo lasted longer than it needed to so i hung up. HE DIDN'T EVEN BOTHER TO CALL ME BACK. so i sent him a text telling him i didn't want to talk to him again and that he was a jerk. he's been at work all day so i'm not sure if he's read yet or not.don't get me wrong, that is screwed up what he does, but he can be sweet.
guy #2- he's the PERFECT guy... in my dad's mind. he plays football, he's tall, goes for auburn, good head on his shoulders, & attractive. i just don't know if he's the perfect guy for me.. hes 16(just turned in may) & drove 20 minutes to see me for like 2 seconds before he got in trouble.. he really likes me and always calls & asks to hang out but i just don't know..
guy#3- he was my little 3 grade boyfran:) hes 15 he's too cute. we get in little fights and he just gets me. we're so alike and have so much fun together. the problem? he moved in 4th grade & we didn't talk until this year we happened to stumble across eachother. the bigger problem, he lives a good 30 min away so we both know we cant have anything.. but i know we would be perfect for eachother if we lived closer..
guy#4 he just turned 18 in may. hes not at the top of my list.. but something always drags me to him. we've been on and off for about 4 months now & i still smile when he calls or texts me. i just don't think he could be ready for a real relationship (hes sort of a manwhore). hes met my parents, first guy to in about 2 years & they liked him and stuff but i just don't know anymore..
lastly, guy#5- wow, he's been around since last summer. hes 16 & been my bestfriend since 6th (we were together in 6thgrade- cute right?) & we've both told eachother we love eachother blahblah but i got tired of waiting for him to ask me out. so i moved on to guy #4 in jan. now hes back & we're hanging out again, but i just don't think i have strong feelings for him anymore..

& let me just say i am NOT a whore. i do not "hookup" with all of these guys... & plus.. ladies is pimps too, right? but i think i'm just ready for one... but.. WHICH ONE?? HELP!

Okay well, guy #1 is someone I would be someoen I would normally go for, but he seems like a jerk, especially about the three-way call. And I know you know about the age thing, but believe me, I couldn't make a 3 year age difference work, not saying you can't though, its just a lot harder. Guy #2 seems perfect, but very predictable, ya know ? But very sweet. Guy #3 seems more like the "best friend" type. Sorry, there's not much to say about guy #4. And guy #5, you told eachother you loved eachother and he still didn't ask you out, so I don't think he wants a relationship, maybe I'm wrong, not sure?

Guy 2 seems perfect, and I would go for him. But hope & helped, and good luck with choosing!

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