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i made a mistake. &this is long.
^^^^ seriously.
first of all, i should say that i'm nervous about relationships. i'm nervous ENTERING relationships in the first place and they never seem to go well. i have a hard time talking to boys and i'm really reluctant to admit when i like someone.
a few months ago i met this kid who we'll call brian. brian was really into me and made it really obvious. he was also really sweet about it. he opened doors for me, told me that i was the cutest girl he'd ever seen, gave me hugs about once every two or three seconds, made sure he ALWAYS sat by me no matter where we were, etc. he tried to get me to respond for two or three solid months. seriously.
i wanted to so badly, i really did. it was just that i was nervous, and when he flirted with me it was usually in front of my friends. my friend is best friends with brian and introduced me to him in the first place, so i felt weird about even thinking about going into a relationship with him. all of that made me pretty standoffish, and i was basically sat there and giggled like a retard while he tried to get me to give him a hug or hold his hand.
eventually he told my friend that he really genuinely liked me and thought i was gorgeous and so on. hearing that made me really happy because i genuinely liked him too. but i just COULDN'T do anything about it. i felt so stupid when i wanted to hug him or tell him that i liked him but i just couldn't because we were never alone. we were always with his friends or my friends, and more than often both.
a while after that he told my friend, AND me, that he was giving up. his exact words were something like, "i'm gonna give up now." :[
now he's talking to another girl. they aren't even close to being serious. he sees her maybe twice a month. i still usually see him at least twice a week but lately i haven't been seeing him much at all.
how can i work up the courage to actually admit to him that i'm interested? how can i even get him alone long enough to tell him? i really don't want him to date this girl and leave me feeling like an idiot for not taking advantage of a good thing.
any advice would honestly be really appreciated. &thank you to anyone who actually read this.
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well just tell him! u dont need to be afraid of being rejected because you know he likes you, and prob still will. if you feel unconfortible telling him you like him yourself then have a friend tell him or tell him online, on the phone, text etc. well hope i helped!
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well okay you shouldn't ignore him. but if he doesn't like that other girl only tell him that you like him ask first if he likes that other girl..
just pull him aside like somewhere where there isn't anyone around and tell him that you really like you. because if you don't then he'll never know if you like him. i mean he likes you right? so just tell him. and explain to him that you were scared to tell him infront everyone that you like him and that.
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If you're with friends, just kindly pull him away from everyone and tell him you like him, and explain to him why you didn't do anything about it when he liked you. Just so you know, you don't have to be alone to tell him, mostly people aren't going to be listening onto your conversation that intensly. And once you get a boyfriend, you won't be as nervous, you kinda get the hang of it.
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well if he really did like you, you should have been able to feel comfortable, knowing that he genuinly liked you, not trying to take advantage, etc.
but ignoring him like that for 3 months just doesnt seem fair to him. if he's been trying to long and youre not responding to him, then his feelings are slowly going to get torn down. Read below
something this happened to me with a girl (i'm a guy). We liked eachother but lived an hour from eathother, and her parents would barely let me see her. 72 days went by of not seeing her, and to tell you the truth, my feelings just went down when i saw her. I mean i was in awe, but mostly because I ahdnt seen her in so long. it started getting less real, way too physical, and all without a solid friendship foundation. Eventually her mom got upset about some things about her seeing me or something and when i heard i wouldnt be allowed to drive up to see her, it ripped everything out of me, and from that point on i was no longer attatched to her. Thank God it did happen.
sorry for length.
My point is, you can only last so long without success. If he tried getting you for 3 months, and you didnt respond hes going to feel down, and feel like hes wasting time on you.
The only opportunity you have is try talking to him again, in a NON ROMANTIC way. when you start getting somewhat close (and i would NOT recommend rushing anything, thats asking for it to end early) then see if he'd be interested and try for yourself.
he may still be attatched to you and not know it. if you show him your still interested, he might try you again...
good luck! I hope things work out. you seem very nice :D
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