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Im not quite sure i understand why people wish at 11:11...help me understand please??????
and does your wish come true.

Ok this is the deal about 11:11
It is said that all the angels in heaven line up in heave and blow their horns at this time. This is why people wish at 11:11.
Here is some websites to check out on the subject:
http://astrostyle.com/Scopes/Other_Scopes/1111.htm

http://www.star-esseenia.org/articles/4%2011.11Plan.Asc.update2000.html

What would I be called if I believed in God (singular), but didn't recognize any sort of prophet or holy book?

Thanks.

I mean yeah... I looked at what other people said and you know it all sounded cool. My thing is, I am quite like you. I feel like the universe talks to me and teaches me the things I need to do. There is no specific group that I follow. I don't think any one prophet is like the one and only and there is only one path or anything. I feel like, you don't have to lable your self at all. People always want to stick you in a box. Like you gotta be this or that, and if you can't build that box for them then they can't function. I think that you should just be you, if people ask you, yeah I believe in a God. I don't know if it's your God or not but you know it's my God and it works for me. I don't have a religion, I just do me. :) That's what I say. Call your self what you feel. Truly though, it's spiritual...it doesn't even need words dude. Peace.

super long but thnx in advance.

13/f
anyways well i get really horny when i get my period and my best friend knows that because we tell each other everything. well tonight we were on the phone and this was our convo.:
HIM: are you horny?
ME: no... [i wasnt... really].
HIM: baby i dont have a shirt on and my abs they feel great, you wanna help me count em? [he has a six pack].
i was kinda in shock and didnt say anything.
HIM: ill do it for you [and he counted 123456 real slow.]baby, guess where my hands are?
ME: i dont know on your head..?..
HIM: no lower..
ME: on your feet?
HIM: higher.
ME: on your abs?
HIM: well one is, but the other its a little lower...
ME: um.. your ass?
HIM: i cant reach that. and btw im sliding the other hand down with the other.

he was just playing around but yeah it still made me horny lol, but technically was tht phone sex? thnx.

hahaha NO. Not even a little bit hahahahaha. That was more like, I'm trying to get her to have phone sex and she doesn't want to haha. In order for it to be phone sex, you both have to be getting each other sexually aroused. Typically the two of you would be touching yourselves at the same time, or just getting off mentally. Now if you had cooperated, then yes, maybe it would have turned into that. But you were not in the mood. That was more like Phone Flirting, or maybe even almost Phone 4 play. You are still young though. So I am going to stop my advice right there. Peace :)

(16/f) i have a bad temper. im an extremely angry person. theres no warning for when im about to get angry. even i dont know when its going to happen. i dont even know why i get mad sometimes. some days i wake up mad and sometimes i just randomly get pissed. but when im mad im violent. ive thrown desks at teachers in school before. when i fight i dont know how to stop. i have to be pulled off of that person. i fuck people up when im mad. i broke some kids jaw because they looked at me on a bad day and it rubbed me wrong. i get really violent thoughts over stupid things. if im angry at someone, even for something small, i get these crazy thoughts. examples: a kid was playing a guitar in class, i wanted to choke him with a guitar string; the class was taking a test and they were near me, i realized i could just stab my pencil into their neck if i wanted to; some kid something that pissed me off and he was sitting in front of me, my thoughts were "does he not know that i could easily snap his neck right now?"; we were walking down some stairs and this kid was cocky and i shoved him down the stairs for it. if im watching a movie or a show and i see a fight i want to fight so bad that i get mad. i browse through channels and the only things that i stop at are people arguing or fighting. i see or hear about a fight an i get mad and riled up. and i ask everyone this but no one has it happen to them; when im mad i get goosebumps everywhere on my body. they come in waves starting from my head to my feet over and over again. is it me or is this a problem? and no punching bags, counting to ten, holding my breath, etc. do not help me. ive tried believe me. showers dont help either nor does running or any form of exercise. and i cant do something like karate because ill fuck the kid up and kicking pisses me off. like i said i dont just get mad i get furious. i get mad to the point of tears. i dont hvae different levels of anger. im either happy or fucking violent. sorry this was so long.

What you are dealing with as far as I can see is repressed emotions. What you should consider is did something happen to you as a child. If you had a peaceful and loving childhood then you may have to look into your spirit. Our spirits are traveling and being reborn and going through a lot and sometimes that anger is built up and comes out in a certain life. It is good that you know this about your self and you would like to do something about it. I would suggest that you start doing some meditation to figure out what is trapped inside of you that needs to come out. There is no difference between you being a really angry violent person, and someone who is really sad and self destructive, and someone who excessively nice to the point that they deny their other emotions. There needs to be a balance in your body. there is nothing wrong with getting mad, sad or anything else. You need to take control of your spiritual self. I would go to borders and check out some books on new age studies about changing your emotions. Also the psychological section. This helped me get through a lot of self destructive behaviors. Also, do some Qi Gong. If you don't want to do the Karate, try a meditation group or yoga if you like that. Go outside and just spend sometime by your self, telling your self good things about your self. Listen to nature, ask nature to bring the peace that is in you to the forefront. Give your self permission to be angry and sad, but have controll. Love your thoughts even when they are violent. This is just an active imaganation, that is ok, that will deminish with time as you start to repace them with thoughts of helping people and peace. Volunteer to help people. This will make you feel good too. Most importantly, have some me time. Take time to do something nice for your self and tell your self that you are a good loving person that deserves good things. It is ok to make mistakes. The Druids say that our greatest enlightenment comes from our greatest chaos. Peace and you can do it.

There is way to much drama in my school. And well i'm completely involved in it, when i absolutely hate it! I'm veryy sensitive which can sometimes turn into being very dramatic. I've made some enemies and i hate seeing them and knowing there talking about me. My confidence is veryy low and it's hard to bring up. I've tried all the advice its just my brain can't change being sensitive and not caring about the mean people. Is there anything I can do to get a better self confidence?

I am an "overly sensitive" person too. Someone I don't even care about could pass me in the street and say the stupidest thing and I would end up making my self cry at home.
The first thing you are going to have to do is take can't out of your vocabulary as much as possible and exchange it with: I do, I can, I do my best to, I am getting better at... Things like this. Notice these are all in the present and they are all progressive.
Then listen to your self think. Many people are so used to thinking that they do not take time to really listen to what they are thinking. These thoughts are causing emotions. So when you are involved in a situation, and someone says something, decide how it makes you feel. Then decide if you want to feel that way. Then If it is not a feeling that you want to keep feeling, when you notice your self thinking about it, analyzing it. Tell your self to stop. Say, I decide what I will think and what I will feel. I decide what will effect me and what wont. As you tell your self this, you will start to become strong for what you want and not what other people want for you. You will become stronger in your mind. It will take practice. If you cry that is ok. Tell your self it is ok to cry...but you determing how long you will cry for. Let it flow, and as you are letting it flow, affirm your self. I am a strong person, I decide what I feel at any moment. I let go of what was said to me. That is in the past. I am in the present. I feel in the present. Get some books of Chaning your way of thinking and changing your emothions through changing your thoughts. Go to borders and check out the new age section and they psychological sections. You can do it.

Ok, so I've been noticing for a while now that I hold my breath without knowing a lot, when I hold my breath though I don't take in air before either, I exhale then end up holding my breath.. I'll just be sitting there doing anything and I'll be holding my breath? I really don't even know I'm doing it. And when I'm not holding in my breath I take in really small and short breaths, I'm barely breathing at all. And maybe like 6-12 times a day I take in massive breaths and it's starting to bother me a lot. I mean, I'm not breathing... and I'm completely unaware of it for a long time. Then I'm doing it again less then 5 minutes later.

I did the same thing for years, since I was a small child. This is why I did it and maybe this will help you to figure out why you do it. My mom and family are really germ-aphobic. So it was like everything was going to make you sick or something. I realize too that, that is the cause of a lot of my parinoid thoughts that I have had to work on clearing. So what happened is, when people would sneeze of cough, I would hold my breath. Then, when I got tired of holding my breath, I would take in small breaths so I wouldnt take in too much of the dirty air. In doing this, I was hoping to let in as little dirty air as possible, while letting out as much dirty air as possible by breathing out longer than I breathing in. I would also do this when I was in dirty or smelly environmetns, when trucks passed and let out dark smoke, when garbage trucks were near. Anytime something was around me that might make me sick. Eventually it became second nature and I didn't even think about it anymore. Then of course Anxiety increased because when you are breathing shallow, you create unncessary anxity. So what you are going to have to do, hahaha like me, is just what you are doing. When you realize you are not breathing, start to breathe really deeply and slowly. Keep aware of this as long as you can. Eventually the awarness will become second nature and within a few short breaths you will notice that you are not breathing deep enough. There will be a dramatic decrease in your not breathing at all. You should also notice your stress level going down a lot. Hope that helps.

Well, my boyfriend is allll about wrestling. And I don't know that much about it. He was the state champ of virginia last year. I'd just like to know what he's talking about so if anyone could maybe just give me a little run down of the basics of wreslting I'd love that. :) Hahah, thank you!

Well my boyfriend is an EX wrestler and he is always trying to wrestle me. What I would suggest is when you are cuddling with him ask him to teach you some stuff. Like my guy taught me the stance for when you are getting started. How to bend low and sway from side to side with my hands apart. He taught me about the banana splits which is a move, about the something 4 where you put them in a lock that makes their body look like a number 4. The best thing is that he will enjoy teaching you. You will have fun, and get to know each other better. You will be able to encourage him as well as learn how to defend yourself. :)

Hello. My boyfriend and I had sex last night and this morning I woke up and noticed some blood. So I put a pad on and I think it could be my period. Although we had sex that doesn't have anything to do wit my period coming on unexpectantly does it? THank you in advance!

Yeah I was gonna say the same thing. Cause I have never seen blood after sex til I had a guy finger me and it was so rough that it hurt and i asked him not to be so rough and he kept on and the next day i was bleeding for like 2 days but the color of the blood was brighter than my period blood usually is. And recently my boyfriend and I were doing it pretty rough and the same thing happened, I enjoyed that one though hahaha but you know I bled the day after and my period didn't come until like 2 days later.

I accidentally left my glasses on a school bus that took us on a field trip today. My mom said that she wasn't going to help me or get me new ones, but she said to check out with our teacher to see what bus it was. I am so worried because I can't see like at all, and I thought that my mom of all people would help me find them, but she said right to me that she wouldn't. What should I do to find them exactly? (Note: These are the same buses that take us to and from school each day.)

Sometimes parents get upset and they say stuff they don't mean. I would let her cool down for a few days and ask her again. If she still wont do it then I would have the teacher talk to her and show her how it is effecting your performance. If she still wont get it for you I don't know. Who know's maybe they will be cool and buy you one. They did that for me before. But if she does buy you a new pair, you gotta do your best to keep up with them like buy one of those nerdy chains or put a note on your phone every day before you leave to remind you to look for them. Or maybe tell her that you will get a summer job and work it off. If you are too young to get a summer job, then I would say ask her if you can work for her cleaning the house and work it off after she get's you a new pair.

I know this is a very random question. I sometimes drink coffee (not too often) in the morning, or if I have to stay awake to study. Coffee with milk tends to upset my stomach...though each on its own is okay. I use non-dairy creamer, but I'm concerned about the sugar level/other ingredients. Is there a natural alternative to conventional creamer, that actually tastes good? I know there's a soy coffee creamer, but it hardly tastes like anything...any other suggestions would be great. Thanks!

I say you get adjusted in your tongue to drinking it without creamer. I did that, that really cuts down the calories, but if you need it then I like the previous girls advice.

This is for anyone who goes to Phillips Academy Andover:

What brands of clothes do people normally wear? (generally, some examples please)

How do people usually dress(preppy, artsy, you know)?

Do people have parties, and do people drink regularly?

What defines a person as "cool"?

What should every student at Andover have in their room?

Thanks so much.

I wasn't going to say anything but I have to...Dude... Be your self. Now maybe you don't think your style is cool. which is fine cause sometimes they aren't, and you may have to make a few adjustments...But like all you have to do is go to the mall and put on something you like. Make sure you are matching colors and you know if you are gonna go extreem and put plad with stripes then do it in moderation. Ask the clerk to be brutally honest with you and if you don't believe her then ask some passers by. Look in the mirror if you think you look hot they you do. F**k other people. They are always changing depending on what people on TV tell them to wear. People who set trends don't ask others what is cool, they decide what they look cool in and strut and people go Wow and follow. You should aim to be a trend setter... So if you are going to ask a question is should be, How can I develop my own style. If you are brave enough to ask that then you will get some great answers. Peace.

i have a slight fear of judgement. ok, make that a BIG fear. so, i really like to sing and dance, and its been my dream for a long time to be famous like ashley tisdale, or another disney star. but i have the biggest fear, that someone is going to make fun of me, or judge me or something. i dont want to let that get in the way of my dreams, so how do i get over that fear?
sorry if its a stupid question....

Well I am a singer. I act and sing. I am going to tell you a story. I have been singing and acting since I could talk. I have always made people happy and feel good, even cry sometimes they were so moved. They would come up to me and tell me how moved they were and how they really wanted me to continue on. I've even recieved awards for my tallents. One time, I was in a play and this little boy that was getting a lot of hype cause he was new and he was an adorable little guy and he could sing...so most people thought. Now I didn't think so, because his voice did not fit my ears. Now I never said anything, I always kept it to my self and when people would ask me I would say well you know he has a lot of potential and with time or what ever he will go far. Whatever. So one day I was sitting behind him and I can't remember if he told me directly or if he was saying it to a friend, but he said that his friend said that I couldn't sing. I was flabergasted at the thought of this little boy maybe 3 or 4 years younger than me telling me that his friend said I couldn't sing when I was the one who had a lead singing role in this play and he didn't hahaha...now really that doesn't matter. He can think what he wants and I can think what I want and others can think what they want. The point is that always in the back of my mind when I am going to sing, I think about this one little boy...Not the 1000's of other people that have heard me and liked it...no just this one little boy. But you know what? That happens to most of us. You just gotta ignore that little negative voice. Say you know what, I'm gonna prove to myself that I can rise above those thoughts and do what I want to do. Just make sure that you practice, you take constructive critisism and know what you aren't good at and what you are, and go by how you feel. DO WHAT YOU FEEL YOU CAN DO! :) ok hope my story helped.

15/f sophmore
I'm thinking of joining one of the school plays or musicals. I have hardly any acting experience but I can sing very well and i think if I really tried I would have the potential to be a good actor. My dream has always been to play a lead role in a show. Do you honestly think this is possible for an inexperienced sophmore to work their way up and eventually get a lead? Do you think it's worth the hard work and dedication?

I have seen it happen many times. People come from a new school that didn't have a theatre program, like me...but they were very tallented, passion is a big part of it. If you are passionate and willing to practice, and if you are willing to deal with seniority then you will be fine.

ok a friend of mine is an extremely bad singer and i dont know how to tell her! She thinks she is awesome and wants everyone to hear her (which isnt a bad thing, but...) She like brags about it and shes bad! Hints??

I had a friend like that once. She was and still is one of my best friends. The thing about it was that she really wanted to sing, but she just wasn't good at it. So I told her that I felt like if she really wanted to be great at her craft, she should get a vocal coach and keep practicing and she would be fine. She got a vocal coach, he/she worked miracles on her and now she isn't half bad. I can listen to her, she writes well and with the technology we have now a days she will be fine! Not once did I ever have to say to her you don't sound good or your can't do that. She just had to get the right coach and practice. Most vocal coaches can at least make you get on pitch.

what does it mean to be a virgin, does it mean you are sealed if so how do yo go for menstruation because intercourse and menstruation use the same path, or there is a small hole that every girl is born with if so how small is it

Being a virgin or having your virginity means that you have not engaged in sex (penial (penis in vagina) or oral (tongue on vagina penis in mouth) depending on your upbringing and beliefs). Some would even say that nothing has entered your vagina for the purpose of sexual pleasure. Meaning like if you use a tampon you are a virgin, but like if a guy is fingering you then to some you would no longer be a virgin. But mostly it is just refering to Penis not having gone in the vagina. This applies to men too, their penis would not have entered a vagina.

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