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Bad Singer
ok a friend of mine is an extremely bad singer and i dont know how to tell her! She thinks she is awesome and wants everyone to hear her (which isnt a bad thing, but...) She like brags about it and shes bad! Hints??
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I had a friend like that once. She was and still is one of my best friends. The thing about it was that she really wanted to sing, but she just wasn't good at it. So I told her that I felt like if she really wanted to be great at her craft, she should get a vocal coach and keep practicing and she would be fine. She got a vocal coach, he/she worked miracles on her and now she isn't half bad. I can listen to her, she writes well and with the technology we have now a days she will be fine! Not once did I ever have to say to her you don't sound good or your can't do that. She just had to get the right coach and practice. Most vocal coaches can at least make you get on pitch.
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I'm gonna have to disagree with the people below me. If you really value this friendship, I think it's best not to say anything. Telling her that she no good -- even if you say it nicely and with the best intentions -- will only make her resent you for destroying her dreams. And if she truly believes that she's really good, she might not even believe you. She might think you're jealous or just being mean.
I say let her figure this out on her own. And if she's really that bad, she'll realize it eventually. She won't get chosen to sing solos in choir; she won't get a part in the school musical... and sooner or later she'll realize that singing isn't her thing. It's much better to let her find this out on her own, rather than risk your friendship by saying something that will hurt her.
In the meantime, you don't have to lie and agree with her that she's a great singer. You can just say things like, "I know you really enjoy singing." Or suggest that she take some voice lessons so she can get "even better."
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Situations like this require brutal honesty. If you don't tell her the truth she will get hurt when she makes a fool of herself in front of everyone else.
Tell her with one other friend or someone she trusts that she's tone deaf. Explain that what she hears in her head is not what it sounds to others.
If she doesn't believe you I would approach your music teacher very quietly. Ask him/her to get her to try to hit certain notes privately.
Explain your situation that's she tone deaf, thinks she can sing and wants to do it in front of a large group of people who will laugh at her.
If the teacher helps you establish the truth with her it's worth it. If you need to tell her on your own tell her you would never lie and explain what being tone deaf is.
A good friend keeps another friend from falling on their butt. You need to go into this and be brutal or she won't understand.
One other idea that always works is getting a tape recorder and recording her singing something. Play it back and hopefully she'll notice it's not what she thought she sounds like.
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Even though you don't want to be mean, you probably don't want her to completely embarrass herself either. Did she ever hear herself on a recording?? Maybe record her & play it back. Sometimes people don't realize how good or bad they are until they actually hear themselves on a tape or recording. If she still thinks that, then maybe just leave her go. If she enjoys doing it, it doesn't really matter. You could also suggest singing lessons.
-hope that helped!♥
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