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"Run Away"
Run, run, run away.
Run away for it’s just begun.
Nothing is left to learn; nothing can be done.
Run away and never return.
Don't let it burn just,
Run, run, run away.
Don't confront the fears.
Run away and leave the tears.
Don't retreat.
It'll show defeat, so just,
Run, run, run away

"Life"

So much anger; so much sadness.
How'd I get myself wound up in all this madness?
To much stress; to much drama.
How do I clear up this mess?
So many tears; so little fears.
It's been like this for years.
Just young; trying to have fun.
Not many smiles; not many dreams.
All I hear are distant screams.
Lot's of fights; including sleepless night.
I'm trying...
But there's so much lying; so much crying...

"I am"

People say I'm a sinner.
But I'm just a beginner.
Yea, I've done some things wrong.
But that's what makes me strong,
I take life for how it is.
I live my life around the people I adore.
I am who I am; why do they care?
Why do they always sit and stare?
I know I'm not the worst,
But I am the first to stand up and say,
I am who I am.


- Are these any good? Be honest please!! And if you don't like them or would change something about them tell me!

Wow your peoms are deep. I love "I am" I totally understand.
"Life" I, I can't quite expalin what I feel when I read these but they seriosly really good.

You have a talent and keep it up, check out this website. WWW.Poetry.com If you go there you can see some of mine ( there not that good all my other ones are not on the website)
Im Kathleen J Bare.
Sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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this year, our my grade got a new student. he sat at the table next to mine in lunch. The second i saw him, i felt like i knew him and i felt like i needed to be friends with him. He is on my bus also and i found many times he would turn around and look at me. Then we started talking on AIM and eventually he would turn around in lunch and sit at my lunch table. Recently this summer, he asked me to hang out with him and he even ditched the girl he liked to hang out with me all day and then he told her he had fun with me and my other friend. He talks to me more now and he told me to call him once to make plans to hang out. Why did i feel like i need to be his friend so much since i saw him, and what does this all mean? I dont feel like i like him or any thing but im confused with what direction our friendship is goin in because sometimes we talk alot and then sometimes we dont talk at all. Im confused...

Whoa.
Okay, you said when you first saw him that you felt that you should be friends right? Well my personal oppinon is that you two should just be friends and later on in the furure you may be togather. I'm going to say what im thinking and don't freak out, it sounds like Destiny taking it corse and I think your a lil freaked at the thought.

Just stay friends with him life has a way of surprising us when er least excpect it. Stand by him as a friend.
hope I helped
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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I am a 13 year old girl, and my friend invited me to a party. She just said it was a plain old party, so I went. Some people that I'd seen before, but didn't know exactly were there, just playing like you're supposed to at a party. My friend, and a few other people that I knew, were all making out in another room. I left immediatly.

Now my friend is having another party. I don't know what to expect. I asked who she was inviting, and she told me, and I know everyone who she invited. She told me that, again, it would be a fun, plain old regular party. Can I trust her on this, or should I just not risk the chance of being stuck at a make-out party again?

Well I totally amire you for walking out on the party. that takes guts.

You say you know all the people, Same as you knew the people before or do you know them as friends?
My personal oppinon is that she is probaly just going to have the another make-out party and I think in you know your self. Now I could be wrong. But she is saying the same as before and look what happened before.

I think it comes down you how confident you are to go. It may be really fun and I don't think you want to miss that but I think you don't want to be at a make out party either. so make you own choice.
If you really think she is being honest this time go have fun!
hope I helped
advice~gurl
kat

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OMG i just realized one of my boobs is bigger than the other, WHAT DOES TAHT MEAN am i an alien? i must have a disease how do i tell my mom? what do i do?

LOL this is just too funny. Not that your boob is bigger than the other but that your worried. My mom has a boob that is bigger than the other. She HAD to tell me. Eww. My sis does, I do. Now most girls they even out later on but my mothers never did. don't panic like you just were. Honestly your fine. the Boob probly hasn't matured yet.

hope I helped (Smiles)
sincerly
advice~gurl

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can you help me find some books to read?i've read all the harry potters like 100 times, all the lemony snicket books,inkheart by cornelia funk,the traveling pants series,like all the books by louisa may alcott,chasing redbird,and mostly all the royal diary books, a lot of others too. could you please give me some advice on series and books to read?

OHHHH I know one..... "Eragon" By Christopher Paolini. Its only the first book. Its a Trilogy and he is still working on eldest (the second book)
I see you haven't read Lord of the Rings. Its a 3 books long besides the Hobbit. If you do Read LOTR make sure you read The hobbit first.
I'm trying to think of some more but lol I can't think of the names.
Oh well those might help you out.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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You never know what someone means to you until their gone.
Those are good words to live by, and here’s why.
Once a day, everyday I talked to two girls that rode my bus.
They were twins, and also older than me, they were seventeen.
They were always nice, not even once were they mean.
We would talk about all sorts of things.
They even helped Kyla with one of her reports.
I remember Kim would always drop her books on the floor.
One time Kathy tripped walking out the door.
Soon school was out, I had no fear that I would see them next year.
But I was wrong.
I heard about the accident from a friend, I didn’t know what she meant.
She said it was a car accident and they went to the hospital.
But I didn’t think anything of it.
I got online to look up any information about the accident.
It took me a while, but I found an article.
It was named “Twin Disaster”.
I started reading slow and I got faster and faster.
I couldn’t believe what I had read.
The accident was really bad.
Their car was hit by a pick up truck
The car was so smashed that they were stuck.
The paramedics came and got them out.
There were five people involved in the accident.
They were all alive, but Kim and Kathy were barley living.
So they were rushed to the hospital.
The article said the other passengers would be all right.
The next day I got a phone call.
It was my friend she said Kim and Kathy had passed on.
She also asked if I wanted to go to the funeral.
I said no because it was more of a family thing.
I soon got off of the phone and started crying.
I later found out that they both had died around eleven.
I was happy that they were in heaven and didn’t have to suffer.
But it was so sad because they were so young.
I remember them telling me they were going to go to the Career Center.
But they never will.
I know the guy that had hit them didn’t go out that night to kill.
But he did, he ended two teenagers lives.
They didn’t get to get married, have a kid, and so much more.
I feel so sorry for their mother because she didn’t only loose one child.
She lost two; it must be so hard to live in the house without them there.
I think everyone should live their lives to the fullest,
And never take anything for granted.
Because you never know what something means to you until it’s gone.

Wow that brought tears to my eyes.... too bad it really happened. Sorry for you friends. they sounded like really nice people. a saying comes to my mind, "only the good die young"

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What do you all think about people posting up a "question" for people to check out their column and ask them questions? I don't really like it, but it's not like there's a rule against it or anything that I remember. Just askn for your opinions...

I hate it when people do that. They complain about stupid questions and then they try to adverisize their column. Whats the diffenerce?
Yeah I kinda think there should be a rule against it. It might help but I don't think many people really read the rules because they still ask how to rate and ask questions.

I have never tryed to get people to read my column I have just answered questions and I seem to get alot of questions asked to me sometimes. ButI know some people think I give the most unhelpfull advice ever so I think they shouldn't try to advertise their coumns. were not advicenators just to become popular. (

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How modestly do you think people should dress? How do you determine what is modest or not?

well to be honest my church is kind of stirct on what we are told to wear. were told to wear clothes that cover our stomac and don't dip too low on the bust. were told to wear clothes that go from the knee and lower. Nothing Higher than the knees. we can't wear sleeveless tops either. sence I joined the church I was REAl strict and hardly wore any thing that went against what they said. But lately I have had a change of views. Right now im wearing a mini skirt and a tank top. I love mini skirts and I feel so comfortable. (I cna't immagin wearing capris and a polo shirt in a 100 degree weather) I normaly never wear a tank top uless its under a another top. I think that it really doesin't matter what you wear but how you dress wearing it. today I wore a pink mini with a green top, and flip flops. I wore sparkly jewlery and I had So many comlamants on it. even older people and my peers were looking at my outfit. I wasn't being ubseen, I wasn't showing and stomac the mini skirt was just pretty it wasn't like showing mu under wear it just looked good.

The way I determine what is modest for me personaly is
1 im comforable in it
2 its not so tight that I can't breathe
3 doesn't show my stomac
and last be not least
4 if i bend over I don't have to worry about anyone seeing inside my teeshirt and no one seeing my underwear.

so this may be more info than you wanted but hey I'm avoiding cleaning up the kitchen so hope you likes
advice~gurl
kat

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hey its lisa again. i just sent you a question.. and i see another girl just asked it. and i think you give awesome advice! next time i have a question im coming to you!

xoxo *lisa

lol thats funny that both of you asked the same questin at the same time. lol.
thanx :) nice to know some people think im a good advice giver
advice~gurl
kat

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Hey there.. quick question what is the difference between a thong & a g-string?

xoxo Lisa

I think that they are the same. example G-String Thong. The thong just has ties and a g-string is baisicly just some thing that covers the "privat" ereas and has ties because like a said in that last question I answered I saw pics of them for halter tops. they tied on the side and or the back.
hope helped
kat

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what is a g-string?

Well this is what I got when I typed it into ask.com

noun: minimal clothing worn by stripteasers
noun: a garment that provides covering for the loins
I say Pics they mainly are just Thong or a bikini that have strings to tie. they can be for the bust erea too.
hope I helped
Advice~gurl

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my sister is having a baby and she really loves symbolic and unique names so i was wondering if i could get some suggestions... thnx :-D

Sara means Prinncess.
Eowyn (pronoced A- O Win)
Tahlina
Annette
Seirra
Cecila
Kathleen (thats my name heh heh)
LaNette
Blossom (thats my sister's and Grandmothers name)
Cara Mia
Tawny


Leogsos
Keenen is a univsal name
Keagen

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Help please the last time I wrote to you people was in about March in Oregon... I had run away and was heading for Canada and asked what I should do and most of you said go back but I didn't listen... I'm from California and ive ridden my bike all the way to washington... i'm badly fucked up... I feel really sick... what should I do... I don't want to go back... but I want to feel good again... i've had to steal food, steal things to survive.... anyways i'm on a computer in an internet cafe... please help... what should I do?

Yeah I think i remember your question I didn't answer though.
Well first things first. You say that your in WA? I live in WA I live in prosser WA a very small town.
Well I think that it would be fair to your parents that they know that your alright. write them a e-mail, letter anything to let them know your alive and breathing. Your really sick. that makes sence. Riding your bike all the way to WA? You've had to steal to stay alive.
I will ask you this question. how is this better than having a roof over your head,food? I'm not judging im just trying to make my point before I give you my personal advice.
you probly have namonia (can't spell it right) and the only way you can get better with that is medicene and the only way you can pay for it is if you go home. Home life must have been really a disaster to run away.
I really think you need to go home to get better in any way, phisical, mentaly, spiritualy. Honestly. This is hard but know that your parents care about you and a really worried. you want to feel good again that go home.
If you don't go home and you reach canada what then? you still will be stealing for food, and what not, you don't have money to stay in a motel, and you will most deffintaly be sicker than ever, may be deathly sick.

PLEASE I don't know how good my advice has been but please go home. you will be able to fave some real nutrion, a real bed, fresh clothes.

Please I hope I helped in any way possible
sincerely
advice~gurl
Kathleen (kat)

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ok i reeeally like boys lol. the thing is, all da guyz in my class like these 4 girls (2 r my friends, but all of em r pretty bitchy). i feel like i dont have a chance against them!!! around guyz im like superconfident and funny and sorta loud (*blushes* lol), but i dno if they like that kinda thing (ive only had 1 bf). im pretty and i have a lot of friends, but i dno wat im doin wrong/how 2 get guyz 2 like me (instead of the girlz they normally like)! plz help!
-B.O.Y.L.E.S.S
p.s. im 13 and goin into 8th grade

Intresting.....
well you say that your 13 and going to be in 8th grade? thats a lil young ta worry about guys but what am I to say snece I been boy crazy myself sence I was 8. heh..heh...

well I'm kinda like you with boys, very confident and LOUD I think that guys like that thing. I have a friend that flirts with every boy she sees and totally is a guy eater. (Has no regards to a guys feelings) They see her for what she is but still is caught in her beauty trap. I know gurls that are very confident with guys and they are guy magnets. I mean the other gurls hate them for being able to atract guys like they do.
I will be honest that I'm not a guys favortie gurl but im not ignored either.
You say that your pretty and confident then go with that. i can tell that you very out spoken and so thats so good. what I can tell you that ya shouldn't worry too much right now about having a boy friend. I haven't huged, kissed, let alone had a boyfriend yet and im 14 ( will be 15 next yr) what I can say is just wait a lil while before getting in a deep relationship. it really is true that you won't really have a "TRUE" relationship that may last until your about 15 and older.
don't try to be different to inpress a guy. your totally cool the way your. be happy!
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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this may seem shallow but, why are all the young teenagers(generally below 15) OBSESSED with the fag rock bands, like GC, and simple plan, and that crap?

Well personaly I LOVE SP and GC put im not so obsessed that i do everything to be like them.
I agree that people mainly teens get way obsessed over trends and abands. i personaly don't care if they are "punk" Rock or pop i like their music.
I have this thing about idolizing rock stars, and or movie stars because they are just the same as you and I and they have the weird habbits that we all have. I have a friend that looks up to hilary duff as if she is a god and I don't understand it. if she wasn't in hollywood and a star people would even know her name except for friends.

The reason i like Sp GC is there music. I just like the lyrics. that maybe the reason you don't like them but thats what made me like them is "perfect" (SP) that fit right into my life when I first heard it and "anthem" the same. I don't wanna be just like you. the lyrics are good and I don't care if they write them or not.
I practicly like all music. classical to rap. Yes it may be a fad but most of the music I like I hate until its out and I love it. I love the 80's its good stuff.
I also love the music now. I like clay, avril, SP. GC, Yellowcard,Cindy Lopper, Sugarcult, Hoobastank, JoJO, Usher, Enya, many moore, Mozart, Britany, Christina, Celine Deon all of it but I don't try to be like them. I will ammit that I have tryed Avril's style but I ended up with some thing that hasn't been in magazines yet, its my own style.

It may be a fad but the music speaks to us "young" teenagers. the lyrics fit into our lives and we tend love them. And yes i understand what your saying about being too OBSESSED. it kinda makes me sick when I see teens freak out and try to be just like that fad.
but don't take this the wrong way but hey let them they are going to grow out of it evenuraly. let them try to be part of the mindless fad and be happy with what you like.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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I'm in the 5th grade and going to be in 6th next year and I like someone whp is going to be in 1st uh help

hmmm.... i know that you might not like what im gonna say but your 10-11? and you like a boy thats only 5-6? the age differenc isn't that bad but right now he pretty much thinks that girls have cooties and are weird.
another thing your really kinda young for a relationship now I know how you feel right now as i tell you that your too young but seriously I know. just beign 13 I found out I was too young. 15 and up is betta to think about boys and dating n stuff.

and no your not like Micheal jackson im sorry those other advicenators said that. its not true. they really ahve twisted advice if they think that.
sincerly
advice~gurl
kat

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My brother is smelly and weird - is this normal?

I don't know if this is just a random question or real but i will answer it no matter what.

The stink problem he is probaly just puberty (that aweful thing) and if its really bad then I would just flat out tell him that he stinks and that he needs more deordorant on or this way first rule of puberty, deordorant. So yeah the smell is normal.and weird? what do you mean? weird as in makes really weird sounds and jumps around like a monkey or just different and can't explain it weird? either way I don't think that its anything to get all worried about. so yes to both its normal.
hope i helped *smiles*
always
kat

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this is a poem I wrote and i wanted to get feed back from peopel i dont know please tell me wat you trully think about it and you may not use it unless you give Ruperts_gurl credit thanx :

Sucked you up
I sucked you up
into a world of heart ache and pain
i told you what you wanted to hear
things i took for granted
I fooled you and myself
into believing i was good
good and caring enough
for a healthy relationship
you believed i cared
and i did until
i realized that i corrupted you
i sucked you up
into my drama queen world
i brought you into the prison of my life
i watch your beautiful tears
stream down your face
as i walk away forever
i love you
but i am spitting you out
so i dont hurt you any more

I'm sorry you have gotten answers like that. thats not true I like your poem and please ignore those that just enjoy making other people feel bad.
this is a good poem and honestly I think you have talent and I think that you should summit it to www.poetry.com you may have it published i had one of my poems published that was the worst poem to me. (while you go to poetry.com check my poetry out, i only have a couple good ones on there but type in Kathleen bare my mid intail in J)
oh okay I thought it was about a break up but about your friends that makes sence even more but let me tell you this your friends are your friends and they like you for who yyou are and you shouldn't worry.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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I wish I could change I wish I could
I wish I were not the person I am today
I want you to know that I am trying my hardest
I am giving it my all I really am
I Just want you to know that You are the reason that I am trying to change.
I wish I never did the things that I did
I wish I could just be with you right now
I wish You could see how hard I am trying
To be the perfect person you want me to be...
But I just want you to know that I love you.

WOO-HOO!!! You have a HUGE talent for poems! I really like the way you can put all your feelings on paper and it is just GREAT!!!!
I bow down to you poet!
lol
always
advice~gurl
kat

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ok what is the in color for hair? blonde or brown ? i am a blonde right now but it is a died blonde some ppl like it and some dont i think i look a little better as a blonde but i dont know cuz i did have brown hair with blonde highlights but i have blue eyes and i think the blonde brings them out more but i just want to know what is the in color for hair?

Well it shouldn't matter what other people think of your hair its yours and they can do what they want to theirs and keep shut about yours but here is what I think,

I love red heads and im blonde. with you I think that it really doens't matter what color your hair is if your happy with it. You say you like having blonde hair but don't like the roots well thats just gonna happen, then you say that your naturely brown, well then go with it or don't.
Blonde and Blue eyes are usaly what go togather that is just normal, i have Green eyes with blonde hair.
I personaly wouldn't die my hair but I think you should choose on your own. Like I said before it YOUR hair, do what you want.
have fun!
always
kat

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