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my friends grandfather died this morning. hes really hurt. but i dont know what to say to him. im scared ill say something wrong. what should i tell him?

I'm pretty sure that there is nothing you can say or do to make things better or less painful. Just be there for them and listen to them when they're ready to talk about it. They might just want to be alone for a while, but let them know that you're there for them always. And don't act any different anround them, treat them like you always do. Don't walk on eggshells around them. Just give them time to grieve. That's about all you can do.

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Sometimes, I predict things without knowing I predict them. For example, when i was walking into my tv room I was thinking about the movie karate kid and I did a karate kid kick (i'm strange) then when I got to the tv room a band was talking about the movie Karate Kid. I didnt even hear the tv before I got in. Or maybe i'm thinking "i like the name luke for a boy" and a mom nearby with her kids has a kid named luke and says "luke". This happens alot! Is it just a really big coincidence or might I be physcic or something?

I say coincidence, but that's just me.

http://www.links2love.com/quizzes/are_you_psychic_test.htm

http://www.online-psychic.biz/articles/psychic-ability.html

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I've been friends with this guy Brandon for two years. I honestly love him, I mean we haven't just been friends we've been going out and sometimes things stop us but this time nothing is getting in the way. My mom doesn't like him at all, she doesn't know that we ever dated. I love him and I know I'm too young (16) to be making the decision of who I want to be with for the rest of my life but I know I love him. Last night I told him that I can't be with him anymore because my parents don't want me to marry out of my religion (I'm a muslim and he's Christian.) He was crying and so was I. I want to be with him more then anything but my dad said if I marry him he's going to leave my mom and I love my mom and don't want her to be alone because I'm being a selfish snob. I don't know how I can make them understand that he means absoluely everything to me. Any suggestions on what I should do?

If your dad left your mom it wouldn't be your fault. Who you date and eventually marry has nothing to do with your parents relationship, and you shouldn't have to pick your happiness over your moms. If your dad left your mom then most likely there would be another reason behind it, even if he says it's your fault. And he could be just telling you this knowing you would break up with Brandon, he could have no intention of really leaving your mom.

Do they really know how much you care for him? You should sit them down and explain to them that even though you respect their opinions you really love him and that you really want to be with him. Tell them it's not far of them to judge him based his his religion alone, and it hurts you that they won't accept him. Tell them that he makes you happy.

Who you marry is *your* choice, not theirs. So you should get back together with Brandon, no matter what your parents say. You love each other, you should be together. Your parents should support you, and I'm sorry if they don't. If your dad leaves your mom then he's a jackass, and your mom deserves better. That's all I can say. Good luck with your relationship.

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I need help. I have to take Prednisone for a week due to an allergic reaction to Amoxcillian. It says one of the side effects of Prednisone is weight gain. I have an eating disorder & I'm scared to death. I worked so hard to get where I am with my weight & I don't know what to do. Since I'm only taking Prednisone for a week [7 tablets] what are the chances that it will cause weight gain. I won't be on it for that long of time. Is there anything I can do? I really can't deal with this. I can't exercise for a few days due to a very bad rash. I can't go out doors because it spread. Thanks.

I'm allergic to Amoxicillin too.

The doctors wouldn't of prescribed this to you if they thought it would be dangerous to your health. I'm sure you'll be perfectly fine.

If it does cause weight gain then it will only be a couple of pounds, it won't be a major weight gain. So that's nothing to worry about.

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/druginfo/medmaster/a601102.html

http://www.drugs.com/prednisone.html

You'll be fine, you have nothing to be scared about.

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I am 13 years of age. I have been put in a situation where I could have sex. I really like the guy and I think he likes me. I am not sure if I should have sex with him or not. I really want to. I need advice. HELPPP!!

If you are not sure, then you shouldn't be having sex with anyone. You're way too young and sex is a 100% sure kind of thing. If you have sex with him you'll probably just end up regretting it, besides you don't even know if the guy likes you. He could loose interest as soon as you sleep with him. And he most likely will. You should wait until you find someone you love, who loves YOU back.

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how can you tell if someone has low self-esteem

Top Ten Signs of Low Self-Esteem:

http://www.1stholistic.com/Reading/health-the-top-10-signs-of-low-self-esteem.htm

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there's this boy he's like way older than me but i consider him as a bro he really isnt tho. everytime i c him i give him hugs.every single girl in my school likes him. when i give him hugs and talk 2 him they get mad. everytime he sees me he gives me huggs or calls my name. idk if i like him or consider him as bro wat yah think

No one can tell you if you like him, because no one on this site will be able to tell you how YOU feel.

Hmm...Try this.

When you see him with other girls how do you feel? Do you get jealous? Do you wish it was you?

Do you think about him a lot (more than you probably should)?

Do you care more about your appearance when you're around him?

Do you find yourself wanting to impress him?

Do you wish you're with him when you're not?

Do you miss him whenever he's not around?

Those are some signs that you like him and that you see him as more than a brother-like figure. Think about it.

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is their any good teen books about 2 people and a long distance relationship?

Zig Zag: By Ellen Wittlinger

I can't think of any others, but I've read that ones and it's really good.

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My boyfriend and I have lost the passion in our relationship. We both are trying to get it back by becoming more "friend like" and holding off on everything physical. Do you think that will work? What else can we do?

Honestly, no. Sometimes couples feelings for each other just sort of fade out. Maybe your relationship has run it's course, maybe not. You should give each other some space and time to think about how you really feel about one another, where your relationship is headed, and if the relationship is really worth saving or if it's just time to let each other go and see other people.

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does anybody know who sings this song and what its called?

i tried and i tried
to avoid
but this thing was happenng
swallow my pride
let it ride
and party
but this body
felt just like mine
yeah tentalizing
who could have thought i needed help
from this feeling that i felt
so good i had to catch my breath.
well its something like that!its a perty old song!

TWEET LYRICS

"Oops(Oh My)"
(feat. Fabolous, Missy Elliott)

http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/tweet/oopsohmy.html

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What jobs can my 11 year old sister or 9 year old brother get?

You can't legally get a job at that age. You can try getting jobs around your neighborhood. Seeing if your neighbors have any chores you can do for money...

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in amber heard's bio (greta from hidden palms) it says she has appeared on the oc. which episode was she in?

Amber Heard:

The O.C. - The Mallpisode (2005) TV Episode .... Salesgirl

http://imdb.com/name/nm1720028/

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So all of his friends think that we spend way too much time together. They think that I like to make him mad and shit. I dont understand what Im doing wrong. They say that I dont let him spend time with no one else. but I dont care if he does. Why does this have to be my fault. Should I just break up with him. I really truly love this boy...I just want him to be happy. We've been together 8 months. He got me a promise ring. He loves me and I love him. We have our lil fights but we always make up afterwards. HELP!!!!!!!

If you really love him then of course you shouldn't break up with him. His friends probably feel as if you're taking him away from them, so encourage your boyfriend to spend a little more time with them. And don't try to hard to win them over, just be yourself and maybe in time they'll come to accept you and your relationship.

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well ive been with my girl for 2 1/2 months and she just told she loves her ex what should i do wait or dump her straight???

You can't have a serious or healthy relationship with someone who loves their ex. So talk to her and give her a chance to explain herself before you dump her or do anything else. In my opinon there are different types of love. There's a difference between the way you love your friends, your boyfriend, and your family. There's a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. So ask her what she meant when she said she loved her ex, and take it from there. Sometimes it's just better to break up or give each other some space so you can both think about your feelings and where your relationship is headed (if you want to stay in a relationship with her)

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I'm friends with this guy. He called me and texted me for hours with one of his guy friends. I put my phone on silent and was trying to sleep. I woke up a few times to check it my phone and noticed that there were 15+ text messages and calls. I had two voicemails. Both were screaming and cursing at me for not picking up my cell phone because they wanted to make plans. Basically my phone was flooded with them. I can understand he was upset that I wasn't answering, but to yell and curse? I'm a female. I'm not one of his "guy buddies" and no one deserves that. This isn't the first time it happened but he swears he was drunk. Should I just end the friendship? Or is it worth another chance? Thanks!

You should give him another chance. Everyone makes mistakes, that doesn't make him a bad person. Maybe he was just drunk. So don't breask off the friendship, if he does it again then it's up to you whether to give him another chance. You are right though, no one deserves to be treated that way.

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Ok, so I have been going out with a boy for a year, and we haven't had sex yet, because we are waiting until we are married. so my ex boyfriend, who I have known for 3 years, come over to my house and we hang out. We smoke pot with my sister, and blahblahblah. Then we had sex. The next day, I called my boyfriend and told him this, but then I start adding stuff like, I didn't want to, which actually, I didn't. And I told him to stop like 4 times, which I did, but he didn't. Then I quickly added, he was huge, and about as big as you, and he's freakin strong. My boyfriend is like...really tall. I'm about 5"6 and he's like 8 inches taller than me. And so my boyfriend is like, isn't that rape? And I'm like yea...ew. And so we start talking, and then I kept talking about it. I guess it was on my mind. Lol. And I'm like, I tried to call you but he grabbed the phone from me and blah blah blah.
And so I tell my friend about it and she's like, that's rape. And he's such a loser and whatever. And so then on Friday, I go to my dads band practice thing, it happens every Friday, and while I'm there, apparently John and Mia came over and smoked some pot with my sister. And Mia tells John about what I said and stuff. So I called John yesterday, and I'm like hey whats up and he's like, I'm mad at you, Mia said that you told her I raped you blah blah blah. And so I'm all like no I didn't. And I start convincing him that I didn't and that Mia is the one that is being a backstabber. So now he believes me, and I don't really care about him, because my boyfriend told me not to hang around him. ANd I really love my boyfriend, and I don't want to hurt him anymore, I already lied to him, I don't want to anymore. I just want to tell him the truth, but I don't know what to say. Which is what my question is. But I want to make sure he knows that I love him, because I really do. I need ALOT of answers. And if your going to be rude and tell me I'm a tramp. I suggest you don't.

If it wasn't rape then you shouldn't have told people that, even if you din't want your boyfrind to know the truth. And the truth is you cheated on him, even if you don't want to admit to yourself. Your friend Mia isn't being a backstabber, you did tell her and your boyfriend that John raped you, then you turned around and lied to John him also and told him you didn't. You should tell your boyfriend the whole truth, and hope to god he forgives you. Tell him you love him and although you screwed up really bad you still want to be with him. It might be a while before he is able to trust you again, if he does forgive you.

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i don't know how to tell this guy that i dont wanna go on dates with him anymore. We went out a week ago and hes called me and left a message yesterday but i havn't called back because i don't know what to say. He's nice and all but i just don't have any feelings for him. I rejected him last summer to so i kinda feel bad but i just don't like him. I have to call him back soon but i don't know what to say. I also have never been kissed and when we first went to the moives i was like good i can get my first make out thing over with but i don't know i want it to be with someone i like...so i don't know what to say to him and im afraid hes gonna call me back before i can think of what to say and call him. ugh sorry this was so long thanks in advance

Wait until next time he asks you out, then just say no. Tell him you like him but you would rather be friends.

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Ok so if you have sex in water.. like in the shower, bath, swimming pool etc and used a condom would that really work?

I'm just curious!

Also I am on birth control, have been for about 7 months, if I take it everyday roughly around the same time (give or take an hour or two) are you still able to get pregnant if you don't use a condom?

See my boyfriend and I were home alone the other night and we had no condoms left.. we were going to have sex but we spoke about it and decided to play around because i'm still a little scared about getting pregnant.

We were both totally ok with it!

19/f by the way and my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years so we would like to start and have unprotected sex.

Thanks guys :)

Unless you're trying to get pregnant you should use a condom, no matter how long you've been together.

You can get pregnant while on birth control, but it's very unlikely.

And yes, condoms do work in the water.

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to boy cats have nipples?

Yes

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14/f
dont tell me about love because my boyfriend and i are in love. the thing is im worried because im only 14, and we've been together for a year. but your teen years are when you're suppose to have fun, not be comitted to a relationship for the rest of your life. eh any comments or opinons would be appreciated :)

You are supposed to have fun, but who says you can't have fun while being in a relationship? People look for love all throughout there life, and some people never find someone they love who loves them back. You're lucky to have found someone you love early in life. In my opinion you have nothing to be worried about.

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