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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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I need alternativeish songs to play at a middle school dance.
We usually have just rap and hiphop, but we're having one where we don't play any of that.
What are some good dancing songs?
I've thought of

Are you gonna be my girl - Jet
Rollover DJ - Jet
For the Girl - The Fratellis

Help???

Alrighty! =D

Well I'll give you some awesome bands instead, because songs may take me a few days to type out:

- The Academy Is...
- Alkaline Trio.
- Boys Like Girls.
- Cartel.
- A Change of Pace.
- Classic Crime.
- Escape The Fate.
- Forever The Sickest Kids.
- Halifax.
- Head Automatica.
- Jamestown Story.
- Maroon 5.
- Mayday Parade.
- Panic! At The Disco.
- October Fall.
- Red Hot Chilli Peppers.
- The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
- The Rocket Summer.
- This Providence.
- Say Anything.
- Sugarcult.
- Taking Back Sunday.
- Valencia.


-Laura. (15-f)

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What are some television shows that have little girls in them? I mean like that star in the show (not are just people in the background).

Thankssss!

Full House? =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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Hi, umm Im the girl you answered a question about me having a lot of guys friends and how one of them stuck up for me whne Nick called me butch.. well hasn't even been a week and people are driving me batty.
ahh Stevens still in ISS... and so's Nick.
Well yesturday.. we had cooking and I got stuck wiht becky.. thank good DJ,JJ, and Nathen. Well im friends with Nathen.. and JJ was making jokes about how its a womens job to cook and all this sexist crap.. well then Cole joined and Nathen already hated this kid so they got in a talking arguement and as Nathen walked away he like said to me under his breath..
"Err I wished he'd die.. of cancer."
Well I tweaked on him because ive senn what cancer does to people and after a while there gone. like there bodys still on earth but anything else is gone.. and I screamed at him!
I was like WHAT! I was like noo even I cant stand Cole but never EVER would I wish death on anyone!! Expecially not cancer.." and he was like oo oo i didnt mean it like that.. I was you still said it! what is wrong with you.. have you seen what cancer does to people! and my Uncle passed away November 4th of last year and not a day goes by i dont think of him.. I love him and he lived 9 months after finding out he had cancer but maybe 6 months tops into it he was gone.. and i told him this.he was like ughh oo.. ee..

And i remember in the last question i said all my guy friends were just friends but I knew I did have feelings about Nathen.. and I never expected this from him he didnt know.. about my Uncle but he still said it..
Well i started crying and actually ran to the ISS room to talk to Steven
Mrs Berry it was cool aslong as we were quite. Well I hugged him.. and basicly cried on his shoulder.. I told him everything about me liking him and how he said it and Stevens attitude changed completely.. first he was like ohh come here.. are you okay like completely friend.. next minete he stil cared but i could tell i hurt his feelings. And now im not sure about anything like does Steven like me??? I love Steven as a brother as a best friend as someone i can count on.. not a boyfriend. Well i had to leave and as I hugged Steven he was stiff..
I had PE afterwards and I have that class with Nathen and he just looked at me..
I dont want to be the person who cries alot of but at the moment that doesnt madder.. im gunna lose two of my good friends over something thats Nathens fault.. but i like Nathen i think because when he sai it i wanted to claw at him..
Explain to me why im feeling like ahhhhhhhhh
Stevens my friend, if i knew he liked me never would i explain it in such a good detail, i thought he loved me as a sister.. not girlfriend Ive never look at Steven in that way but this whole week has sucked NOW i feel acward around my friends because what if they like me, and i hurt there feelings??? I love them and would never wanna see any of them hurt. But Steven wont return phone calls, ive asked about him but everyones like no hes fune BLAHH BLAHH when i know there lieing they didnt see him face.. i shouldve listened to people when they said it was a possibilty that he liked me, but like thgey dont know him,but i just feel akward around the guys.. what if there loking down my shirt (something ive never worried about) just dumb things jeez im paranoid..
Please help again..=D..=\

Hello again =]

Well, I think Steven likes you. But I'm not a guy, and you might want a guy's opinion. If so, I'd recommend Jack:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=CuxMiBeckNow7


Anyways, you seem really nervous to be around guys now. Don't be! They're just friends, you know it, they know it, it's fine. You're just gonig to make it awkward by seeming nervous around them, and then they'll get nervous and it might be a huge mess =/


To fix things with Steven, I'd talk to him, face to face, and apologize. Tell him you're sorry if you hurt his feelings, and you didn't realize he might like you as more than a friend. If you don't like him that way, just tell him nicely something like, "I love you like a brother, and our friendship means too much, I don't want to0 mess it up. So let's just stay friends."

Hope this helps!



-Laura. (15-f)

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Why do young girls come on here to ask about sex when they can't even spell right? I find this to be a very sad look at young girls in american society today. Do you agree?

To put it plain & simple: Yes.
It's ridiculous.


-Laura. (15-f)

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heyy =]
i really like your layout, did you make it yourself? or did u upload it from tinypic?
because i've been trying to find a cute layout for a whilee.

Bonjour =]

I didn't make it or anything, I got it from photobucket.


-Laura. (15-f)

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FROM Difficult
The thing is I got confused on her jealousy I couldn’t tell if she wanted a boyfriend or she like me? Lara does get guys, she told me that someone at her job was flirting with her, and a guy in her class asks her out. She said no to them and she said she not wanting a relationship until after college. This was before I told her how I felt. After I told her about my feelings to her months later I told her about that guy I met at the party I wanted to just have a talk about it because that time I knew she wasn’t interested in me. And when I did she gives me reasons I couldn’t believe. She said “I don’t know if I should be happy for you or pissed" I didn’t think of what to say but "what?" So I can’t find out if she was jealous of me or him. But she told me this "I guess time will tell for the both of us" ( was that a hint)?? And I do want to move on to see who I really am but I‘m afraid if I do she might find someone, I don’t know what to do? I moving maybe next year to a different state with my parents and I’m thinking of going even though my best friends and lara (of course) wants me to stay. I told Lara I want to go to clear my head, she said “I don’t want you to leave but I cant stop you” she is right about that, I want to stay but then again I need to clear my head.

Hello & Thanks for inboxing me =]

I stand my my theory that Lara is jealous of the guy at the party. You see, you told her you were interested in her, but then found the guy at the party. Therefore, she got jealous. She obviously really treasures your friendship, and doesn't want to lose it.
"Time will tell for both of us" might have been saying that now she's kinda upset about that, and just wants some time to see where your relationship goes.
At least, that's what I think.

My advice:
Don't get involved with anybody else, because Lara sounds interested in you.
Give her some time, then talk to her about your relationship and see how she feels.


-Laura. (15-f)

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how i do get my own forum?

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=30323

All you do, is go to YOUR column, click "ask a question", then replace the last 5 numbers of the link above, with the last 5 numbers at the end of the "ask question" link.


So instead or "30323" at the end, you should have other numbers like "56789".
Get it?


-Laura. (15-f)

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when i am cooking instant noodles and put the packets in and the steam goes up to my face, is that only water or am i also absorbing packet powder onto my face? the steam consists of water, right? so

No. The powder is a solid and the steam is a gas. You're only inhaling the steam, which is actually water.


-Laura. (15-f)

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Why do sleeping pills have warning labels that state :'Caution: May Cause Drowsiness? because we know that its a sleeping pill desgined for that purpose? or is it just there in case they might get sued or whatevre like mcdonalds put "caustion: hot" on their coffee

Wow, there seem to be a lot of these questions today. I wonder why...

Anyways, this question really answers itself. Why, you ask, do sleeping pills warn people? Because they don't want people to take them, thinking it will make them fall asleep later rather than sooner, and to go drive around or something but then fall asleep at the wheel. Not good, so they warn people.


Why, you ask, does coffe say "Caution: Hot", in case someone else picks it up thinking it's a cold beverage, and then gets burned. Again, not good, so they put this thing called a warning.


Makes sense, ehh? Next time, don't ask on this site. Use your brain a little, and do something called thinking. Trust me, it does wonders when these stupid questions pass your mind.



-Laura. (15-f)

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Is Hayley from Paramore married?
Cause i heard that she was, but im not sure if its true...

thanks

Nope.


-Laura. (15-f)

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What do these phrases mean?

hella/hecka

rawr

you are the sex

Thanks for the help!

Hella = very.
Like, he's hella cute = He's very cute.

Rawr = Grr, only "cooler". Or sometimes people say it for no reason.

You are the sex = You are the coolest/You are the most amazing/You are fantastic, etc.

Thanks for the help = thank you for helping me, obviously?


-Laura. (15-f)

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Okay I have a lot of guys friends.. and Im a girl but that doesn't madder right?? A bunch of preps started calling me Kevin instead of Katie which is retarted! But.. okay I was hanging with Adam and we had to sit on the bleechers and i was like Move YOUR feet! because he spread his legs and err haha and Olivia(prep bitch!) was like oh why dont you just sit between his legs! So being me I did and Nathen, Josh and Adam started cracking up and MCKenzie(another prep) was like wow Adam if you like her that much.. and he took it as a complete joke and was like OOO yes I love **Kevin and huged me from the back and kept his arms around me and Mr.Davis(PE teacher) was like you need to keep your hands away from eachother! Wickedd loud and we started laughing. Well that was yesturday ..
I dont like how everyone thinks Im apart of the guys. I dont dress like guys its just guys are more loyal they dont tell people what I say and don't stab or try to hurt eachother.. I dress actaully pretty giry. Skirts --low cut shirts even though my Mom doesn't like it.. when you look at me you deffinelty can tell im a girl. Well its hurting my feelings because today it got worse..
This kid named Nick someones whos never liked me called me Butch. You could tell obvioulsy just by looking at me I was upset by that.. and Nick did it again only i think the third time Steven(another Emo awsome Steven I call him my little emo boy) was like NICK come here NOww!! And he yelled that down the hall and Nick came down and he was like Yeahh?? and Steven was like butch??? look at the way she dresses! and Nick was like yeahh good point she does dress kinda slutty! oh well Steven didn't like that and punched him in the head and im standing to the side and I was like Steven!! Its okayy dont get in trouble for me.. becuase they got in afight while Stevens yelling SHES NOT A SLUT YOUR JUST JELOSE BECAUSE YOU CANT EVEN TOUCH A GIRL!!! and Im like Stop omfgg stop im like crying in the hallway trying to get them apart and teachers start coming out and Mr.Jones actually stopped the fight and all 3 of us go to the office and were sitting in the Vice Prniciaples office and Nicks in the nurse because of a bloody nose.. and Im like Steven why did you do that??? And he was like Nick had no rigt to call you that. I was liek I know but Steven your probbaly gunna get ISS for this im not worth that.. hes parents are wicked strickt and will kill him! And he hugged me and was like trust me you are.. So i was like ooww I didnt know I maddered that much :D and I hugged his again when Mr.Saunders came in. Hes wicked cool and was oww young love we were like not Best Buds! and hes like Well Nicks going home.. we started laughing and Mr.Saunders was like I wanna hear you side of the story and Il talk to Nick tomarrow. So we explained he called me a slut, and butch and Kevin.. and Mr.Saunders was like it was a good reason, but didnt make it right. Which yeah we understand So Steven got ISS for 5 days.. Nicks probbaly gunna get it for six because of hurassment basicly i think.. and everyone was asking me questions because they heard me screaming and i was like what happen to Kevin? they were like oh and stoped talking to me and I explained things to Adam and stuff about what Steven said and he was like dude Katie if he even said Kevin infornt of me id kick his ass! so I donno why I feel like I need some girl friends.. I have Becky. And she hangs with the guys too and she was like to you think Steven likes you and i was like no its a brotherly love just like Adams and stuff. But like wjhat if I start liking one and they think im a sister or something???? Im a girl...
Ahh please help me why i feel this way and Why I dont wanna go to school tomarrow... I like that they feel they should defend me but I can take care of myself. Im not some defensless girl. Im there friend not a sister not a girlfriend.. what should I do???!

Hello && Thanks for asking to my inbox! =]


First off, it is perfectly fine to have guy friends! I have guy friends, and my absolute best friend was a guy for a little while (but that's a completely different story...) There's nothing wrong with hanging out with guys, regardless of what others might say.


Next, I see you mentioned people call you "Kevin" and you said it was retarded. Tell them to stop! Let them know it bugs you and your name is Katie, not Kevin, and if they were real friends they'd grow up and get it right.


Then, I think that this Steven boy sounds awesome. Not that fact that he pnuched someone, but because he did it for you. That takes a lot, and I'd start off by thanking him and doing something really nice for him. But I'd also tell him, that it wasn't neccessary to get physically violent. Tell him that next time, you'd rather try and stick up for yourself, because you don't want people to view you as the poor little defensless girl who needs her guy friends to knock out anyone who hurts her. Get it?


Also, if you want some girl friends, do any of your guy friends have girlfriends? That's where I'd start, befriending the girlfriends. Totally makes sense, right? =]
If not, then ask Becky is she has any other girl friends. Ask her if next time they hang out, if maybe you could tag along too?


Finally, I wouldn't worry about what if you start liking one of them. Cross that bridge when you come to it. Who knows, maybe you'll like one of them and they'll like you back? Just don't worry about it too much, though.


I hope this helps, let me know =]


-Laura. (15-f)



*EDIT*
I'm glad to hear everything went well =]

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I became depressed and never liked myself because of who I am I want to run away from every one to keep them away from my depression. But I couldn’t hold it in, I told them what was wrong and they said I should tell Lara how I feel. I deny it for 7 years to not tell her but it got to the point that I was about to blow! So I told Lara that I am bi sexual and I am in love with her. Lara was in shocked but stayed there by my side to listen to me. She respected me and will try to help me as much as she can.

After I told Lara how I felt 10 months ago I went to a party and met this guy, nothing happen but I told Lara about it. She then got mad, she said she was not sure to be happy for me or pissed. I didn’t understand what she meant.

I told her that I am moving on and you are not making it easy on me. And she said she was jealous because she didn’t want to drift apart from our friendship and was afraid that we won’t be close anymore. She told me that she was jealous of my last two boyfriends in the year of high school. I told Lara that the reason why I went out with them is because I want to get over her and move on. And that’s why I want to move away to rethink my thoughts. She ask me why I liked her and I said i don’t know how it happened but it did. but i am attracted by smarts, mysterious and adventures personality and that’s what you are.
but i really can’t explain it, its hard to put into words.
I even ask her if she wanted a boyfriend and she said “no not really”.
I got mad at Lara because it sounded like she like me back and I didn’t want her to (even thou I do wish it)
Because I don’t think I can be good in a relationship because of me not believing in myself.
I told Lara that but she didn’t respond to it.

Everything is slowly getting together and right now I am letting things settle.
But I am wondering…

Did she like me back more than a friend or was she afraid of losing our friendship?
And
What does she mean “we won’t be close anymore”?
(The only thing of close I can think of is that she leans on me and holds me sometimes for no reason)
and
When she said she was jealous of my last two boyfriends did that mean she like me then in our high school year or she wanted a boyfriend?


and i got the chat room talk we had about it (2nd part) if you like to read it let me know. its long.

Hello & Thanks for asking to my inbox =]

First off, you need to higher your self esteem! Why don't you like yourself? If it's because you're bi, that is no reason to not like yourself! That's who you are, and you should love yourself for who you are, not who others want you to be/judge you as or anything like that! Love yourself, be confident, and you'll be happier. Trust me! =]


This is a really thought situation though, but I'll give my honest opinion of what's happening here:

What I think, is that Lara is jealous. You told her you have feelings for her, but then began noticing someone else or at least trying to, and she got jealous. This is probably what's going on with her, mixed with the fact she's afraid of losing your friendship, possibly because of it.


I think you really just need to figure out how you're feeling, because you sound a bit unsure of your feelings. Figure out:
- If you want to be with Lara, or just move on.
- If you at least want a friendship with her, or nothing at all.


Once you figure it out, let Lara know. Tell her exactly what you want. It sounds like you guys have a really meaningful relationship already, so keep this in mind when deciding what you want to do.


When she was jealous of your last 2 boyfriends, it could've been either she wanted you, or she wanted a boyfriend of her own. I don't know, you'd need to ask her.


Talking to her would really help a lot in sorting out your feelings and deciding what kind of relationship you want. Therefore, your best bet is to talk to her about it all.
Good Luck && If you need any more help, don't be afraid to ask =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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Hello everyone. I was just wondering if any of you have seen the new Halloween movie by Rob Zombie that just came out. If you have, I'd like to know whether you thought it was stupid or not. I'd like to see what the majority of people say, so I know if I should go or not. I may go and see it tonight if I hear that it's good. Someone please let me know asap!! Thank you very much to anyone who answers. Sorry it's such a stupid question.

2 of my guy friends (if that changes anything?) saw it, and they both liked it. They both agreed that it was really good and one said he'd go see it again. My other friend just said it was really good, so it must've been decent because he's hard to please when it comes to movies. =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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i have bras that fit me at home but when i go to victoria's secret and try on their bras i find out one of my breasts is smaller?? is there something different with their bras? i forgot what kind of bra i was looking at. i tried a size smaller and same problem..

Maybe they're tighter than what you're used to?
Try shopping somewhere else, and find bras that you're comfortable with.

But all in all, don't worry about it. One breast may look bigger/smaller than the other, it's just puberty. And nobody's body (male or female) is perfectly symmetrical.


-Laura. (15-f)

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I was wondering what you could do or use to hide your tampons in school, like how to discreetly take them from class to class just in case. Because I live in fear of what will happen if I don't... :S

Any ideas?

Carry a little bag, such as a makeup bag inside your bag for school/purse. This is kind of going with what Erinn (below) said because you can always bring your purse to the bathroom to act like you're fixing your hair/makeup.


But when you need tampons/pads, you'll always have them with you, so you won't be embaressed when you bring it one week, but not the next? Smart, ehh? ;]


-Laura. (15-f)

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Hey Laura =]

I'm friends with you on myspace, and you had a song awhile back, it was a cover of "Time After Time". Who was it by? I won't copy you and put it on my myspace, I promise. It's just been bugging me & I want it on my iPod. Thanks!!

Hey myspace friend whose name was not revealed.
hehehe.

Ahh yes the Time After Time cover. I've gotten asked this a lot. lol. It's by Quietdrive and I'm glad you liked it. I'm actually debating putting it back on? =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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13/f

I was 11 when I dated my first guy. Well, he kinda left a bruise on my arm. The second guy, ugh, he hated my friends. Third guy, broke up with me after three days. I still don't understand why, either! Well, now I think guys have no feelings because they act like total assholes whenever I meet one. Well, my friend told me to be nice to a friend of hers, who is obviously a guy. Well... It turned out that he started acting rude. I kinda... Kicked him... Well... You get it! Look, could somebody just explain to me why guys are assholes and if they really have feelings? And, if any guys are reading this... Sorry, if this insulted you in anyway. X/_\X

THANK YOU!

Of course guys have feelings! They're human beings and feel things, just like us girls.


You're only 13, you know how many guys you're going to date before you get married? A lot! So don't get bitter yet, you're still young. You dont even know that much about guys yet.
At 13, most guys are still immature, and act in that manner. They haven't really, grown up yet.


As you get older, it gets better. Trust me =]
And while some guys still choose to act in an immature and inappropriate manner, there are good ones out there, too. But not all guys are the same. Take Jack for example:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=CuxMiBeckNow7
He is such a nice guy! He actually cares about girls' feelings. He's the opposite of what you're assuming guys are.


I'm sure you'll one day meet a great guy who takes your breath away (cliche but true)! =]
Good Luck!


-Laura. (15-f)

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why is it that some people can wink and others cant? is it like rolling your tongue?
haha thats really random, but ive always wondered that

I believe it's something to do with your DNA/Genetics. Like, if both of your parents can roll their tongues, chances are you will be able to, too. But if neither of them can, then you probably won't be able to. Though there are some cases where neither parent can roll their tongue, but their offspring can.
I find it fascinating actually =D


-Laura. (15-f)

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does anyone know how on myspacee, you can get your about me, to be right next to a picture?

also, how can i make my profile rlly small? it it just the layout that makes it like that?

if so, how can i findd one like that?

thanksss. =]

Ahh Myspace html. My specialty =]


Well, if what you're talking about is having a picture in your about me on the right and then text directly to the left (or vice versa), you just use this code:

Then you put everything you want on the side of the picture here. and that's it.


As for the smaller profile, yes, it's the layout. They're called "skinny" layouts and you can find sites that have them on google:

only search advicenators.com



If you need any more help, my inbox is always open =]

-Laura. (15-f)

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