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Do guys really have feelings???
13/f
I was 11 when I dated my first guy. Well, he kinda left a bruise on my arm. The second guy, ugh, he hated my friends. Third guy, broke up with me after three days. I still don't understand why, either! Well, now I think guys have no feelings because they act like total assholes whenever I meet one. Well, my friend told me to be nice to a friend of hers, who is obviously a guy. Well... It turned out that he started acting rude. I kinda... Kicked him... Well... You get it! Look, could somebody just explain to me why guys are assholes and if they really have feelings? And, if any guys are reading this... Sorry, if this insulted you in anyway. X/_\X
THANK YOU!
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Why are guys assholes? Because they're 13.
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Hormones and puberty.
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First of all I agree completely with Razhie, you are too immature to date. If you're still at the age where you hate boys and kick them...um, hello, don't date them!
Guys are immature until about high school. That's just how it is, girls mature faster. Although quite frankly you're not very mature either..."Sorry if this insulted you in any way"
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Not all guys are assholes, but then if you are half-way intelligent you already knew that.
All guys have feelings. Period.
Mind you, most 13 year old guys I've met are not in touch enough with those feelings to manage anything like a healthy romantic relationship, so I'm not surprised you've end up hurt. They haven't learned better yet.
Frankly, neither have you. You kicked a guy for being rude? Do you realize how immature and self-absorbed this question sounds to other people? And you started dating at 11… I'll never get what is attractive about 11 year olds! Even to each other. 11 year olds are immature and self obsessed! They are supposed to be! It’s part of brain development.
My point is this: You were no more ready to be dating then those boys were, so of course it went down in flames! It would be like asking a five year old to drive a car; you know nothing good is gonna come of it!
Let yourself grow up a bit and for goodness sake let the guys around do the same. Give other people permission to make mistakes and learn. You are a teen! I promise you that you need the forgiveness and understanding of your peers just as badly as they need yours.
Until you genuinely, in your heart, believe that guys have feelings too, don’t date. You aren’t ready to be with another person until you can recognize them as a person. People have feelings.
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Of course guys have feelings! They're human beings and feel things, just like us girls.
You're only 13, you know how many guys you're going to date before you get married? A lot! So don't get bitter yet, you're still young. You dont even know that much about guys yet.
At 13, most guys are still immature, and act in that manner. They haven't really, grown up yet.
As you get older, it gets better. Trust me =]
And while some guys still choose to act in an immature and inappropriate manner, there are good ones out there, too. But not all guys are the same. Take Jack for example:
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He is such a nice guy! He actually cares about girls' feelings. He's the opposite of what you're assuming guys are.
I'm sure you'll one day meet a great guy who takes your breath away (cliche but true)! =]
Good Luck!
-Laura. (15-f)
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Hello.
One- you're 13. You have MANY years of dating ahead of you. Don't let three guys ruin your take on every male on the planet.
Two- you're 13. You shouldn't be calling people assholes. Sorry- but I think its wrong for people your age to think they are "cool" and stuff- so they can swear. Swearing is just dumb. Get over it.
Three- Not all guys are the same. Take me for example. I've never hit a girl. I've never truly and honestly hated anyone. I've never broken up with a girl after three days. I HAVE FEELINGS. Ask Laura- [[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)]. She'll tell you that I actually care about what a girl thinks. I have sympathy for girls. Even more importantly, I have empathy for a lot of people.
I don't feel insulted for what you've said- because some guys are jerks- but I do feel slightly disappointed that you are making an assumption as big as this. Just know that most guys are like me and actually DO care about things. They aren't assholes or anything else you'll call them.
--Jack
(15/m)
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