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Guy Friends
Okay I have a lot of guys friends.. and Im a girl but that doesn't madder right?? A bunch of preps started calling me Kevin instead of Katie which is retarted! But.. okay I was hanging with Adam and we had to sit on the bleechers and i was like Move YOUR feet! because he spread his legs and err haha and Olivia(prep bitch!) was like oh why dont you just sit between his legs! So being me I did and Nathen, Josh and Adam started cracking up and MCKenzie(another prep) was like wow Adam if you like her that much.. and he took it as a complete joke and was like OOO yes I love **Kevin and huged me from the back and kept his arms around me and Mr.Davis(PE teacher) was like you need to keep your hands away from eachother! Wickedd loud and we started laughing. Well that was yesturday ..
I dont like how everyone thinks Im apart of the guys. I dont dress like guys its just guys are more loyal they dont tell people what I say and don't stab or try to hurt eachother.. I dress actaully pretty giry. Skirts --low cut shirts even though my Mom doesn't like it.. when you look at me you deffinelty can tell im a girl. Well its hurting my feelings because today it got worse..
This kid named Nick someones whos never liked me called me Butch. You could tell obvioulsy just by looking at me I was upset by that.. and Nick did it again only i think the third time Steven(another Emo awsome Steven I call him my little emo boy) was like NICK come here NOww!! And he yelled that down the hall and Nick came down and he was like Yeahh?? and Steven was like butch??? look at the way she dresses! and Nick was like yeahh good point she does dress kinda slutty! oh well Steven didn't like that and punched him in the head and im standing to the side and I was like Steven!! Its okayy dont get in trouble for me.. becuase they got in afight while Stevens yelling SHES NOT A SLUT YOUR JUST JELOSE BECAUSE YOU CANT EVEN TOUCH A GIRL!!! and Im like Stop omfgg stop im like crying in the hallway trying to get them apart and teachers start coming out and Mr.Jones actually stopped the fight and all 3 of us go to the office and were sitting in the Vice Prniciaples office and Nicks in the nurse because of a bloody nose.. and Im like Steven why did you do that??? And he was like Nick had no rigt to call you that. I was liek I know but Steven your probbaly gunna get ISS for this im not worth that.. hes parents are wicked strickt and will kill him! And he hugged me and was like trust me you are.. So i was like ooww I didnt know I maddered that much :D and I hugged his again when Mr.Saunders came in. Hes wicked cool and was oww young love we were like not Best Buds! and hes like Well Nicks going home.. we started laughing and Mr.Saunders was like I wanna hear you side of the story and Il talk to Nick tomarrow. So we explained he called me a slut, and butch and Kevin.. and Mr.Saunders was like it was a good reason, but didnt make it right. Which yeah we understand So Steven got ISS for 5 days.. Nicks probbaly gunna get it for six because of hurassment basicly i think.. and everyone was asking me questions because they heard me screaming and i was like what happen to Kevin? they were like oh and stoped talking to me and I explained things to Adam and stuff about what Steven said and he was like dude Katie if he even said Kevin infornt of me id kick his ass! so I donno why I feel like I need some girl friends.. I have Becky. And she hangs with the guys too and she was like to you think Steven likes you and i was like no its a brotherly love just like Adams and stuff. But like wjhat if I start liking one and they think im a sister or something???? Im a girl...
Ahh please help me why i feel this way and Why I dont wanna go to school tomarrow... I like that they feel they should defend me but I can take care of myself. Im not some defensless girl. Im there friend not a sister not a girlfriend.. what should I do???!
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I think you should tell them you are really happy they care but you really don't want them to fight your battles and get in trouble. Tell them that you feel horrible when they get in trouble for you and you feel bad. As for the other girls calling you boy names you can either 1) Ignore and annoy or 2) fight back. Ignore and annoy means ignore them but in a nice way. Act like your totally happy with it. If they call you a guy name just act normal. Or you could ignore them and say "Who are you trying to talk to? Maybe I can get there attention for you" or something. Act sweet about it and it will anger them so much! 2) means you can remark things like "Too bad guys think your to _____ to hang out with you." Or "You just wish you had as many guy friends as i do" stuff like that. Sorry this is kinda late but i hope i helpex! :D
AQnd if you like one of them and suspect the same thing tell him and ask him back or have a friend ask, ect then give it a try! If you have any more questions just leave me a note! :)
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You might be feeling guilty for what happened but,it was Nick's fault for being a jerk,he shouldn't be disrespecting you like that it's very stupid to say things like that without having any proof,you need to let your friends know that if you need help you'll ask them but,you don't want them to be fighting your battles because of what happened to Steven just for defending you,what a wonderful friend he is for standing up for you,now that's a real friend,especially Steve that he already proved that he is a loyal friend,one you could count on, and you stay strong okay.
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The girls who give you shit for stupid stuff, don't even worry about it. They're probablly jelous because you're always around guys but who cares what they say. Their opinions shouldn't matter. Anyways, even though you guys are just "friend" doesn't mean that nether of you can be attracted to one another. The way he stood up for you was really sweet and he obviously cares a lot about you. If you do start to develop feelings for him or any other of your guy friends, oh well. It's normal and bound to happen. But, if you do start to like Steven, maybe you should let him know. He might feel the same way. You never know.
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There's one fundamental rule up until about early thirties - late twenties, and that's ANY friendship that involves a guy or a girl, one side or the other is attracted to that person.
It doesn't have to be some DEEP attraction, but there is more to it than "JUST friends," and there will be up until that age.
If you've known one of these guys since you were five, then it's a little different. But you should just be aware of that.
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First off, it is perfectly fine to have guy friends! I have guy friends, and my absolute best friend was a guy for a little while (but that's a completely different story...) There's nothing wrong with hanging out with guys, regardless of what others might say.
Next, I see you mentioned people call you "Kevin" and you said it was retarded. Tell them to stop! Let them know it bugs you and your name is Katie, not Kevin, and if they were real friends they'd grow up and get it right.
Then, I think that this Steven boy sounds awesome. Not that fact that he pnuched someone, but because he did it for you. That takes a lot, and I'd start off by thanking him and doing something really nice for him. But I'd also tell him, that it wasn't neccessary to get physically violent. Tell him that next time, you'd rather try and stick up for yourself, because you don't want people to view you as the poor little defensless girl who needs her guy friends to knock out anyone who hurts her. Get it?
Also, if you want some girl friends, do any of your guy friends have girlfriends? That's where I'd start, befriending the girlfriends. Totally makes sense, right? =]
If not, then ask Becky is she has any other girl friends. Ask her if next time they hang out, if maybe you could tag along too?
Finally, I wouldn't worry about what if you start liking one of them. Cross that bridge when you come to it. Who knows, maybe you'll like one of them and they'll like you back? Just don't worry about it too much, though.
I hope this helps, let me know =]
-Laura. (15-f)
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I'm glad to hear everything went well =]
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The people making fun of you are just jealous. Probably because they like the guy or are jealous that you have guy friends.
It seems to me like your guy friends care about you. I'm not sure if they like you, because only they know that. But there is a possiblity. Or they could just stick up for you because you're their friend and just like you said sister-ish.
It was really nice and sweet of Steve(n) to stick up for you like that. A lot of girls would love that.
Don't feel like you need to change your friends, i actually wish i had more guy friends. Myabe just make one oe two more girl friends.
Don't change the way you dress, it doesn't sound slutty. Guys and girls just lover calling other people that.
Hope I helped ; anything else, just ask ! :)
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Well I completely understand your point of view on guy friends. I like having guy friends for the same reason. BUT, what I have also founnd out is that no matter how much of a "sister" they claim you are...more likely than not, they will start to like you as something else. I don't think they think you are defenseless, they are just looking out for you. It may be true that one or two of them like you, at least that's how it's coming off.
As far as the girls talking crap, forget them. Girls are catty and mean especially when you are in h.s. and a couple grades before then. I am not sure which you are in. I don't think you dressing a certain way will make them stop saying you aren't a butch, etc. Most likely the girls are probably jealous that you have such a close relationship with those guys and you don't, so they resort to calling names and other childish things.
From what I can see, it looks like Steven likes you to had defended you the way he did. But I don't know them personally so I can not say.
If you have any other specific questions relating to this I would be glad to answer. Maybe with a little more information :)
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Sorry, there's not much you can do. I say ignore them. If you really aren't doing shit with these guys and aren't actually a slut, what's there to worry about? Ya know? Don't let those bastards get you down. If they do mess with you, say your friend will give them another bloody nose ;]
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