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Friends after break up??
i went out with this kid for 7 months and we broke up about 4 monhts ago. all of our friends are friends so its kinda awkward when we all hang out. now school just started and were in the same homeroom, lunch, and spanish. i still have feelings for him, but i dont think he has any for me. i at least want to be friends with him because i just miss talking to him and i think that we could be really good friends. The only thing is i don't know how to go about to this. Like, we talk alot on the computer but never in person. i want to go back out with him but i think i need to start off by just being friends and then getting more and more flirtier once were comftorable again...the problem is i dont know how to start talking to him.
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Telling him your feelings might make it more awkward for him. I know it would for me...just try and start over, tell him you want to be friends and build from there like you said. Past forgotten, move forward
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online just say i miss talking to you. we should be friends and it gets easier from there in person!
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Well, I already see positive situations for you to talk. You said that you talk online really well. That's good & that should make it a lot easier to talk in person...not harder?
Honestly, just go up to him & say hi. Ask him how his classes are, what he likes so far, what he doesn't like, if he has cool teachers, etc. Start that as a basis for conversation & then keep it going. Once you're comfortable to talking in person again, then you can talk about more stuff like you do online.
Eventually, you'll get to being good friends again & you can hopefully discuss the reasons why you broke up [in case things aren't clear; that happened with me and an ex. He thought the feelings for break-up were mutual & that's why he didn't bother to try & get back together.] & see what else happens. Eventually, you'll become closer & whatever & keep going further. Also, when you see yourself becoming good friends, ask him to hang out outside of school together. It can be a group thing or it can be alone, whichever you think is better for the time. For right now, I'd say a group thing because alone time right now could be a little awkward & maybe a little weird too.
Start hanging out some & then see if he develops feelings. Don't have your friends ask though. It's a lot easier on you, yeah, but I'm pretty sure a guy/girl would much rather hear the question from you & not someone else. It's more mature to ask someone if they like you yourself rather than having a friend do it. I hope I helped in some bit...Good luck!
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