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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Laura!




--Jack

advice

Hi!

does anybody know of a way that i can copy videos from youtube to my iPod?
without downloading any software?

thank you so much!

Hey!

www.zamzar.com

In "Step 1", click on URL. Then enter the URL of the youtube video.

In Step 2, converting the file to iPod works, but I've found that unless you have QuickTime Pro, that doesn't work well. Convert it to MP4.

In Step 3, enter your email address.

Then in Step 4, click convert.


It takes about 2 hours to get the email. Then when you get the email- save it to your desktop, and then open iTunes and drag it into iTunes. Then it should work. If not- ask me a follow up inbox question.

--Jack
(16/m)

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f/15

1.) so i'm told all the time that certain guys like me, but how can i really tell if they do? how do guys act if they like a girl?

2.) and i told this guy i liked him and he was listening completely when i was talking to him. but do guys even like it when the girls tell them they like them? is it a good sign? do guys like them more?

it'd be nice to have a guy point of view too.

thanks in advance.

Hey!

1. http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520

From there:
First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because my ex-girlfriend was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded. I haven't had a girlfriend since then [last December, I believe].

Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].



2. Guys definitely like it when girls like them. I know it makes me feel really good- because it kind of makes me feel like I'm doing something right- you know? It is definitely a good sign and subconsciously the guy likes the girl more ;]

--Jack
(16/MALE)

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me and my bf (were both 15) and i trust him completely. he lives 30 mins away from me. we see each other once a week usually. he has alot of female friends.and for valentines day, as a joke 2 of his female friends got him boxers and wrote their names by the top strap and then wrote by the "male part" on the boxers,my name with an S, showing like ownership. and he talks about girls he met at concerts how i should meet them and how cool they are. and his other femal friends he hangs out with them and how hes gonna hang out with him.we've dated 3 months and have a somewhat sexual relationship, but not litterly sex. so i dont know if i am jealous, or i dont really trust him?i dont want to talk to him about it cause i dont want him thinking i dont trust him or i'm jealous..what should i do? am i jealous?do i REALLY trust him?

I'm going to be completely honest- which you should expect when you come to me.

1. You are jealous. I'm sorry to say it- but worrying about this is natural, yes, but its still jealousy.

2. You don't trust him "completely" as you claim; jealousy is a sign of distrust.

3. You should talk to him. I don't care how stupid you think you'll sound- because it would actually be the mature thing to do to tell him how you feel. Don't attack him for hanging out with other people because he has the right to do so. Just ask him if you can trust him. If he says yes- well then leave it at that. If you ever suspect he is cheating- CONFRONT him. Communication is ESSENTIAL!

--Jack
(16/m)

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do guys like athletic girls? i dont know...i just want to know what guys look at in a girl. i mean, guys like me. but i want them to like me for the right reasons so i want to try and see if i can break down those stupid "looks" barriers at all... not sure how yet but haha, i just need an overview of what guys like. both inside and out please and thank you!! :)

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520

From there:
First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because my ex-girlfriend was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded. I haven't had a girlfriend since then [last December, I believe].

Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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what is the phobia of turning into a pumpkin? Aha i know its strange, but i need it a.s.a.p!

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071204134709AAF11hE&show=7

Coimetrophobia is the fear of pumpkins

Apocolocynposis is the fear of turning into a pumpkin

--Jack
(16/m)

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my close friend has this sickness.
and like. i pray for a cure everynight.

how weird does that sound though?
is that stalkerish. i mean its the kid i like.
i hate giving pity-.. is that giving pity?


i know . how random and weird is this question.

-deana

Oh my gosh- no that is not stalkerish at all!

Go you for praying for him- and praying just in general ;]

That totally is not giving pity- it's showing God that you believe in Him and that you are putting it up to him- which is very honorable.

Go you, like I said ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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ok so theres a lot of talk about how you can track whos looked at your facebook...so how do you do it?!?!

thanks!!!!!!!

Just like with Myspace.. it doesn't exist.

Don't believe people. Most of the things that claim to do this just want your information.. like your password and email so they can hack into your account.

--Jack
(16/m)

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14/f
i'm going into high school soon and i've never kissed or dated a guy. I've only had one guy ask me out but it was over IM and I turned him down.

Do you think guys won't like me if they know i don't know how to kiss, or i've never dated or anything. Or will they think it's cute and not care and go along with it and date/kiss me?

or will they like take advantege of me??
I'm pretty shy, but I have a lot of friends, and some guy friends but not a lot.

help

Oh dear. I say that in a good way- not a bad one ;].

I think it is pretty awesome that you haven't dated or kissed a guy before ;]

If any guy won't like you for that- wow- they aren't worth it. Honestly- I think, like me, most guys will think it's a big turn on ;]. They probably will think it's cute- especially if it's a decent guy.

I don't see any reason why any guy would take advantage of you.. Hmm..

I like shy girls, to be honest ;] So you're completely fine =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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Okay, like 2 weeks ago I was very popular. I was bffl with the most popular person. The only reason I was popular was because of her. We have been friends since kindergarton. But then, this rumor spread out around me. It was that I had been talking mad shit about my bffl. She found out and didnt believe me when I tried to tell her that it was just a rumor and that i never said that. but, she doesnt believe me. Ive tried everything. Now, she is turning basically the whole school against me. I have like 2 friends left. My old friends keep calling and leaving me messages saying that im ugly and i dont have a life. they making me miserable.

at night i just cry, but that didnt get the pain out so ive started snapping hair bands on my wrist.
i know its bad, but....

please help me!

Like the person below said- this is just a bunch of stupid middle school drama. If you're supposed "bbfl" won't believe you when you say you didn't talk about her- well then what does that tell you? It tells you this girl is just another stuck-up bitch who feeds off of rumors. She isn't even worth it- especially hurting yourself- even though snapping hair bands really isn't THAT bad- it could lead to worse things.

Don't let these stupid people ruin your life. Like Jessie said below- I think you should find some new friends, people who will always be there for you and will always listen to what you have to say. The easiest way to do this is to join a team or club. Honestly I've met some of the most amazing people just being in my school's plays. It's awesome =].

And those people who call you and tell you that you're ugly and you don't have a life.. wow. For one.. being ugly has nothing to do with talking behind someone's back- which you didn't do. I bet you anything that these girls are telling you that you're ugly because they're jealous. I know that sounds cliche- but I see it all the time. And I think it's them that need to "get a life" because if they have to waste time calling someone and telling them stupid awful things- they obviously have nothing better to do. Just ignore them.

--Jack
(16/m)

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well i'm not gonna lie...i'm a horny little thing. i mean not just some little thing sets me off but when i get horny nothing can stop me. and lately i've developed different feelings. i wonna have sex.
all my friends have had sex, fingured, gave head, etc etc. i'm a good girl and i'm tired of it. it sucks. i wonna do it, but i'm scared.

You're young- I'm not sure how young, but you're probably my age. EVERYONE has hormones at our age and we all get urges, I guess, but I'm not going into detail with that..

My point is that, for one, you're completely normal with your "different" feelings. They aren't really "different".

You said that you "wonna do it, but [you're] scared"... that is the first indication that you're not ready yet. Any time you have doubts, concerns, fears, or the like, you're definitely not ready, though you may think you are.

I have a feeling you really only want to do things because all of your friends have. Who cares what they have done? You shouldn't. You are your own individual person and you shouldn't judge what's right for you based on what other people are doing. I've had many people tell me they regret loosing their virginity at such a young age- and that they wish they could take it back and they wish they would have waited. That from people I personally know- but also people on Advicenators.

So my advice is that you should wait to have sex or do anything for when you are 110% ready.

--Jack
(16/m)

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So there is this guy. He is really nice and funny and he is in a lot of my classes. He is in plays, musicals and he is really good at writing poetry. I always thought he was gay. He acts like a little girl too so I thought he must be gay. I am not trying to be mean I am just wondering. Because he got his ear pierced in the left ear and that is the one that means you are straight. What do you think about this? I don't want to ask him because that would be rude. He also made a joke about a gay person being gay. I was like what? My friends are not to sure of it either and one of them likes him and she didn't know if he was gay or not. Do you think he is?

Oh dear..

Okay, take me for instance. I'm in my school's plays/musicals. I also am pretty good at writing poetry. I don't have my ear pierced.. but that isn't the point. My point is that just because you're a guy that does the plays/musicals, it doesn't mean you're gay, because I'm not. I'm living proof that that statement isn't even slightly true.

I'm not trying to yell at you- I'm just trying to have you know that you shouldn't be so quick to judge someone like that. How would you feel if someone thought you were a lesbian because you played football and liked to hang out with all the guys?

Stereotypes and labels are lame. Don't follow the awful bandwagon of those two things- it only leads to hurt feelings and stupid assumptions.


And to the person above me- I can't believe the assumptions you're making. Wow. I'm shocked. As my Chemistry teacher would say- I hope you fall in a hole. And that isn't a threat ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Ok so im trying to find something for my bf for V-day... and i was wondering, do guys like stuffed animals???

It really depends on the guy.

Personally- it would be an okay gift for me. But then again, even a hand-made card would be fine. I'm really not materialistic.

Most guys probably wouldn't like a teddy bear, to be honest. I think the safest thing to do is to just make him a card and maybe buy a box of chocolates, perhaps.

I've heard it's tough to buy for guys for Valentine's Day, but remember that the best gifts are the ones that come from the heart- not necessarily the wallet xD.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Ok well there are these girls on my bus. I know it might sound pitiful, but they are younger than half the people they do this to. They look at the highschool kids like we are a peice of trash. And today the turned around and looked at me like i was a peice of trash, and i was just like what are you freaking looking at? and they rolled there eyes and turned around. I think they might have been looking at my friend too, and she said what was that about and i was just like nothing they are just hores. and as they was getting off the bus they turned and looked at me then i stuck my tounge out at them, and one of them did this weird little thing with her hand, like where she snapped her fingers and pulled her hand down. You know what i mean? I have known these girls since they were in fifth grade, but its like they hit 7th and became mean girls. I know not everyone can like you but i cant help but let it bother me. At first i was mad, but then i started thinking maybe i should apologize for saying that...i dont know what to do...can you help me?

Don't even worry about stupid little 7th graders.

They are immature girls who are either A.) starting their periods B.) on their periods or C.) just plain bitchy ;]. Excuse my language, but it's true.

They are young and they are simply going through the stage in their life where they think they are better than everyone else. Ignore them.

--Jack
(16/m)

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ok...if i miss someone named... jamie!!! how do i make plans that we can both hang out at!!! i really wwant to make them soon so i can have a day to look forward to. Please help me because i love you!!!!

Maybe ask this Jamie kid when you two can hang out.

I'm sure he wants to hang out with you.

Thanks, I love you too? I don't know you though..

--Jack
(16/m)

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Hi guys how are ya'll doing? I just wanted to ask if ya'll thought that I was freaky. So I'm a tomboy and a bounch of girls have been teasing me. I never wear my hair down, I play football and basketball, all of my friends are boys and the girls at school wont stop teasing me because of it! They call me lesbian, stupid, and one of them said "Who are you going to the dance with...oh wait no one would want a mud coverd bitch as a dance partner". So what should I do about this they are really hurting my feelings? Please help I really apreciate it if anyone answers thanks.

Wow, okay.

First off- I would never say you're freaky. A lot of girls are just like you- they are more sport-savvy.

Next time someone says something to you, just either ignore it or tell an adult. I know that sounds really lame.. but honestly it works. Personally, I would just ignore them, because usually people who pick on other people are only doing it because they are jealous or they are the same way and are embarrassed to admit it.
As my English teacher says, "The things we hate most are the things we are most in love with." If you think about that- it really has a lot of truth to it. So these girls who hate you [I'm not sure if they HATE you, but let's say they do for sake of argument] probably are just picking on you because they envy you. Ponder that ;].

Always be yourself and be proud of who you are. Who cares what other people think of you. They aren't you, so it doesn't matter.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Alrighty so does anybody know the name and who sings the theme song in iCarly? Thanks!

"Leave It All to Me" -Miranda Cosgrove featuring Drake Bell.

=]

--Jack
(16/m)

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16/f

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 7 months. He has been talking to some stupid girl from another state and it bugs me wicked badly. So one day I was on myspace and I purposly looked for a guy from my school who is completely gorgeous. We started talking and became best friends. He knows i have a crush on him and he tells me he has one on me. I feel so attached to him. I really do like my boyfriend a lot. I have already broken up with him twice for this kid and we got back together because i cant help but be with him. By the way, my boyfriend hates this kid because he thinks he tried using me for sex, even though we never did anything together but hug. My boyfriend would be wicked pissed if he found out that we talk. It is extremely complicated and i dont know what to do. I need advice desperatly. Who should I pick? If you need more imformation I'll send you some. Thanks.

You answered for yourself with these words:
I have already broken up with him twice for this kid and we got back together because i cant help but be with him.



So I think you should stay with your boyfriend. I know that getting back at your boyfriend seemed like a good idea at the time, but if you really felt threatened by this girl he's talking to, well then talk to him about it. Being passive aggressive and talking to some other guy just because your boyfriend is talking to some girl from another state isn't right.

Just talk to your boyfriend, and if you feel like it isn't worth it, well then dump your boyfriend.

--Jack
(16/m)

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15/f
(srry long)
i have a bf who lives 30 mins away and i talk to him EVERYDAY on the phone and or aim and were like really into each other almost love but we agreed not to bring that up because we want it to mean somtin when and if we say it in the future.anyways the school musical is coming up and we get out late everynite so by the time i get back from that, shower,eat, finish hw, chores i barely have anytime to talk to him. and sometimes on saturdays we have to have practice which cuts in more of time i can see him ( because i see him ever saturday) and even tho we can still see each other sunday....its still interfering...and he doesnt like the idea of not talking to me hardly at all during the week..but he told me to do whatever makes me happy..but idk what i want, i wouldnt be able to stand not talkign to him.
...any ideas...

Well since I know you, it kind of puts a bias in my answer.. but I think regardless I would still say the same thing.

I think that you should do the musical. I know that sounds rude and inconsiderate, but I know you and I know that you love singing. Singing, being something you love, should be something that he approves of, as he said "Do whatever makes you happy".

I'm not saying you two will break up, but most teenage relationships end either in high school or shortly after. Very few people stay with their "high school sweetheart" their entire life. What I'm saying is.. relationships come and go, and I know that infatuation with your current relationship may be misguiding, but I think that you should do the musical.

That's my honest opinion, and if your boyfriend isn't mature enough to understand that the musical will take time out of time with him, well then he probably isn't mature enough for you ;].

--Jack
(16/m)

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i lloked at that advice you gave to the other irl about the picture taking and so i was wondering if you could send me a link...

A link to what? That question?

Here's the link to that question:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=527706

If that's not what you wanted- please rephrase your question or just ask a new one ;]

**EDIT**
Unfortunately I don't have a website that has them. The tips I gave were ones I actually learned in class. Try this search:

only search advicenators.com


--Jack
(16/m)

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well, its not really a question for me but just in general

what do you do when you don't feel like working (ie hw) but you have to?

Haha. I am a procrastinator so this happens to me a lot..

Let's say that I have some chemistry homework to do [any class applies] and it is assigned Thursday and is due Friday so it's just do the next day... Usually I won't start that homework [unless I have A LOT] until about 8 or 9 pm on Thursday. If the thing is assigned Thursday and due Monday.. I probably will do it Sunday night because I have no motivation. If the thing is assigned in week one on Monday and is due week three on Monday [so two weeks] I probably won't start it until the Friday before or if I'm really lazy.. the Sunday night before it's due.

I'm not saying that procrastination is good, and I'm also not saying it's bad. It honestly works for me. I work better under the pressure [ie it is due the next day and I've had forever and a day to work on it.. but haven't] than I would when it was first assigned. The "last minute" [as the cliche phrase states] provides me with motivation.. so to answer your question.. I usually wait until the last minute and usually my product [ie homework or anything else you can apply to this situation] turns out excellent.

You just have to see what works for you and go with it ;].

--Jack
(16/m)

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