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can i trust my boyfriend?
me and my bf (were both 15) and i trust him completely. he lives 30 mins away from me. we see each other once a week usually. he has alot of female friends.and for valentines day, as a joke 2 of his female friends got him boxers and wrote their names by the top strap and then wrote by the "male part" on the boxers,my name with an S, showing like ownership. and he talks about girls he met at concerts how i should meet them and how cool they are. and his other femal friends he hangs out with them and how hes gonna hang out with him.we've dated 3 months and have a somewhat sexual relationship, but not litterly sex. so i dont know if i am jealous, or i dont really trust him?i dont want to talk to him about it cause i dont want him thinking i dont trust him or i'm jealous..what should i do? am i jealous?do i REALLY trust him?
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Honestly I think you are just jeloues and it is not so much because they are girls but just that they get to be with him more than you. If he is saying you should meet them I think that is a good sign because why would he want you to meet girls he is interested in.
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I'm going to be completely honest- which you should expect when you come to me.
1. You are jealous. I'm sorry to say it- but worrying about this is natural, yes, but its still jealousy.
2. You don't trust him "completely" as you claim; jealousy is a sign of distrust.
3. You should talk to him. I don't care how stupid you think you'll sound- because it would actually be the mature thing to do to tell him how you feel. Don't attack him for hanging out with other people because he has the right to do so. Just ask him if you can trust him. If he says yes- well then leave it at that. If you ever suspect he is cheating- CONFRONT him. Communication is ESSENTIAL!
--Jack
(16/m)
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I don't think he is doing something you wouldnt want him to. Because he tells you about his friends that are girls. Normally a guy would hide then from his girlfriend if he is doing something with them that he shouldnt. Hope i helped
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i think it is a little bit of both. i mean..i think you trust him but not a full trust. and i think you are jealous..i mean..i don't blame you. i would be jealous to. you live half hour away from eachother which will bring suspisions because you can't see waht eachother is doing. so you aren't sure he is doing what he is supposed to but you like him so much you are probally putting it off because you don't wnat to htink like that because you want the relationship to conitnue. so being jealous isn't a bad thing it is ok but if you are really unsure bout what is going on, it is better just to talk to him bout it, and if he doesn't understand it and something ends up going wrong, then you know that he wasn't right for you. Just know that i'm always here for a shoulder to cry on or to help with anything at all!! Good luck and have fun!!
~sealgirl~
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Its common to not gain trust, especially if you haven't been dating for too long. Think of it this way. If he was planning on getting into relationships with these girls, would he tell you about them?? Probably not. It's a good sign that he tells you he wants you to meet them. If he was trying to cheat on you or go behind your back, he wouldn't mention them. That doesn't mean if he stops talking about them that he is interested in pursuing relationships with them though. If you feel that you don't trust him, talk to him about it. You should be able to work something out if you both care enough about each other to keep a steady relationship going. If he hasn't done anything specific for you to get the idea that he wants to date other girls, then you probably shouldn't worry too much about it. Also, you can't control what other girls do. If they flirt or hit on him you can't control that. Just make sure he isn't doing it back. If you notice that he is or he isn't stopping it, then you should talk to him about it.
-hope that helped!♥
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Everyone gets jealous, it's a natural human emotion. I think you are jealous, and I would be, too.
I believe that you trust him in some way, but I'd still talk to him about it if it bothers you this much. Just bring it up with him one day (face to face) and say something along the lines of,
"[Name] there's something I'd like to talk to you about because it's been bothering me lately. First off, I trust you. I really do, but I'm worried about all the time you're spending with all these other girls. I know I probably have no reason to be upset, but I'd like it if maybe you stopped telling me how awesome they are, because like I said, it's upsetting me. I'm not mad, it's just something I wanted to bring up with you."
Try this, and make sure you're calm when you talk to him and not yelling =]
Best of luck!
-Laura. (15-f)
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