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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

advice

16/f. My boyfriend IS my best friend. I love him so much. We've been together almost a year now. And we see each other almost everyday. But I'm starting to think maybe he's not the one for me. I've met alot of nice guys but I can't date any of them because of my boyfriend. He was my first real boyfriend. I don't want to leave him because he'll think I don't love him, but I REALLY do. It's not a lust love or anything, it's real, we care about each other, we can just lay there and be happy, we never run out of things to say, we can make anything fun, I love him so much. He always makes me feel loved. Anyway haha, I am really curious, I would like to know what it's like to date another guy. But if I do this...he probably won't take me back. And I can't stand losing him. But how do I know if he's really that great if I don't try to date someone other than him? Goshh..

Relax. You're only 16. You have your entire life left for dating. If you want to experience dating other people, don't feel ashamed to. If you want to see other people, there is nothing wrong with wanting to, as long as you are not with him when you do it!

You're obviously having doubts, you told us yourself. So why don't you just take some time off from your boyfriend?

But I'm a little confused because you claim you love him and you "can just lay there and be happy, never run out of things to say, make anything fun," etc.
If you think you won't find anyone else like him, then stay with him. If you enjoy his company, stay with him. But if you're just not feeling it anymore, it isn't fair to either of you to stay together.

You have to ask yourself what YOU want. We can't tell you what you want, we can only offer our perspective. Obviously less than 100 words isn't going to give us the full gist of the situation. If you think you want to date new people, do it. If you think that you're perfectly content with where you are, stay there.

My opinion is basically decide what is important to you, and follow that. Don't feel bad for not wanting to stay tied down to your boyfriend for the rest of forever. You're only 16 =].

Good luck.

--Jack
(16/m)

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when do guys stop growing?
i have a friend whos 5'3 ish and he's 17
is he done growing?

Each guy is different. Some guys start growing around 12 and don't stop until they're 22 or so. Some guys don't start until they're 17. Some guys grow for 3 years, and they're done.

My point is, there is no definite answer. He still has a few more years left before he's out of the "puberty range", as I'll call it. Puberty generally takes place between 13-18, but, like I said, it varies for each guy. I myself started growing around 13, and I'm not sure I'm done yet. I'm 17 this November.

--Jack
(16/m)

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15/f

Uh so sometimes, when I talk to guys my age, it's really hard to talk to them because of you know what: hormones. My mind just fogs over and I stop thinking and I say retarded things, even though I have no romantic interest in the guy at all. I don't get nervous around guys, it's just that when I anticipate myself messing up, I get nervous to talk to them. (also the thought of looking directly into certain guys' eyes makes me nervous)

How do I make myself handle talking to guys better? ty in advance

I know this is really cliché and all, but you need to just be yourself. Just relax and don't think about what you're going to say before. Just concentrate on the conversation and not on messing up, because when you think the worst is going to happen, it most definitely will. ALWAYS think positive. Just take the conversations one step at a time. When he says something, think about your response to it, obviously not for very long or he'll think you've lost interest. HAVE CONFIDENCE! It doesn't matter whether you're looking to date the guy or not, just be confident in what you say, and be decisive. Don't stutter, better yet, don't think you will stutter, or it'll happen.

Good luck =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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How do you keep your vagina 'trimmed'?
Do you use scissors to keep the hairs short or still use a razor? I'm clueless :)

The general consensus, as I have seen on this site, is to use a razor. Scissors would work, too, I assume...

--Jack
(16/m)

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I've taken part in oral sex and mutual masturbation but I have not had sex. When the doctor asks me if I'm sexually active do I say yes, no, or ... kinda? Lol thanks!

It all depends how you define it.

I myself define "sexually active" as doing anything like oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex, and the like. Basically anything that is done with someone else sexually. So according to me, you've been sexually active, but that's really up to you to decide what you define as that.

Usually when doctors ask, they mean vaginal sex. So I guess you would say no.

--Jack
(16/m)

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me and my gf are both virgins? can we get stds if we are gonna have sex for the first time since you only get it through another infected person and your body does not "make" it.

just to be clear,,i have got a lot of ramblings and redundant answers which I don't want.so I'm gonna make it clear now.

1)we have NOT had any previous partners(dont' answer stuff like,,,she may not be telling the truth,,etc etc.i don't care about that,i just want to know if two virgins having sex can get stds)

2)we have NOT had any previous oral sex partners

3)we have NOT had any form of intimacy with other ppl,like kissing,heavy petting,anal sex...just bottomline: we both are in our first love.

4)we have not used any drugs,needles,etc.and assume we do not have HIV in our body,from mosquitoes,,we are perfectly CLEAN.

5)yes i know to be a 100 percent safe,use a condom,but for now..i would like to know the answer to the question.

6)i know you can get pregnant without a condom.

thanks guys

The possibility of either of you contracting an STD from one another is rare, but there is DEFINITELY ALWAYS a small possibility. If you wanted to make sure, get checked by your doctors for common STDs. But unless your parents have STDs or one of you somehow got injected with an STD when you were children, the chances are slim.

Of course, use a condom, like you said.

--Jack
(16/m)

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This may be a stupid question but what is eating a girl out? Answer appreciated, thanks!

God help me, I'm answering this question.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=eating%20out

1. eating out

when a man goes to a girl, takes off whatever she's wearing, make her horny enough, then finally start sucking out her pussy/vagina/cunt/ whatever you call it

2. Eating out

eating out is when a man, or in some cases a woman, performs oral sex on a woman, by placing his/her tongue/lips on the genitals (vagina, clit, pussy) and licking or nibbling on either. This is the easiest way for most women to experience an orgasm.

3. eating out

engulfing a pussy with the tongue




Ugh. Please, next time use urbandictionary.com. It has a lot of information on there =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Ok, so I'm 16/m...

Yesterday I went to the movies with this girl I like. We were flirting and I'm 99.9% sure that she likes me. We've hung out a few times before and I was wondering if I should just ask her out already, or hang out with her again...

Hello!

I find it oddly refreshing that someone is actually asking for advice on this website now! =]

I'm going to try to not repeat what has already been said.

I think that if YOU want to date her, then date her. If you have even an OUNCE of doubt, then don't do it. You're just a teenager, and you have your entire life ahead of you. If dating is something you want to do, then go for it! It can be a lot of fun and very rewarding. Just keep it spontaneous, alright?

If you think that maybe you should wait a little longer until you know FOR sure that she likes you, then don't let ANYONE tell you that that is wrong, because it isn't.

And lastly, don't rush into a decision. I've done that many times with relationships, and that's why they failed. I'm not trying to scare you away from them, I'm just trying to tell you that you shouldn't follow the path that I did. Take your time in deciding, and if it's what you feel you have to do, rather, if you feel it's what you WANT to do, then do it.

Good luck!
--Jack
(16/m)

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Okay, So there is this Guy who I totally like. And I want to know if he likes me back. Here is how he acts.

1. Im the first girl on his top, And Pretty far up, on myspace.
2. Whenever he is online, He i/ms Me
3. He insults me alot Then Smiles
4. He always looks me in the eyes
5. In gym one day, I was sitting down and he sat really close to me and we spent the whole period talking.
6. He playfully punches me. Or slaps in me in the stomach or something.
7. Once In enlgish, My friend put her backpack in the seat next to mine, and he moved it and Put his stuff there and sat.
8. Another time in English, He was sitting in the back and I sat in the front and he moved his Stuff and Sat next to me.
9. Once, in the hall i was talking to my friend Shane about how Shane cameover my house once and The kid I like was right there, and he was like "I have never been to your housee!"

So Does he like me? Also, It seems like he's kind of flirting. So when he is Doing all of this, what do I do back? Thankss(:

Hey-

The answer to your question is yes =].

Here's a past question I answered similar to this that may or may not help you:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

From there:

I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!

--Jack
(16/m)

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i like this guy and i am friends with him, he is preppy and as a nice personality. but i dont think i am all that pretty and i want him to notice me. What do i do? help i am a female. teenager

I'm not sure how useful this will be, but here was a question I answered that is... similar to yours. If something doesn't apply to you, just act as if I didn't say it, but I think it covers for the most part what I would say:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520

From there:

[T]he best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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yeah i know this is asked loads of times anyway: we went to school with each other then i left. i Knew she kinda liked me because her friends told me. When i left we talked a few times on msn, but recently we met at a party and we messed around havin water fights, we wer havin loads of fun and she picked on me more then anyone else. Then when i was just standin she came up behind me and put her hands around my hips on my stomach. then i just stopped and stood still and she took them away.... on msn she always talks to me as soon as i sign in. she asked me if a got a gf.. we wer goin to another party soon and i asked her what we wer goin to do and she said makeout, then said it was a joke, she also asked me for my number and texts me at random times to piss me off like really early in the mornin..... i dont know whether i should make a move???

For a second, when I saw the "Does she like me?" title, I was going to give my generic answer and then rate this question a 1.

The question I have to ask you is, do you like her? It's BLATANTLY obvious she likes you- she wouldn't be doing all of this if she didn't.

If you like her, then make a move! No one says you have to move really fast or move really slow or whatever. You two should define your relationship. Talk with her- see what works for her, and if you disagree about something, then work it out as mature teenagers.

But I say go for it- she sounds fun ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Hey whats up
well i cant seem to freakin upload my picture no matter what dude!i keep going through my phone clicking the picture then it says to click this button to save .i do an still it doesnt upload i did its seven times already in the past 4 days

What are you trying to upload your picture on?

Myspace? Contact Tom and let him know something is up.

Facebook? I'm not sure, just keep trying.

Advicenators? Your picture cannot be any larger than 15k or something- I'm not sure the size. If you want your picture- save it on your computer and then upload it on tinypic.com and then get the url of the picture and put that into the "URL of a Picture of you" section of the "Profile Settings" page.

Something else? Let me know.

--Jack
(16/m)

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background:im 16/f
bf is 15/m
been dating 1 week short of 6 months.
live 30 mins away, and see each other once on the weekends.


do u think its weird that i told my bf i love him on april 27 and he didnt say it back because he said he wasnt ready.and he still hasnt said anything?

its fine that hes not saying it because i take sayin " i love you" seriously and all.but i just think its weird he hasnt said it.i dont want to push him. but i'd like another guys opinion.
thank you

It isn't weird at all. If anything- you've found a keeper!

People these days tend to throw those words around like they mean nothing, and I'm not saying you aren't. I know you and I know you wouldn't say it unless you thought you meant it. So when he hasn't said it back- it doesn't mean he doesn't- it means that he doesn't want to say it, then two weeks later break up with you and feel stupid. He'll say it when he feels the relationship is strong enough that it will most likely continue.

Cherish this boy. There aren't many like him out there =].

--Jack
(16/m)
*Happy Belated Birthday!*

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I'm looking for a digital camera for about $300 dollars, but I'm willing to go higher if needed. Here's my specifications:

1. Takes high quality pictures
2. Takes videos
3. Many different camera settings
4. Under or at $300


Thanks!

www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=503897
www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=509377
www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=540736


From those similar questions, this was my answer:

Hey. I am going to tell you about my wonderful camera I got two Christmases ago.

It does everything you want:
-Takes pictures
-Takes videos
-Has many different picture settings
-I have rechargeable batteries.. they were kind of on the pricey side, but they are definitely worth it.. you don't have to go out and buy new batteries every time they die.
-It is in your price range. You won't get too great of quality for under $150, so its good you have a larger range. But.. at the bottom of the page I give below- it has a certain website where it looks like you can find it at $119.99. That would probably be your best bet.

Here is a review of it that I found: www.imaging-resource.com/PRODS/A530/A530A.HTM

This camera has 5.0 megapixels, 4X Optical Zoom [You want optical zoom, not digital zoom- because digital screws up the pixels as you zoom and the picture looks really crappy], it has 18 different shooting modes, and if you have a larger memory card [I have 2GB] you can hold a lot of pictures/videos.

Now for my own review..
I love this camera a lot and it is a great investment. I take tons of pictures and videos.. and it is perfect for me. The picture quality is the best I've seen in many different digital cameras. My brother has one, and the pictures always come out having odd white spots on them. This camera doesn't do that, ever. I think you will love it.



The website I gave you can get a good discount =D.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I need some recommendations for a digital camera. It has to be more or less compact (when you turn it off, the lens goes back inside of the camera). It has to take extremely good pictures, and have a video recorder. I could care less what it looks like, so don't try finding me the first cute camera that pops up on google. I want quality and something small. My budget is $500, but if I'm going to spend 500 bucks on something, it better be good.

17/F

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=503897
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=509377


From those similar questions, this was my answer:

Hey. I am going to tell you about my wonderful camera I got last Christmas.

It does everything you want:
-Takes pictures
-Takes videos
-Has many different picture settings
-I have rechargeable batteries.. they were kind of on the pricey side, but they are definitely worth it.. you don't have to go out and buy new batteries every time they die.
-It is in your price range. You won't get too great of quality for under $150, so its good you have a larger range. But.. at the bottom of the page I give below- it has a certain website where it looks like you can find it at $119.99. That would probably be your best bet.

Here is a review of it I found:http://www.imaging-resource.com/PRODS/A530/A530A.HTM

This camera has 5.0 megapixels, 4X Optical Zoom [You want optical zoom, not digital zoom- because digital screws up the pixels as you zoom and the picture looks really crappy], it has 18 different shooting modes, and if you have a larger memory card [I have 2GB] you can hold a lot of pictures/videos.

Now for my own review..
I love this camera a lot and it is a great investment. I take tons of pictures and videos.. and it is perfect for me. The picture quality is the best I've seen in many different digital cameras. My brother has one, and the pictures always come out having odd white spots on them. This camera doesn't do that, ever. I think you will love it.


The only thing is, I'm not sure if you can find it at Sears- but the website I gave you can get a good discount =D.


**EDIT**
I know it's cheap- but it is a VERY nice camera. Just be gentle with it- don't drop it- and it will work very nicely.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Im really Nervous..

My friends are so energetic and have great friends and can go up to boys and say hi and hug them. I just walk past them and say hi with no eye contact at all. Im really shy around people im not well aquainted with. So how will i get through highschool. My mom says in highschool your group of friends will sometimes go there on way. I cant live without my friends!If i lose them i might not make any friends at all and be a loner....

My brother says ill do better then my friends because...im not bipolar,or i wont go up to strangers and say HI and act retarded. He also told me not to be fake..

what advice do you guys and girls have on how to survive highschool,how to be less shy and make new friends, and how to talk to boys with more eye contact?

I know these may be alot of questions but it would be soooo helpful if you helped!

I've answered a question similar to this before, but if it doesn't completely help, I'll add more upon request ;].


http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=504785

From there:

Is High School scary? What should I expect to happen to me? Should I stay away from Seniors? How should I make friends?


My answer:
Hello.

I was a freshman last year- and I have to say.. it was one of the most scary things I've EVER experienced! I was thrown in the trash can on the first day and it was horrible. Some kid even had to go to the emergency room! It was the WORST first day of school of my entire life! I almost didn't go back!

Haha- so hopefully you didn't take that seriously- because it really wasn't like that at all. I always play that trick on people who ask this question. C'mon- I gotta have a little fun! High school is NOT scary. It actually is a lot more fun. You have more freedoms than middle school and you can take REALLY awesome classes. If you have to chance to take a Speech class- DO IT! You think it will be the dumbest class ever and you'll be really bored- but you get the chance to get really good at speeches- and you'll learn really awesome things! When you get to be a Junior/Senior- take AP and Honors classes- these will impress colleges and they will want you to go to their college if you do well enough on them.

People may tell you that Freshmen year doesn't count for anything- so slacking off won't matter until you're an upperclassmen. This is wrong. Colleges will look at your cumulative GPA- and that includes your freshmen year. Don't slack off; you'll regret it later.

Just to debunk the rumor- There is NOT a "Freshmen Friday". Sure, this used to exist back in the 60s and 70s, but it doesn't anymore. Any school that actually still does it will probably end up getting sued by a bunch of parents. So most don't do it. Chances are, your high school won't do it.

Here is my list of DOs and DON'Ts:

Do:
-Do all of your homework.
-Make new friends [some old ones will naturally just fade away] and do this by just starting up simple conversations with people- and it will eventually lead to a great friendship. Ask someone you may want to get to know for a pencil in class.. that's a classic. Sit with new people at lunch.
-Ask the teacher for help if you need it.

Don't:
-Don't talk to seniors.. they most likely DON'T like you. The won't give you any respect.
-Don't wear revealing clothing- seniors will automatically hate you.

All in all- if you just be yourself- you'll be fine. If you have upperclassmen in any classes- you'll get to know them over the course of the year- and you may end up meeting some really great people. I know that some of my best friends I met at school last year- and most of them were 10th grade or older. Not all seniors hate you- some will be welcoming- but just assume the worst in them, at first. After awhile- you'll know who to avoid and who to warm up to. You'll be fine. Don't worry.

--Jack
(16/m)

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What is the best advice anyone has ever given you in life? (mantras are great)

Keep going and never stop. Don't let other people's unwillingness to enjoy what you're enjoying bring you down. Be your own person and never surrender your originality to be like everyone else.

Gotta love my parents ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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I have to do a research paper for English class. It has to be at least 4-5 pages. The topic could be on whatever we want, but we have to prove a point in the paper. I was thinking school shootings, but I do not know what point I could prove. What topic could I do that would easily prove a point, or, what point could I prove in the topic of school shootings?

Thank you in advance.

Affirmative Action
Sportsmanship
Overpopulation
Animal Testing
Cloning
Religion in Public Schools
Self-Mutilation
Racism
Prejudice Against Religions
Doctor Assisted Suicide
Animal Cruelty
Abuse
Cell Phones in School
Homosexuality
etc.


--Jack
(16/m)

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I have the website http://theymos.com , which offers free web design. I get a decent amount of hits, but very few requests for web design. If you were looking for free web design, is there anything on my site that would turn you away from it? Of particular interest is my request form, http://theymos.com/recieve.php , which seems to be a popular exit point; is there anything unappealing with the form? Thanks much,

Theymos

It would be cooler if it wasn't down right now! =D

But then again I'm sure it's awesome since you're awesome at web design and everything with computers.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I need a large list of Internet forums. Any active forum about any topic will do. I need more than 200, but any you can provide will be excellent. I'm not interested in which forums are the best, or which you like; I need only a list. Thanks.

theymos

http://bbs.keyhole.com/ubb/ubbthreads.php/Cat/0
http://www.big-boards.com/
http://www.ruby-forum.com/


There you go!

--Jack
(16/m)

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