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Im shy and next year ill be in HS
Im really Nervous..
My friends are so energetic and have great friends and can go up to boys and say hi and hug them. I just walk past them and say hi with no eye contact at all. Im really shy around people im not well aquainted with. So how will i get through highschool. My mom says in highschool your group of friends will sometimes go there on way. I cant live without my friends!If i lose them i might not make any friends at all and be a loner....
My brother says ill do better then my friends because...im not bipolar,or i wont go up to strangers and say HI and act retarded. He also told me not to be fake..
what advice do you guys and girls have on how to survive highschool,how to be less shy and make new friends, and how to talk to boys with more eye contact?
I know these may be alot of questions but it would be soooo helpful if you helped!
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I actually graduate high school next week, so I can help you tons with this question.
The whole making friends thing is really easy. Just chat with people you sit near in classes. Of course, when the teacher asks you to be quiet you should stop talking, other than that - chat it up!
Join some clubs. I met some of my best friends in various clubs. There are a few upper-classman only clubs, but there aren't many of those. I'm sure you'll find something you can have fun with.
Seniors are not scary. There are some stuck up seniors who won't be seen around the "unpopular kids", but most of us aren't like that. Same goes for juniors and sophomores.
Don't become a leech. People hate it when you leech on to them and always follow them or hang around them.
Don't be a bratty student. I have a class that has students freshman through seniors. There are a few students in there who are always acting immature and while sometimes it's funny, most of the time it's annoying. Also, if your teacher has a "be seated when the bell rings" rule, DO IT! I can't count the amoung of times we haven't been aloud to leave on time because some aggravating freshman refused to sit down. It's a real pain in the butt.
Don't act like a know-it-all. Nobody will like you.
Don't lie about drinking/drugs/sex, etc. to fit in. It's just plain lame. Nobody cares whether or not you're a virgin or whether or not you're "hardcore". Don't dress preppy if you're a punk. Don't dress punk-ish if you're a prep. It doesn't work. You'll look like an idiot.
Try out for team sports. The worst that will happen is you don't make the team. It's not the end of the world. I can't play basketball to save my life, but I did get to be team manager. I met a bunch of awesome girls, I lettered in varsity basketball [just for being a manager], I got to know some coaches who I used to think we scary/mean, and I found out they were actually really cool. Plus, there is nothing more fun than riding on a team bus to away games. Holy crap.. the memories you make!
The best tip I can give you is to just relax. Have a "come what may" attitude. Don't freak out if you're late for a class because you got lost. Don't freak out about every bad grade. If you need help, go to tutoring. If you're smart enough, help others in the class. Learn to laugh at yourself. I've fallen down (and up) bleachers tons of times. I've tripped in class. I've snorted while laughing. I've had water come out of my nose from laughing really hard at lunch and drinking my water.
Don't unleash every problem you have on people.
This one freshman just randomly sat at my senior lunch table which happens to be all seniors. We let her sit there without being too rude to her. We just basically attempted to include her and be nice. One day she started unloading all these problems on us. None of us knew her. We barely talked to her. She totally freaked us out. We don't eat lunch with her anymore.
There are tons of tips I could give you.
If you have any specific questions, feel free to send me a message to my inbox. Otherwise, I hope this helps.
Oh, my biggest piece of advice:
HAVE FUN! High school goes by really quickly. Take it from a graduating senior...
These past four years have gone by insanely fast. I still remember my first semester of freshman year. I got lost the first day of school. I barely knew anyone in any of my classes. I only knew two girls in my lunch. I couldn't stand one of my teachers. I ditched class and got caught. I received my first ever Saturday-school detention.
It was a crazy semester. I look at myself now, graduating high school and going to the 3rd toughest college to get into in my state. These years have been great. Trust me, you'll make friends no problem. You may have a few enemies, too. Don't let it bother you. I had a disgusting rumor spread about me. Everytime I got mad about it, people talked more. When I learned to laugh along and just ignore it, people forgot about it.
Never let anyone get the best of you. Be yourself. Liars, cheaters, and brats get nowhere in life.
Here's advice a teacher gave me my freshman year. It's actually pretty good advice, too. I've taken it to heart.
"I loved high school and enjoyed myself there, and then I loved college. My advice: enjoy high school; live it up, but don't screw it up. Make sure you keep your grades where you can keep them, and make smart choices about classes and things. Sfter all, you kind of have to live for the now and the later at this point."
Basically, LIVE IT UP! Have FUN! Don't worry, be happy! haha.
Need anything else... let me know!
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From there:
Is High School scary? What should I expect to happen to me? Should I stay away from Seniors? How should I make friends?
My answer:
Hello.
I was a freshman last year- and I have to say.. it was one of the most scary things I've EVER experienced! I was thrown in the trash can on the first day and it was horrible. Some kid even had to go to the emergency room! It was the WORST first day of school of my entire life! I almost didn't go back!
Haha- so hopefully you didn't take that seriously- because it really wasn't like that at all. I always play that trick on people who ask this question. C'mon- I gotta have a little fun! High school is NOT scary. It actually is a lot more fun. You have more freedoms than middle school and you can take REALLY awesome classes. If you have to chance to take a Speech class- DO IT! You think it will be the dumbest class ever and you'll be really bored- but you get the chance to get really good at speeches- and you'll learn really awesome things! When you get to be a Junior/Senior- take AP and Honors classes- these will impress colleges and they will want you to go to their college if you do well enough on them.
People may tell you that Freshmen year doesn't count for anything- so slacking off won't matter until you're an upperclassmen. This is wrong. Colleges will look at your cumulative GPA- and that includes your freshmen year. Don't slack off; you'll regret it later.
Just to debunk the rumor- There is NOT a "Freshmen Friday". Sure, this used to exist back in the 60s and 70s, but it doesn't anymore. Any school that actually still does it will probably end up getting sued by a bunch of parents. So most don't do it. Chances are, your high school won't do it.
Here is my list of DOs and DON'Ts:
Do:
-Do all of your homework.
-Make new friends [some old ones will naturally just fade away] and do this by just starting up simple conversations with people- and it will eventually lead to a great friendship. Ask someone you may want to get to know for a pencil in class.. that's a classic. Sit with new people at lunch.
-Ask the teacher for help if you need it.
Don't:
-Don't talk to seniors.. they most likely DON'T like you. The won't give you any respect.
-Don't wear revealing clothing- seniors will automatically hate you.
All in all- if you just be yourself- you'll be fine. If you have upperclassmen in any classes- you'll get to know them over the course of the year- and you may end up meeting some really great people. I know that some of my best friends I met at school last year- and most of them were 10th grade or older. Not all seniors hate you- some will be welcoming- but just assume the worst in them, at first. After awhile- you'll know who to avoid and who to warm up to. You'll be fine. Don't worry.
--Jack
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Ok! Stop stressing!
High school is the best part of all the years of school we have to go through! Really, chances are your friends will change and some may go different ways. But don't only think that will happen to them it will happen to you too!!!!! Thats important to remember!
I moved high schools half way through my high school years and i went to a high school where i literally knew one person! and I am a shy person! and i was even shy with boys! Then all i did, was make an effort to talk to people and the more I spoke to people the more friends i made and the more I eventually got comfortable around guys!
Don't rush yourself just take it one step at a time and listen to your brother. Being fake is not on and will not make high school easier. You will make new friends!
Just one word of advice at the start of high school don't depend to much on your current friends! Try and get out there. The people you will be with in class are all new to this as well, so you already have a common thread with the people in your grade. Just honestly make an effort to talk to people and don't worry that you aren't as out going as your friends! It does not matter everyone is different!
I'm the least out going out of my friends and I still have so much fun! And many friends!
Now with the boys, you know what you need to tell yourself about boys? That they are human, just like you and just like your friends. Don't make them seem special... i'm not sure special is the best word. But what i'm trying to say is that you need to see them as everyone else or just like everyone else, and talk to them like normal people and eventually you will become much more comfortable around them!
Good luck! I hope this helped! Try not to stress! If you need any more help just ask away. And i'm sorry this was so long!
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