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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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last night i was in my room after school and I started to masterbate. I don't masturbate too often so I guess I didn't think about locking my door. Well, my mom walked in on me! She left pretty quickly but I don't want to just leave it at that. At dinner she was pretty quiet and didn't seem too happy. I know I should say something to her, right? What do I say? Or do I just let this blow over?

No she's probably not mad at you. It's a perfectly normal thing to do. She would be more upset if let's say, she say you having sex. She was just put in an awkward situation. I wouldn't even bring it up. I doubt that she will either. Things will settle soon. Don't worry about it. Just next time remember to lock the door for privacy. lol

xoxo,
dottie4

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I am a slut. I will admit it. I've had sex with about 20 or so boys from my high school and I don't even know how many I've given head to. I'd had sex in the bathrooms, in the janitor's closet, and behind the school. I've skipped class to do this too. I'm really ashamed of myself and the way I dress on a day to day basis. I feel like I'm growing up and I don't want to be that type of person any more. None of the guys at school have respect for me. The girls hate me because I've slept with a lot of their boyfriends. Basically I can't get a good boyfriend who is really interested in ME because he knows we will have sex and I can't have a best friend because the girls think I'm going to steal their boyfriends or something (I don't blame them though...A LOT of guys have cheated on their girlfriends with me).

I am completely unhappy with myself and I don't know what I was thinking when I did those things. I guess I just wanted some attention because my parents are working alllll the time and I don't feel very loved or that I'm special. ANYWAY, how can I stop being such a slut? I hate it about me...I want to stop...but I just keep...screwing up, for lack of better words. Help, please? It's like, I keep thinking things like, "Yeah, maybe this guy might REALLY be into me! I need to push this forward..." but I KNOW he isn't...ugh...I feel stupid...

Easy.. Stop having sex with random guys.
Maybe meet guys outside of your school.

xoxo,
dottie4

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im 17
and i haven't had sex

i'm wondering how i will know whether i'm ready for it or not..

When you don't have to ask other people if your ready...

xoxo,
dottie4

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what do people mean when they say "i am my own person"? how can you be someone else's?

That there independent and they don't let anyone hold them back from doing what they want to do.

xoxo,
dottie4

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im turning 17 in a few days & im still a virgin.
i havent fooled around much either cause im waiting for the right guy i guess (not cause im ugly or something)
is this okaii? cause ive noticed that most girls start doing stuff when theyre like 14 and lose their virginity with 16.
:S

I wouldn't let their comments bother me. A lot of those girls will probably end up with stds or an unexpected pregnancy anyway. Your good, and you'll lose it soon enough. Just make sure it's with someone you really care for. Its seems like you have a good head on your shoulders. Keep up the good work.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Ok My ex and I are talking about getting back to gether, she loves that I can give her orgasms but yesterday when I was being funny I pulled it out and she compared it to her bfs. she was like I thought u were bigger, well u must b fatter and hes longer. WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE IT BIGGER.
its about... 6in but when really turned on and hard its about 6.5in. and diameter is 2 inchs and the circumference is like 6 inchs. I wanna be longer please tellme how

I don't know why she would compare it to her exes... Sounds like this relationship isn't ment to be, sorry. Really there is no way that I know of.

xoxo,
dottie4

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This guy, Carson and i went out for about a year. We were so amazing together, but ofcourse we fought once in a while....i loved him, and still love him so much. Everyguy that i have ever been with does not compare to him at all. This guy named Justin and I have been talking...we have been talking about going out maybe cuz we kind of like each other.....for about a year, carson and I didn't talk...he would prank call me or talk shit about me to my friends...yeah, you guys are probably thinking that this is so fucked up..true, but i think he was only trying to get my attention....so anyway....we are talking a little bit..nothing big, just texting...and he wants to write a song together and record it....he knows how much i love singing..and i feel like he is using this to see me.....he asked me if i wanted to chill after we record the song and i told him i couldn't, so he told me we should just do it another day...i think he was mad, but at the same time he wants a day when he can record and chill with me....he jus doesn't want to record only....but i miss him so much :(...i love him more than a can say....i know that someone else better will come in the future...but for now i only think about him....and with justin, i don't know what to do...we are going to hang out and everything...and i'm just scared that if i say yes to justin, carson is going to want me back....it would be nice to be with justin because he is a nice guy really...but i'm inlove with carson...all i wanted to see is what you guys think about the whole situation.....but another thing i wanted to ask about is this....so i'm known to take forever when i text people....i did that to carson....and he does the same thing to me...and it drives me nuts....i just do it back...example would be him texting me in the morning...then i text him back around eleven..then he will text at five..and then i text him before i go to bed and he texts back....sometimes we wait a whole day to write each other back...its driving me crazy....this probably makes no sense but tell me what you guys think about it...is he doing it on purpose like i am? or is he busy? or what do you guys think?

I would go with the guy you have history with. You seem to dig him more then the other dude.

xoxo,
dottie4

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okay well im really into
taylor swift
colbie caillat
kellie pickler
carrie underwood
john mayer
jack johnson
britney spears

my ive been listening to the same people and songs and i want new ones... i went to the top 100 on itunes and did those. any ideas on where to get new music? or do you guys have lots of ideas for either new songs or new artists?

leave as many as possible

Ben Harper
Feist
Dave Matthews Band
Regina Spektor
Kings of Leon

Or try lastfm.com
Type the artist you like and it'll give you similar artists to the one you like.

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I need someone that I don't know to help me decide which picture of me they like best for myspace. Its lame I know but I dont really know how other people see me. I just want someone to look through it and tell me a few that they like. If youre interested, leave me your email address or some way I can contact you. Thanks. [17/f]

Nobody uses myspace anymore sweetie...
Use facebook.

xoxo,
dottie4

Only users use myspace.

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So i recently started talking to this guy on facebook who i knew... i just never talked to. He's a sophomore in college and i'm a junior in high school.
My first question... is that do you think he's too old for me?
Now, he's really straight edge and doesn't do drugs or drink or smoke or anything! we have a lot in common and he's really nice. Normally when i talk to guys like this they end up wanting something, or just want to fool around or are just plain old creepy. And i'm not getting that vibe from him at all, he's really nice and sweet. My parents would kill me if i went out with him... despite the fact he has tatoos and piercings =/
help?
is he too old?
If not, what do i do about my parents?

Unless your eighteen, yes he is too old for you. And just because you've never had that "vibe" from this particular dude, doesn't mean it's not actually there. Honestly he probably only wants to get in your pants. Sorry, that's just the cold hard truth.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Can someone tell me why i am so gassy? I don't get it! i didn't change anything that i eat i am just gassier than I have ever been in my entire life. Could this be something serious?

If you eat a lot of fruit that can make you gassy. Or hot stuff can do. I can't really tell if it's something you eat because you didn't say. But no if it's just gas your fine. Nothing serious.

xoxo,
dottie4

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...as more than a friend?

We're 17 by the way

You ask him...

Duh...

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My friend said he saw track marks on his girlfriend's arm... What are track marks?

Thanks.

It's where people stick needles on their arms to get heroin in their system.

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i want to know who on here actually uses condoms when giving a bj. i'm positive my guy doesn't have any stds because hes been checked...so does it really matter if we use a condom or not?

Well I guess if your into having cum in your mouth that's cool.

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So when a guy is done fingering a girl, does he usually wash his hands?? is this normal??? Thanks in advance!

Unless you want to end up with some sort of infection, yes it is a good idea for the guy to wash his hands.

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when your married what hand a guy soppose have it on ? right or left?

http://justfuckinggoogleit.com/

Hope that helped. =D

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so me and my boyfriend decided to get each other names tattooed on each other but i have a tatt on one wrist and neck already! i was wondering where would be a cute place for us to get them?? oh yea i also have a lil pudgey tummy so not there !
thanks =]

Def get a tramp stamp. You and your boyfriend are so original and I hope it lasts forever because tattoos are for life. Best of luck.

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is it ok to masturbate if ur pregnant?

Transvestites can't get prego sweetie.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I was just wondering and wanted to ask....What do you think about first cousins dating each other??

Incest.

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I am 15/m and have been masturbating for almost a year.. and i like it.. but naturally i want more. i have known a girl since fourth grade that i have been friends with for a long time, now we're freshaman in high school and she's changed a lot. some times i even find myself thinking about her. and i guess you could say having "fantasies" about trying something sexual with her.. i dont mean like having sex but like getting a handjob or eating her out or fingering or even just masturbating with her. i don't know why i think about it so much..i just do. shes an attractive girl and im not bad myself and if she was willing i think she would go for it i am just thinking of the probable possibility of her flipping out and telling evry1.!.. i do not want a relationship just more of a friends w/ benefits tpe of thing.. i am not shy and im pretty convincing and i think she trusts me as a friend.. well i know she trusts me as a friend but i dont know how far it will go. i know it sounds kind of typical for a guy to say but her body is very nice, and find myself getting erections around her. WHAT DO I DO.. i really want to have her and me be FWBs and if she doesnt at least masturbate i think she is missing a lot.

That's kind of lame that you just want her only as "Friends with benefits." If you've known her for so long you should at least want a relationship. Otherwise something like that could ruin what you have right now. Ask her out, or get to know her as a person because that's the right thing to do. But your going to do what you want anyway in the end. Make sure you use a condom.

xoxo,
dottie4

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