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my mom caught me masterbating...how do I handle this?
last night i was in my room after school and I started to masterbate. I don't masturbate too often so I guess I didn't think about locking my door. Well, my mom walked in on me! She left pretty quickly but I don't want to just leave it at that. At dinner she was pretty quiet and didn't seem too happy. I know I should say something to her, right? What do I say? Or do I just let this blow over?
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She's probably just embarrassed. She didn't think about knocking & really didn't expect to catch you masturbating. You can say something if you like. Maybe apologize & say that you'll lock the door from now on if you're going to be involved in personal things with yourself.
She's not mad at you though. And if she is, she shouldn't be. Masturbation is really very healthy & nothing to be frowned upon. :) Everyone does it & anyone who says they don't is more than likely lying.
But hey, at least she'll knock from now on. :)
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The down side is your mother is probably going to be very uncomfortable for a while. The up side is she will probably knock from now on.
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NO. SAY NOTHING. let it be the elephant in the room all it wants. never acknowledge it. NEVER!
it will go away, or scar your mom for the rest of her life. either way, you win, in the form of guaranteed privacy from now on.
-Gunner
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No she's probably not mad at you. It's a perfectly normal thing to do. She would be more upset if let's say, she say you having sex. She was just put in an awkward situation. I wouldn't even bring it up. I doubt that she will either. Things will settle soon. Don't worry about it. Just next time remember to lock the door for privacy. lol
xoxo,
dottie4
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
First; let me say that there is nothing wrong with masturbation. Contrary to what some mothers tell their children you will not go blind and you will not grow hair in the palm of your hand. I read somewhere that as many as 90% of the people they surveyed said they indulged in masturbation. Mutual masturbation is part of most people’s sexual foreplay. The simplest definition of masturbation I can think of is: the manual stimulation of one’s sex organ. To me this would include BJ’s, HJ’s Fingering and Cullingus.
As to what happened; you mother is probably just as embarrassed for walking in on you as you were by having your mom walk in on you while you were masturbating. If you have been masturbating for any length of time your mother was most likely already aware of it. No matter how well you cleaned up after yourself there are always tell tale signs left on the sheets or your shorts. I think you and your mom are really in the same place not knowing what to say to each other.
You did not say how old you are or if you are male or female. I am assuming you are male. I would prefer a young teenage male to take care of his sexual needs through masturbation , which are brought on by the fast changing hormonal changes of puberty, then he be looking for sex with some young girl and take the chance of getting her pregnant or worse catching a STD. I’m fairly certain your mother feels the same way.
My suggestion: Wait a few days and see if things between you and your mother return to normal or if your mother approaches you about what happened. If things do not get better between you and your mother then you should approach her. You start by saying; Mom I’m sorry you caught me masturbating the other day but I am not apologizing for what I was doing, only for not locking my door and protecting my privacy. You may wish to add that there is nothing wrong with what you were doing and most religions condone masturbation, including Judeo/Christian religions. This will give your mother the opportunity to say something to you or even apologize for not knocking before entering your room.
There is quite a lot of good information on the web about masturbation. It would be a good idea if you went online and did some research to show you mother if needed.
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It definitely does make things awkward. Mothers know that it is perfectly natural and I think it was the shock that got to her. Talking to her about it might make things a bit more awkward. If you take her mind off of it by talking about something else, it will all blow over. It may surprise you but it is normal for the mother to walk in at least once. If you accomplish something that would make her proud like making the deens list, trying out a new talent like music or poetry, she will focus on that more than the incident. If you just sit in silence, it will also make things also more complicated. If you find something to talk about, it takes the pressure off and avoids talking about the situation.
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