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My bestfriend's dad hits her.
This girl has been my bestfriend for 2 years and I found out about 2 months ago that her dad abuses her. We're both 15. I'm a freshman, she's a sophomore. I have been through a lot, but I can't seem to help her with this. She refuses to tell anyone-adult or one of those hotlines-because she thinks they'll send her dad away, which will ruin her family. She's told her other 4 siblings, they don't believe her because he doesn't do it to them. She says they only believe what they see but she doesn't want them to see. How can I help her!!?
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Go with your friend to the school counselor. If she won't go, then go alone. Her dad hitting her is a sign that there's some other form of abuse either happening or about to happen. If her father hasn't had sex with her, then he soon will. Look at the signs and view the situation with this new knowledge. Now that you are aware of this, it is your responsibility to help her get out of the situation. I seriously doubt that she would tell you that her dad is molesting her even if you asked. But I've seen this before and even though I hope I'm wrong, I doubt it.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
There is a fine line between punishment and abuse. The fact that your friends’ siblings are not hit by their father lends me to believe the father may have crossed the line.
This is a problem that you cannot resolve yourself as it requires an adult to intervene.
I would suggest you do the following
• Talk to your parents and tell them what you believe is happening or what your friend is telling you. If your friend is show signs of being hit make sure you parents see this. Then let your parents handle this from there.
• Speak with your school Principal or Guidance Counselor. School authorities are legally required to report suspected child abuse.
Without actual fact or being an eye witness to her being hit by her father, there is not much else you can do. You are being a good friend to her by trying to look out for her well being. While she may not believe this at the moment, she will eventually see that you have her best interest at heart
Should you have the time write back and let me know what you did and what the outcome was
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