So, I'm fifteen & female. for the first time last weekend, my boyfriend and i had oral sex both ways. LIke he gave me oral & i have him oral. After it though, i felt like reeeeeal dirty. I mean, is that slutty or anything? I'm only fifteen and it just doesn't even feel right. Or is that normal the first time haha...I don't know, let me know, thank youu.
Let's face it, there's pressure to have sex just so you can have sex. That's the peer pressure thing. There's pressure to have sex because your boyfriend wants it so bad and he can get it somewhere else if you don't give it to him. Then there's the whole curious thing. Because it felt wrong, it was wrong. Guys are just a walking bag of hormones with a willy that leads them to any available hole. Sex should never make you feel bad about yourself. Tell him that that one time was the last time. If he makes a big deal about it, tell him to talk to you after he's spanked his monkey. If he still trys to demand sex, he's outahere. You're more than just a hole.
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I was talking to my friends and one of them asked me if i was a liberal or a conservative. We were talking about elections so i figured it was like asking if i was a democrat or not but i wasn't sure so I just kinda said I had to run and I didn't answer. can you please help me?
Thank you!
Damn! That other answer was sort of long, eh? Liberal means that you are open to change and not stuck to the way things are because that's how it's always been. Conservative means you hate change for any reason. You've got to keep it simple, the Democratic and Republican parties don't seem to realize that.
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Me and my ex are not together any more. She has had a bf for almost 2 yrs. we broke up shortly after I moved out of state. I now have moved back and we are talking again. We have been spending alot of time together. It started of with just going out driving then to movies then dinner. Just yesterday it went a little farther. We went to the mall and flirted alot. We came back to my house and started to watch a movie. She then asked fo a back rub. (for me its a turn on) Needless to say I got into it and turned on. I know what makes her get "hot" and I started to do those things. We played around had fun and I told her I like to get rough. Well lets get to the point. She got rough and we ended up kissing and she freaked out cuz she has a bf. well a lil later we were at it again. later in the day we kissed some more. We went to dinner and then drove around like we like to do. She told me how turned on she was and that he bf can't give her an orgasm. So I Fingered her and we then talked about wanting to have sex with each other. What do I do?!?!?! also another part of this is I have feelings for a good friend of mine but I really don't think that would work out but she is really mad that I am talking with my ex. y would she get mad like that if she says she has no feelings for me/? please help me
You broke up for a reason. What was it? Has it changed? If you're thinking about someone else then you're just responding to your physical desires. You'll always have physical desires for your ex, you taught your body to desire her and she did the same with hers. Do the right thing and do not see her socially again. Do you really want to put your son through another break up of his mom and dad?
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I am 16(female).
on October 8, 2008 I committed suicide by overdose. I remember being carefree, hyper, crazy, and most of all I felt emotions vividly. at the time I had an 18 year old boyfriend. I was a "navy brat" and had a childhood sweetheart back in the states, so while I was in out of america I decided not to take any relationships seriously. but after I thought my sweetheart had abandoned me for another, I found I had fallen in love with the 18yr old though he constantly used me. we were together again for a fourth time, and a week later he tells me he is going to be a father, a month before, he had apparently gotten a 26yr old woman pregnant. the pain was unbearable, I found myself alone in the world, and so I emptied and entire medicine cabinet into my stomach, mostly pain-killers, unopened bottles, and so, thousands of pills. but on a military base a hospital was close and I was found before I died, barley by minutes. I was told to drink a bottle of charcoal, the doctor said it was to take the pain, when it was actually to detoxify my body. I disobeyed the doctor because I was tired and fell asleep, I'd had a wonderful dream but awoke throwing up the charcoal, the nurse was in panic, my heart had stopped beating until I woke up, and though the dream lasted a whole night it seemed, I had only "slept" for 3 seconds, and in a death-like state. but the point to telling this story is that, when I woke up, I could not feel. I thought it may have been depression, but even weeks, months, and now more than a year, I still cannot feel emotion. I am back in the states and with my childhood sweetheart, and it is so strange that I just cannot feel, I can remember having a fiercing love for him, 6 years of it to be exact, but that is it, I can remember the feeling but not..feel. days have run into eachother it seems, time is slow but fast all at the same time and I feel nothing genuine. I was a thespian (actress) and so it is easy for me to wear a constant mask, all I have to do is remember how I was and put on an act. I used to be lazy and have bad grades, now I am quiet and make straight A's. I see the world from a whole different view, as if my body acts and I can see things but am nothing more than an empty shell, a souless wandering thing with a body that acts on its own. I wonder if one day, maybe after enough time has passed, that maybe I can feel emotions again and live. but it has been over a year... I am concerned..I know I love my childhood sweetheart/boyfriend, I can remember that clearly and have no plans on leaving his side. but it is still strange..I know he loves me..I know he falls for the mask I put on and doesnt know something is wrong..but I desperately want to feel again..to not wear a mask of my past and give to him the genuine love which he gives me. I have also found that I cannot seem to cry anymore either; I remember my pillows used to get replaced often because I cried so much that it ruined the material, but now, not a single tear. it is as if I am fading away slowly..something is very wrong with me and I don't know what..I want my soul back..I want to be able to feel again... is there anybody else who can relate to this absence of emotion?
You have major, clinical depression. I know what I'm talking about here because I have it too. I was diagnosed about 12 years ago. PLEASE, PLEASE see a doctor and get on an antidepressant as soon as possible. I was on Effexor for a few years and am now on Cymbalta. Depression is the most terrible thing that can happen to a person in my opinion. Go to http://www.depression.com/ and learn about it. The drugs don't change who you are or your behavior at all. They actually let you be the person you truly are. You were happy and carefree. You'll be that way again once you let your brain get back to how it should be. Go to the doctor immediately, please. The doctor will get you in to see a someone who can prescribe an antidepressant if he can't. You;ll have your life back again.
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18/f
Alright, I don't know how appropriate this questions is but im gonna ask anyway. So I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I was a virgin, he wasnt. I know this sounds kind of stupid but what am i supposed to do. I kind of just laid there a took it lol. I really love him and want to make it as enjoyable as possible for him. Any advice or links as to what i should do? Thank you
Just think of making love as making out. Your body should want to move as you kiss and your hands should want to explore as you make out. Just do the same when you're naked and you've got it made. And by the way: remember that as the girl, you have all of the power. It's his job to make you feel good. If he isn't then it's him that's not doing it right not you.
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A month ago I was masterbating and I started to bleed some. I thought my period came so I wore a pad but I didn't keep bleeding. I have never had sex or anything and it was my first time trying to masterbate. I heard about masturbation a lot and thought that it might be good but it was kind of so-so, I guess. Anyway, I told my friend about the blood and she told me that I probably popped my cherry. Can you really break your hymen by masterbation though?
Realize that the hymen is a flap is skin. It will stretch before it'll break. If you put something in there, then you may have broken it. If you were just rubbing then you may have scratched something. Don't concentrate on the inside so much. It's the clitoris that makes masturbation feel good. Go online and make sure you know where it's located. There's an old saying: if masturbation doesn't feel good then you're doing something wrong.
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This girl has been my bestfriend for 2 years and I found out about 2 months ago that her dad abuses her. We're both 15. I'm a freshman, she's a sophomore. I have been through a lot, but I can't seem to help her with this. She refuses to tell anyone-adult or one of those hotlines-because she thinks they'll send her dad away, which will ruin her family. She's told her other 4 siblings, they don't believe her because he doesn't do it to them. She says they only believe what they see but she doesn't want them to see. How can I help her!!?
Go with your friend to the school counselor. If she won't go, then go alone. Her dad hitting her is a sign that there's some other form of abuse either happening or about to happen. If her father hasn't had sex with her, then he soon will. Look at the signs and view the situation with this new knowledge. Now that you are aware of this, it is your responsibility to help her get out of the situation. I seriously doubt that she would tell you that her dad is molesting her even if you asked. But I've seen this before and even though I hope I'm wrong, I doubt it.
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18/f
I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months during the first weekend of October. A lot of things were just building up. I went to college four hours away and he didn't go to college at all. I'm in a major that requires a lot of time in a studio. Sometimes I don't get back to my room until 2 or 3 in the morning, sometimes I don't go back at all and he didn't really understand how dedicated I was to it then whenever I would get home I would call him and he'd still be with his friends..at 3 in the morning. And I'm not saying it was just on weekends or a few days a week. It was everyday! I loved him dearly, more than anyone before and he was the one I lost my virginity to. But our relationship basically existed through texting and then whenever one of us could visit all we'd do was have sex. Well I started to fall out of love with him and didn't think it was fair to drag him along in a relationship if the feelings weren't equal. So I said "I love you but not enough for this to work" and he took that as me not loving him at all. It was a nasty break up and he was angry for a while and I got a lot of hateful texts from him and the drunken phone calls and he used to make me feel like shit for hurting him and all I kept doing was apologizing until one night he really pissed me off and I told him I was over it and I yelled at him a lot for being such an ass. In the 8 months that we dated he NEVER saw the angry side of me towards anyone so when he got me angry it sort of slapped him in the face and he woke up and apologized. The other night he texted me just to say hey and I'm not the type of person who can just ignore him. Well he kept bringing up random topics to keep the conversation going and even admitted that he was just trying to make conversation with me. I'll see him over thanksgiving break to pick up all of my stuff from his house and it'll be the first time I've seen him since we broke up. I know a part of me still loves him. And I think a part, or all of him still loves me, he's never kept in contact with any other ex before. I never felt like breaking up was 100% the best decision but I just figured our time was up. Now that I'll be seeing him I don't know what's going to happen. I don't know if I'll be able to resist kissing him and I really don't know if I want to get back together or not but I don't want to give him false hope. Another rather huge part of the story. We had unprotected sex a few days before we broke up and I'm about 90% sure I had a miscarriage a few weeks ago, and I talked to his sister(who's had a miscarriage) and she said it sounded like I did. He doesn't know about it though.
So two questions.
Should I talk to him about how I'm feeling?
Should I tell him about the miscarriage?
Try to look at this from an outside point of view as if you and he were characters in a book. Are you the same person you were when you left for college? Is he the same person he was? If the answer to the first if yes and the second is no, then you made the right choice in breaking up with him. There is no going back on that and any physical contact like kissing him will only create confusion for both of you. Obviously, you're evolving as a person. Your showing him your angry side proves that to you, doesn't it? Plus, in college, you're making new friends, learning new things and creating your own destiny. He's still at home partying until the morning. As far as the miscarriage, what possible good could telling him do? His sister either has told him or will tell him. And if she doesn't, let it go. Buck up and control your physical desires, if any, for him and let him and you both heal and learn from this. You sound smart and smart is attractive. You'll probably meet someone else sooner than you're ready and he will help you cope with breaking up with your "first time".
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19/female. i'm still a virgin, but i do have a few questions for when im READY to have sex. i've heard that some girls bleed, and if your really wet that you'll get the bed/sheets wet, correct? I think i'm going to be very embarassed when this happens, even when i'm with the right guy. especially if we're on his bed, which will probably be the case? how can i overcome being embarassed about it, even though it's basically natural. did anyone else have this problem? what did you do? and what is your preference to do after you have sex with a guy? just like opinions, thats all:)
The anxiety over the first time is tremendous. Actually having sex should be thought of by the older term: making love. It should be an emotional thing as well as a physical thing for both people. Once that is understood, then think of actual sexual intercourse as an extension of making out with a person that you really care about. It will flow freely and happen when it happens. As for the mess: first of all, you're both making the mess. Otherwise it would be masturbation, wouldn't it? The blood thing probable won't happen unless he's a donkey. If you use tampons, then you've had something in there already. If you want to see if one will fit, try about three fingers to check for clearance. As far as the wetness: that'll help with the blood thing. If you don't leave a wet spot when you masturbate, then you won't when you're copulating. Any other fluid will be from him. Don't fret none buckaroo. And don't expect the first time to be "magical" because it usually isn't. Now this is important: what he does after sex will tell you a lot about who he really is. If he wants to hold you and you both still feel the same attraction emotionally after sex as you did before, then you made a good choice. If it was more like he used you instead of his hand, then you've made a mistake and you'll learn from it. Please be careful!
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