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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I completely take responsibility, as it’s my own fault, no one else’s.
I am with a guy, but he treats me crap.
I mean really, like total crap.
I’ve finally found the courage to break up with him, until I remembered that, earlier in the relationship, I let him take some….embarrassing photos of me.
I’m now kicking myself for being so naive in trusting him, and I can’t break up with him, in case he holds these photos against me.
I know this was stupid, so spare the lecture, I’ve certainly learned my lesson.
What do I do?

Find the location of the photos whether they are on his phone, his camera or his computer. Search them all, and if you find the pictures, delete them.

Once you delete them for good, there is no way he can get them back, and then you can dump him. Always remember that taking scandalous photos isn't a good idea because you never know who will see them.

Today - My ex girlfriend decides to leave a box of all the things I've ever given her: Notes, a $55 dollar pair of shoes she never wore, birthday cards, etc. I don't know what to do about this - AND she's started hangning out with my bestfriend... I'm not sure what to do about her. And I don't want her to interfere with my and my bestfriends relationship of 8 years...What do I do?

Nothing. Toss the crap she gave you out, and ignore her. She's trying to show you that she's over you even though she isn't, and it'll only result in drama.

okay i went to this awake-a-ton and meet this guy, hes 17 and im only 14. we got on great and were really open to each other. I only had known him for a day b4 he asked me for my home number msn, facebook ect. hes called several times and talks asthough he likes me.... the problem is he has a gf. he lives far away so im not sure what to do.... is it normal for a guy to call a girl/hug ect when he has a gf... how do i find out if he likes me .. without him thinking im a foulish teen ??

Do not meet this guy.

Chances are, he is not who he says he is, and is probably some disgusting 50 year old man who still lives at home at his parent's house. He is more than likely creepy, and if you meet him, something bad will happen.

Do not give out your address, your phone number, the name of your school, etc. Giving out personal information on the internet is dangerous, and could result in something extremely bad happening.

Delete him from your Facebook, block/report him, and do not meet anybody online in person. It's dangerous.

(19F)

Last night I stayed at my cousin's house with her and her boyfriend. I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years and just recently met another guy. This new guy is amazing. Well, last night he came over to where I was staying and we hung out. We ended up going to get some drinks and when we got back we fooled around in his truck. Later on, after my cousin and her boyfriend went to bed and we ended up having sex. He stayed with me almost all night and I thoroughly enjoyed what we did, but this morning when I woke up I was feeling regret.

I want to stay with my current boyfriend, should I tell him what happened or should I leave it alone and just move on?

Thank you

Tell him what happened.

You know that you have made a mistake, and you know that if you keep it inside, the guilt will eat at you. You need to tell him ASAP.

Chances are that he may break up with you. He might be thankful for your honesty, but if he dumps you, you had it coming.

To me, cheating is a way of saying that you're not happy in your current relationship and that the person you hooked up with has something that your current s/o doesn't. Do not blame this hook-up on the alcohol because even though you were drunk, you still made the decision to have sex with someone else.

i am a 19 year old virgin 4rm south africa,i'm a christian.my mom an sis think havin a b.f is wrong an i think not,so i have a b.f who's 24 an we'v been datin 4 2mnths nw,i love him an he loves me,he even told me in 5yrs tym he wants 2 marry me.so my question is,wat do u think?

I don't think having a boyfriend at 19 is wrong, but you do need to remember that your culture is very different from American culture.

We don't see that age difference as a problem, but your people may see it differently and that's where it becomes a problem.

Honestly though, you're 19. You are an adult. If you want to date a boy, that is up to you, not your parents or your siblings. Just remember that your age difference has you both at very different stages in life and what is said now won't be the same later.

Ok, so I am in desperate need of a new screen name. I am having a lot of trouble deciding what to do. If you could, please help me! I love playing guitar and singing. My names is Danielle. I need a reallly cute screen name, but not to cheesy! Please help!

XO DANi
dani bella
musical lyric

Stuff like that. Just be creative.

I might be hired as a housekeeper for $9/hr to work in a few million dollar homes.

I'm wondering what exactly a housekeeper does though?

You wash dishes, vacuum, mop, dust, clean windows, change bedding, do the laundry, etc.

Think of all the household chores you do at your own house. That's what you'll be doing at this person's house. It's a lot of work. Make sure you can handle it.

I just tried to get Boston Bruins tickets for my boyfriend...I ordered them but apparently my card got declined...so now I told him that it got declined and that I cancelled them. He told me not to worry about it...but I'm ready to freaking breakdown...I feel horrible! I feel like I've totally failed...I want to make him happy. I feel so horrible right now! So for the rant!

There could've been a number of reasons why your card got declined. Maybe you didn't have enough money on it to make the payment, maybe your previous payment didn't go through, etc. There are always reasons as to why this stuff happens.

I honestly don't think you should feel bad. Your boyfriend understands that these things happen sometimes, and that you tried your best. Besides, it's the thought that counts. He's grateful either way.

No worries. He is happy. Don't beat yourself up about it.

(15/f)

I was wondering if anyone could tell me if my hair is healthy or not, or if i'm damaging it too much!

Everyday i get up, shower, wash and condition my hair, blow-dry, then straighten. My hair is naturaly curly and frizzy, so i prefer it straight.

Even though i straighten it everyday, i use a protecting spray, bought from a salon.

The thing is, my mom tells me ALL THE TIME, i'm damaging my hair, and i don't want to be!

Before I started processing my hair often, it was very thick and healthy feeling. Now, it seems it's been thinning around my bangs.

Could this be because of my routine?

If it is, what can i do to change that?

And does anyone know any tricks on how to get thicker nicer hair?

Thanks! :)

No, your hair isn't healthy.

Blow drying & straightening your hair everyday is damaging it. Heat damage can really kill your hair and fry it and leave it dry and gross looking.

Washing your hair & conditioning it are a great thing to do, but try not to blow dry & straighten it so much. Your mom's right. You're killing your hair. And the thinning near your bangs is because of your morning routine.

Maybe go to a salon & ask what products they prefer to keep curly hair nice and to keep it from frizzing up. I'm sure they'll get you some good products that'll keep your hair tame so that you don't have to continue frying it everyday.

Can you smoke weed and still be a good singer? Someone told me that it makes your lungs stronger- because it makes you build up something or whatever- dont know how true that is.please don't lecture me about not smoking weed, thanks.

Not really, no.

Most singers don't smoke because it messes with their lungs. If you have crappy lungs, the quality of your voice when singing isn't very good.

An example of a singer who didn't take care of their voice is Anthony Green. He's a very talented man, but because he does drugs, drinks, and doesn't really do vocal warm-ups, etc, his voice is shot and is no good live. The album sounds great, but that's because of the mixing and whatever else is done in the studio.

To be quite honest with you, if you want your voice to stay good, don't smoke, don't drink & do lots of vocal warm-ups, etc. If you don't take care of your voice, don't expect to get very far with a vocal career.

I know this probably isnt the best idea, but I wanted to get into my boyfriends myspace, just to see what his ex girlfriend has been sayin but he wont tell me. Shes not a threat or anything im just curious. I have all his passwords and stuff except that one and i dont want to have to reset his password, is there anyway i can get it without having to reset it?

There is a way, but I'm not going to tell you.

Snooping is wrong, and I'm sure that if he invaded your privacy that way, you would feel hurt, betrayed & pretty mad.

Doing this will make it seem like you don't trust him. If she isn't a threat, you wouldn't want to do this. Just mind your own business & leave it alone. It's his MySpace and if he doesn't want you to see it then that's that. Respect his wishes.

Sorry.

My long-distance boyfriend and I broke up last friday, a week ago today. We both want to remain friends, but obviously it will take time. I decided what's best for me is no contact for awhile. At least until I'm a bit stronger, and can handle talking to him without crying everytime.

I've been doing okay, the only thing is..I have him on facebook. And he's added loads of new girls, and talks to them constantly, and blah blah. He seems like he's doing completely fine, while I'm struggling. But I'm the one who really wanted the break-up..he wasn't a nice person, and I was finally done with it. But I can't help missing him, we were together for a year.

Will this get easier? Should I keep not contacting him until I feel completely ready..even if that takes months and hes gone by then? Any tips on how not to think of him? I've tried avoiding the computer, obviously, since that's where I spent all my time talking to him. Please..any advice on what to do would really help. Thanks.

If your solution to handling the break-up better was to cut-off contact whether it be through e-mail, text, instant message, etc, why did you not delete him off of Facebook as well?

Seems to me like a part of you still wants contact, or at least to keep an eye on him? Delete him off of your Facebook. If no contact is your solution, then that means that social networking websites are included.

I'm positive that this will get easier. It always does. You wanted to break-up, you knew he wasn't a nice person, and you were the one who suggested no contact. Don't get upset because he's adding new girls to his Facebook. He's a single man now, and watching him flirt & make new friends isn't going to make things easier for you. Don't call him, don't text him, don't instant message him, don't e-mail him and don't Facebook him. Delete him from everything you know & move on with your life.

I would definitely suggest avoiding the computer. If you find that a little bit hard to do, just stay away from things that would remind you of him online. Start a blog, play online games, peruse craigslist, shop online, whatever, just stay away from contact with him. If you are definitely wanting to avoid your computer unless when it's needed most, pick up a new hobby. Learn to play an instrument, go see a movie, hang out with your friends, maybe go to a club if you're of age, etc. Doing new things will help get you back out there, and it'll help get him off your mind.

Hope this helps!

Ok me and my boyfriend just had sex 2 weeks ago and I don't get my period till next week. We didn't use protection and he cummed inside of me. When he told me he did I ran to the bathroom and tried to clean it out because I got scared. Can I end up pregnant? Please help me because I am really scared!

You can definitely end up pregnant. Each time you have unprotected sex (no condoms, no birth control pills), you run the risk of getting yourself pregnant, or getting a disease.

If you want to lessen those odds (because they're really high), then you might want to consider using a condom or a birth control pill. Pulling out doesn't work either. There is such a thing as pre-cum and it does contain sperm so please do not think that pulling out will help your case. It won't.

I suggest you stay calm, and wait for your period to come. If it's late, or doesn't come, take a pregnancy test. If it comes out positive & you want a second opinion, go to the doctors. If that makes you uncomfortable, you can go to Planned Parenthood. They will let you know for sure if you are pregnant or not, and they will help you if you are.

If you happen to get lucky and you don't get pregnant, use a condom from now on so that pregnancy scares don't happen. If your boyfriend doesn't want to use a condom, tell him that's too damn bad & to use one anyway. If he still refuses, he obviously doesn't respect you enough as a person, and therefore he does not deserve you.

wanna know a guy's opinion on ...sex with a condom...and pulling out so you won't cum inside her WITH a condom...is it really that horrible for guys? i'm very paranoid about pregnancy..soo what would a guy think if the girl ask her to pull out even when using a condom...is it really that rare?

I'm female, and I know you asked for a guy's opinion, but I felt I had something to add.

I honestly don't think that what you're asking is a rare thing. I'm sure there are lots of girls who have requested the same thing from a guy. You want to protect yourself from pregnancy, and they want to protect you from the same thing.

If wearing a condom & still pulling out is what it takes to prevent pregnancy for you, then go for it! Why not use a birth control pill as well? It's better to go with as much protection as possible rather than have no protection!

If you ask a guy this, and he denies your request, he isn't the guy you should be having sex with. Your desire isn't rare, it's actually quite common. Good for you for wanting to protect yourself from pregnancy & STD's. Most girls your age don't even do that.

I am a 16 year old female. There is a guy I like but he hardly talksto me sould just forget about it or should I talk to him more?

Talk to him more! Get to know him, and let him get to know you. Hang out together, have lunch together at school if you have the same lunch period as him, etc.

The more you get to know him, the more you'll like him, and maybe he'll develop a crush on you. If you give up now, you'll never know what could happen.

what are all the things a hormone inbalance can do to your body? i'm 25 years old and i'm a female.i thought i was to young but i've been told that i'm not so what do you think?

Hormone imbalances can do a lot of things to your body. If you're female, it can affect your period, your mental health, eating habits, etc.

There's no such thing as being too young for something. There are children that have diabetes, some that have cancer. They're not too young to get a disease, so why would you think you're too young to have a hormonal imbalance? I suggest you do some research & learn more about it. Either that, or contact your physician for answers.

how do you get a comment box on myspace?

Click on any of the million sites that come up, search for a comment box generator, and get the coding. Go onto your MySpace, edit your profile, and put the coding for the comment box in any section of your profile. Click save.

Taa-daa!

There is this guy I have my eye on. I'm in 7th grade. Some what pretty. We talk and stuff and mess around. But he is going out with my best friend!!! So I know this is going to sound soo stuck up but is there anyway I can get him to like me, because i dont think she is good for him. We were doing a school performance and him and i were backstage hanging out and it was dark and he reached over and held my hand and scooted closer. and asked if i had a bf. I thought he liked me... what should i do???

I hate the be the bearer of bad news, but you can't have him.

He's dating your best friend, and whether you think they're good for each other or not, they're together. If you really cared about your best friend, you'd accept the fact that he is her boyfriend rather than try to make a move on him regardless.

I guess you could wait until they break up to try and date him, but make sure you ask her if it's okay first. Dating a friend's ex without permission is a pretty big unwritten rule when it comes to friendship & dating.

But to be honest, you can't get him to like you. If he does like you, cool, but if not, you can't change that.

I'm 16 and i'm a girl. I talk to my mom about sex often. I'm still a virgin, but i've done other things, like hand job, fingering, etc. I'm being put on birth control soon, just incase to always be on the safe side. I'm scared of getting pregnant. Since you're older, I'm sure you've done these things. But i'm scared of being pregnant. My breasts hurt, but my family has a history of cysts and such. My mom thinks thats what they are, but we aren't sure. I've been urinating alot lately, but i think i'm just thinking a bit too much. Maybe from being nervous? I'm just not sure.

If you're still a virgin, there's no way your pregnant. Maybe your period is coming & that's why your breasts hurt. That's usually a sign that it's near.

If you're urinating a lot, you may have a UTI. Maybe a guy who fingered you had dirty fingernails. There are a lot of reasons for what's going on with you. See a doctor.

That a person can determine that another person isn't a virgin by there hips?

No.

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