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is it wrong or not?
i am a 19 year old virgin 4rm south africa,i'm a christian.my mom an sis think havin a b.f is wrong an i think not,so i have a b.f who's 24 an we'v been datin 4 2mnths nw,i love him an he loves me,he even told me in 5yrs tym he wants 2 marry me.so my question is,wat do u think?
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I don't think having a boyfriend at 19 is wrong, but you do need to remember that your culture is very different from American culture.
We don't see that age difference as a problem, but your people may see it differently and that's where it becomes a problem.
Honestly though, you're 19. You are an adult. If you want to date a boy, that is up to you, not your parents or your siblings. Just remember that your age difference has you both at very different stages in life and what is said now won't be the same later.
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Cultures are very different.
If the South African culture that you live in says that dating is wrong before marriage then you should still think this through. I know nothing of the South African culture, really, though.
Most of the users on this site are Americans and are use to dating freely (with different people) for many, many years before they even choose a partner to marry. Many do not realize that other cultures are dramatically different in this respect. Please think of your own culture for a moment and the morals that come along with your belief system before making a choice. In many societies this could mean being shunned from the entire family. In a few countries doing something like this could almost mean death (though this does not sound like the case, here).
I am not saying it is right.
I am not saying it is wrong.
I am saying that only YOU know what is most appropriate. If you think this is a good idea then more power to you, but if it means having to give up your entire family, friends, and being shunned then give it a second thought before making a decision. If you are in love then you both can wait if you need to.
Also, "dating" is different in many societies so take into consideration what you think "dating" means. If dating includes having sex then I would say you should wait for awhile until marriage. If dating means you two can hold hands and kiss in public then consider where you live and how your community will react, too. If dating means you two just have titles and a commitment but nothing physical then that sounds OK and respectful for a young Christian woman in most cultures.
If in doubt of everything, ask your boyfriend's parents and your church leaders. Many times parents and elders can help you make wise decisions that will not hurt you in the long-run. They can help to offer you a good position in between "dating" and "friends" if your society frowns upon coupling before marriage. Think is through. Only you will know the answer in the end.
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Your family has no say in if or who you date or not. Just ignore them. It's perfectly natural to be dating at age 19. Hope this helped.
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You are an adult and so is he, Therefore you are of age to make your own decisions. No, I don't think it is wrong and I DO think it is a great thing that you waited for sex. Most young people don't wait and they rush things. If he makes you happy, treats you right and respects you then no there is no problem.
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I don't think it's wrong seeing as your both legal
it would be a different story if you were both minors but you aren't so technically your not doing anything wrong or breaking any laws your mother & sister are entitled to their own opinion's & they've got their own beliefs your age is simply a number nothing more so continue dating your boyfriend(:
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