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I was cleaning out my closet that I havn't cleaned for like a year and a half and I found the $125 gold necklace that my ex-boyfriend gave me last year. I remember throwing it in the closet when i broke up with him-----but now I found it. I don't have any jewelery that fine and I was thinking about wearing the necklace. Who's gonna know? My ex lives in N.Y.C. anyway and i'm like 2 hours north of the city, so I wont see him. Do you think its ok to wear it???

yEa...iTs tOtaLLy cOoL! a girls gotta have her bLiNg! HaHa... LoL... no but theres no big deal about it... i still wear diamond earrings from my ex... nobodys gonna know!
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My sister said I over do it on the eyeliner factor. She says I wear to much, and it should look natural and you shouldn't put that much on cuz it makes you look alot older. I like the way I wear it and her nickname for me is eyeliner. I hate it. What should I say to her?>

aWwW it probably looks hot... you don't want to overdo it (unless your going for the goth look) bUt eyeliner is sExY... maybe she just likes the natual look... but everyone has different tastes! maybe shes just jealous because she can't get away with wearing eyeliner! tell her that shes the one who needs eyeliner... and throw some at hEr!
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Okay, this may sound dumb, but im confused.

If you call a suicide hotline, do they call the cops? Especially since you are in danger? I have always wondered this and my councelor at school gave me a list of hotlines because I am always thinking about suicide.

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Nope. I am 100% positive that they don't. Its a private/confidental thing. If you wanna be sure dial *67 before and it blocks your number. (its free too) bUt they are their to help you... not rat you oUt! you should DefInaTleY call thOugH! i dont want anything 2 happen to you! :(
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im designing a sweatshirt and i love horses and it is gonna have a horse saying on it.. any ideas... it needs to be kinda short

*SAVE a horse... ride a cowboy!
* hOrse lover?
* horses are hot
i'd go with the 1st one though!
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What are the signs that let you know that you ARE ready to have sex for the first time?

If your ready... you'll know... you truely love the person.. hErE i Got tHis fRoM a WeBsItE... hope this helps:
1.Do you feel aroused when you're kissing and touching?
2.Can you talk to each other about what you like physically?
3.Are you starting to talk about the future, making plans at least six months ahead?
4.Have you helped each other through a bad time at least once?
5.Are you physically affectionate even when you're not being passionate?
i Hope this helped Ya Hun!
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im a 15/f see its like this all of my friends are all really fast i mean to tell the truth i kind of am fast too but i mean i havent lost my virginity yet but most of them have so yeah i dont know what to do like they kind of like leave me out of conversations and stuff and i think that i am ready to do it but i dont know what age you should be??

hEy HuN! weLL 2 bE hOneSt... thErE iS nO cErtAiN aGe! ummm girls keep getting sluttier and sluttier... so the age keeps going down! there was this one girl in my town who lost her virginity (willingly) at age 12.... haha cRaZy! anyways... theres no limit that says you must be this old 2 have sex... its just whenever YOU personally feel you are ready. don't let your friends persuade you... look around... alot of people around u r still virgins.. and you want your first time 2 be special rIgHt? ;) sOoo keep that in mind babe! bUt wHeNeVeR uR rEaDy! gOOd LuCK!
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what does the term eat someone out mean? I kno a guy does it to a girl but thats it. Like what is it and what do they do and whats it feel like and stuff. I'm female if it helps

hEy hUN! sorry i couldnt answer your question eariler... i was out of town! i feel suuuper bad! but anyways... to eat a girl out means ur preforming oral sex on a girl... eating someone out is pretty much doing what it sounds like.... the guy goes down on the girl, it involves licking and sucking the general vuval area. iT feels good. hahaha seriously... i'm not gonna lie. but unless it happens... its kind of undescribeable... i hope i helped u out! ask me stuff in the future!
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me and my boyfriend have been together for quite some time ((3 months)) and we have known each other since he was 15! he is 19 now & im 15... my parents think he is 16 and i hate lying to them but i love him and i want to be with him... how bad does this make me??

NoPe... i dont think so... my cousin is 16 and her bf is 19... and it dosent really matter... it dosent make u bad... but you have to remember that having sexual relations with someone over 18 when your underage is illegal.... but heY~ we all do it.... the lying 2 your parents part.. could make you feel guilty... but not necessarily "bAd" i have no problem lying to my parents... and you know they wont approve if hes that much older.. and if you really like him iT wOuld sUcK! so if you wanna stay with the guy... dont mention anything.... but if you are straight forward... then they might get pissed at lying to them... make u guys break up.... and tell you how horrible it is... personally stay with him if you love him... theres nothing worse then having the guy you love taken away from you!
good luck hUn!
xOxO, aLeX

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any good colors for braces i am freaking here o yea i am a GIRL thanks xoxoxo

hOt piNk! i've never had braces.... but when girls have hot pink braces.... they can actually make braces look hot!
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well im 13 (white) and this 15 year old (black)..likes me and a lot i guess. i dont no what to do, im not racist but i dont want to hurt his feelings..ive never been in a situation like this b4..please help

well hUn... if u like him 2... then go 4 it... skin is just a color... it dosnet determine how he is on the iNsIde! :) i personally think black guys are sExY... bUt if you truly don't like him... dont lead him on.. tell him the truth but say you still wanna be friends (and make sure he knows it has nothing 2 do with him being bLaCk!) hope i helped ya!
xOxO, aLeX

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is it wierd to like someone whos like ure absolute best friend

nOpe.. bUt in my case it was kinda weird! my bff just told me he liked me! aHhH! its fine though... just as long as you don't let it rUiN your friendship! then it's nOt baD! gOOd luCk!
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im 15 and f ... there is this guy that was "really hott" and i had a big crush on him but finally i got over him because i realized that we are two totally different types of people, he does drugs sometimes and im one of the most innocent girls ever. But now a few months later we've been talking more just as friends and he's telling me he likes me and i dont know what to do because i do still like him but i dont know if its such a good idea we go out. please help im very confused.

THatS hard... i would personally say go out with him... but if your not into that whole "reBeLioUs thing" then you are going 2 end up feeling uncomfortable and maybe even pressured... if you truly like him then go 4 it! and if he truly likes you... then maybe he can end it with the druGs! tell him before you 2 go out (if u do) that your not into that whole drug thing! like i said... if he truly likes you... he'll understand! good luck though hUn! and fOllOw your hEaRt!

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ok i know this is stupid.But i have a boyfriend and im scared to tell my parents. They wont get mad at me or anything for having a boyfriend the thing is i just dont know how to tell them. How should i tell them??

your probably just embarrsed... when i was in elementry school... i was 2 embarrsed to tell my parents about my first love... scott... LoL... just tell them casually.. be like hey mom some kid asked me out and now hes my boyfriend... she'll prolly have questions... so TaLk 2 her! good luck! but i know what u mean... its uncomfortable talking 2 parents about that! haha
xOxO, aLeX

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is it just plain wrong for a 15 year old straight male to babysit?

hahaha nOpe... not at all.... alot of guys like kids and want to earn easy money so its not bad at all... alot of kids like male babysitters better because they r not so "motherly" and they make it more fuN.... and gay guys don't really babysit either... sO its not weird! LoL! u JuSt waNt cash... trust me at age 15.. its hard 2 find a jOB! good luck HuN!
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do you think it'll be hard to babysit 2 kids(grl-3)(the boy-6)on the first time ever havin to babysit?

nOpe... it shouldnt be 2 bad... i looove 3 year olds so that should be fun and six year olda are independent and eAsY enough to be on their own.. just keep them entertained the whole time by playing games like hide and seek and board games... and whatever else they would like 2 do! goood luck! and HaaVe fuN huN!
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I've been to about 5 different sites trying to find those large Xanga Icons. All of the ones I went to, the pictures wouldn't show up. It would just be the box with the red X in the corner. I would right click all of them and click on "Show picture" but they would never show up. Does anyone have any sites I could go to? Also, does anyone know how to make the pictures show up other than clicking on the Show Picture selection? I've also tried refreshing the page but with no luck. Any suggestions on what to do? Thank you in advance!

oH hUn... dosent that suck? they r copyrighted
:( so we can't use them! but like that one girl below gave u all of those xangas (what a sweetie!) use those! good luck!
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Hey all! Well our school has a dance every month. and everybody "freak" dances(like dirty dances)and like i know i can (i guess) but i just dont want to becuz ppl with think im a slut and im embarrased. . .any tips? thx

If everybody else does.... then why does it matter... if your just going along with everybody else? but i know what u mean... i like to dance dirty at clubs and i probably don't make the best impression... but everybody else dances like that... so don't worry hUn! also you can't really be a slut for dancing... sluts are girls who sleep around and have sex with rAndOm gUys! jUsT be yourself so u can have fun!
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I just moved to a new state and i do not know a lot of people and i want to babysit in my spare time. but i do not know how to get the word out that i will be able to babysit?help me please!

Ohh... i Just mOved this summer... and i did the same thing as tinkerbell said... i typed up flyers that said i was 16-f experienced babysitter and put them in people's mailboxes... i ended up getting a full time babysitting job earing over 3000 dollas that summer! so do that and make sure to include your phone number... families are always looking for babysitters so you'll be sure to get calls! good luck huN!
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I just got my period in July sometime and i use pads but i have her people say that tampons are so much better and LESS MESSY. but i am SOOOOO afraid to use one because just the thought sickins me. I'm asking people from experience....does it hurt the 1ST time.
-arielle-

tampons are much better then pads... if your soo afraid that is sickens you... don't use one... but tampons have so many more benefits... you can swim, wear tight pants, have less of a mess not even feel it... etc... tampons dont hurt if their inserted properly. just get the right absorbency... if your first using them... then use junior tampons and you'll be fine. they won't hurt at first... but maybe just feel awkward. for directions there is always a slip of paper inside the tampon box for directions! goood luck hun! hope i helped!
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me and this guy (that i like) always talk online (he goes to my school) but we never talk at school...actually i think he avoids me at school...he doesnt have a girlfriend and we seem to get along...whats up with him?

Hes probably nervous... its easy to talk to anybody online... but its waayy harder in person because your actually face to face with them and you have to respond right away... say hey whats up? to him when you see him in the halls and you guys should start talking! hes probably shy 2... so you have to be the instigator and start up a convo with him! good luck!
xOxO, aLeX

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