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i had oral sex with my boyfriend for the first time (i gave him and i also recieved)i dont regret it or anything .we did it in his truck out of nowhere we were so horny and we did it .it was afront of the store call target .after we finished we realized that there was a camera next to the car it was kinda facing down but not on us im afraid that they will or might of saw us.any help.

I know where I worked, we didn't really look at the cameras unless someone misplaced something important, there was some sort of car wreck or something stolen from a vehicle in the parking lot, or we were robbed.
There really isn't a reason for them to watch cameras. In stores like Target, or at least the one near me, security will occasionally look at the tapes for the cameras inside to make sure nobody is stealing anything, but the parking lot cameras are usually only to be used when there's a robbery, car wreck, or someone had something stolen from their car.

It's not like they're going to call the cops on you for public indecency or anything.

Maybe now you've learned your lesson about having any sort of sexual moment out in the open. That was just silly in the first place. I hope you guys were safe & you didn't get any kind of STD (yes, you can get an STD from oral sex).

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how great is it?
is it more pain or pleasure
details?

The first few times, it's usually more painful than pleasurable.

Although, if the girl is truly in love and ready for sex, it won't hurt as much as it does if she's nervous or anxious.

After the first few times, it become less painful and more pleasurable.

Sex is something that people find the most pleasure in when they're truly in love. There are many risks to sex such as pregnancy (whether or not you use protection) and STDs and STIs.

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okay, well its kinda like this im sixteen and i dont even know how to feel or were to get advice but last month i was late for my period and i thought i was pregnant and i wasnt and again this month im late and iv been having sex with my amazing boyfriend but i dont think i need to take a test or anyything but for next month i ffear cause i know he ejected in me a few times and he has a daughter already help?

As Alin has already stated, there is always a risk of pregnancy when you engage in sex, protected or not.
I'll let you in a personal story to get you to think straight about this.
One of my close friends engaged in unprotected sex. She had a big pregnancy scare. Even though she had received her period, the doctor told her that there was still a chance of her being pregnant. Well, turns out she wasn't. That scared her off of sex for a few months. I suppose it helped that her boyfriend lived out of town.
Well, a few months later, her boyfriend visited & they engaged in protected sex. Yet another pregnancy scare, yet another false positive. This time she figures that she'll be okay, though. She ends up breaking up with that boyfriend and seeing another guy. This past summer (the 2 scares happened in 2007), she actually ended up pregnant. She thought it couldn't happen to her, and it did.

So, think twice before you have sex. If you're not ready to have a baby, you're not ready to have sex.
I don't mean to go on and on about this, but it freaks me out how many girls around my age and younger are asking questions on this site about pregnancy scares, STDs, etc.

Basically, though, to answer your question, YES, you could very easily be pregnant. YES, you NEED to take a test. And stop having sex! He already has a daughter, do you want to end up like that girl's mother?

S_C, 17/f

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Yesterday I was asked to apply to Hollister by one of the people working inside, he had me write down my name and phone number on a sheet of paper (I don't remember what else was on it.) and then fill out the computer application in the store. While doing the application I had to pick what day I would be available for my interview, and I just randomly picked a day (Next tuesday I think.) And after filling it out, the guy told me to come tomorrow for my interview.

Which should I show up for?
Also, what type of questions do they ask in the interview?

Come in whichever day he asked. If for some reason that doesn't work for you, call ASAP. If you were to show up & they can't meet with you, they'll schedule a time for you to come back.

Usually, places ask why you want to work there, what qualifies you, are you a people person, etc.

Where I worked, they would ask you to tell a funny story mainly to see how friendly you are, if you have a sense of humor, if you'll get along with others, etc.

Good luck!

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i was removing programs from my computer all of a suden it turned off on me and it restarted and when it turned on the color quality was on low and i cant move the bar to make the color on my computer better and all my icons are big

Hm, I'm really not that sure on how to fix this. I am far from someone who excels in technology.

Feel free to ask this question to the user Theymos; here is the link to his column: http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=theymos

Sorry about not being able to help.

S_C

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i taped f8 and put in on normall mood and it still dosnt work its still on poor quality what do i do

I'm not entirely sure what you're talking about.

Maybe if you ask your questions more clearly. But, if this is anything technical, I would ask your question to Theymos.

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Ok, so I'm a junior in high school and I was wondering, what are some good colleges if I want to major in music education?

It really depends on where you live unless, of course, you don't mind going out of state.

Appalachian State University in Boone, North Carolina has a fantastic education program, though.

If you tell me the state you live in, I can get some better information for you.

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i saw this quote that i really liked and now i cant find it again. i dont remember the whole thing on the last part where it goes


"..or we can pick up the pieces and move the fuck on"

It's a Tupac quote...

"You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation, trying to put the pieces back together, justifying what could've, would've happened - or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on."

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A few years ago I read this book.
I don't remember the name, but it was about a girl who's mom had died.
The book starts off with her going to a party, drinking a bottle of white wine and she's like popular and has power over people.
Then she meets this guy and his name was a name from 'To Kill A Mockingbird' and his eyes were a blue color that she loved from her paints when she was younger.
Then she meets him again and they swap iPods.
And she gets to know him and they start having sex.
Her dad finds out and is all frustrated.
Oh, the girl has an obsession with brushing her teeth.
Then the guy finds out that she's really young or something.
But he never loved her, he loved another girl he couldn't have. And then the main character girl found that out, and she loved him.
In the end she goes out with friends and meet some guys, then they have a car crash and she breaks her arm.

That's most of the stuff I remember.
Does anyone recognize this book at all???

Thank you so much!

Yes, I know the book you're talking about.

At first I thought it was one of Sarah Dessen's book, but I realize now that it's one of my FAVORITE books, ever!

Let's Get Lost is the title. I know the authors first name is Saraa and I think her last name is Danning or something.
I have the book at my house, but I'm not going to be home until Wednesday to look and double check.

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Hi, um i have been making myself throw up quite a lot after meals lately. I dont binge, but i do throw up after nearly everything i eat. Im normal weight for my age, (15-female-58kg-163cm tall) but I cant help thinking that all my friends are WAY more skinny and beautiful than i am.. I just want to be like them..
I need to lose weight. I want to be skinny too. Noone really understands why i want to be skinnier though. This is the only way thats even had a small chance of helping me lose weight though, so..
I havent been doing it for very long, only about 3 weeks and only about 2 or 3 days a week.
What should I do?

Bulimia is where you purge then vomit.
Most people think anorexia is where you just don't eat (it goes deeper than that...), but there is a form of anorexia called "purging anorexia".
When I was in about 4th or 5th grade, I began showing symptoms of anorexia, and by the time I reached 6th grade I had already been diagnosed. I was diagnosed with the "restricting" form of anorexia. I ate very, very little. Much fewer than 1000 calories per day, probably fewer than 500.
So take it from someone who knows, you're in a very dangerous position. It took until I was almost hospitalized for me to realize how out of control I had become.

Here's a really good site that goes into detail about anorexia. You may not think you're anorexic because anorexia isn't just about not eating or purging, it's a mental disorder where you physically see yourself as overweight and where you have an obsession with becoming thin (which it seems you are already developing that obsession, even if you don't SEE yourself as fat, yet). http://www.helpguide.org/mental/anorexia_signs_symptoms_causes_treatment.htm

My advice to you is to GET HELP! Speak with a school guidance councilor, a teacher you can trust, a friend you can trust, a friends parent, your parent, etc. You NEED to let an ADULT know so they can go about this the proper way.
If you feel more comfortable talking to a friend, do that. Any true friend would WANT to keep your secret but KNOW that the only way to help you would be to tell on you so you can get helped and get better.
If you're a movie person, try and find "For The Love of Nancy" starring Tracey (sp?) Gold. It's a really good movie & shows you a lot more about eating disorders than most people realize.

If you have any questions about anorexia, let me know. I've been there & I'm a survivor of anorexia, so I can help you. But please, get help before it's too late. People die from this more often than we think; you need to seek help!!

S_C

PS. Here are some more sites:

http://www.edreferral.com/anorexia_nervosa.htm
http://www.something-fishy.org/dangers/dangers.php
http://eatingdisorders.about.com/od/anorexianervosa/p/whatisanorexia.htm

(If you truly don't believe it's anorexia, you may have an EDNOS... Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified)
http://eatingdisorders.about.com/od/othereatingdisorders/a/ednoscriteria.htm

"There is compensatory behavior (purging, laxative use, excessive exercise, or other behaviors) after eating small amounts of food; i.e., there is no binging"

Please, get help!!

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Can you send an email to a sprint
phone but when they read it , it opens
as a text?

and if so what do i put?
(if you know)

Thanks ;D

I don't know for sure about with Sprint, but I used to have Cingluar, and I did it with them.

I just put the number as the "address" and I didn't use a subject. Then I typed a message in the body.

If you make the e-mail too long, it will send them a lot of texts, though. So be careful not to do that.

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I'm being quizzed on Thursday. We have 3 worksheets with a bunch of questions on them to study from. I'm not really too sure how to study this; I don't want to retype the questions and re-answer them; it doesn't help me.

So my question is, how do you study about 50 questions? What method do you use?

hope this wasn't too confusing;
thanks to anyone that answers :)

I don't know if you're a flashcard/notecard person, but if the answers aren't ridiculously long, you could put the question on what side and the answer on the other.

I used to think that flashcards were a pain in the butt, but I realized that just writing them out once helped + you can study with flashcards anywhere.
Once you have them all written out, you can flash through them just like you would with words and definitions.

If that doesn't work for you, make a card/matching game out if it and play with friends. Kind of like when you're young and you play the matching game where you have to flip over two cards with the same picture... something like that, except you have to find the question & answer...

Or, another game... you could use them and do it jeopardy style.

Seriously - if you make some sort of game out of studying, it really helps.
And today in class I found out that if you eat breakfast, your memory is 44% better than it would be without. So that's just a tip... make sure you eat breakfast on Wednesday morning to help your memory :). I hear peanut butter cups help, too. Not sure if it's the chocolate or peanutbutter, I think it's the PB, but I'd eat one or two of those.

S_C 17/f

(Not that this matters, but I'm in college & a lot of people around campus use the game method when in study groups... so don't feel lame for suggesting it to friends or trying to "play" by yourself to study!)

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If I have an eating disorder.

Personally, I don't really want to bring attention to it. But my boyfriend believes that something must be done due to my unusual behavior that occurs after meals.

I told him that before I make a fool of myself, I want to be sure that there's something to worry about.

He wants me to list the unusual symptoms that I have:

-constantly monitor what I eat
-only eat healthy foods
-avoid sugars at all costs
-terrified of gaining weight
-go to the bathroom often (because you feel lighter after urinating)
-do 1,400 situps a day (if i eat unhealthily)
-i don't like sitting in chairs (then my stomach folds over itself and it feels gross..)
-in fact.. i'm on my knees right now..
-i like being cold because heat makes your stomach swell
-this causes me to take freezing cold showers
-i don't like it when anyone touches my stomach..
-if i eat too much i feel sick until i work it off
-when i eat too much, i feel irritable and snap at everyone around me
-if i don't eat at specific times of the day then i get really grouchy..
-i take extremely small bites (example: it takes me a half hour to eat an apple)
-i haven't gotten my period in over 2 months. and before that it had been 4 months.

I tried to tell my boyfriend that they're just habits, but he believes that I truly have a problem.

If you guys agree with him, then I he says I have to get professional help. So, please let me know honestly if you think there's something wrong. And also, do you think it's necessary for me to get help?

You definitely have some sort of problem.

Do you remember if there was a specific event in your life that triggered you to start behaving this way? Because these don't just seem like weird habits to me, they seem very serious.

I was diagnosed with anorexia by the time I hit junior high school. My symptoms started around the 5th grade - really, really early, and they progressed to dangerous levels by the time I was in the 6th grade.

Eating Disorders are serious. While you definitely do not have bulimia (you haven't mentioned laxatives or vomiting), you may or may not have anorexia.
Anorexia can be more mental than physical and just wanting to look pretty. Anorexia screws with your brain. You can look in the mirror and you see a 200lb person while others see someone who barely hits the 50lb mark.
It's scary what it does to you and it's scary how it hurts you.

I really, really suggest you watch For The Love of Nancy starring Tracee Gold. It will make you realize that what you're doing is not healthy and that you do need to seek help.

I agree with your boyfriend. I think you need to tell someone. If it makes it more comfortable, have your boyfriend come with you. If you don't want to go straight to your parents, you and your boyfriend should sit down with the school guidance councilor. They will be required to tell someone if what you're doing is dangerous and could hurt you.

There's nothing wrong with eating healthy and exercising. There is something wrong when you do it obsessively.

Rent or buy the movie I suggested. It will give you insight into what you're doing and why it's so unhealthy. And please, seek some help! :)

S_C 17/f

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ok, does anyone know a website or anything for some scholarships that are...bizarre? i can't find any....please help
thanks ahead of time

Fastweb.com

Most of them are legit, but they have a few random ones on there.

Also, if you fill out info on things you like and/or are interested in, they e-mail you when they see scholarships that would interest you.

Most of the scholarships are in the hundreds, but there are some thousand dollar scholarships.

Good luck, :).

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I just want to get some people's opinions on this: What do you think about girls asking guys out?

ANY AND ALL OPINIONS ARE GREATLY APPRECIATED :)

It's definitely something worth doing.

Whether a person is a girl or boy, they should always be willing to ask the other person out. How are you going to know how they feel if you don't just go for it!

:)

S_C, 17/f

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can you pop a girls cherrie with your finger??

Yes. A hymen can also be broken from running, jumping, swimming, horse riding, gymnastics, cheerleading, playing sports, etc.

Changes are, her hymen was broken before you fingered.

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cloning seems so cool! i have a few questions.

(1) can a human clone reproduce?
(2) does a human clone have a mind? can they think for themselves?
(3) when you first make the clone, they have the mindset of a baby, right? they don't know anything / they can't do anything?
(4) do they have feelings?
(5) are they capable of the same things as a real human? do they learn any slower?

thanks!

There has yet to be any artificial human clones.

This world is plagued with natural human clones, but you already know that, and that isn't who you want to base your research/fascination on.

These questions can't be answered as thoroughly and as correctly as you want because, until artificial human clones come about, there is no way to know for sure.

There are a few people who have claimed to have successfully cloned humans, but none of them have been proven. The most recent was in 2004 when some many said he created 13 clones but he can't reveal them to protect their identity (understandable, but this same man has 'cried wolf' already, so how would we really know?)

If you were to google "human clones", you could find out a whole lot.

The only "true" clone we've ever really had (that I can remember) is Dolly, the sheep. I'm pretty sure she only survived for 6 years, though. I just remember learning a lot about her when I was in juinior high, probably about 5 or 6 years ago.

Anyway, like I said earlier,

only search advicenators.com
just google it.

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does anyone have any ideas for a halloween costume for a 13 year old (me)? stuff that is original and an outfit that i can put together myself. (example:last year i was a football player)

and i dont want to get it from party city or stores that have the costume already made up, because everyone gets it from there and i want to be original.

EDIT: I'm a girl, too. Halloween is all about dressing up as something crazy & something you're not. Dressing up in a "girls only" costume is no fun. I guess it's because I'm older than you and in college, but most of the girls in my dorm are dressing as a guy character and most of the guys are dressing as girl characters. We want to have fun this year.
/EDIT

I'm going to be Mario this year.

All you need: Long sleeve red shirt, blue suspenders, mustache, red hat w/M on it, and I'm wearing white sneakers.

Honestly, I picked up the shirt & suspenders and a local Goodwill. Under $10!
I'm getting the hat and mustache at wal-mart this weekend, and I already have the shoes.

Simple, cheap, funny, people WILL recognize you.

If you want to match with a friend, Luigi has green wherever Mario would have red :)

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next week is spirit week at my school and there's a decorating contest and we need some quotes or sayings for the "class of 2012" also the school colors are maroon and gold and we are the hunters.
thanks in advance :]

I'm just making this up off the top of my head, but...

"Hunters will come & Hunters will go
Maroon & Gold are what we know
So into this new world, we'll delve
That's right; We're the class of 2012!

Sorry it's kinda lame... The only word I can think of to rhyme with 12 is "delve" (to dive into...)

Maroon & Gold
Never gets old
Forever we fight
To make things right
We are the year
That you better fear
New Hunters to delve
Into the year of 2012!

I went to rhymezone and the only two words that they said rhyme with 12 are 'delve' and 'shelve'.

Sorry they kinda blow. =/
I hope this at least gives you some ideas.

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is it possible to see who is checking out your profile on facebook??

Nope.

Most networking sites like this one don't allow you to see who is checking your profile.

I'm sure someone has added some sort of application that allows you to "track" visitors, but I doubt it works.

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