When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
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'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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My wife says I need to understand her need to have an orgasm, what or how do I help her achieve one? (link)
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Hey,
Listen, how to achieve an orgasm differs from one person to another.
YOu have to know, what turns her on the most and do more of that. maybe you could change the sexual position, try new ones.
When you come to have sex, do not have sex, make love, its different. Make it slow and passionate, don't make it vigorous and animal like.
Maybe try watching some porn video or something together while doing stuff to each other.
Touching the breast and rubbing over the nipples and fingering and rubbing over the clit and rough sex, all this can achieve an orgasm.
You could also slap her on the ass while having sex,and sometimes you could like shout out some dirty words, and that kind of helps to achieve an orgasm, but that's just to HELP in achieving one.
Just turn her on, make her so damn horny and wet,and position her somewhere where its like she has very little control to do anything, like use a sexual position when you are on top of her or like press her against a wall,and usually kissing the neck is what turns women on the most.
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17/f
I play guitar and I really love to sing. I can sing okay to most songs. Some I do better than others. How can I improve my singing?
Thanks (link)
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Maybe you should consider registering at a conservatoire. These places have really experienced and talented people,they would be your teachers there and would teach you all you need to know about guitar or singing professionaly, and you attend classes there the number of times you need in a week and then sometimes, there would also be like something more like gigs or small parties or something that they would sign you up to sing in, so you'd rehearse infront of real audience.
Its awesome these places and they are serious there, so you can go there if your like really serious about this and you really wanna take this to a professional level.
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how do you know if you have herpes (link)
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Definitely consult a doctor. You should never go on making assumptions or ideas or taking opinions from unexperienced people on any medical related stuff. You should just go to a doctor.
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okay so i am f/17 and i have this best friend. but for the last year we have been liking each other on and off. and the thing is when i dont have him i want him, but when i do have him i have no interest in him. what do i do? because its really not fair to him and this is always happening. (link)
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oh, are you one of those people???
you just want to have everything and you want to own everything, but when you actually have it or own it, you are not interested anymore. It runs through so many people whom i met and whom i didn't meet.
But here's the thing, we are talking about him, a human being, who has feelings and emotions and who loves you, so that's definitely where you should stop and think, cause this ain't another thing which you could have or don't have or be interested in and then lose the interest whenever you want.
Give it a try, cause somewhere there in your heart you love him, and after all you said it, you said you want him when you don't have him, well then that's a feeling for need and care. So be with him and give it a try, like a real try, try to know him well , try to be with him long enough to actually either love him or hate him or just know if that feeling you have about him is neutral or what, and then, then you can really back out or stay, for once and for all. That is how things work for you to be fair to yourself and most important, to him.
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okayy here the thingg..
I was with my boyfriend last night
and he sat me on top of his lap..
Then he started tickling me so I
started wiggling around on his
lap. Then he started tickling me harder
and I noticed he had a weird expression
on his face and his leg was tapping fast..
plus he would constantly pull me higher onto
his lap and start breathing hard..then
start tickling me again..
What is he trying to do?
Is he horny or something? (link)
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Well that was definitely an act to drive someone horny. I mean, didn't you feel anything yourself when he did that? If you didn't, then i'm sure cause you were too focused to understand what he was doing then to feel anything.
Were you like sitting exactly on his lap, or did you kind of bounce over something else more like his penis or anywhere near that spot????
Either way, that's definitely an act that would drive him horny.
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so i ate really bad stuff today (fatening wise) so a while after i ate it. like a couple hours later, i tried to throw it up. nothing would coem out after a lot of tries of jabing my finger down my throte. just this heavy thick white salivia. what is that? (link)
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That was simply nothing.
The thing is that your stomache was probably either not full enough to go out as vomit or it was either already digested since you waited for a while, so there was nothing to vomit, so that thick white saliva came out as a substitute to the vomit cause definitely, your jabing finger attempts had to trigger something out, so that's what came out.
But i don't see any serious problem even though i ain't a doctor, and don't worry about the bad stuff, because its already long gone digested and it will be excreted from your body, so you don't have to like get rid of it by jabbing your finger down your throat, that's not a good method at all by the way.
So i don't want you worrying at all, but if in your opinion you think there is a problem and you want to be on the safe side, then why don't you consult a doctor, maybe the family doctor if you have one, or you could tell your mom or dad or something.
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ah, yes, everyone's favorite question. "HOW DO I MAKE OUT?"
please don't answer with, "it just happens" or, "i can't explain it"
please do answer with, your own experiences of your first "make out." and how it happened. i want to know details of what you did! everything, where you put your hands, your tounge, and what you wore. don't leave out a single detail.
THANKS! (link)
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Well when people say that it just happens, they mean they don't plan for it or you just like suddenly feel like you want to do it.
He starts moving his lips close to yours, and so you should respond by moving yours towards his, and then your lips press on top of one another and you start like twirling your tongues together, i'm not sure if that's the right way of saying it, but you know, you start moving your tongue over his, and then eventually you just pull it away. When you use your tongue when your kissing, that's called french kissing.
But then you could simply like use your lips to plant small tiny kisses on each other's lips, it usually feels really good and kind of turns you on, if your like doing it with someone you really love, not just making out for fun, you know.
That's it, and then when you do that, you'll know what people mean when they say that it just happens, because there is no such thing as learning how to kiss, cause everyone of us can kiss and make out and especially when your doing it with that person you love, you'll do it without noticing and you'll find that you can do it right, and even that you could be damn experienced in it. Don't worry, it ain't hard, and it's just normal, and no one, can say something like, you don't know how to kiss or your a bad kisser, that's bullshit or that's what you see in movies.
And when your making out, your eyes should be closed, that's not something you usually plan on doing, but it just happens, cause your usually too focused on making out, and some people say its even kind of rude if your eyes are open cause its usually that you don't feel anything while the guy's kissing you, and its true, cause if you do feel something, you will close your eyes like automatically without noticing.
'Where you put your hands?' on his face, like on his cheeks or something, or around his neck as if like hugging him while making out, but if you put your hand anywhere else on his body, like lower body,lol, he's gonna get the idea that you want more than a kiss.lol.
That's it, but if you need anymore advice, please let me know.
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How do I be more funny? I wish I was funny but I have bad self-esteem. (link)
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See, now that's not possible. You have to just be who you are, and accept who you are, cause this has nothing to do with bad self-esteem, i mean, even if you had so much confidence,that wouldn't make you funnier.
I don't really know you nor your personality, but i'm sure that you are just right the way you are, and changing our selves to something that we just aren't, is simply being fake and is not gonna work out and you know what, people may not like you when you put an act on trying to act funny on purpose.
People just love you the way you are, cause everyone one of us was born with this specific personality, that we can't change and should simply accept instead and love who we are.
And i'm sure that there is so many things about you that are good and much better than being funny, and these little characteristics are what you should be thinking about and working hard to improve.
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i have dark body hair, and i feel like i have kind of a lot on my stomach and lower back. i know every girl has hair there, but i feel like i have way more than most girls. i shave my arm hair off, since its super dark, as well as my legs of course. anyways, its probably not as bad to others as it looks to me, but i've always had more body hair than others. so i was wondering, should i shave the hair or try to dye it like a bleach blonde kind of color? especially with it being bikini season i dont want people to see my kinda hairy tummy and back! ew! ha plus i feel self concious. any advice is very appreciated thanks! (: 17/f btw (link)
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I think you should definitely shave it, because since its dark and alot,so when you dye it, i think its gonna be kinda too obvious or you know, easily noticeable, so in my opinion, i think its much better if you just shave, so you wouldn't have to worry at all about any hair.
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This one girl who sits next to me always says "you wear pink alot." and so I always go, "you wear black alot, but I don't say anything." I don't understand what she makes these comments. I guess shes kinda weird, but I don't say anything mean to her or anything. I'm not annoying, and I'm not always saying oh my god!!! I'm not like that. I'm nice, I smile alot. But, whatever. Anyways, the other day I take out a pink pen to write something. She goes, "I hate the color pink." So I said, "I think I've figured that out by now." So then I decided to ask why, its just a color, why do you care. So, then this boy who shes friends with is like, "You're a typical high school girl." And I go "what?" he rolls his eyes at me and turns around. So then I freaked out and started fighting with them.
I've never hardly ever talked to this girl before. I don't get it, why does she and her friends seem to have a problem with me and other 'typical high school girls' i'm not really bad or anything, or not enough to get around school or for it to be much of a big deal. I or anyone else I know has a problem with her friends, they don't talk about them or anything. Why are these people always feeling bad for themselves? what do they have against me and people who are like me?
I don't get it. (link)
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Seriously girl, don't stoop down to waste your time with those people.
They have such low self esteem and exactly picture you as the cool pretty popular airhead in pink, that's their definition of typical high school girls. They think that your too proud, you think highly of yourself, you see that your better than her and that friend of her. Seriously, didn't you see the movie legally blonde or i don't, Mean Girls, you know all that shit lame kindergarden ideas people have that the school is divided into the popular airheads and people like that girl whose annoying you.
So she sees you that way, and that's her idea and her friend's to stand up for themselves and like mock you and tell you that they are better than you and stuff. And don't you dare waste your time to think how you could prove them wrong, because that's just a serious kindergarden shit.
Girl don't waste your time with them and don't even give her a chance to bother you, let her talk shit on her own, and don't even shoot a come back or look her way.
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22/f
i've never had this problem before!!! even when i was in Nigeria last year where it's so so SO hot. I am in Greenland now and it's colder here... i am sweating like a cow! i have sweat circles always no matter how much deodorant i rub on!!!! i am not doing strenuous work (well it's wayyyy less than what i use to do in Nigeria) and i am sweating... the only thing i could think of is that it has been more than a year now since i had my laser treatment (for hair removal, underarms, bikini, legs, arms) which i usually do either during my couple days transit in uk, france, or if i am in the states... but it's been a year... shouldn't the sweating have began earlier? help!! please it's ruining my life! what can be the problem... (link)
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Hey, tell me about, that shit sweating started with me just like for the past 3 months and its awful i know, it ruins all my clothes with patches and circles of sweat and that smell, no matter what i do.
But here is the thing, first of all, shower more, like 2 times a day or something, like in the morning and at night.
Then when you use deodrants, use spray ones and not roll-ons.
Third thing, is that you could consult a doctor and you could do a blood test to see if your pores are too open or what, cause if they are, that thing needs surgery, a minor procedure.
But for now, make sure your shirts are of cotton or you could wear cotton shirts under your clothes.
Thats it i guess, i don't think there is anything more you could do.
But if there is anything else i could help you with, please be free to contact me.
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okay so this is pretty embarrassing, but i need to know. for the last two years little white things have been popping up on my breasts. now, i think they are white heads or something. how do i get rid of them and are they something more than white heads. (link)
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Hey girl, that doesn't sound like anything serious or wrong at all. But just on the safe side, you could tell your mother about it, and maybe even consult a doctor, just like to really be on the safe side. But its cool and don't worry about it.
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Theres this guy at work that I really like but I'm kind of shy and don't really know how to get a conversation going with him, and plus, I don't know for sure that he is single. Does anyone know a subtle way to find out if he is seeing anyone? (link)
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Hey its totally cool there. There ain't nothin that you should be shy about, besides he works with you in the same place, so you should be able to carry on a conversation about anything involving work, that's how you should start, and then simply drag the conversation there to talk jsut a little bit about yourself , and then in the middle of that talk, you could like throw questions at him,like 'what about you?' or 'are you with someone?' and then you could also ask him other stuff unrelated to the 'are you single' question, so he wouldn't think you started this whole conversation to know whether he was single or not. And its cool, he'll play along and he'll answer all your questions and he'll also get to know about you. See, so its a totally normal and friendly small talk.Don't worry, and there is no need to be shy and if you need any other advice there, please be free to contact me.
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Okay, so me and my mom had like this reallyyy deep conversation about her childhood and what it was like compared to what i have. Anyway, it made me realize everything that she does for me. So for her birthday--which is in July--i want to do something special. When i was talking to her she mentioned how she ALWAYS wanted a doll called baby thumbelina. She said how she belived for like 3 years that if you wished on a star and didn't tell anyone your wish would come true. And everynight that was what she wished for..that doll. So as a birthday present or something i was wondering, would it be weird if i got her that doll? Shes going to turn 45. I know shes old, but its kind of something she never forgot. Also, where can i find a cheap REAL one and one thats not damaged or like broken or has anything wrond with it. (link)
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I've never heard something as sweet as your thought here. Seriously girl, if i was your mother, i'd simply be ecstatic if you got me that gift. The point here is not that she's too old or too young, its just the thought that matters and how you were listening to her and wish for her wishes to satisfy and come true, so you'd make her happy, so seriously, this is so special. So definitely, get the gift and go for it.
But about where to get the gift, i can't really help you with that, cause i'm from egypt here, so i'm not really from your area. lol.
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My best friend stopped eating, its been 16 days. What do I do, to get her to stop?! Help. (link)
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Hey that's serious girl. You should definitely not handle this yourself, you must inform her parents which i have no idea how they have not already noticed that she doesn't eat, and then a doctor must immediately and definitely be involved.
And your role here, is to simply talk with her, and try to know what her reason is behind such action, cause maybe she's depressed or something, that could affect her, so maybe something's wrong or maybe she has some ideas in her mind like wanting to lose weight or low self esteem (is she overweight?). So talk it over with her and see what's going on in her mind and hopefully maybe its something minor and there's some small problem that could be easily sorted out.
Anyways, those are the options, but you must definitely take an action and fast. Goodluck with that, and you can contact me, if you need any further help there.
oh and another thing, while your sorting this out, maybe you could try and make her eat something by maybe seeing that she drinks less of water and liquids to have her open up her appetite a bit for food and maybe you could see what's her favourite food or what she likes best, and you could see if it could drive her hungry enough to eat, and maybe also some candy or toffee or just small food with sugar you know.
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so my guy friend always flirts with me and finds little ways to hold touch my hand or legs and stuff
how can i give him that extra boost of confidence to actually hold my hand or more..? (link)
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oh seriously girl, is that a question?
Simply show him that your interested. "How" you wonder?
During those few times when he finds little ways to hold or touch your hand or legs and stuff, hold his hands for a little longer and like smile at him, as if telling him that you like it when he does that or that your enjoying it or that you want him to do it again later or simply that its cool with you, and you don't mind him doing that or maybe you could do the first step yourself, meaning that you could find little ways of your own to touch his hands and stuff, or maybe when your joking you could you know, playfully hit him on the shoulder or pinch him in his tummy.
Believe me, he'll get the hint and a super dooper boost of confidence and he'll do so much more than holding your hand.
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my best friend and i have both had a difficult year with our significant other. i have had an on and off relationship for the past year with a guy who is graduating next week and she has had the same relationship with his best friend for three years. they've recently broken up and my guy and i have just stopped talking. the two guys are both best friends as well and they've randomly stopped talking. my friend's ex goes to my school with me and my ex and he has been showing a lot of signs that he likes me and isn't doing it to make her jealous bcs he's had feelings for me prior to their relationship and i'm afraid i'm falling for him too and know i shouldn't pursue anything but i don't know what to do bcs i can really see this going somewhere but am completely against hurting her in anyway and understand that it should be chicks before dicks and all that. but is there any reason why it wouldn't be..? (link)
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Jesus christ, there definitely is one hell of a reason, and that reason is that if you do that, that is gonna be such a low act from you. Seriously girl, she's your best friend there, and that was her boyfriend and they were in love, and don't tell me that they broke up and that she's probably over him, cause thats just you trying desperately to find any right reason to make this work and to make you own the right to be with him, but you can't be with him.
Look ofcourse i don't mean to be rude or anyting, but i'm being honest there, cause i've been there and i've done that, with the best friend i ever had, and i too saw that going somewhere and i built all those reasons to make me go through that and i tried to ignore all those who told me to back out, but then the only somewhere i found myself going was a place where it was me and only me, after i lost my best friend and that stupid fool who i discovered afterwards, that it wasn't even true love, or at least even love that was worth throwing a friendship for, a real valuable one, and i guess that's enough reason to tell you why it wouldn't be.
And here's another piece of advice, if there is something about your life or about yourself or something that you want real bad but you know you can't have it, cause maybe its wrong or its a risk or its simply gonna cause you trouble, then simply don't even think about it, cause it ain't worth it.
Back out is my advice. Is he graduating too next week? I don't think you mentioned that , but hopefully he is, and gratefully, that should be your ticket to avoid him, and if your still gonna see him, its cool why not?? but friends is how your gonna act and limits your gonna define, because you don't want more than that, and thats what your gonna at least HINT around to him.
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me and my mom got kicked out of our grandparents house and she got fired from her job we at her ex boyfriends house for one night then we have to live in her car and we have no where to go what should i do i have been crying for the last 4 hours (link)
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Hey, that sounds real tough, but i'm sure you'll get through it. The solution is not to sit and cry about it, you should try to be calm and relaxed so you'd be able to think and in the same time, your supposed to be supporting your mom at a time like that, cause she's probably feeling alot worse than you right now, so you should try to make her feel better by making her think positive and to show her that you can get through this.
So here is the thing,you didn't mention why you got kicked out of the house, but definitely there was a reason there, fortunately it would only be a misunderstanding or maybe just an over exaggeration about something, so if you talk to your grandparents quietly and sort things out, i'm sure that no matter what or how big the problem is, they would never allow you to live in cars and in the street and all that stuff, cause after all, your still a family, and i'm asure they don't know that you don't have anywhere to stay now, cause if they did, they would never allow your present living conditions.
And if it is that serious,like majorly serious, then maybe you could stay over at other relatives or maybe a friend of yours , like a really good friend, or some friend of your mother's, at least temporarily till things get sorted out with your grandparents. But don't worry there, hold on tight, i'm positive things are gonna be just fine.
If you need any other help or if you feel like talking with someone, please be free to contact me. Take care there.
And hey , i almost forgot, about your mother's job, i'm sure there was a reason for that too, and she's either can sort that out with the people there at her work or she's gonna start looking for another job, either way, she's gonna do the right thing, so i don't want you worrying. I know it feels bad especially that everything is just happening all at once, but that shit always happens, sometimes things just all get really bad and messy all at once, but by thinking right and being calm about it, you will find the right solution and everything is gonna be alright and in no time. Take care.
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im 15 and ive been with my gf for 6 months and my penis is really small and im worried she wont want to be with me what can i do whats the average size? (link)
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Hey to be honest, i have no idea what the average size of a penis should be. But i do have an idea, that we fall in love and hook up together because of who we are, and our personality and for being together, but not for the size of our penis.
So many people get together, and sex is never a major priority, because they love each other and are dating for that reason, but not to get in each other's pants.
And here in your situation, whether too small or too long, or even an average sized one, its still a penis, and its still used for sex. So if your trying to do something with her, give it a try and see how she reacts. I mean, maybe if she's about the same age as yours, she has small boobs too or a small ass. you get my point? Its just cause your still young, it'll grow by time.
So umm, give it a try and see how things go.
But sorry for not being of help about the average size thing.
If you need anything else though, feel free to contact me.
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ok me and my girlfiend have been dating for 5 months now so the other day me and her had sex and she was giving me head and stopped so i put my dick in her and we was getting it on well i forgot to take it out and i cumed in her and it was alot i told her like right after i did it and i told her if she got pregnant that i wud b there every step of the way i just want to know if she is pregnant or not this was writtin 10-21-2007 and we had sex 10-20-1007 also im 16 and she is 15 does that effect anything and it was alot of cum because i felt it like shoot out 4 timees while i was fucking her but she stoped and put her pants back on n stuff and we kinda talked but then we both noticed that it was a lil wet in her pants by her vagina area does that mean all the cum came out since that night her stomach been hurting and she been getting tired alot im nervous please tell me if she is pregnant or not
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Hey look, its too soon to know now, bs there is a huge possiblity that she'll get pregnant.
so here is the thing, you have to get her checked out, like set an appointment with a doctor, or let her do a pregnancy test, you can get it from any pharmacy. These are like the only 100% positive methods to know if she's pregnant or not.
I can't tell you no more, cause its too early to judge about anything, but its really manly of you to stick around with her, and be there for her if she'll get pregnant or so. Don't change your mind there, or back out.
If you need any further advice or help, please be free to contact me. My parents are gynecologists, so they can help you alot.
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