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Well I use to be on advicenators a while back, & then life got way too busy & I no longer had time for it, & after I while I forgot all about advicenators. =/




I'm sorry guys. But I'm back.



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My names maria, but people call me smalls.
I'm 5 feet tall, which would explain why my nick name is smalls. ;]




I'm 17 years old, and a senior in high school.
I always gave great advice before but now that I'm older and wiser, I give
awesome advice.




I'm very open minded, so feel free to ask me anything. I never judge people & I'm
Always here if anyone needs a friend. =]




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who has a screen name that would like to talk? if you do, what is it and i will add u and talk to you!

Hey

Well i would be happy to talk to you.
Im me anytime. If you have a problem and need some help or if you just feel bored LOL whatever the reason is.

My sn is DiOr BARBIEE

♥ maria ♥

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I'm confused. I'm having friends telling me I'm something..and then I'm not?
So I'm mostly portuguese. Parts of german, irish, etc.
Can you tell me what I fall under?
Middle Eastern
Pacific Islander
Caucasian
Or just OTHER.

Hey

The only way to describe you as would be "white".
Which is pretty much caucasian.

♥ maria ♥

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laguna beach this past weeks episode there was a song while jessiaca and jason were having dinner
the words i remember are
everybodys saying that im crazy....
he loves me he hates me doesnt really matter i know who we are who we are
what is it?


also there was another song in that episode i just remember the words were just breathe just breathe

do you know these songs thanks

Hey

You see the problem is that half of the songs that mtv plays on laguna beach are songs from many groups that are just starting their music careers and don't have real cd's out yet. So when you try to look them up or a song by them it's no where to be found. That's what pretty much happened to me. Also alot of the other bands are new and have cd's out but other sites don't know anything about them. Anyways I went to mtv.com to found out what songs played in the last episode and i copied the list. I'll show you the list if you want.

the orion experience - no love in february

joseph arthur - in the sun

leedsy ports - further

course of nature - caught in the sun

sheridan - psycho

yellowcared - only one

ryan cabrera - true

kelly clarkson - behind these hazel eyes


I tried looking up almost all of these songs. I didn't look up yellowcared - only one
ryan cabrera - true
kelly clarkson - behind these hazel eyes because i know those songs by heart and for a fact i know they can't be what your looking for. but for the other songs Some worked like two of them but they were not the ones you asked for. The other songs i couldn't find anywhere. Not on any lyrics sites, not on any laguna beach music soundtrack sites. I even looked on limewire to see if i could download the songs but nope. Nothing works. So i'm sure that the song your looking for is in that list. The only problem is you won't be able to find it or download it. But hey you could try.


about the breathe song umm i'm not sure either.
I looked on mtv and the only song on launga beach that played with the line breathe in it was by Keith Varon. I got you the lyrics below.

Can't Breathe

What if time could unwind and not apply to us
What if I hadn't fallen first, would this have worked out
So many signs not to be involved with you
So many signs to fall in love

(Chorus)
So what's come over me
It's not supposed to feel this right
What's come over me
Cause suddenly I can't breathe

Are you afraid of love, are you afraid of us
Cause it seems to me that we could be a possibility
Am I saying something wrong written in this song
All I ask is for a chance to seek out this romance
I know my timing's off I'm coming on too strong
But love, it put me up to this
It's not as if I wanted anymore complicated

I want you to know all you give to me
I want you to know all I'm going through

(Chorus) So what's come over me
It's not supposed to feel this right
What's come over me
I don't know what's on your mind
I can't believe
You and I were meant to be
What's come over me
Cause suddenly I can't breathe
(Is this what I've been waiting...)

2004 Keith VaronCan't Breathe



If that's not it then i'm pretty sure the song your looking for is Breathe (2 AM) by Anna Nalick
Although i don't member it being in the show.

I'm really sorry if i wasn't much help. I tried my best. But hey i'll keep looking and if i find anything out i'll tell you just be sure to tell me your user name and i'll post it in your inbox.

♥ maria ♥



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you may or may not have answered this but, i've been thinking of charging my sister money for babysiting her son and i dont know how to ask her. if i ask assirtively she'll get mad and yell at me and not let me babysit her sun and if i ask in a passive yet nice way she'll walk all over me. how can i ask her without her yelling at me or walking all over me.

Hey

Well i don't see why you can't just ask her to her face , without getting worried i mean she is your sister and if she has a baby then i guess shes much more older and mature then you. Next time when you babysite, come up to her and say oh well i was wondering if you could pay me for helping you out. I just really need the money, and all. If not that's alright. BE sure to "smile"! So that way she can't get mad nor walk all over you. If you still don't like that idea then ask your mother to have a talk with her. Tell your mother how you feel and that you love watching her son but you think it's unfair that she doesn't pay you. Then your mother might have a nice talk with your sister and everything should be fine. Also try asking her husband if she has one. Maybe that might be easier for you to do. If that doesn't work you could always just stop watching him, and tell her you get way too tired of watching her son doing, homework, and on top of that your not getting any money out of it. you could always go look for another kid to babysite if anything.


Good luck

I'm sure whatever you do things will work out just fine. After all your family and she loves you and has alot of respect for you already if she trusted you with her son.

♥ maria ♥

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I have a this friend (guy) and were always on the phone from when we get
home from school to when we go to sleep. Somehow we alway end up on the
topic of some sexual activity.(BJ, HJ, Intercourse, etc.)And he asked me
if I would ever give him a BJ and I said not untill high school.

But I don't know weather or not to because I know where and when I
could do it but is it a bad Idea because I am only 13. But I do know losts
about sexual things and condoums (use'em) sooo what shoould I do?.

Hey

I cant beileve this, darling you are 13, oh my god, even 14, 15 is way
to young. You shouldnt even be thinking about it at all at your age. no way this is
so unreal. you 2 are 13 you dont know much about life, you may think you
do but you don't. wow!!! dont you dare even go there.
Your making yourself sound like a little slut you really are. just
imagine it, if you were to do it, i would hate to be you. you may think
that sex is fun but its for grown ups, not for young children. what is
this world coming to. im so shocked its not funny. and im not a stuck
up, goody goody kinda chick, but this is just bullsh*t.

♥ maria ♥

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Im confused
I have limewire already. I have to go to a completely different program 2 burn a CD?

and all i have is mediaplayer..

No. Not at all you don't need a different program. If you want just im me on aim. My sn is DiOr BARBIEE. That way maybe i can help you step by step but other wise if you already have limewire i don't see the problems here. Mediaplayer is what i use to burn my cds. All you need to do is put in a clean cd into your burner then go to the folder where you keep your music at and at the side it will say
copy to audio cd press on that, then your media player will list all the music you have saved up on your computer. All you have to do is pick what songs you want on your cd and thats it. Just leave the media player alone when it's done burning all the songs on to the cd the cd will just pop out on its own.

If your still confused please im me on aim it will be so much easier.

♥ maria ♥

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Can i burn a CD from limewire? and how do i go about that?

Hey

Yeah sure you can. I do all the time.
Well first you need to download limewire. Then when your setting it up it's going to ask you where you want limewire to send your songs after it's done downloading. All you need to do is pick a folder in your documents that you would want your songs to be at. You can always make new folders and move your songs. But anyways after you download a song from limewire it's already in your computer. So if you know how to burn a cd then your all set. If not just go here:
http://service.real.com/rhapsody/support.html?section=RhapBurnCD

If your confused in anything that was just said to you then don't be scared to re-ask me or just im me on aim. I'll be more then happy to help

♥ maria ♥

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I was just wondering if any has any suggestions for a really good foundation - preferably something with full-coverage and with a flawless look?

Hey

I honestly HATE liquid foundation because it looks so fake. That's why i use bare minerals
Loose Foundations. Bare minerals is a great natural makeup line. I love it. Most loose foundations are just as horrible as liquid foundation but bare minerals is different.
If your thinking about getting it then you could either wait until you see it on the tv, or get it online. You could try here:

http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P61003

Or if you want a better price look around google.

If you don't like loose foundation and don't want to give it a try then try getting sephora - all over skin liquid foundation. It's only 18$ and it's pretty good.

You can get it here:
http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P55415&shouldPaginate=true&categoryId=S10801

♥ maria ♥

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Hi I am a 17 year old boy and my girlfriend wants to have unprotected sex
with me, but i'm not sure i want to have unprotected sex.

We have had protected sex before. Please Help me?.


Hey

She can get pregnant from unprotected sex even if you pull out. Guys have
precum (their natural lubricant.. but it contains sperm).

Look in the phone book and find a planned parenthood center. They will
usually give out free birth control if she goes in for an STD check and an
annual pap smear. Give her the information and if she's really serious
about having unprotected sex she'll give them a call and set up an
appointment.

♥ maria ♥

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Ok me & my friend are 15 & we are still virgins & we havent
even had our first kiss yet! We dont know what to do! Is it a bad thing
all of our other friends have done it all! We dont know if we should do it
now or wait we dont want to wait to long! But we dont want to end up being
pregnant at a young age! But we think its stupid that we havent even had
our first kiss! & we have gone out with tons of guys! tell us what you
think we should do we really need someones help!.

Hey


Ok. Stay virgins. There is really no reason to rush that. But as far as
kissing, that's different. And you know what? Everyone is nervous
about kissing at first. But it's really not that hard. All you do
is go with the flow. It's not rocket science. It's more of
what you feel like doing. It's only so many variations that you can
do. Kiss the lips, put your tongue in his mouth and roll it around.
Kinda feel him out to see what he's doing and then just mimick
that. The only real advice I can say is don't use too much spit and
make sure that your breath is fresh.
The more you do it the better
you'll get and sooner or later you will develop your own technique.
Have fun and keep it sweet.

♥ maria ♥

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well im 16.. and my boyfriend like just broke up with me... and i can
honestly say i was in love with him... i loved him with all my heart.. he
meant the world to me...like he made me feel like i've never felt
before...

we lived like an hour away from eachother but we saw eachother every
weekend.. and for me that was fine..

because.. i knew the wait would be worth it...

when i did get to see him... and well...

he was the first guy i told that i loved him.. and i was the first girl..

he told me he took that very seriously.. and he never once told a girl
besides his mom..

he loved him.. until me...

and after that... things were perfect...

we had the best relationship.. we never fought...

and we cared about eachother a lot.. and about a month and a half into our
realtionship...

we had sex.. he was my first...

but i wasnt his frist.. he told me he had sex with his ex..

and there was a couple one night stands.. but i didnt care...

because we loved eachother... and i trusted him with everything...

but sex changed..everything.. we kinda drifted apart..

and just focused on the sex... and it bugged me a lot...

but.. i loved him...

and i dunno.. and then...

he broke up with me.. cuz he just wasnt in love with me anymore...

and that broke my heart.. i went back to cutting...

and i was so depressed for the longest time... but..

me and him still talked.. and one weekend..

i went up to his friends house...and i stayed at her house.. and justin
ended up coming there..

and we flirted.. and he kissed me..

and asked me back out.. and of course after that..

we had sex... which was a mistake..

becauselater i found out he just used me for sex.. that weekend..

because two weeks later he broke up with me again.... and he waited that
long..

because he wanted me to break up with him.. so he didnt look like the asshole
in the realtionship...

and i dont know.. like people told me that he never loved me...

he used me.. and he cheated on me..

and like now...hes really into drugs.. like realy bad..

and i dont know what to do.. i want to help him..

but he wont listen to me.. and everytime we talk..

we fight... and i hate it..

because i still love him.. and well honestly i think he still loves me..

he just wont admit it... cuz i was told he only broke up with me...

because his friends told him to... and well..

like.. hes different around me....

i can tell he cares... but..

when hes around others.. he acts like a complete dick...

*sigh* i dont know what to do.. will someone please help me?....

i want him back.. but i want the old justin back..

not the justin i know now...

liz


Hey


The problem is that you aren't seeing him clearly. When
you remember your relationship, you are only thinking about all the good
things. That's perfectly natural since you were in love with him,
but you also need to realize that your mind is more powerful than you
think and that it is making you believe something that may not be true.
The hardest thing is trying to take a step back.. and look at the
situation as if it wasn't you. Read what you just said.. and if
you read your own words would you really tell this girl that he's a
guy worth wasting any more time over? i doubt it. I'm sure what
you had with him is special, but it seems really unlikely that out of
all the people in this world, he is the only one you can love? That
seems ridiculous. My advice? Cry your eyes out.. mourn the loss of a
guy, and be happy that all that drama and crap is over and you can move
on with your life. He's actually doing you a favor by showing you
what a jerk he really is.

♥ maria ♥

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whats better Limewire, Carebear, or Kazaa

Hey

I personally use Limewire it's pretty good. Kazaa is way too slow, and carebear is alright.

♥ maria ♥

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hey.. my boyfriend doesn't always respect me. ok he does, really he
does, if he didn't i wouldn't be with him but the other day we
were out with my friends and he got all mad because he says that i act
differently around my friends and he doesn't like that.

he walked away at my birthday, but did come back shortly after.
i guess i could just keep them seperate although i wish i didn't
have to, but i don't know how to talk to my boyfriend without it
sounding bad.

hes testy. i've tried but we always joke around being mean to each
other, but its all joking.

my friends think im blinded by my love for him and i shouldn't be
with him if he does this, but i love him so much i can't bare to let
him go.

please help!! i've tried sitting down and talkin to him, and yelling
doesn't work either. please help!! thanks.

Hey


If he can't deal with the fact that you act differently around
other people than you do around him, I don't think he really
respects who you are.

Sometimes, in relationships, we don't love
the person we think we're in love with, we love the mental image
that we construct of that person. I think this may be happening with
him.

I'm not saying that he doesn't love you, I'm just
saying that what may be happening is that you're upsetting what he
sees as "you".

You can't change for him, or for
anybody.

So... listen to him. What behaviors are you displaying that
anger him? Are they part of the real you? Or do you feel you have to
pretend to be someone else around your friends?

Bottom line... find
out what he wants changed, figure out if it's something that *you*
want or need to change, and then proceed from there.


♥ maria ♥

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my boyfriend is mad at me cause i dont get jealous when he talks to other
girls but i am not a jealous person he says that if i dont get jealous
that i dont really love him i was wondering if this is true????.

Hey

it seems that he might feel insecure about the relationship and how you
feel about him. tell him, why you are not jealous, tell him that you
love him and trust him. a relationship without trust wouldn't be as
strong. so who knows, maybe he is the "jealous" type, and he
might feel jeaolous about someone when he "loves" them, he
probably thinks, that since you are not jealous, then you don't
love him.

♥ maria ♥

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im 14,and i have been dating this guy that i think im in love with he wants
to have sex, 9he isent making me) , i want to but i got raped when i was 12
and im scared..what should i do?.

Hey

I assume you have already taken legal action against the rapist. If not you
should! You should also seek counciling. There are alot of Rape and crisis
centers across the nation that can help. Look in your local phone book or
an online yellow pages for a center near you. You won't be dissapointed. And as for the guy pressuring you to have
sex... don't do it until you are ready. You don't have to please someone
or live up to anyone's expectations but your own. Your body is YOUR body.

♥ maria ♥

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The guy I have this huge crush on (i've liked him since February of this year) is a year younger than me. He's in 7th grade and i'm in 8th, but he has a late birthday so he COULD be in my grade but he missed the cut off (his bday is in November of 1992 and mine is in july of 1992 so i'm only a couple months older than him.) However, other people think i'm weird, cause they don't know when his bday is, and they think im weird cause i like a younger guy. Well the truth is i really like him. and i dont care what other people think. but what should i do 2 not make them think im a dork/loser for likeing someone younger than me?? Thanx i rate 5 every time :-)

Hey

First off i want to say i really admire you for not caring about what others think. Honestly i don't see an age difference just a grade difference. It's not a big deal what so ever but i don't need to tell you that you already know. I think your best off not explaining yourself to anybody. If they think your a loser/dork for dating somebody no matter who this person may be then they honestly have probelms and have nothing better to talk about. If your friends call you a loser for dating him then trust me they are not your real friends. If other people say mean things to you then just simply ignore them. The only people that matter are your friends and if they have your back then your good to go. Otherwise keep your head up high and smile. Your doing nothing wrong.
Good luck

♥ maria ♥

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ok i want to say you give the best ass advice ever in the whole world and also you are so pretty i am jealous. ok my question is when i you getting new pics and what your fav shows?

Hey

Awww gosh thanks babe. Ummm well i'm not sure when i'm getting new pictures. I'm guessing when i get my hair done which is sometime this week.
About the shows, well i like alot of different shows. One of my favorites that is out now is the girls next door. I also LOVE laguna beach, and the real world.

♥ maria ♥

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um i was wondering if you could please explain how to put eyeliner on the top on properly

Hey

Sure! Well first off you need to
decided if your going to use liquid or pencil. I personally use Liquid for the top and pencil for the bottom. Liquid eyeliner is more difficult to use, but the results can be much better with practice and patience. Make sure you purchase a liquid eyeliner with a very fine tip if you do decided to use liquid. They are like felt tip pens, and the smaller the tip, the finer a line you can achieve
But whatever you use it should be fine. Basically what you do is pull your eye lid gently and apply eye liner in short strokes as close to the lash line as you can get.
If you are having a difficult time making a fine straight line with your eyeliner. Try making a series of small dots instead of the full line. Then take a Q-Tip and connect the dots.


Follow these steps and you should be fine. Don't worry about it. If you mess up just remove the eyeliner and start all over again. After all practice makes perfect.

♥ maria ♥

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hey whats ur xanga?

Hey

It's

http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=HARD_CORE_DiOR_WHORE

ENJOY

♥ maria ♥

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I suck at straightening my hair... like i dont know how to do it.... SO how do i straighten my hair... do i put some up before i do it and leave a lil down or what????

Hey

This is my usual procedure when straightening my hair:


1. Use a 2-in-1 shampoo, and for every 3-5 times you wash your hair with that brand, use another brand to get rid of build-ups. If you use the same shampoo over and over, it will not give you that clean feeling anymore, but instead a dry and sticky feeling and not so great results when you straighten anymore.

One brand of shampoo I use occasionally is L'oreal Kids 2-in-1 Extra Conditioning, a red-orange bottle. It gives my hair a soft texture, but use it only once or twice in a row.

2. Then condition (I use L'oreal Paris Vive - Smooth Intense for dry, frizzy, or rebellious hair, the bright orange bottle.)

Putting on a shower cap is very important; it has the same purpose of sitting under that big heating bowl at the salon. And it prevents the water from washing the conditioner away, letting your conditioner give the best results.

^Those 2 steps are very important to follow.
But the following steps are just my personal preferences:

3. I usually shower right before I sleep, and go to sleep with wet hair. That way, my hair stays down because I'm laying on it. So when I wake up in the morning, my hair feels softer and easier to style than having to blowdry it right after showering.

4. I then part my hair in 2 halves, tying one half up, while styling the other half.

5. Before straightening, I squirt in some L'oreal Paris Vive - Smooth Intense Anti-frizz Serum for dry, frizzy or rebellious hair, also in a bright orange bottle.

6. Then I straighten with the Sedu while using a comb to style it efficiently. It also prevents my hand from being burned trying to hold my hair.


By the way, all of the above products I mentioned can be bought at your local Wal-Mart. There really is no need to buy something at the salon for $18!

Also there is no need for you to buy any of the products if you dont want to. But they do really make your hair look great after straightening it! But if you don't care about that then just after you wash your hair dry it and then just Gather up your hair into several sections and secure or clip your hair on top of your head. Take down a new section of hair everytime you are done straightening it.

♥ maria ♥

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