Question Posted Thursday September 1 2005, 10:17 pm
well im 16.. and my boyfriend like just broke up with me... and i can
honestly say i was in love with him... i loved him with all my heart.. he
meant the world to me...like he made me feel like i've never felt
before...
we lived like an hour away from eachother but we saw eachother every
weekend.. and for me that was fine..
because.. i knew the wait would be worth it...
when i did get to see him... and well...
he was the first guy i told that i loved him.. and i was the first girl..
he told me he took that very seriously.. and he never once told a girl
besides his mom..
he loved him.. until me...
and after that... things were perfect...
we had the best relationship.. we never fought...
and we cared about eachother a lot.. and about a month and a half into our
realtionship...
we had sex.. he was my first...
but i wasnt his frist.. he told me he had sex with his ex..
and there was a couple one night stands.. but i didnt care...
because we loved eachother... and i trusted him with everything...
but sex changed..everything.. we kinda drifted apart..
and just focused on the sex... and it bugged me a lot...
but.. i loved him...
and i dunno.. and then...
he broke up with me.. cuz he just wasnt in love with me anymore...
and that broke my heart.. i went back to cutting...
and i was so depressed for the longest time... but..
me and him still talked.. and one weekend..
i went up to his friends house...and i stayed at her house.. and justin
ended up coming there..
and we flirted.. and he kissed me..
and asked me back out.. and of course after that..
we had sex... which was a mistake..
becauselater i found out he just used me for sex.. that weekend..
because two weeks later he broke up with me again.... and he waited that
long..
because he wanted me to break up with him.. so he didnt look like the asshole
in the realtionship...
and i dont know.. like people told me that he never loved me...
he used me.. and he cheated on me..
and like now...hes really into drugs.. like realy bad..
and i dont know what to do.. i want to help him..
but he wont listen to me.. and everytime we talk..
we fight... and i hate it..
because i still love him.. and well honestly i think he still loves me..
he just wont admit it... cuz i was told he only broke up with me...
because his friends told him to... and well..
like.. hes different around me....
i can tell he cares... but..
when hes around others.. he acts like a complete dick...
*sigh* i dont know what to do.. will someone please help me?....
i want him back.. but i want the old justin back..
The problem is that you aren't seeing him clearly. When
you remember your relationship, you are only thinking about all the good
things. That's perfectly natural since you were in love with him,
but you also need to realize that your mind is more powerful than you
think and that it is making you believe something that may not be true.
The hardest thing is trying to take a step back.. and look at the
situation as if it wasn't you. Read what you just said.. and if
you read your own words would you really tell this girl that he's a
guy worth wasting any more time over? i doubt it. I'm sure what
you had with him is special, but it seems really unlikely that out of
all the people in this world, he is the only one you can love? That
seems ridiculous. My advice? Cry your eyes out.. mourn the loss of a
guy, and be happy that all that drama and crap is over and you can move
on with your life. He's actually doing you a favor by showing you
what a jerk he really is.
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