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im 14,and i have been dating this guy that i think im in love with he wants
to have sex, 9he isent making me) , i want to but i got raped when i was 12
and im scared..what should i do?.
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You are way to young! Don't do this to yourself! I am really sorry about your incident but you shouldn't even try to think about that until your mid 20's Your in like 8/9th grade right? Don't do it! Take our advice that isn't good.
*say no*
xoxo Lindsay xxox madeline
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you have every right to be scare but that was your past well your need to think about are you ready for sex or not that young age to have sex i would wait a while
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ok well i'm 16 now and i got raped twice in my childhood...like when i was 6 and 7 so like i know how you feel.....if your boy friend loves you...explain it to him and tell him your scared and he should understand.....and when your ready then go for it......take your time and dont feel pressured into it.....i've only had sex once and that was last month so trust me on that its ok to tell him your not ready....he will undertand
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You should only have sex with him if you are sure that you want to. If you have any doubts or you are not totally comfortable with him then don't. Good Luck!
-Natalie-
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No you shouldn't you are to young and if he keeps pushing it then leave him. I am srry to hear that you have been raped.
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Im sorry to hear that you got raped. But, if your boyfriend isn't pushing you then i doubt he'll hurt you. If your not ready, just tell him. He'll understand. But, if you are ready, just get the rape out of your mind and go for it!
~Kristy~
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I would tell him about you being raped and tell him your feelings on sex. If he truly loves you, he will NEVER pressure you. I hope it turns out okay, and if you ever need someone to talk to, my door is always open for u.
*~Alexia~*
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i personally think its to young, and i think its illegal. but i dont know about that. the point is that you got raped so your scared a little, and your really young. so if i were you i wouldn't.
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honey if your scared you shoudnt, you went through a horrible expirience. You shouldnt if your not ready the piont of sex is to enjoy it with the person you love if you're scared you wont be able to. Im really sorry you got raped. Make the right decision and follow your heart. Take care
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OK first of all, you're too young to have sex right now. A plan to be abstinant is the BEST way. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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you need to tell him about the rape. even though it must be difficult to talk about. tell him you're scared.. and it will bring back terrible memories. plus, you shouldn't be having sex until you're married. save it for the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
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Hey
I assume you have already taken legal action against the rapist. If not you
should! You should also seek counciling. There are alot of Rape and crisis
centers across the nation that can help. Look in your local phone book or
an online yellow pages for a center near you. You won't be dissapointed. And as for the guy pressuring you to have
sex... don't do it until you are ready. You don't have to please someone
or live up to anyone's expectations but your own. Your body is YOUR body.
♥ maria ♥
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First of all, you're 14 years old. So, it's illegal to have sex at your age in the first place. (You need to be 16 in most states... It's called Age of Concent).
You should TELL him that you're scared. And if he loves you, then he'll understand and won't pressure you and HE WILL WAIT FOR YOU. If he bitches and moans about it, then you know he's not the right person for you.
In my opinion, you are wayyy young to be having sex. When you're 14, you are at such a vulnerable age and you get too emotionally attached. So, what would happen if you two broke up? You'll be so inlove with him it will drive you insane and you will be depressed for a year AT THE LEAST and you're life would be like living in a shithole.
Tell him you were raped, tell him you're nervous, scared, not ready.... Whatever the case may be. But you HAVE to communicate with him, tell him what's on your mind. If you do that, then everything should work out for you.
And if this boy is pressuring you, I'll hunt him down and beat him with a bat =)
I hope everything works out for the best!
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