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love help
hey.. my boyfriend doesn't always respect me. ok he does, really he
does, if he didn't i wouldn't be with him but the other day we
were out with my friends and he got all mad because he says that i act
differently around my friends and he doesn't like that.
he walked away at my birthday, but did come back shortly after.
i guess i could just keep them seperate although i wish i didn't
have to, but i don't know how to talk to my boyfriend without it
sounding bad.
hes testy. i've tried but we always joke around being mean to each
other, but its all joking.
my friends think im blinded by my love for him and i shouldn't be
with him if he does this, but i love him so much i can't bare to let
him go.
please help!! i've tried sitting down and talkin to him, and yelling
doesn't work either. please help!! thanks.
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When you're around your boyfriend, you tend to act all flirty and everything. But when you around your friends you all about having fun. So i see where hes coming from. But i don't think you should break up with him just because of that! That would be crazy, especially if you love him. He'll understand one day. Just try to act the same around everybody. Or, you can just keep trying to talk to him.
~Kristy~
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leyt hi ggo however it hurts.he may love you but hes also disrespectful.you both need to sit and talk abpuut your relationship
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If you do something he doesn't like, just say "I'm sorry you feel that way" , "I didn't mean it" all that stuff. But remember you don't have to change yourself for him! If you feel like your walking on egg shells all the time, it's time to break it off and just be friends until he can listen to you when you're trying to talk since you say talking with him doesn't work. If he really wants to change and listen to you when you are trying to talk to him he will and maybe you can go out again! If he's a jerk and decides to do nothing, then that's that. Otherwise, you can't go on this way with him controlling you like that, hard as it is, there's some changes that are just going to be painful, but in the end you'll benefit. Other than that there's nothing you can do, I mean you can't yell, you can't talk, and you don't want to break up with him. It's a sticky situation! Good Luck all the same!
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Hey
If he can't deal with the fact that you act differently around
other people than you do around him, I don't think he really
respects who you are.
Sometimes, in relationships, we don't love
the person we think we're in love with, we love the mental image
that we construct of that person. I think this may be happening with
him.
I'm not saying that he doesn't love you, I'm just
saying that what may be happening is that you're upsetting what he
sees as "you".
You can't change for him, or for
anybody.
So... listen to him. What behaviors are you displaying that
anger him? Are they part of the real you? Or do you feel you have to
pretend to be someone else around your friends?
Bottom line... find
out what he wants changed, figure out if it's something that *you*
want or need to change, and then proceed from there.
♥ maria ♥
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