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im 14/f nd im having pblms wit my best friend of 9 years, "trish". we r both in eighth grade nd in the same classes together.i recently had some problems with my sister whose on drugs moving back into the house and stirring up much trouble for my mom nd me. she moved out nd we are piecing our lives back together. anyways, this past june i got into a fight with some gurl at the movies and i got arrested. from then on, trish's mom has not trusted us together she wont let trish and i go anywhere together, the movies, football games, or the mall! trish told me that he mother thinks i will have a bad influence on her. I WONT. ive really straightened out my life and ive stopped getting into fights. Her mom still wont let us hang out tho! its really bothering me.nd i cant prove myself to her mom because she wont let us go n e where! nd last night trish and her other friend who doesnt get into trouble, we'll call her "megan", went to the movies together. i havnt confronted her about it, i dont know if i should. im kind of mad at trish nd i know i shouldnt be but she doesnt do anything to defend me! im soo confused pleasee help me =) thnx (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I've been in similar situations... except we were both bad influences for each other.... but I was the only one who actually wanted to get bettter... and my mom didn't like my friend at all... (I don't know what her mom thought of me.... I don't want to know)
What I did (and I'm a bitch for it) was leave my closest friends behind and started over. Maybe Trish wants to do this because she feels awkward or she's afraid you'll pressure her to doing something that will get her in trouble.
Or maybe her mom really doesn't like you. Period. If this is the case there's very litle you can do. Only Trish can try to convince her mom you're a good person. You can try doing better (getting good grades... being polite.... that kind of crap) and see if Trish's mom notices.
I'm so sorry about your situation. I really do wish the best for you and Trish. ~Blessed Be...
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months, and are head over heals for eachother presently. The only problem is that I see him for a week every 3 months or so... its enough to drive a person crazy... he lives so far away, and now that I'm at college things are really hard... dumping him isn't an option, because we are that close, and its the closest thing to I've every felt if not love itself... I just don't know how to deal sometimes, its so frustrating not being able to see him, and to touch him... basically what I'm asking, is does anyone know of anyway to make this any easier till we can be together again... thanks (I will rate) (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Write eachother lettters... better yet a notebook. One of you start of first... write down on this notebook like it was your journal. You'll be preoccupied with that. Then give it to the oter person. He/You will read it and then reply to it and write on it. This system works for me.
Hope someone was of help. Best wishes to both of you! ~Blessed Be...
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I was thinking...do any of you agree with the saying, the right guy will come when you stop looking? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
No.. you'll NOTICE the right guy is actually the right guy when you stop looking.
~Blessed Be..
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Me and my boyfriend are trying to get me pregnant but it seems to be not working. I just got out of collage and im living in an apartment with him and we have sex every other day .. it isnt working.. is there something I shouldnt be doing?
Thank you.
Victoria (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
There's this thing you can purchase on drug-stores... a lot of women use it to know which time of the month its best for them to get pregnant (I'm sorry I don't know the name of it... I just saw it in some commericals...) It should be about 14 days before your period (If you know when it is).
If you haven't been able to get pregnant though... maybe you should see a doctor... naybe you or him may be sterile (...hopefully that's not the case).
I reaaaaaaally hope you can have a baby. And I hope someone was of help. Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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I have liked this guy (we will call him george) for awhile. I never told anyoen so he ended up going out with one of my friends (we will call her katie). So they went out for awhile and for about the last week george has been flirting with me a lot since we were in a play together and we had a lot of rehearsals. Well, katie started to notice that he was flirting with me and then he wouldnt with her. So a few days ago George broke up with katie, katie seemed all excited about it. Then the next day she came up to me and told me i should go out with him. Do you think she is jealous? Or if she really wanted to let go and be set free? i dont want to go out with the guy if its really going to hurt her :-/
~Signed, Friend or Foe? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Well do you want a guy that flirts with other girls when you're going out with him? ...And um then breaks up with you so he can flirt more with other chicks? (If your answered is no, then you'll know what to do, if your answer is yes then read on.)
Another thing... this "Katie" girl. It's sooo uncool to date your friend's exboyfriend. BUT sometimes under some circumstances and in some situations no one is of fault and it seems like there's nothing wrong with it.
Well if you really like this guy... and he likes you back... and you want to go for it... then go for it. Just don'tbe too couppe-ly in front of Katie. She may be okay with you and George going out but it may just be too weird for her and him and all of you.
Another thing! Maybe George won't ask you out because you're Katie's friend. (But he did flirt with you, huh?) Wait and see what his move his. Unless you have an impulse LET IT OUT (by asking HIM out or something).
Hope you find your answers. Best wishes to all three of you! ~Blessed Be...
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i am 13 and i have a boyfriend. i was at a football game tonight but my boyfriend wasnt there. These other guys were there, and i found out that they liked me. it was like 4 guys. it was really cold out and i was doing anything to get warm, even if it meant that i had to hold one of the guys hands. we went into the parking lot, well kinda parking lot, and all the guys except one were touching me and hugging me and stuff. i feel guilty about hurting my boyfriend's feelings, even though he doesnt know about it yet. Did i cheat on him, and should i or shouldnt i tell him about it? Im afraid that if i tell him that he would break up with me, plus all the guys and i promised we wouldnt tell him about it....WHAT SHOULD I DO?
signed,
~*~dazed and confused~*~ (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
How much do you like your boyfriend? This situation isn't common. What I'm saying is that your subconscious may want... to flirt with other NEW guys... Or maybe it was simply a mistake at the moment (...could it had been THAT cold...?)
Well while you're with your boyfriend maybe you will want to stop doing that stuff... letting guys be all over you. ...Did you even tell them you had a boyfriend?
Defenetly tell your boyfriend. But first evaluate your feeligns. Ask yourself if you'd rather be in a relationship with your boyfriend or if you'd rather like to meet new people? Then decided whether you want to work on your relationship (and bring sweaters to football games...hehe) or if you maybe want to find someone else... or just be single and flirt.
Figuring this out first will make it easier to tell him and to decide what you want to do.
Best wishes! Just be happy. ~Blessed Be...
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Hi...ok...Me and this guy started liking each other cuz he's good friends with my friend's b/f(if u get that)but anywayz...I usually go for the wigger type of guys but he's not even close to that.He skateboards.Anywayz...he writes me notes at school all the time and we walk to class together all the time and everybody thinks were goin out.Hes everything a girl could ask for...nice,sweet,funny.Hes SO sweet to me.He writes me sweet stuff that almost makes me cry and he is very funny.He will say anything to get me to laugh.But..theres a problem...I'am not happy.I dont know why I'am not but I'am not.I REALLY do like him and want to be with him but I'am just not happy.Do u have any idea why I wouldnt be?Its weird.Write back ASAP! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
God that sucks... having the sweetest guy ever have the cutest crush on you ever and not being able to be happy with him...
Well there's sooo many reasons you couldn't be happy with him. It could have to do with your pasT relatioship(s)... or just someone you liked a lot... maybe you're not over something or someone. Or it could be that you just see him as a friend.
Usually (well in the stories I've witnessed and been told... and occasional slightly similar situations I've been through) the guy ends up heart broken and later on the guy moves on and then the girl starts developing feelings for that guy... who's now just her best friend... Well it probably won't happen to you but either way you could make a small effort to see if there might be hidden feelings you could find ahead of time (before its too late).
Maybe you can hang out with him once... just the two of you... and talk (REALLY talk... have a deep conversation) and... try to see if you could see him as anything rather than a friend. Don't push yourself either... you don't want to lead him on or anything.
Well I do wish you the best wishes. Both you and this guy (...who sounds reallly cute and sweet which makes him CUTER ...) Remember that if this guy really likes you he too just wants you to be happy. Even if its with some other guy... I do wish you find happiess. ~Blessed Be...
(if I didn't quite answer your question or you'd like to add something or ask something else feel free to leave me another message here or email me at cath@iamwasted.com ~Blessed Be...)
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Ok, well me and my boyfriend were on my trampoline after school and my mom was home in the kitchen. We were kissin, and when he left, my mom gave me this lecturin about makin out and how im 2 young and how his parents gave him this talk. It did look like we were makin out, but like it wasn't really. Im 13 and hes 14, and i wanna no when u think the right age would be, and if my moms jus over-reacting?!?!? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Well it really doesn't depend on your age. It depends on how mature you are and if you're responsible and... that type of crap (hehe). Some moms (and this is rare) will actually try to stay out of your business if they know you're really responsible... REAAAALLY responsible and they trust you (they won't actually "stay away" but... they'll pretend to...).
But even if you ARE responsibe and they trust you they may not trust your boyfriend. Even if they do... its a "mom-thing" to over-react to things like that.
If you are 100% comftrable with what you do with your boyfriend and secure about it and if you trust him then maybe YOU should give your mother a small lecture letting her know she can start trusting you more. Maybe you can reach a compromise.
Hope someone was of help. Best wishes! May you and this guy have a loooong !happy! !happy! relationship. ~Blessed Be...
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I am trying to find a Spanish-English pen pal site. I just want teenagers (14-17 years old) that can speak both languages. I've tried different search engines and still cant find anything. If anyone has a good site I can go to.. please let me know!!
Thank you bunches!
Jeanine (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
www.penpalparty.com
Hope you find a really nice pen pal! Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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Ok, i have this friend, lets call her Jane. Jane used to be really friendly last year, and we were REALLY good friends. Now, we're still friends, but shes not very friendly anymore, she lies all the time, she steals away the guys i like, and shes just not the same Jane she used to be. What do i do? Do i tell her?
-Concerned Chick (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Jane's a bitch (sorry...) She could had been a really frienldly person but now.. she can't be trusted. You're really (and I mean reeaaalllyyy) sweet to call her a friend. You deserve better. She should know that and you should figure it out too.
I've been bitchy and cold to people (which I've come to regret and hated myself for it) so I really DON'T sympathize with her. However you should still give her a warning. Let her know that if she doesn't start treating you like a friend than you'll just have to go hang out with people who are actually good enough for you.
I'm sorry if I'm not help. I hope Jane changes and (...even if eventually) becomes a better person. Best wishes to BOTH of you. ~Blessed Be...
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Okay, this is kind of weird for me, but I want/need help...I'm in this after school women's ensemble, and we're singing this piece, Unchained Melody. I love the song. It's pretty, it's fun to sing, and it has meaning - but that's the problem. For some reason, it really strikes a chord, and I've never been able to sing through it without crying. Obviously you can't sing when you cry because your throat tightens up. I do have the option of telling our director that I can't sing the piece, but I don't want to do that because I like it. I can't just sing it flatly without emotion because that's just...bad. Anyone have any ideas as to how to fix this, or help me in any way? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Have you "comfronted" this fear? Ways to do this is talking to your friends openly about this AND your boyfriend. Talk to him about the song (it IS cute by the way, heard it many times myself) and WHY it makes you feel the way it does.
Sing the song out loud (but kind of to yourself... dont make a broadway show on the bus stop) for practice.
I'm sorry I don't recall ever being in the situation myself. Good luck! ...I mean, break a leg :-) Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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What do I do when everything is way too much for me and I'm so angry that I'm afraid I'll hurt my friends, I never get this angry, it's driving me nuts, I have always been so calm and sweet, now I'm some bitch that goes with the crowd. What do I do now? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Wish you'd given more details... I'm going to have to assume (sorry). Here goes nothing...
When I have my... "tantrums" (I never throw myself at the floor and scream bloody hell but... when I have my "moments") I lock myself in my room or I "get away from everyone". Its important to be alone when you're really upset. Two reasons: you may say something you will regret later on since yo didnt think your feelings through. Its easier to be calm when no one is bothering you with "whats wrong?"
If your anger is... abnormal or extremly unusual than... maybe you've always been "implosive" (Did you see that Anger Management movie with Adam Sandlers? ...You were the cashier who got yelled at but didnt do anything about it then goes crazy and kills everyone... You had to see the movie to understand).
Sorry sweetie but it depends on stuff like... how old are you? Naturally puverty brings out hormones. And if you're going throug stressful situations and stuff. Anyway, you may want to think about being alone when you're upset and writing down your feelings (the ones you get in the moment of angr as you get them) and reading them later and evaluating situations. This way you'll uderstand yourself and your angr better and will manage it better next time.
Hope someone was of help. Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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I'm going out w/ the greatest guy ever, but unfortunately he lives like, 45 mins. away. so anyway, there's this kid, matt, at school who's always kinda had this crush on me. well 2day in school, i hugged him like usual, cuz we're such good friends, and he gave me a kiss on the cheek. i just wanna know if this is ok, cuz i would never wanna cheat on my bf.
thx
Erin (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Aww, that's cute! (About you wanting your boyfriend to live closer and not wantig to cheat on him and saying he's the greastest guy ever...)
Back 2 your concern. Well if you aren't attracted to this OTHER guy romantically and you're secure about your relationship with your boyfriend then its NOT CHEATING. HOWEVER you sound a little bit insecure about your behavior (I'm only assuming...). What I would do in your place is bring up this other guy and mention the cursh a little bit. Say it however in a way that will assure your boyfriend you like him and only him. Something like "I was telling one of my friends about how much I liked you in class-you know, that friend who everyone said liked me." ...Not THAT exatly but something like that.
Let your boyfriend know this guy and you are friends. This guy likes you at some point (possibly still does... "at some point"). You're faithful to your boyfriend. You think you're boyfriend is the greatest guy ever (aww...). (let him know all that stuff)
I wish both you and your boyfriend a looong happy relationship! Best wishes Erin! Hope I was of help. ~Blessed Be...
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i really like this guy and hes in three of my classes, HOT. okay i like him, but i think he likes another girl, i didnt even get his sn yet what should i do? how can i show it? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
...Flirt... smile at him... get friends to tell him you may like him...
Best wishes! Good luck with this cutie. ~Blessed Be...
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ok well a guy found out i liked him and he likes me but im not positive i like him becuz i like other guys too. what should i do when i see him tommrow? AHH ill rate u a 5! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Kinda flirt with him and examine what he does and how he reacts to seeing you.
Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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ahh okay me and my ex bf broke up SOOOOOOOOOOO long ago!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! there was a big fight and we havent talked really since. ever since then his friends will NOT stop talking crap about me,calling me a hoe, and spreading soo many rumors about me around school.. my ex doesnt even goto my school nemore cause he graduated, but his cousins and his friends that he doesnt even really talk to nemore keep on talking shit about me...ofcourse i stand up for my self if they ever say nething to my face..ive said endless amount of things back so its not like i dont stand up for myself. ive even tried talking about it with them but they just wont stop...even if i become friends again with my ex bf, they still wouldnt stop..i dont want advice on how to make them stop, but just on how to look past it..i know i shouldnt care about whut other ppl say about me, its just im like a girl who looks at herself with sooo much respect, im the opposite of a slut...but they just keep talking..how do i handle this personally? thanks so much =] (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
So you've made [eaces with your ex, right? OK, does your ex know his asshole friends and cousins are harrasing you? Maybe it would help if he knew.
His friends/cousins need to know that no matter what happened between your ex and you its between oly HIM AND YOU. (Plus, its in the past.) Even if you cheated on him (I'm not saying you did) or if he cheated on you (I'm not saying he did) and regardless of who broke up with who its none of their business. Have you told them that straight out?
Or you can say "I don't like you and you don't like me. Its cool, we dont have to like each other. But you dont have to talk shit about me cause I don't talk shit about you."
You may want to go to a dean or school counsler to just solve the problems.
I would just say things about them... don't listen to THAT... everyone thinks I'm a bitch :(
I hope those dumbasses leave you alone. Just be a good person and people will see it and they'll end up looking bad. I hope someone has good advice for you. Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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17-F I've hung out with this boy Chris twice this week and we like each other but whenever he trys to kiss me I pull away. I have kissed him but I dunno I don't have any desire to do it again. This past summer I was used by this other kid. Since then I haven't wanted to do anything with anyone. What do you think is the reason I don't feel comfortable with Chris?? I do really like him and I think he's getting frustrated with it. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Well if someone used you... you just don't feel comftrable and secure about trusting someone. Your subconscious is having a hard time. I'm afraid I have little advice to offer for your situation. Perhaps you should tell Chris you'd like to know him a bit longe befor you can be all couppel-ly. Or you can't just try to learn more about hi yourself. Meet his friends and see what kind of people they are... maybe (just a maybe) meet his parents or his brother(s) or sister(s).
If Chris is really great he'll understand you just ned a little bit of time to be comftrable with things.
I hope you find your answer. Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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ok, i had been liking this guy, and i told him that i liked him in a note, but now i havent a clue what to say to him. i feel like such an idiot..im not very good at this sort of thing. i dont know what to do. should i just let it go and hope he brings it up sometime, or do I bring it up, since i am the one who wrote the darn thing. please help me!! im stuck in the middle..i talk to him, but just about everyday stuff and its driving me crazy. thanks guys, y'all are awesome! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Depends... how long has its been? (You need to give him time to evaluate his feelings BUT it CAN'T be too long that he forgot about it or something... then you'd look dorky-in a bad way)
You should defenetly bring it up. Being straight forward with him will not only get you an answer but it will leave a good imression on him. He'll see you aren't playing games or it wasn't a dare and that you're serious about it. Say something like "Did you get my note? What do you think?"
I hope someonee is of help and I apologize if my answer provided no help. You seem cool and I hope he's smart enough to realze that and he brings it up. Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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ok im getting contacts and i was thinking about getting colored i have blonde hair that is about the color of paris hilton my eyes r like light green. wut color do u think i should get i was thinking maybe a lil greener or blue? (link)
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Hi Sweeetie,
...I would say amber. Amber is cute. Or skyblue. ...Electric blue. That's soooo cute.
Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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Ok well everyones always asking questions on how to lose weight and everything but what about us peole that need to gain weight?? NOthing works and i eat alot- done the shakes and everything and i play basketball and volleyball. IM not too underweight but i could gain about 5-10 pounds. Im 5"6 and weigh 102. So any suggestions?? do you think that this is a stage where my metabolism is just really fast and will slow down eventually and ill gain weight or what?
ThankS!!
*- AsHlEy*- DenvEr, Colorado (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Well first of all even if you're thin you should always be careful what you eat. Some people are "naturally thin" but the calories and stuff... they sitll affect you. Second of all (you probably hear this a lot so sorry for repeating it once more) its a good thing. Feel lucky! Many girls do stupid things to be thin.
Obviously weigh doesn't matter IF YOU'RE HEALTHY AND FEEL HAPPY ABOUT YOURSELF. If you're eatting ENOUGH (not too little, not too much) you really should not worry about the rest.
You are athletic so that can be why you're thin. You're metabolism is already fast. Like I said some people are naturally that way.
However if you still NOT comftrable with yourself or worried maybe you should talk to adoctor and ask if you're weigh is a problem and what solutions there are.
I'm sorry if I couldn't provide answers, I just wish you happiness. Take care of yourself! ~Blessed Be...
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